North Carolina

dixie · 11-07-2009, 10:12 AM

Where are my Tarheels? lol

I live in the mtns, near Asheville. Where y'all at?

Mister Bent · 11-07-2009, 01:42 PM

North Cackalacky here!

We've yet to explore much of the state, but we have a wish list including Asheville (e's been, but I haven't) where my oldest niece lives, and the Outer Banks.

Are you a lifetime resident, Dixie?

morningstar55 · 12-18-2009, 08:25 AM

mawning NC dwellers
wow i see this thread needs some serious bumping..... haha..
i been running around NC doing short loads all friggin week....
i love it here. use to live in the charlotte area in 2000/2002
and now planning on moving bk...
im hangin here in salsibury at wally world at the moment waiting for my dispatch to send me a load to go do. heading someplace with a lot of miles. heh....
anyways........ have a good day

Sachita · 12-26-2009, 09:23 PM

I'm in Southern VA, a stone's throw from the NC state line. I'm subscribing to this thread. Let's get this party started.

lyric · 03-01-2010, 06:30 PM

Hi everyone

I'm curious about the NC LGBT community - more specifically, the B-F community, and most specifically, in the Raleigh-Durham area. I'm considering a future move to the area and was wondering what to expect in regards to community, visibility, etc.

Can anyone tell me anything? Any information anyone is willing to offer would be very much appreciated!

Thanks in advance!

Hack · 03-01-2010, 06:41 PM

Hey, Lyric...

I spend a lot of time in Raleigh-Durham-Chapel Hill because my sister and her family live in Raleigh. I've dabbled in the queer community down there, so I can help a bit.

Chapel Hill is a fairly liberal town, and seems to be the most liberal of the three. Durham is pretty queer friendly too, for the South. Raleigh tends to be a little ... what's the word...antiseptic, maybe? The queer community in Raleigh seems to be a bit male-centric, in my opinion. A bit more female-centric in Durham. Chapel Hill is all over the map...tree-huggers, queers, liberals, etc. I socialized briefly with a femme in Durham on one trip down there. She indicated to me that community there (b-f) was kind of skimpy.

Overall, I love it there...always lots going on and lots to do.

Jake

lyric · 03-01-2010, 06:51 PM

Jake, thanks so much for the quick response and the information!

My mother lives in Raleigh. I called her earlier this evening to ask her what she's observed, but she's pretty much clueless. I've been doing some research online, but what I'm finding are mostly nightclub reviews and old advertisements for NC Pride. From what you've offered, the Chapel Hill area sounds more eclectic and closer to what I'm looking for. I lived in eastern Tennessee for a while and relocated to the DC area about five years ago, and while I enjoy aspects of the community here, I'm looking to move somewhere a bit warmer and a bit less expensive than DC, where we can be out and queer without a lot of hassle. I know that some places in the south are a little iffy, and I don't really want to plant myself in an area that is less than accepting and especially where my partner would feel uncomfortable.

Thanks again for what you've shared! I really do appreciate your help.

Miss Scarlett · 03-01-2010, 08:37 PM

Please don't ask me why it never occured to me that there would be a North Carolina thread here...I am such a total bimbo sometimes!

Greetings from the Charlotte Metro and Maggie Valley areas!

Lyric have you checked out the Q-Notes website? It's the LGBT paper for NC & SC. There's a community resource guide (qguide) on their site for the Raleigh/Triangle area. An LGBT Community Center just opened up in Raleigh too. I'll see if I can come up with some more info for you. But that's a good place to start.

lyric · 03-01-2010, 09:37 PM

Thank you, Miss Scarlett! I'm so grateful for the link. I've bookmarked it and will check it out tomorrow when I'm not quite so brain dead.

sweet_goldie_grrl · 03-20-2010, 10:21 PM

well I definitely live in NC!! I don't see a lot of members from this site who live in NC . . . everyone else lives in texas or california!

Well, I know not EVERYONE else lives there but it sometimes seems so. Anywhoo.....i'm subscribin' to this!!

Mister Bent · 03-21-2010, 09:14 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Hack

Hey, Lyric...

I spend a lot of time in Raleigh-Durham-Chapel Hill because my sister and her family live in Raleigh. I've dabbled in the queer community down there, so I can help a bit.

Chapel Hill is a fairly liberal town, and seems to be the most liberal of the three. Durham is pretty queer friendly too, for the South. Raleigh tends to be a little ... what's the word...antiseptic, maybe? The queer community in Raleigh seems to be a bit male-centric, in my opinion. A bit more female-centric in Durham. Chapel Hill is all over the map...tree-huggers, queers, liberals, etc. I socialized briefly with a femme in Durham on one trip down there. She indicated to me that community there (b-f) was kind of skimpy.

Overall, I love it there...always lots going on and lots to do.

Jake

Raleigh here, and not a fan. I wouldn't recommend this city to anyone, for any reason. (!!!) Not that I dislike it that much, but that there are decidedly better places to live. Then again, I moved here from New York, so it's a tough comparison. I'm considering relocating "inside the belt line" which has a little more going on, and feels less sprawled than where I live at present.

You're correct about Durham (has 2 good sized "clubs") and Chapel Hill. If it weren't such a long commute for me, I think Chapel Hill would be my choice.

Miss Scarlett · 03-21-2010, 09:35 AM

Happy Spring to my fellow Tarheels!

Hope everyone is having a wonderful weekend so far and that we can finally say farewell to winter!!

Hack · 03-21-2010, 11:03 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mister Bent

Raleigh here, and not a fan. I wouldn't recommend this city to anyone, for any reason. (!!!) Not that I dislike it that much, but that there are decidedly better places to live. Then again, I moved here from New York, so it's a tough comparison. I'm considering relocating "inside the belt line" which has a little more going on, and feels less sprawled than where I live at present.

You're correct about Durham (has 2 good sized "clubs") and Chapel Hill. If it weren't such a long commute for me, I think Chapel Hill would be my choice.

My sister and her family live inside the beltline, and I would recommend it. It seems a lot nicer than the sprawled areas. They live near the Five Points area, and really like it. I enjoy Raleigh whenever I visit, but a lot of my visit tends to revolve around my three year-old niece, so there's lots of visits to parks, the natural history museum and things like that. Raleigh is still on my list of places to possibly relocate to someday.

Jake

Miss Scarlett · 03-21-2010, 11:20 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Hack

My sister and her family live inside the beltline, and I would recommend it. It seems a lot nicer than the sprawled areas. They live near the Five Points area, and really like it. I enjoy Raleigh whenever I visit, but a lot of my visit tends to revolve around my three year-old niece, so there's lots of visits to parks, the natural history museum and things like that. Raleigh is still on my list of places to possibly relocate to someday.

Jake

The latest issue of Q-Notes has a great article about Raleigh and its potential for a Castro-type gayborhood for NC. Here's the link:

http://goqnotes.com/6047/raleighs-avenue-q/

GentleAndro · 03-27-2010, 03:12 PM

Asheville is definitely the high mark of queer visibility in North Carolina, but there are other places as well: Charlotte, Durham and then Chapel Hill and Raleigh trailing.

As for b/f, it's mostly various forms of butch on butch (or bisexuals who are femme on femme) in any place but Asheville.

TenderKnight · 05-27-2010, 06:50 PM

Hello, tarheels!

I am currently in California, but was born and raised in NC, the Charlotte area, and my family still live there. My mom actually owns a metaphysical book shop in Monroe, NC and is VERY gay friendly. Trans friendly too, lol. I miss NC sometimes, but mostly the land.. I have a very strong connection to the earth and the mountains of NC.

I hope to be visiting at some point this year.. Will keep everyone updated

-Tony, Southern Boy representin'..

Mom's Website: http://www.angelfirefire.com/nc3/freespiritgiftshop

TenderKnight · 05-27-2010, 07:24 PM

Mom's *real* website addy, lol

http://www.angelfire.com/nc3/freespiritgiftshop

Lady_Wu · 06-09-2010, 08:39 PM

If you pass through WV near Bluefield WV/VA, stop in for and! We don't get many guests these days!
Lady_Wu

TenderKnight · 07-24-2010, 12:13 PM

Hello fellow Tar Heels.. I am actually going to be moving back to NC next year, thinking about settling down in or around Asheville.. I know that there are few folks on here from Asheville, including some trans folks. I am just wondering, are there any local groups or resources for transguys in the area? I looked up some info and found a group, but it looked like it was geared more toward MTF's.

Thanks for any info and I am sooo looking forward to being back to my home state

-Tony

dixie · 07-30-2010, 10:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TenderKnight

Hello fellow Tar Heels.. I am actually going to be moving back to NC next year, thinking about settling down in or around Asheville.. I know that there are few folks on here from Asheville, including some trans folks. I am just wondering, are there any local groups or resources for transguys in the area? I looked up some info and found a group, but it looked like it was geared more toward MTF's.

Thanks for any info and I am sooo looking forward to being back to my home state

-Tony

I'm in the Asheville area. I'm not quite sure off the top of my head, but I will do some digging around for ya and see what I can find.

11-07-2009, 10:12 AM	#1
dixie Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: I usually just poke it with a stick. Preferred Pronoun?: Bitch Relationship Status: Intertwined deeply Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: We're all a little mad here. Posts: 6,627 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,972 Thanked 21,384 Times in 4,808 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	North Carolina Where are my Tarheels? lol I live in the mtns, near Asheville. Where y'all at?

12-18-2009, 08:25 AM	#3
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,241 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	mawning NC dwellers wow i see this thread needs some serious bumping..... haha.. i been running around NC doing short loads all friggin week.... i love it here. use to live in the charlotte area in 2000/2002 and now planning on moving bk... im hangin here in salsibury at wally world at the moment waiting for my dispatch to send me a load to go do. heading someplace with a lot of miles. heh.... anyways........ have a good day __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

03-20-2010, 10:21 PM	#10
sweet_goldie_grrl Junior Member How Do You Identify?: me Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Location Posts: 30 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9 Thanked 25 Times in 8 Posts Rep Power: 4511	hey y'all!! well I definitely live in NC!! I don't see a lot of members from this site who live in NC . . . everyone else lives in texas or california! Well, I know not EVERYONE else lives there but it sometimes seems so. Anywhoo.....i'm subscribin' to this!!

03-27-2010, 03:12 PM	#15
GentleAndro Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Androgynous Gentlewoman Preferred Pronoun?: She (And "He" from my lady) Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: North Carolina, USA Posts: 7 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 0 Thanked 13 Times in 5 Posts Rep Power: 0	Pockets of Visibility Asheville is definitely the high mark of queer visibility in North Carolina, but there are other places as well: Charlotte, Durham and then Chapel Hill and Raleigh trailing. As for b/f, it's mostly various forms of butch on butch (or bisexuals who are femme on femme) in any place but Asheville.

05-27-2010, 06:50 PM	#16
TenderKnight Member How Do You Identify?: Kinky Poly Transman Preferred Pronoun?: He Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Monroe, NC Posts: 551 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 773 Thanked 822 Times in 256 Posts Rep Power: 2402408	Hello, tarheels! I am currently in California, but was born and raised in NC, the Charlotte area, and my family still live there. My mom actually owns a metaphysical book shop in Monroe, NC and is VERY gay friendly. Trans friendly too, lol. I miss NC sometimes, but mostly the land.. I have a very strong connection to the earth and the mountains of NC. I hope to be visiting at some point this year.. Will keep everyone updated -Tony, Southern Boy representin'.. Mom's Website: http://www.angelfirefire.com/nc3/freespiritgiftshop __________________ The beatings shall continue.. until moral improves..

11-07-2009, 01:42 PM	#2
Mister Bent Senior Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: . Posts: 2,905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,151 Thanked 5,826 Times in 1,721 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	North Cackalacky here! We've yet to explore much of the state, but we have a wish list including Asheville (e's been, but I haven't) where my oldest niece lives, and the Outer Banks. Are you a lifetime resident, Dixie?

12-26-2009, 09:23 PM	#4
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03-01-2010, 06:30 PM	#5
lyric Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: quiet and content Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Springfield, VA Posts: 88 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 161 Thanked 302 Times in 56 Posts Rep Power: 3971634	Hi everyone I'm curious about the NC LGBT community - more specifically, the B-F community, and most specifically, in the Raleigh-Durham area. I'm considering a future move to the area and was wondering what to expect in regards to community, visibility, etc. Can anyone tell me anything? Any information anyone is willing to offer would be very much appreciated! Thanks in advance!

03-01-2010, 06:41 PM	#6
Hack Just a guy. How Do You Identify?: Just a guy Preferred Pronoun?: male Relationship Status: Sparkle's consort Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: MA Posts: 1,458 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 807 Thanked 3,776 Times in 958 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Hey, Lyric... I spend a lot of time in Raleigh-Durham-Chapel Hill because my sister and her family live in Raleigh. I've dabbled in the queer community down there, so I can help a bit. Chapel Hill is a fairly liberal town, and seems to be the most liberal of the three. Durham is pretty queer friendly too, for the South. Raleigh tends to be a little ... what's the word...antiseptic, maybe? The queer community in Raleigh seems to be a bit male-centric, in my opinion. A bit more female-centric in Durham. Chapel Hill is all over the map...tree-huggers, queers, liberals, etc. I socialized briefly with a femme in Durham on one trip down there. She indicated to me that community there (b-f) was kind of skimpy. Overall, I love it there...always lots going on and lots to do. Jake

03-01-2010, 06:51 PM	#7
lyric Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: quiet and content Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Springfield, VA Posts: 88 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 161 Thanked 302 Times in 56 Posts Rep Power: 3971634	Jake, thanks so much for the quick response and the information! My mother lives in Raleigh. I called her earlier this evening to ask her what she's observed, but she's pretty much clueless. I've been doing some research online, but what I'm finding are mostly nightclub reviews and old advertisements for NC Pride. From what you've offered, the Chapel Hill area sounds more eclectic and closer to what I'm looking for. I lived in eastern Tennessee for a while and relocated to the DC area about five years ago, and while I enjoy aspects of the community here, I'm looking to move somewhere a bit warmer and a bit less expensive than DC, where we can be out and queer without a lot of hassle. I know that some places in the south are a little iffy, and I don't really want to plant myself in an area that is less than accepting and especially where my partner would feel uncomfortable. Thanks again for what you've shared! I really do appreciate your help.

03-01-2010, 08:37 PM	#8
Miss Scarlett Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: . Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: . Posts: 5,530 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,478 Thanked 12,947 Times in 3,419 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Please don't ask me why it never occured to me that there would be a North Carolina thread here...I am such a total bimbo sometimes! Greetings from the Charlotte Metro and Maggie Valley areas! Lyric have you checked out the Q-Notes website? It's the LGBT paper for NC & SC. There's a community resource guide (qguide) on their site for the Raleigh/Triangle area. An LGBT Community Center just opened up in Raleigh too. I'll see if I can come up with some more info for you. But that's a good place to start.

03-01-2010, 09:37 PM	#9
lyric Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: quiet and content Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Springfield, VA Posts: 88 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 161 Thanked 302 Times in 56 Posts Rep Power: 3971634	Thank you, Miss Scarlett! I'm so grateful for the link. I've bookmarked it and will check it out tomorrow when I'm not quite so brain dead.

03-21-2010, 09:35 AM	#12
Miss Scarlett Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: . Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: . Posts: 5,530 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,478 Thanked 12,947 Times in 3,419 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Happy Spring to my fellow Tarheels! Hope everyone is having a wonderful weekend so far and that we can finally say farewell to winter!!

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TenderKnight Member How Do You Identify?: Kinky Poly Transman Preferred Pronoun?: He Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Monroe, NC Posts: 551 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 773 Thanked 822 Times in 256 Posts Rep Power: 2402408	Hello fellow Tar Heels.. I am actually going to be moving back to NC next year, thinking about settling down in or around Asheville.. I know that there are few folks on here from Asheville, including some trans folks. I am just wondering, are there any local groups or resources for transguys in the area? I looked up some info and found a group, but it looked like it was geared more toward MTF's. Thanks for any info and I am sooo looking forward to being back to my home state -Tony __________________ The beatings shall continue.. until moral improves..