Rings

[Chancie]

Pete gave me this ring with a black pearl, and

I wear it on my right hand because

It's not an engagement ring, but it's very special to me, and

I wear it all the time, except when I shower or do dishes.

I got Pete a simple ring that a local jeweler made for her.

I got her a nice Seiko for her birthday at the same jewelry store.

The young lady who waited on me chose the perfect watch, since

Pete prefers sturdy things but she has little paws.

I don't know whether Pete has thought about my engagement ring.

[easygoingfemme]

I have a "going steady" ring. Which came about as a little bit of a joke, when he asked me to go steady and I said... "but where is my malted? And Juke box, so I can pick our song? And I need a pin, or your class ring"? So a couple of weeks later, he gave me a ring. It was already discussed that I don't really wear rings- so he gave it to me more as a token, it was his mother's. It's sweet, a Celtic knot. I wear it more than I thought I would. He doesn't mind that I don't wear it much, he just wanted me to have it. I think if we progressed to another level of things that would normally be marked with rings, we'd probably do necklaces or something like that since neither of us are big on rings. I don't have any moral opposition to them, I just tend to lose them. Often losing them because they are bothering me and I take them off and stick them "somewhere" or because when my hands are cold, which they often are, my fingers get smaller and the rings fall off and I don't notice.

[LeftWriteFemme]

Rings are important to me. I grew up in a religious cult that did not allow women jewelry or makeup. After I left the cult I realized what a sense of safety wearing ornament gives. Coming from the background that I do the most important part of my ring is that it sends the message 'someone is expecting this girl home and if she doesn't come home someone will come looking for her' I maybe the only person who receives this message from this ring, but it's still an important message.

[DapperButch]

What I have seen is that it is gay men who tend to do the matching right hand ring thing. I usually only see it on older men (60 +)and this leads me to believe that this was more common a couple of decades ago. Typically, I have seen it on men who have been together for a couple of decades, as well.

I have seen the simple, traditional band on lesbians, but on the left hand, in the 55+ group. I see the matching rings more often on gay men than women, though.

My lesbian neighbors (who unfortunately broke up after 19 years), wore traditional bands. Or, at least the one who left did. They are in their late 40's.

For me, choosing a "conflict free" diamond is important, and I would not consider anything else.

I think it is ridiculous that people care more about the size of the diamond, than the quality. Quality is important to me. A smaller diamond, with better quality makes more sense to me.

I would suggest people look into lose stones, rather than a already packaged stone and ring. Often you can get a better quality diamond for the same price if you buy a lose stone (there are companies out there who only sell lose stones), and then add it to the ring of your choice, later.

[clay]

Originally Posted by LeftWriteFemme

Coming from the background that I do the most important part of my ring is that it sends the message 'someone is expecting this girl home and if she doesn't come home someone will come looking for her' I maybe the only person who receives this message from this ring, but it's still an important message.

snip....LWF...I LOVE this part of your thoughts.
I am of an almost similar train of thought.
To me, it shows that I am loved, wanted, and that I belong to someone.That somewhere, someone cares..and that My someone is also loved, wanted, and cared for..and that they belong...
When I was an ER Charge Nurse, and accident victims would come in...whether critically wounded or DOA...I always immediately looked at their hand to see if they had a ring on...for the reasons we both stated....
I know there are always exceptions to the rule, but we are talking about committment rings, etc here...

Great thread BTW!

[justanolecowboy]

[quote Coming from the background that I do the most important part of my ring is that it sends the message 'someone is expecting this girl home and if she doesn't come home someone will come looking for her' I maybe the only person who receives this message from this ring, but it's still an important message.[/quote]


_____IT absolutely says that...the wearing of the ring - signifies so much...(to some it does not - i realize) - but to the majority it does - and it means different things to different people - with the overlying theme (to me) - yes, commitment...and there can be and I will say is no greater feeling that being "committed" to the one you love...as for me commitment (is) part of love...

[Chancie]

Originally Posted by Chancie

Pete gave me this ring with a black pearl, and

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[Femminator]

My wife and I have Saphire wedding rings. Mine is more Femmy, its an offset Saphire with diamonds on the edges, hers is a plain Saphire and diamond eternity band. We do have matching wedding bands, whitegold, except hers is a pipecut and my comfort band because I am a lefty and a flat ring cuts my finger. We wear them on our left ring fingers becuase my pertner is my life partner, and wife.

[Sparkle]

I have recently been given a gorgeous engagement ring, which I wear on my left hand - ring finger. I'll wear my wedding band next to it.

Finding a ring that works on my small hands and short fingers has always been a challenge, both from an aesthetic and comfort point of view.

When I tried my ring on I knew it was perfect. It is designed by one of my favorite jewelry designers, Anne Sportun. The diamonds are ethically sourced, conflict free Canadian diamonds, set in white gold with a matte finish on the outside, polished on the inside. Purchased from a local jewelers because it is important to us to support local businesses.

In natural light, it looks quite graphic; and when the sun or interior light hits it - it lights up and is dazzlingly sparkly! I love it both ways! I LOVE it, full stop.



We may have found Hack's wedding ring as well, it is designed by Todd Reed.

[SoSousMe]

I got My girly a white gold/3 white sapphire engagement ring... when we say I do.. I will opt for a tungsten or titanium band.. and I will get her a white gold band to go with her engagement ring.

We don't need matching rings.. Our hearts match

[Ginger]

I think it's really important, before people give each other rings, that they talk about what it means to them, so their expectations are clear.

[Beloved]

Well I am divorced. Twice. Yeah, not so proud of that. Anyway....

The first time I got married I was young, 22. He gave me a diamond engagement ring that wasn't really my style. But our wedding rings were his paternal grandparents rings and that meant a lot to me because I absolutely adored his grandmother. The marriage ended because he became a heroin addict and would not get treatment. I was really in love with him and often wonder if it would have worked out if he didn't become an addict. I had gotten back in touch with him a few months ago. He has been clean for only 2 years. He was a heroin addict for a good 15 years and I am shocked he is still alive.

The second time, I didn't really want to get married. My parents were very upset that I was going to have a child out of wedlock so we just had a civil ceremony in our dining room with a justice of the peace. We had plain gold bands but I really never wore mine. This marriage shouldn't have ever happened and I should not have succumbed to my parents pressure and desire for approval.

I would like to get married again someday. I believe in commitment.

My favorite style of ring is filigree. It can be new or antique. In the future that is what I would really want.

This isn't filigree but still gorgeous...from brillianearth.com

http://www.brilliantearth.com/Adorne...tting_tab=true