What TO DO in a relationship.....

Greyson · 11-20-2012, 04:11 PM

Must be willing to compromise at times.
Be willing to sit, "be" with uncomfortable feelings/situations without trying to resolve them in a matter of moments.
Try not to filter every decision, and actions taken by others through the lense of your own life experience.
Know the value of silence, and listening.

* I have not mastered the above

StrongButch · 11-20-2012, 04:14 PM

Treat her like a lady!

girl_dee · 11-20-2012, 05:24 PM

i won't be treating my partner like a "lady", whatever that means but i do respect her as a butch woman!

girl_dee · 11-20-2012, 05:29 PM

Shy away from validating your partner for them, to me it seems unauthentic when one person tries to sell someone, or the relationship to the rest of the world. That can often come back to bite. Rejoice and be happy about it, but there is a such thing as going overboard.

Don't be so willing to make them "fit". Differences are ok, unless they push your boundaries too far.

Don't be the one to do all the work. If you are carrying the load, you should think about that.

princessbelle · 11-20-2012, 05:34 PM

Be excited when your partner tells you she is making a scarf for you in your fav basketball team's colors. (Even when it is her first "knitting" experience and you both know that it probably won't be that good.)

girl_dee · 11-20-2012, 05:34 PM

Enjoy face to face dinner, no electronics or distractions.

Actually be present.

DamonK · 11-20-2012, 05:55 PM

Don't forget to date.
Remember the reasons why you fell in love in the first place.
Know that hard times happen, and be willing to wait it out.
Know your limits and boundaries.
Even when upset at one another, make sure your love is still known.

girl_dee · 11-20-2012, 06:08 PM

Do a jigsaw puzzle together, it's a blast!!!

11-20-2012, 04:11 PM	#1
Greyson Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transmasculine/Non-Binary Preferred Pronoun?: Hy (Pronounced He) Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: SF Bay Area Posts: 6,589 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,132 Thanked 8,146 Times in 2,005 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Must be willing to compromise at times. Be willing to sit, "be" with uncomfortable feelings/situations without trying to resolve them in a matter of moments. Try not to filter every decision, and actions taken by others through the lense of your own life experience. Know the value of silence, and listening. * I have not mastered the above __________________ Sometimes you don't realize your own strength until you come face to face with your greatest weakness. - Susan Gale

11-20-2012, 04:14 PM	#2
StrongButch Member How Do You Identify?: I see the world thru a lens Preferred Pronoun?: Yes Boss Relationship Status: Chillin out with awesome women Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: San Francisco Posts: 1,376 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,018 Thanked 4,183 Times in 1,180 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Relationship Treat her like a lady! __________________ Life is like music,so it can be played in many different styles.

11-20-2012, 05:34 PM	#5
princessbelle Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme ones Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tennessee Posts: 6,100 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,380 Thanked 30,496 Times in 5,198 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Be excited when your partner tells you she is making a scarf for you in your fav basketball team's colors. (Even when it is her first "knitting" experience and you both know that it probably won't be that good.) __________________ ~ I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. ~ Maya Angelou

11-20-2012, 05:24 PM	#3
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,829 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	i won't be treating my partner like a "lady", whatever that means but i do respect her as a butch woman!

11-20-2012, 05:29 PM	#4
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,829 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	Shy away from validating your partner for them, to me it seems unauthentic when one person tries to sell someone, or the relationship to the rest of the world. That can often come back to bite. Rejoice and be happy about it, but there is a such thing as going overboard. Don't be so willing to make them "fit". Differences are ok, unless they push your boundaries too far. Don't be the one to do all the work. If you are carrying the load, you should think about that.

11-20-2012, 05:55 PM	#7
DamonK Senior Member How Do You Identify?: . Preferred Pronoun?: . Relationship Status: . Join Date: May 2010 Location: . Posts: 2,199 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,527 Thanked 7,762 Times in 1,881 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Don't forget to date. Remember the reasons why you fell in love in the first place. Know that hard times happen, and be willing to wait it out. Know your limits and boundaries. Even when upset at one another, make sure your love is still known.

11-20-2012, 06:08 PM	#8
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,829 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	Do a jigsaw puzzle together, it's a blast!!!