Femme Caves!

[sis]

At this point in time I live in a two-bedroom condo. My cave area is the spare bedroom which has a built-in desk. I keep craft and knitting/crocheting items within reach. I have a large screened TV and the computer set up. I use the bed for chilling and creating with yarn; I use the desk for the computer and small crafts (think altoid tins). I generally have fresh flowers from the market sitting in a vase. Mostly, I just chill with classical music but I've been know to sing along with folk singers. I have a lot of quiet and peace in my cave. I like it!

Deb

[falloutmk]

I only really have one room that is my space with my decorations since I still live between my parents and grandparents house. BUT, my room I have is an my gender fluid cave. You see I'm always feminine in personality but I bind sometimes and go gay boy out if I'm taking the bus or doing drag around town.

My place is a femme cave though just with some gender fluid aspects There are wigs, cute clothes, cuter false eyelashes, and an earthy goddess feel to my room complete with the room smelling like, "Orange Shadow," incense.

[Novelafemme]

I don't know that I have an actual cave carved out for just me, but in the spare bedroom/family room is where I keep my crafting goodies and yarn. I went a little crazy before the holidays and my yarn collection quadrupled. I am going to make a series of cubes to store it so I can stand back and admire all the gorgeous colors. <le sigh>

Someday I would love to get a sewing machine, and then I will want to have more of a femme cave because I will be sewing the world a cute frock or two.

[genghisfawn]

When I got this 1-bedroom apartment almost 2 years ago, it was my first time living on my own without family, friends or a partner. It was going to be my femmecave, for sure.

I started with my bed, nightstand, dresser, 1950s green recliner from my great-grandmother, an exercise ball, my bookcase and books, my clothes and kitchenware. Through donations from my godmothers, Kijiji, careful shopping and some help from friends, I've fleshed out this place into a shabby chic haven.

I have paper bunting made from vintage books, ribbon and washi tape on the walls. I have a batik scarf framing a print. I have a pinup girls calendar over the fuse panel in the kitchen. I have random posters all over. I have vintage hats on top of my television. I have a 1940s gramophone cabinet which I still try, in vain, to fix. I have my bass either propped up in a corner or lying on the rug after a sweaty, hand-blistery practice session. It is MARVELLOUS.

But now M has moved in. Hy brought no furniture whatsoever, but we had to play closet Tetris to get hys storage stuff in. There is now a bit more laundry (hy's a city bus driver, so all hy wears is uniforms, whereas I am a clothes pig.) I had to get a shoe rack. All minimal changes. Besides... hy brought a Wii.

And despite the overwhelming girliness of the place, I can still walk in after an errand and barely notice hym lying on the couch with a device or book - hy blends in nicely. Maybe the finishing touch on my femmecave was a guy?

[Ginger]

My whole apartment is my femme cave.

It was hard leaving my lover's house (harder to stay there, of course), so to keep myself strong I treated myself to a lot of new things—turquoise faux-velvet curtains and matching pillow shams, also deep reds, and a few other things that make me feel good.

My gold leather love seat and arm chair took a beating at her house (the kid acted out once, grinding his gritty shoe soles into the couch seat, and the housekeeper cleaned them with goo-gone, long story), but they survived, a bit shabbier for wear, as was most of my stuff.

We all made it out, I guess I'm saying. I have my few chunks of furniture, and my 10 x 18 black-and-oatmeal low-pile wool rug that looks great with the gold and turquoise. I have the oval formica-and-chrome kitchen table my sweet boyfriend in college gave me, matching chrome chairs, and a large red-and-grey braided rug I had made a long time ago for my and N's kitchen that looks incredibly good with them.

I feel soothed when I walk in the door. I sit in the big armchair facing the windows and there's a balcony with a 9th-floor view of roof tops and trees. At night I can see what first looks like a star, but turns out to be a jet coming in to LaGuardia every minute or so. You can't hear them, but the big, flickering star that expands as it gets closer at night makes me feel good for some reason. I feel lucky to be here. Yeah, this is my cave.

[Dance-with-me]

My ex has finally moved out as of just 3 weeks ago, so I am still in the process of reclaiming my house, and it feels just so wonderful. It's been so long since I felt any real comfort here so right now I'm just exploring how to set things up and how to use the different spaces to make them completely mine -- though completely mine in a way that makes it easy to share it with dear friends (one who is arriving in a few hours - YAY!) and eventually maybe with someone who can help me fill the house up with love...

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Vivacious1

Oh I do love this thread!!!

My femme cave is my bedroom. My favorite things reside here! My bed of course, the best sheets I can find (luxurious bedding is a must) seeing that napping and bedtime are a favorite of mine. I have beautiful framed pictures that are all sentimemtal in some way, whether given to me or a "find". My jewelry box that stays close to my bed (which indicates it's importance, lol) filled with things that have been given to me, either by people that have been in my life or passed down from my mom or grandmother. My treadmill of course because when I wake up it speaks to me (get on me) sometimes I listen, sometimes I don't. I can't forget my 5 foot tall giraffee that I scored at a furniture store that was closing down. (her name is Gertrude, yes I am insane) and let me not leave out my closet with lots of beautiful clothes and shoes which are truly things I cherish. Some are recent buys and some are not, some fit and some don't.... they are like family!!! So, in summary, my bedroom is truly my oasis and I have created a place that makes me feel happy and peaceful.

I think Gertrude is a fantastic addition to your cave, Vivacious and you are not insane at all. Just don't let JustJo know about her or she may come up missing one day.

[julieisafemme]

My house is very small. My bedroom is even smaller. I love it! My bed is ridiculously comfortable. It has lots of pictures on the wall and a beautiful quilt I bought with my Mom. It is very soothing and relaxing and I love it.

[Hollylane]

I have to say that just this evening, I was describing the bubbly happy feeling I had while lolling around in my bed.

I was going on and on to Gaige, about the comfort of the fluffy mattress pad, topped with silky soft sheets, two fluffy down comforters, and many fluffy pillows. So, I think that my bedroom has become the first wing of my femme cave.


The spare room will be the next area to be developed into a new femme cave wing, where I will have my jewelry making supplies perfectly organized, and accessible (which means no cats in that room).

Frankly, the roommate moving out, has convinced me that my entire house should be one big femme haven...

[midwest chick]

I begin the new 'apartment adventure' soon...
My first thoughts were of a small one-bedroom, but I think I might have too much furniture (after I finish getting the rest of it from storage in the Midwest).

Now I'm back to thinking larger, with wood floors, and maybe having a guest room and bath.

This is actually starting to feel fun!

[Sachita]

My whole farm is... but I really love my front porch.

[CherryBlonde]

If I had to pick a room, I would say it was my dressing room/walk in closet. It's large and it holds all my favorite things. I love love love shoes and clothes and jewelry. All things sparkling are welcome

[MsBluem]

I'm in the process of organizing my femme cave. Casa del Bluem has a full, mostly finished basement that's mostly populated by random odds and ends right now, but I recently came into ownership of this super sweet coffee table and am waiting to hear back from my grandma about this chair of hers I've wanted since I was young. Planning on painting the femme cave section of the basement some sort of TARDIS-y blue and it'll house most of my books, dvds and will probably have a hair and makeup center where my curious little girl can't come in contact with my high end products. Bless her heart, she "wants to look like mommy" but mommy has expensive things that aren't for little hands.

[Hollylane]

My entire home is starting to become my femme cave, though my butch is welcome in the cave, and so far, seems to like what I'm doing...

For the first time, the house I purchased nearly 5 years ago (which will be paid off in 1.5 years!), is starting to look like I own it. I had not hung anything on the walls this entire time, added any plants or knickknacks, and I had only basic furniture items for comfort. So now, I am working through one room at a time (I've started with the living room, & front bathroom), and in recent weeks, I have been scouring the local thrift shops, yard sales, and craigslist for new items.

Each night, when I come home, and settle in for the evening, the decorating I've done really brings a smile of appreciation to my face.

[Medusa]

I'm craving some time in my Femme Cave lately. NaNoWriMo is coming up and I'd like to work on some short stories but my workbench is currently covered with projects and papers!!

ACK! I need an organization team!!

I have a bunch of little crafty things in random boxes all over the closet space and need to go through and group things together. Nothing like a box labeled "Doll Heads" peeking out from under a stack of old Playboys!! Lol

[LexiLove]

I am planning one for when we move to our apt in Mass. I would love a big loft room with soft lights, lots of yummy yarn for knitting, a place for all my metal work/beading/soaping stuff, and a stash of delicious books. Add a place for my dance pole, a kiln, and a cute place to sit and I would be in heaven.

[DanzAmazon]

Gently place or shove all the crafty-ness into a airtight container & put it under the bed until 12/1/2013.

I'm in it again this year & I'm one of the ML's for Austin this year. Accckkkk!! Yep I'm crazy, but I love doing nano. You'll have to follow me on twitter so we can word war together!!

I checked we're already "buddies" on Nanowrimo.org!

Laters Chica!
Lori aka DanzAmazon

Originally Posted by Medusa

I'm craving some time in my Femme Cave lately. NaNoWriMo is coming up and I'd like to work on some short stories but my workbench is currently covered with projects and papers!!

ACK! I need an organization team!!

I have a bunch of little crafty things in random boxes all over the closet space and need to go through and group things together. Nothing like a box labeled "Doll Heads" peeking out from under a stack of old Playboys!! Lol

[little man]

Originally Posted by Medusa

I'm craving some time in my Femme Cave lately. NaNoWriMo is coming up and I'd like to work on some short stories but my workbench is currently covered with projects and papers!!

ACK! I need an organization team!!

I have a bunch of little crafty things in random boxes all over the closet space and need to go through and group things together. Nothing like a box labeled "Doll Heads" peeking out from under a stack of old Playboys!! Lol

i *wish* i had a box labeled doll heads.

[fatallyblonde]

my whole apartment is my femme cave - to echo what many have already said!

it's taken me a long time to get it looking real pretty but even though it's not exactly what I would have if money were no object... it;s still looking really pretty and very "me"... pink and leopard print are the predominant themes throughout the house... I have got some really beautiful and unique furniture pieces... some real glamour... lots of gorgeous vintage pink lusterware and depression glass... my collectibles...

actually you can see lots of corners of my place here at this link. lots of christmas ones at the end

[FemmeTastic]

My spouse and I have each a living room. I have such a playful, colorful, artsy style, and she likes warm, muted, brownish, earthy colors. Her room is totally a reflection of who she is and my room is a reflection of me... I wouldn't want to have it any other way. So my room is full of art hanging on the walls, full of books, mostly poetry, novels and feminist/queer and art books. Two of my walls are painted a mustard color, and there is a huge cat tree for my little boys, (I brought them into the relationship). I must confess though, our bedroom looks more like the femme room in the house. One wall is painted purple and the other a dusky pink, there is a white canopy and white flower shaped fairy lights. The bed is really a princess bed (white faux leather and huge rhinestones in the headboard), and the blinds are purple too. The walls are full of my stuff, I have a giant board full of my earrings, and a shelf full of my perfumes. Then there is my make-up-stand and all my brushes on display, plus two big mirrors. I don't know why my spouse agreed to accept such a feminine, girly room as our joined bedroom, I guess she must love me a lot! But what I love the most about having two separate living rooms is that we can kind of visit each other, it keeps the mystery alive, which in our case is especially important, since we do not only live together, but run a business together as well. But generally, our home is pretty much decorated the way I want it, she seems to be happy if I am happy At least, whenever I prettify something she just smiles and hugs me and gives me sweet kiss