VALENTINE'S: Love it? Hate it? Celebrate it!

G Snap! · 02-01-2013, 03:56 PM

If my "sweetheart" wants to do something special, like go to dinner, sure, I'm in. But I have never held my partner to any expectations or been disappointed if there are no roses, chocolates, teddybears, or anything red given on or around the 14th. Nor have I gone out of my way to do the same. I would, however, appreciate a red Coach handbag or red boots if they showed up for valentine's day. Just saying. I have received red birkenstocks once in the past...

I have seen a friend get all worked up over the whole thing, only to get extremely p'd off if their partner delivered anything less than extreme valentine romance to the nth degree (dinner to a 75$ a plate restaurant, concert tickets, and a gift, and the gift had better be nothing less than 14 carat gold, wrapped with hearts and include a card.)

alexri · 02-01-2013, 05:33 PM

I embrace the concept of the day and reject the mass-marketed, commercialized aspects of it.

I reject the hell of having to make dinner reservations a month in advance and still wait an hour anyway for an overpriced meal, while presenting a dozen roses that cost four times what they should.

If I am going to do anything, I'd rather create my own tradition, and do something awesome as a couple, like volunteer, or make our own cards, or attempt to cook our own food (maybe I'd make you sign a waiver first), or call in sick together and stay in bed all day.

Hate: overpriced, overcrowded restaurants. Way too expensive flowers, decorative chocolates, etc.

Hate: over-commercialized holidays. Zealous marketing and advertising has made many lose sight of what certain holidays are really for.

Hate: when people forget there are 364 other days (give or take the leap year) to show someone how much you love him/her.

Like: Valentine's Day candy when it's 50% off the next day. I'll like you more if you wanted to get me chocolate and got it on an awesome sale.

Like: efforts to show love and affection that come from the heart, not because a date on the calendar told you that you should.

blush · 02-01-2013, 11:42 PM

Love it.
There's a lovely picture book that almost no one has heard of called "The Mightest Heart." I usually yank it out this time of year to remind myself about unconditional love.

chai~ · 02-02-2013, 12:40 AM

It has all been said before....the commercialism of the event is crazy.

I am the type of person who gives flowers just because...treats dinner, just because, send a card.....just because...little love notes tucked in pockets, wallets, etc.

I don't need an official day to show love and appreciation.

It would be just another lovely day in my world~

choochoo-enginerd · 02-02-2013, 01:08 AM

What Chai says truly resonates with me. I do not need a holiday to express what I feel for the remainder of the year. Everymonday that I am home, she gets hand delivered flowers to her office, so for the remainder of the week, she sees them every day. Never bypass an opportunity to express what you feel, especially love.

little_ms_sunshyne · 02-02-2013, 06:52 PM

I am not sure how I feel about el dia de San Valentin....

I have never really had a Valentine...or I take that back, when I did they were never really into it or I did the planning (so I felt valentine-less), so I am not sure what it feels like to go along with all the hype.

I am a huge fan of showing people you love them on any day and a cheeseball x 2 million!!!! So I am pretty sure that I would be tickled by any gesture on Valentine's.

For now, I will go on pretending that it doesn't exist and that I can't stand it. But you know the truth...SHHHHHHHHHHHHH lol

blush · 02-02-2013, 07:18 PM

I don't mind the hype. If the US dedicates a bit of time to love, I don't think that's a bad idea. There's enough examples of hatred, cynicism, and ugliness. I've been with people who don't appreciate Valentine's, and I've heard lip service about appreciating love everyday and blah, blah, but that never seemed to happen in practice. What I know is that Goof shows me everyday how much he loves me. And a bit more on Valentine's.

thedivahrrrself · 02-04-2013, 07:49 AM

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Originally Posted by blush

I don't mind the hype. If the US dedicates a bit of time to love, I don't think that's a bad idea. There's enough examples of hatred, cynicism, and ugliness. I've been with people who don't appreciate Valentine's, and I've heard lip service about appreciating love everyday and blah, blah, but that never seemed to happen in practice. What I know is that Goof shows me everyday how much he loves me. And a bit more on Valentine's.

Awww, I love this!

Sun · 02-02-2013, 07:21 PM

Any day that celebrates love is a good day in my world. I would like for it to be Valentines Day every day.

Anything that brings more positive love energy into the world is awesome.

thedivahrrrself · 02-04-2013, 07:48 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by little_ms_sunshyne

I am not sure how I feel about el dia de San Valentin....

I have never really had a Valentine...or I take that back, when I did they were never really into it or I did the planning (so I felt valentine-less), so I am not sure what it feels like to go along with all the hype.

I am a huge fan of showing people you love them on any day and a cheeseball x 2 million!!!! So I am pretty sure that I would be tickled by any gesture on Valentine's.

For now, I will go on pretending that it doesn't exist and that I can't stand it. But you know the truth...SHHHHHHHHHHHHH lol

I find this is how many people really feel!

Gemme · 02-01-2013, 08:25 PM

Someone just gave me a V Day poem. It was something about roses and shamrocks and my ass.

Best pressie EVER.

laruss · 02-01-2013, 09:30 PM

I love it, but not the commercialized hype.

I hate going out for dinner as the restaurants are full and irritating.

I love the sharing of love with everyone and the pink and purple hearts.

I like to do different things.

I almost always send out valentines, this year almost 100 got mailed. I didn't make them this year but often have in the past.

This year we are doing fondue at home.

My girl likes getting things in the mail so for the next 2 weeks I am mailing something every day or two. Just little things, cards, candy and small gifts.

thedivahrrrself · 02-01-2013, 10:28 PM

OK for those of you who like celebrating love, but hate the commercial hype, what do you do to celebrate? What is your perfect anti-Valentine Valentine's date?

I think one of the most romantic things in the world is sitting together and watching the stars. In the city, that's not always easy to do, though. So, I think the planetarium would be awesome, and probably empty, which is a plus, because talking while you're watching the stars is always the best part

02-01-2013, 11:42 PM	#3
blush Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: I'm with goofy. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 911 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 962 Thanked 2,375 Times in 616 Posts Rep Power: 15632318	Love it. There's a lovely picture book that almost no one has heard of called "The Mightest Heart." I usually yank it out this time of year to remind myself about unconditional love. __________________ "We never forget those who make us blush." Jean-Francois de la Harpe

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blush Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: I'm with goofy. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 911 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 962 Thanked 2,375 Times in 616 Posts Rep Power: 15632318	Hype I don't mind the hype. If the US dedicates a bit of time to love, I don't think that's a bad idea. There's enough examples of hatred, cynicism, and ugliness. I've been with people who don't appreciate Valentine's, and I've heard lip service about appreciating love everyday and blah, blah, but that never seemed to happen in practice. What I know is that Goof shows me everyday how much he loves me. And a bit more on Valentine's. __________________ "We never forget those who make us blush." Jean-Francois de la Harpe

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02-01-2013, 03:56 PM	#1
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02-01-2013, 05:33 PM	#2
alexri Member How Do You Identify?: - Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: - Posts: 549 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,209 Thanked 2,799 Times in 468 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I embrace the concept of the day and reject the mass-marketed, commercialized aspects of it. I reject the hell of having to make dinner reservations a month in advance and still wait an hour anyway for an overpriced meal, while presenting a dozen roses that cost four times what they should. If I am going to do anything, I'd rather create my own tradition, and do something awesome as a couple, like volunteer, or make our own cards, or attempt to cook our own food (maybe I'd make you sign a waiver first), or call in sick together and stay in bed all day. Hate: overpriced, overcrowded restaurants. Way too expensive flowers, decorative chocolates, etc. Hate: over-commercialized holidays. Zealous marketing and advertising has made many lose sight of what certain holidays are really for. Hate: when people forget there are 364 other days (give or take the leap year) to show someone how much you love him/her. Like: Valentine's Day candy when it's 50% off the next day. I'll like you more if you wanted to get me chocolate and got it on an awesome sale. Like: efforts to show love and affection that come from the heart, not because a date on the calendar told you that you should.

02-02-2013, 12:40 AM	#4
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02-02-2013, 01:08 AM	#5
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02-02-2013, 06:52 PM	#6
little_ms_sunshyne Senior Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: . Posts: 3,312 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,339 Thanked 12,241 Times in 2,541 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I am not sure how I feel about el dia de San Valentin.... I have never really had a Valentine...or I take that back, when I did they were never really into it or I did the planning (so I felt valentine-less), so I am not sure what it feels like to go along with all the hype. I am a huge fan of showing people you love them on any day and a cheeseball x 2 million!!!! So I am pretty sure that I would be tickled by any gesture on Valentine's. For now, I will go on pretending that it doesn't exist and that I can't stand it. But you know the truth...SHHHHHHHHHHHHH lol

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