The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

clay · 02-10-2013, 03:18 PM

afternoon all the Lofters:
It is such an awesome day here...nice blue, sunny skies, temp is 68....
Hoping the blizzard has passed on by and folks get back to having power soon.
Take care all...
Have a pleasant evening

morningstar55 · 02-10-2013, 04:43 PM

evening loft dwellers and peekers

i have landed near Kreamer PA, guess where that is?? lol
anyways... im pooped
ty for the reppies Pamcat...

Okiebug61 · 02-10-2013, 05:13 PM

Hi everyone! I can not begin to tell you how busy I am and how much I suck as a lofter. Sorry for my hit and miss posting. I will share the following. I am 6 weeks from the completion of a new skill set that is going to allow me to make money, have a lot of freedom and possibly change our lives. :-). I can't wait to be able to say exactly what it is.

oksoftbutch · 02-10-2013, 05:31 PM

Cool....good luck on the best possible finish....

Quote:

Originally Posted by Okiebug61

Hi everyone! I can not begin to tell you how busy I am and how much I suck as a lofter. Sorry for my hit and miss posting. I will share the following. I am 6 weeks from the completion of a new skill set that is going to allow me to make money, have a lot of freedom and possibly change our lives. :-). I can't wait to be able to say exactly what it is.

OS Butch · 02-11-2013, 04:21 PM

Good evening everyone. I am patiently waiting for a call...Expecting Morningstar to be arriving here for dinner soon. I better get to tidying up my place. Looking at going out to dinner at a place that has sushi...or Five Guys!

morningstar55 · 02-12-2013, 06:29 AM

morning loft dwellers and peekers

had a great visit with OS n having a coffee at Panera bread..
the steel cut oatmeal is awesome .

Wryly · 02-12-2013, 07:53 PM

Hi all!

Just popping in to see how y'all are doing!

As some of you know it was my birthday last week - - turned the big 50.
Let me tell you, being 50 sucks! lol
Honestly - being 50 isn't bad but getting super sick on my birthday sucked! It started as just a little tickle in my throat and within a few hours I was sicker than a dog. Laid up for almost a week. Went to school today and fell asleep during lecture! yikes!
so - I'm on the mend but it seems to take longer than it used to.

Enough about me! What is everyone up to? Anything interesting going on?

lusciouskiwi · 02-12-2013, 08:31 PM

Morning everyone! Have been by in a while - distracted by facebook!

Had better head off and get some stuff done ... got "Wasting away in Margaritaville" stuck in my head!

NickE TimeLord · 02-19-2013, 10:31 AM

i'll be 58 on April 8 ... just walked away from the longest relationship of my life..9.5 years... and i'll tell the truth... i'm scared to death..i've walked,run,crawled,mambo-ed and slip-slided away from all kinds of lovers in the past.. but at this age..i suddenly feel the pressure of time that i never felt before...like i don't have time to waste now in a relationship that doesn't work out.. i'm pissed about this last one because i surely didn't have 9.5 years to waste.. i never thought in these terms when i was younger..even in my 40s i felt like i had all the time in the world to find the right woman.. and i have no idea of how to even begin finding that woman now..my flirting/dating skills were largely invisible at the best of times...now i'm just standing here going.." ummm..hello?"..one thing i do know... i'm really looking forward to going out with women around my own age .. my ex is 21 years younger than i am..it wasn't a problem at the beginning..but by the end i think the pretty vast difference had taken it's toll... now all i have to do is get up the nerve to talk to some fabulous 40,50,60-something femmes...anybody want to help me i surely won't object..have a fabulous day everyone

morningstar55 · 02-19-2013, 10:12 PM

evening loft dwellers and peekers

and welcome NickE to the loft, sorry to read you are going thru this... i'm sure a lot of us here understand completely how you feel about being our age , single and time.
I for one do not want to grow old alone... as well its nice to have someone there that you can be completely on the same page with with love, hobbies, desires, etc.. well you know what i mean.

I think we should all pack our bags and go bunk in over at Clays for a week or 2... maybe 3 .. lol and enjoy the beachs sunshine, well when it warms back up... .

morningstar55 · 02-21-2013, 07:39 AM

good morning loft dwellers....... and peekers

its a nice crisp frozen morning here in Iowa land , waking up to the smell of gasoline fumes coming from outside our room... * cough* ... wonderful

Library_girl · 02-21-2013, 06:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by NickE TimeLord

i'll be 58 on April 8 ... just walked away from the longest relationship of my life..9.5 years... and i'll tell the truth... i'm scared to death..i've walked,run,crawled,mambo-ed and slip-slided away from all kinds of lovers in the past.. but at this age..i suddenly feel the pressure of time that i never felt before...like i don't have time to waste now in a relationship that doesn't work out.. i'm pissed about this last one because i surely didn't have 9.5 years to waste.. i never thought in these terms when i was younger..even in my 40s i felt like i had all the time in the world to find the right woman.. and i have no idea of how to even begin finding that woman now..my flirting/dating skills were largely invisible at the best of times...now i'm just standing here going.." ummm..hello?"..one thing i do know... i'm really looking forward to going out with women around my own age .. my ex is 21 years younger than i am..it wasn't a problem at the beginning..but by the end i think the pretty vast difference had taken it's toll... now all i have to do is get up the nerve to talk to some fabulous 40,50,60-something femmes...anybody want to help me i surely won't object..have a fabulous day everyone

NickE, I can sympathize. I just got out of a relationship too. It wasn't as long as yours, but I was really taken by surprise and truly thought this was my "forever" one. I was single for 9 years before that, and so I really feel the same time pressure that you're feeling. I don't want to waste any more time either. And I feel pretty clueless, too! So don't feel like you're all alone in this. There's at least one more in the same boat with you.

Galahad · 02-24-2013, 11:08 AM

Good morning lofty ones. I'm finally over bout 2 of the cold. The Dr. told me I could expect to get it up to 3 times this year. I hope not. It's good to see new faces and the old ones here. I hope the weather next week is easier on all of you. Stay Well and happy.

Sweet Bliss · 02-25-2013, 03:28 PM

NickE TimeLord...... i'll be 58 on April 8 ... just walked away from the longest relationship of my life..9.5 years...

Thanks so much for posting. I just turned 56, almost didn't make it, lol.

We hear ya. 9.5 years? humm. Well mine was 16 years. Ya. I hear ya. I have no idea how to do this anymore. All my attempts have met in failure to launch or disaster. I don't want a quick roll in the hay, I want a friendship first, you can get sex anywhere, but good friends are better.... sometimes I think I'm better off with just my pets. They think I'm fabulous. Yes, I do their thinkin' for them, lmao....

I've had my rough days, thinkin' "omg, these are the Golden Years???? REALLY??? I am so screwed." But there is always reality TV to help us remember why we like our own company right?

There are plenty of lovely femmes here that can help you get over the "what now" hump, some of us are fabulous flirts, you could practice your Mambo-Salsa-Twist and Shout moves here.... just sayin'.........

Sweet Bliss · 02-25-2013, 03:36 PM

Afternoon All!!!

So anybody got some sunshine to share??? I got Peanut butter/chip/oatmeal cookies... anybody got a grill ready to bbq??? It's rainy and dark here today, mucho gloomy... started some homemade chicken soup for lunch.....

OS Butch · 02-11-2013, 04:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Okiebug61

Hi everyone! I can not begin to tell you how busy I am and how much I suck as a lofter. Sorry for my hit and miss posting. I will share the following. I am 6 weeks from the completion of a new skill set that is going to allow me to make money, have a lot of freedom and possibly change our lives. :-). I can't wait to be able to say exactly what it is.

Good for you dude! I am sure you will be successful at whatever it is....I will be patient for 6 more weeks to hear all about it!

02-10-2013, 03:18 PM	#1
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,136 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 97,020 Thanked 31,668 Times in 7,748 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	afternoon all the Lofters: It is such an awesome day here...nice blue, sunny skies, temp is 68.... Hoping the blizzard has passed on by and folks get back to having power soon. Take care all... Have a pleasant evening __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

02-10-2013, 04:43 PM	#2
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	evening loft dwellers and peekers i have landed near Kreamer PA, guess where that is?? lol anyways... im pooped ty for the reppies Pamcat... __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

02-10-2013, 05:13 PM	#3
Okiebug61 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Light Butch Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Hitched to Red Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 1,528 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,261 Thanked 5,377 Times in 1,245 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Hi everyone! I can not begin to tell you how busy I am and how much I suck as a lofter. Sorry for my hit and miss posting. I will share the following. I am 6 weeks from the completion of a new skill set that is going to allow me to make money, have a lot of freedom and possibly change our lives. :-). I can't wait to be able to say exactly what it is. __________________ "Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawake." ~ Anatole France

02-11-2013, 04:21 PM	#5
OS Butch Member How Do You Identify?: Butch-BLW Preferred Pronoun?: Default-She Relationship Status: Closed Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Northern Virginia Posts: 636 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 488 Thanked 1,378 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 12988704	Good evening everyone. I am patiently waiting for a call...Expecting Morningstar to be arriving here for dinner soon. I better get to tidying up my place. Looking at going out to dinner at a place that has sushi...or Five Guys! __________________ You know that place between sleep and awake, the place where you can still remember dreaming? That's where I'll always love you. ~Tinkerbell~

02-12-2013, 06:29 AM	#6
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	morning loft dwellers and peekers had a great visit with OS n having a coffee at Panera bread.. the steel cut oatmeal is awesome . __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

02-12-2013, 07:53 PM	#7
Wryly Member How Do You Identify?: bemused butch Preferred Pronoun?: polite ones, please Relationship Status: single butch Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: my little butch house Posts: 988 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,789 Thanked 1,568 Times in 620 Posts Rep Power: 14094254	Hi all! Just popping in to see how y'all are doing! As some of you know it was my birthday last week - - turned the big 50. Let me tell you, being 50 sucks! lol Honestly - being 50 isn't bad but getting super sick on my birthday sucked! It started as just a little tickle in my throat and within a few hours I was sicker than a dog. Laid up for almost a week. Went to school today and fell asleep during lecture! yikes! so - I'm on the mend but it seems to take longer than it used to. Enough about me! What is everyone up to? Anything interesting going on?

02-12-2013, 08:31 PM	#8
lusciouskiwi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme lesbian feminist Preferred Pronoun?: Anything except for "aunty" Relationship Status: Happy with my butch. Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Aotearoa New Zealand Posts: 2,681 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 25,494 Thanked 9,096 Times in 1,899 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Morning everyone! Have been by in a while - distracted by facebook! Had better head off and get some stuff done ... got "Wasting away in Margaritaville" stuck in my head! __________________ happiness is a form of courage. George Holbrook Jackson Risk! Risk anything! Care no more for the opinions of others, for those voices. Do the hardest thing on earth for you. Act for yourself. Face the truth. Katherine Mansfield Motivate yourself or be miserable. Whatever has to be done, it's always your choice. Wayne Dyer

02-19-2013, 10:31 AM	#9
NickE TimeLord Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: recently single and very skeptical Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Oregon Posts: 117 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 389 Thanked 174 Times in 77 Posts Rep Power: 2658423	i'll be 58 on April 8 ... just walked away from the longest relationship of my life..9.5 years... and i'll tell the truth... i'm scared to death..i've walked,run,crawled,mambo-ed and slip-slided away from all kinds of lovers in the past.. but at this age..i suddenly feel the pressure of time that i never felt before...like i don't have time to waste now in a relationship that doesn't work out.. i'm pissed about this last one because i surely didn't have 9.5 years to waste.. i never thought in these terms when i was younger..even in my 40s i felt like i had all the time in the world to find the right woman.. and i have no idea of how to even begin finding that woman now..my flirting/dating skills were largely invisible at the best of times...now i'm just standing here going.." ummm..hello?"..one thing i do know... i'm really looking forward to going out with women around my own age .. my ex is 21 years younger than i am..it wasn't a problem at the beginning..but by the end i think the pretty vast difference had taken it's toll... now all i have to do is get up the nerve to talk to some fabulous 40,50,60-something femmes...anybody want to help me i surely won't object..have a fabulous day everyone

02-19-2013, 10:12 PM	#10
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	evening loft dwellers and peekers and welcome NickE to the loft, sorry to read you are going thru this... i'm sure a lot of us here understand completely how you feel about being our age , single and time. I for one do not want to grow old alone... as well its nice to have someone there that you can be completely on the same page with with love, hobbies, desires, etc.. well you know what i mean. I think we should all pack our bags and go bunk in over at Clays for a week or 2... maybe 3 .. lol and enjoy the beachs sunshine, well when it warms back up... . __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

02-21-2013, 07:39 AM	#11
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	good morning loft dwellers....... and peekers its a nice crisp frozen morning here in Iowa land , waking up to the smell of gasoline fumes coming from outside our room... * cough* ... wonderful __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

02-24-2013, 11:08 AM	#13
Galahad Member How Do You Identify?: do I have to? Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: I.E. Southern California Posts: 425 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,300 Thanked 339 Times in 151 Posts Rep Power: 1446604	Good morning lofty ones. I'm finally over bout 2 of the cold. The Dr. told me I could expect to get it up to 3 times this year. I hope not. It's good to see new faces and the old ones here. I hope the weather next week is easier on all of you. Stay Well and happy.

02-25-2013, 03:28 PM	#14
Sweet Bliss Senior Member How Do You Identify?: I Am Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: solo Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: the Beach, Pacific side Posts: 4,160 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,354 Thanked 7,268 Times in 2,159 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	NickE TimeLord...... i'll be 58 on April 8 ... just walked away from the longest relationship of my life..9.5 years... Thanks so much for posting. I just turned 56, almost didn't make it, lol. We hear ya. 9.5 years? humm. Well mine was 16 years. Ya. I hear ya. I have no idea how to do this anymore. All my attempts have met in failure to launch or disaster. I don't want a quick roll in the hay, I want a friendship first, you can get sex anywhere, but good friends are better.... sometimes I think I'm better off with just my pets. They think I'm fabulous. Yes, I do their thinkin' for them, lmao.... I've had my rough days, thinkin' "omg, these are the Golden Years???? REALLY??? I am so screwed." But there is always reality TV to help us remember why we like our own company right? There are plenty of lovely femmes here that can help you get over the "what now" hump, some of us are fabulous flirts, you could practice your Mambo-Salsa-Twist and Shout moves here.... just sayin'.........

02-25-2013, 03:36 PM	#15
Sweet Bliss Senior Member How Do You Identify?: I Am Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: solo Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: the Beach, Pacific side Posts: 4,160 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,354 Thanked 7,268 Times in 2,159 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Afternoon All!!! So anybody got some sunshine to share??? I got Peanut butter/chip/oatmeal cookies... anybody got a grill ready to bbq??? It's rainy and dark here today, mucho gloomy... started some homemade chicken soup for lunch.....