Important things I learned from past relationships

Blade · 12-01-2012, 09:07 AM

I've learned to steer clear of brickmasons, someone who builds brick walls. If I have to climb a brick wall take a few strides and climb another hurdle get almost to the top and falter. I've taken two steps back and have to begin climbing again. For some it's a never ending process. You might have a long term relationship but a person who builds walls, and you accept that in them, will always build walls. Relationships should have boundaries not walls.

Deception, well that speaks for itself. I'm a trusting soul until I'm not. I'll even give someone several chances to right themselves. Once I put all the pieces together and figure out the game, I'm done. This works equally in romance, friendship, coworkers.

"Oh what a tangled web we weave, When first we practice to deceive"

Canela · 12-01-2012, 08:36 PM

I learned that lies of omission are still lies.
I've learned to cut my losses, no matter how difficult.
I've learned to think/see thru the facade.
I've learned that if I'm expected to make sacrifices to be with him, he should be willing to make some too.
I've learned to value myself by the same standard (or better than) he had for himself.
I've learned to let go.
I've learned that not everyone is who they portray themselves to be, online and in real time.
I've learned to take responsibility for my part in things and be honest about it.
I've learned not everyone thinks like me regarding all the above.

mustangjeano · 12-01-2012, 08:44 PM

At least half the disfunction was MY issues....

Nomad · 12-03-2012, 12:28 AM

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Originally Posted by mustangjeano

At least half the disfunction was MY issues....

Miss Scarlett · 12-03-2012, 05:41 AM

Communication is important. If you feel as though you are losing, or have lost, your voice, speak up. The other person can't read your mind and nobody is going to speak for you...

morningstar55 · 12-03-2012, 06:15 AM

...... that somtimes 2 GPS 's are better then1 ........ lol

Nomad · 12-12-2012, 10:32 AM

"it is better to light a single candle than to sit and curse the darkness"
Confucius

12-01-2012, 09:07 AM	#1
Blade Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: TG Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: once in a while someone amazing comes along...and here I am! Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Down on the farm Posts: 5,501 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,855 Thanked 14,412 Times in 4,058 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Beware of walls and deception I've learned to steer clear of brickmasons, someone who builds brick walls. If I have to climb a brick wall take a few strides and climb another hurdle get almost to the top and falter. I've taken two steps back and have to begin climbing again. For some it's a never ending process. You might have a long term relationship but a person who builds walls, and you accept that in them, will always build walls. Relationships should have boundaries not walls. Deception, well that speaks for itself. I'm a trusting soul until I'm not. I'll even give someone several chances to right themselves. Once I put all the pieces together and figure out the game, I'm done. This works equally in romance, friendship, coworkers. "Oh what a tangled web we weave, When first we practice to deceive" __________________ Yeah so what if I'm triple dipped in awesome sauce? The best way to predict the future, is to create it.

12-01-2012, 08:36 PM	#2
Canela Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Babe, she, her, ella Relationship Status: Well loved… Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Texas Posts: 2,375 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,644 Thanked 6,502 Times in 1,694 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I learned that lies of omission are still lies. I've learned to cut my losses, no matter how difficult. I've learned to think/see thru the facade. I've learned that if I'm expected to make sacrifices to be with him, he should be willing to make some too. I've learned to value myself by the same standard (or better than) he had for himself. I've learned to let go. I've learned that not everyone is who they portray themselves to be, online and in real time. I've learned to take responsibility for my part in things and be honest about it. I've learned not everyone thinks like me regarding all the above. __________________ . . . . . Happiness is like a butterfly which, when pursued, is always beyond our grasp, but, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you ~Nathaniel Hawthorne

12-01-2012, 08:44 PM	#3
mustangjeano Member How Do You Identify?: old school stonebutch, Queer TG butch, ranch hand Preferred Pronoun?: he Relationship Status: single, not looking Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Northern Ca. Posts: 1,088 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,459 Thanked 1,029 Times in 361 Posts Rep Power: 15314316	At least half the disfunction was MY issues.... __________________ "Your outlook affects your outcome". John Paul Warren

12-03-2012, 06:15 AM	#6
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	...... that somtimes 2 GPS 's are better then1 ........ lol __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

12-12-2012, 10:32 AM	#7
Nomad Timed Out How Do You Identify?: stone femme Daddy's girl Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Relationship Status: disinterested Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: in my head Posts: 991 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,848 Thanked 3,745 Times in 734 Posts Rep Power: 0	what i learned "it is better to light a single candle than to sit and curse the darkness" Confucius

12-03-2012, 05:41 AM	#5
Miss Scarlett Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: . Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: . Posts: 5,530 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,478 Thanked 12,947 Times in 3,419 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Communication is important. If you feel as though you are losing, or have lost, your voice, speak up. The other person can't read your mind and nobody is going to speak for you...