An Age Old Question... Can Butches, FTM And Femme's Just Be Best Friends?

thedivahrrrself · 11-23-2012, 03:10 PM

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Originally Posted by LaneyDoll

I have never had a problem with friends of any gender and/or identify. It is pretty obvious to people that I am in a relationship and happily so. If they want to challenge that then I am happy to show them the door.

I once had a very good butch friend. She called me her "translator" since she always did not understand the meaning behind her girlfriends' words. She only dates femmes and I am fluent in femme speak.

She and I were really good friends and it never crossed beyond friendship.

Personally, I think that if you are clear about your position in the beginning, you could save yourself trouble. Anyone who knows me knows to not tangle with my relationships. The closer someone is to me, the more protective I am of them.

I agree with Laney here. I have friends who are girls, guys, femmes, butches, Trans, andro, etc... I'm too old to be ruling anyone out for gender or identity; good friends are not that easy to find! (And I know what you mean about "translating," Laney LOL)

I've never been much of a "friends first" kind of girl. My friends are not a potential dating pool...unless I'm setting them up with each other!

s0litude · 04-10-2013, 11:23 AM

I have no issue with how someone labels. I have femme friends who I find attractive. Doesn't mean anything will or could happen. Just means I have some really attractive friends.

I think as long as the boundaries are set and everyone knows where everyone stands, it's all good. Communication is key to any relationship-- romantic, platonic, etc.

Amante · 04-10-2013, 11:26 AM

Of course we can be friends! One of my very best friends is butch to the core, and our friendship is NOT a threat to either of our relationships.

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Amante Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: Going steady Join Date: Mar 2013 Location: Too far away Posts: 38 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11 Thanked 128 Times in 35 Posts Rep Power: 1760756	Of course we can be friends! One of my very best friends is butch to the core, and our friendship is NOT a threat to either of our relationships. __________________ Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever. ~Mahatma Gandhi