An Age Old Question... Can Butches, FTM And Femme's Just Be Best Friends?

macele · 11-23-2012, 05:30 PM

hey mistie.

i associate butch with lesbian. that's just me. nothing right or wrong in that. same thing with femme. and i think of both as women. i do understand others use the words. it's all good. i'm saying this because i don't think of femme as being opposite gender. not saying you do. i don't understand that part of your original post.

i either have self-control or i don't. i can be trusted or i can't. even in a relationship, i may be attracted to others, but i don't think i should act on those attractions. man, woman, child, ... i consider myself lucky to have a friend of any size, shape, or matter.

mac

Blade · 04-07-2013, 01:43 PM

A few of my besties are femme. It has sometimes been an issue in relationships. Here's the thing, I'm as faithful as an ole dog, anyone who knows me will tell you that. I wouldn't cheat on anyone EVER.

That said, the person I partner with will have to understand, that my friends are exactly that, friends. They have been with me for the long haul and me with them. I won't give up my friends for a potential partner. If they are that jealous, insecure or needy, then we are probably not right for each other.

StrongButch · 04-07-2013, 01:56 PM

I have all kinds of friends. I dont base a friendship on how a person chooses to identify,sexual preference,race,religion,where they live,where they work or dont work. As they say we are family. I dont sleep with my friends. If I was interested in a femme believe me she would know it. (lol) I love my femme friends. You go girls!

4everlonelyfemme · 04-10-2013, 11:05 AM

I can't be friends with butches, because they always think I'm hitting on them. And actually right now a friend of this other butch (who's dating some bimbo btw) is threatening to beat me up the next time I'm at the lesbian bar because of it.

I haven't done anything wrong to them

I'm just too unattractive I guess to have conversations with butches. They've never been anything but rude towards me.

Angeltoes · 04-10-2013, 11:19 AM

4ever, I agreed with the part about it being hard to establish friendship with butches because they think I'm hitting on them too. I don't think I'm unattractive. I won't allow myself to feel that way and I don't think you should either. I'm not a fan of the word bimbo. Maybe because I can be a hair-flipping giggly femme and that has been misinterpreted by others all my life...it's sort of a sore spot.

The things that make it difficult for me to be friends with butches is that either they think I'm hitting on them or they literally want no part of me if I'm not 'available.'

04-07-2013, 01:43 PM	#2
Blade Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: TG Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: once in a while someone amazing comes along...and here I am! Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Down on the farm Posts: 5,501 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,855 Thanked 14,413 Times in 4,058 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	A few of my besties are femme. It has sometimes been an issue in relationships. Here's the thing, I'm as faithful as an ole dog, anyone who knows me will tell you that. I wouldn't cheat on anyone EVER. That said, the person I partner with will have to understand, that my friends are exactly that, friends. They have been with me for the long haul and me with them. I won't give up my friends for a potential partner. If they are that jealous, insecure or needy, then we are probably not right for each other. __________________ Yeah so what if I'm triple dipped in awesome sauce? The best way to predict the future, is to create it.

04-07-2013, 01:56 PM	#3
StrongButch Member How Do You Identify?: I see the world thru a lens Preferred Pronoun?: Yes Boss Relationship Status: Chillin out with awesome women Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: San Francisco Posts: 1,376 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,018 Thanked 4,183 Times in 1,180 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Question I have all kinds of friends. I dont base a friendship on how a person chooses to identify,sexual preference,race,religion,where they live,where they work or dont work. As they say we are family. I dont sleep with my friends. If I was interested in a femme believe me she would know it. (lol) I love my femme friends. You go girls! __________________ Life is like music,so it can be played in many different styles.

04-10-2013, 11:19 AM	#5
Angeltoes Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Nunya Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Bernlandia Posts: 1,740 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,286 Thanked 5,525 Times in 1,386 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	4ever, I agreed with the part about it being hard to establish friendship with butches because they think I'm hitting on them too. I don't think I'm unattractive. I won't allow myself to feel that way and I don't think you should either. I'm not a fan of the word bimbo. Maybe because I can be a hair-flipping giggly femme and that has been misinterpreted by others all my life...it's sort of a sore spot. The things that make it difficult for me to be friends with butches is that either they think I'm hitting on them or they literally want no part of me if I'm not 'available.' __________________ Now say you're sorry for ushering in the fourth fucking reich- anonymous

11-23-2012, 05:30 PM	#1
macele Member How Do You Identify?: a bold-assed maximus Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: mississippi Posts: 1,066 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,178 Thanked 3,230 Times in 847 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	hey mistie. i associate butch with lesbian. that's just me. nothing right or wrong in that. same thing with femme. and i think of both as women. i do understand others use the words. it's all good. i'm saying this because i don't think of femme as being opposite gender. not saying you do. i don't understand that part of your original post. i either have self-control or i don't. i can be trusted or i can't. even in a relationship, i may be attracted to others, but i don't think i should act on those attractions. man, woman, child, ... i consider myself lucky to have a friend of any size, shape, or matter. mac

04-10-2013, 11:05 AM	#4
4everlonelyfemme Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: her Relationship Status: single Join Date: Apr 2013 Location: Estonia Posts: 3 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 0 Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts Rep Power: 0	I can't be friends with butches, because they always think I'm hitting on them. And actually right now a friend of this other butch (who's dating some bimbo btw) is threatening to beat me up the next time I'm at the lesbian bar because of it. I haven't done anything wrong to them I'm just too unattractive I guess to have conversations with butches. They've never been anything but rude towards me.