belonging

macele · 09-30-2012, 05:23 PM

belonging.

do you have belonging in your life?

there's a general sense of, ... and much deeper thought, ... different types of belonging. can you add to the definition of belonging (unique maybe)?

examples of belonging. or do you feel something is missing?

whatever you all might like to share. doesn't have to be positve.

there are places, people, things that i feel this with, ... but i have a hard time with belonging, most often.

it feels so big. overwhelming sometimes. so much can be said, felt. for me, creative energy has a presence within belonging. i love the energy the word gives.

justanolecowboy · 01-30-2013, 07:46 AM

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Originally Posted by macele

belonging.

do you have belonging in your life?

there's a general sense of, ... and much deeper thought, ... different types of belonging. can you add to the definition of belonging (unique maybe)?

examples of belonging. or do you feel something is missing?

whatever you all might like to share. doesn't have to be positve.

there are places, people, things that i feel this with, ... but i have a hard time with belonging, most often.

it feels so big. overwhelming sometimes. so much can be said, felt. for me, creative energy has a presence within belonging. i love the energy the word gives.

“I celebrate myself, and sing myself, And what I assume you shall assume, For every atom belonging to me as good belongs to you” - Walt Whitman

Gemme · 01-30-2013, 10:22 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by macele

belonging.

do you have belonging in your life?

there's a general sense of, ... and much deeper thought, ... different types of belonging. can you add to the definition of belonging (unique maybe)?

examples of belonging. or do you feel something is missing?

whatever you all might like to share. doesn't have to be positve.

there are places, people, things that i feel this with, ... but i have a hard time with belonging, most often.

it feels so big. overwhelming sometimes. so much can be said, felt. for me, creative energy has a presence within belonging. i love the energy the word gives.

The thing with belonging, for me, is that the feeling doesn't last. I have moments in time of feeling like I belong to or with someone or to a greater purpose or that I am in the place that I am meant to be. But it doesn't last.

It's something that I need to recultivate within myself in one way or another.

When it's not there, there's a definite sense of loss and something missing.

deb_U_taunt · 02-23-2013, 09:08 PM

I didn't grow up with a sense of belonging. I felt like an outsider. I was the odd person out in my family and school, bullied.

Today is different. I am still the odd one out with my family, BUT I have a wonderful group of friends and chosen family. I fit at work even! I work with tech geeks, so we are all the odd kids out growing up.

girl_dee · 02-23-2013, 09:13 PM

i've felt like an alien my whole life. Still do!

Jesse · 02-24-2013, 03:05 PM

I think that what feels like belonging to one of us, or a group of us, may feel like something completely different to another. For some it is a joyous word because they have a great sense of belonging with and to family, while for others, like myself, it can be a very burdensome word because we/they do not have that connection...that bonding that helps to create a belonging.

macele · 02-24-2013, 06:23 PM

in the movie Field of Dreams, the players longed for a place to play even after death. they belonged on a field.

i can understand that. it's a place that i know without a doubt, i belong. for example, i can close my eyes and see grass from many different fields. there's a peace in that for me. the lights on. the smells. i like to go, just me, ... i feel a belonging. i feel in my being that i was born to revel in all of her sights and sounds. a gift.

i've seen dee's photos. so i know you were born belonging to a camera. you create via that belonging.

girl_dee · 02-24-2013, 06:28 PM

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Originally Posted by macele

in the movie Field of Dreams, the players longed for a place to play even after death. they belonged on a field.

i can understand that. it's a place that i know without a doubt, i belong. for example, i can close my eyes and see grass from many different fields. there's a peace in that for me. the lights on. the smells. i like to go, just me, ... i feel a belonging. i feel in my being that i was born to revel in all of her sights and sounds. a gift.

i've seen dee's photos. so i know you were born belonging to a camera. you create via that belonging.

wow. thank you. That is one place i feel most comfortable, within a nature backdrop though

KCBUTCH · 02-24-2013, 06:34 PM

We are talking about this is my class- Where do we fit? How many cultures do we belong to?
Chosen BF family definitely a culture of belonging that I looked for all my life and am grateful to have found it...
I belong to myself first
I belong to the earth and to spirit
I belong to the present and the past. I belong to my path my creative choice
I belong to Love to LIFE
I belong to a 12 step program and that chosen family
I belong to my parents

I was lost most of my life trying to belong with people I thought were like me and never fit
Then I was still and found an amazing community and belonging with many people that I would have never dreamed were like me
We looked different, we were from different places, cities, cultures but I found WE FELT alike...and that was enough...
I found belonging from the inside rather than the outside and I found in the BF community

KCBUTCH · 02-24-2013, 06:35 PM

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Originally Posted by girl_dee

i've felt like an alien my whole life. Still do!

I dont really know you well but it seems you belong right here!
Besides aliens are awesome!!! HUGS

Girl_On_Fire · 02-24-2013, 09:15 PM

Belonging...hmmm...no. I never have felt like I truly "belonged" anywhere. I was always treated as an outsider, teenager, and young adult. It wasn't until I discovered what made me different that I could pretend to blend as it were. (I have Asperger's).

However, now that I know that I view the world differently from others, I am better able to explain myself and 'fit in'. Still, I don't let it define me. I'm always pushing against my limitations but I still know, no matter how good I am at 'faking it', on some energetic level I project my 'otherness'. People know. It's an instinctual thing. I can feel it when certain people look at me.

I still feel very much outside but I accept it now and even enjoy it. I realize now I never really needed to belong because I'm connected. We're all connected.

Ginger · 02-24-2013, 09:25 PM

I feel comfortable in most places, even if I don't know anyone there or it's a new, unfamiliar place.

But it's more rare to feel an affinity with people, in some deep way, and that's what I feel when I hang out with my old friends from the literacy community in NYC (which overlaps with the adult ed and immigrant rights communities); what I call my gentle, grey-haired communist friends. Their humanity is something I don't find in my work colleagues (god no), or even in the literary or poetry community, which thinks of itself as very liberal.

I would like to be part of a lesbian or butch-femme community but that just hasn't clicked for me in NYC though I do have a good femme friend. But I think of myself as belonging to the online community here.

Bleu · 02-24-2013, 09:51 PM

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Originally Posted by KCBUTCH

I dont really know you well but it seems you belong right here!
Besides aliens are awesome!!! HUGS

Quote:

Originally Posted by girl_dee

i've felt like an alien my whole life. Still do!

Aliens are awesome. I know. I'm from New Mexico.

Rockinonahigh · 02-24-2013, 11:56 PM

Belonging ..wow,this is something that I have been looking for a place to be,but that hasn't been possable for many years.I was the loner odd ball of my family....call it sins of the parrents to fall on an inocent kid well that was me untill I found a bond with horses.So I made that my lifes work till murphys law hit then it came to a crashing hault.The ajustment has made me realise how it is possable to live in a world doing the best you can even when there is no place that can fill the void that is left.Over the years I made a new career then picked up a new game called billiards wich I play on multiple teams to stay involved in and new people mostly straight.So life goes on and so do I as best as possable as we all do.Cheers yall.

~ocean · 02-25-2013, 12:23 AM

Belonging ~ owns ~ protects ~ guides ~ loves ~ shares ~ teaches ~ sexual control ~

Belonging ~ is what I am to (( Hym )) ~

My family , we love eachother enough to give then the choice of freedom ~ their ownselves do not belong to me ~

My friends walk this earth w/ their own self pride ~ that also dont belong to me ~

Myself I share my soul, wisdom, devotion , that dont even belong to me ~

09-30-2012, 05:23 PM	#1
macele Member How Do You Identify?: a bold-assed maximus Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: mississippi Posts: 1,066 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,178 Thanked 3,230 Times in 847 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	belonging belonging. do you have belonging in your life? there's a general sense of, ... and much deeper thought, ... different types of belonging. can you add to the definition of belonging (unique maybe)? examples of belonging. or do you feel something is missing? whatever you all might like to share. doesn't have to be positve. there are places, people, things that i feel this with, ... but i have a hard time with belonging, most often. it feels so big. overwhelming sometimes. so much can be said, felt. for me, creative energy has a presence within belonging. i love the energy the word gives.

02-24-2013, 03:05 PM	#6
Jesse Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Central West Coast of Florida Posts: 5,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,866 Thanked 17,782 Times in 3,940 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I think that what feels like belonging to one of us, or a group of us, may feel like something completely different to another. For some it is a joyous word because they have a great sense of belonging with and to family, while for others, like myself, it can be a very burdensome word because we/they do not have that connection...that bonding that helps to create a belonging. __________________ “You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that widened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”

02-24-2013, 06:34 PM	#9
KCBUTCH Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Undaunted QUEER Dom, Daddy Preferred Pronoun?: MYSELF, Syr, Hy, or friend prefered Relationship Status: Cautious, indifferent... Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Below the foothills above the beach Posts: 1,848 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,240 Thanked 3,305 Times in 884 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	We are talking about this is my class- Where do we fit? How many cultures do we belong to? Chosen BF family definitely a culture of belonging that I looked for all my life and am grateful to have found it... I belong to myself first I belong to the earth and to spirit I belong to the present and the past. I belong to my path my creative choice I belong to Love to LIFE I belong to a 12 step program and that chosen family I belong to my parents I was lost most of my life trying to belong with people I thought were like me and never fit Then I was still and found an amazing community and belonging with many people that I would have never dreamed were like me We looked different, we were from different places, cities, cultures but I found WE FELT alike...and that was enough... I found belonging from the inside rather than the outside and I found in the BF community __________________ "If you want to know the secrets of the Universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration"-Nikola Tesla

02-24-2013, 09:15 PM	#11
Girl_On_Fire Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her Relationship Status: On Hiatus Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: Connecticut Posts: 690 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,020 Thanked 2,684 Times in 562 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	Belonging...hmmm...no. I never have felt like I truly "belonged" anywhere. I was always treated as an outsider, teenager, and young adult. It wasn't until I discovered what made me different that I could pretend to blend as it were. (I have Asperger's). However, now that I know that I view the world differently from others, I am better able to explain myself and 'fit in'. Still, I don't let it define me. I'm always pushing against my limitations but I still know, no matter how good I am at 'faking it', on some energetic level I project my 'otherness'. People know. It's an instinctual thing. I can feel it when certain people look at me. I still feel very much outside but I accept it now and even enjoy it. I realize now I never really needed to belong because I'm connected. We're all connected. __________________ "Quit trying to reason with unreasonable people. It's like trying to have a meaningful conversation with an end table." ~ Girl_On_Fire

02-24-2013, 09:25 PM	#12
Ginger Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme lesbian Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: East coast Posts: 2,416 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,829 Thanked 12,296 Times in 2,057 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I feel comfortable in most places, even if I don't know anyone there or it's a new, unfamiliar place. But it's more rare to feel an affinity with people, in some deep way, and that's what I feel when I hang out with my old friends from the literacy community in NYC (which overlaps with the adult ed and immigrant rights communities); what I call my gentle, grey-haired communist friends. Their humanity is something I don't find in my work colleagues (god no), or even in the literary or poetry community, which thinks of itself as very liberal. I would like to be part of a lesbian or butch-femme community but that just hasn't clicked for me in NYC though I do have a good femme friend. But I think of myself as belonging to the online community here. __________________ Reach out.

02-23-2013, 09:08 PM	#4
deb_U_taunt Senior Member How Do You Identify?: ........ Join Date: May 2011 Location: ....... Posts: 1,748 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,324 Thanked 5,255 Times in 1,361 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I didn't grow up with a sense of belonging. I felt like an outsider. I was the odd person out in my family and school, bullied. Today is different. I am still the odd one out with my family, BUT I have a wonderful group of friends and chosen family. I fit at work even! I work with tech geeks, so we are all the odd kids out growing up.

02-23-2013, 09:13 PM	#5
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,829 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	i've felt like an alien my whole life. Still do!

02-24-2013, 06:23 PM	#7
macele Member How Do You Identify?: a bold-assed maximus Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: mississippi Posts: 1,066 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,178 Thanked 3,230 Times in 847 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	in the movie Field of Dreams, the players longed for a place to play even after death. they belonged on a field. i can understand that. it's a place that i know without a doubt, i belong. for example, i can close my eyes and see grass from many different fields. there's a peace in that for me. the lights on. the smells. i like to go, just me, ... i feel a belonging. i feel in my being that i was born to revel in all of her sights and sounds. a gift. i've seen dee's photos. so i know you were born belonging to a camera. you create via that belonging.

02-24-2013, 11:56 PM	#14
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Belonging ..wow,this is something that I have been looking for a place to be,but that hasn't been possable for many years.I was the loner odd ball of my family....call it sins of the parrents to fall on an inocent kid well that was me untill I found a bond with horses.So I made that my lifes work till murphys law hit then it came to a crashing hault.The ajustment has made me realise how it is possable to live in a world doing the best you can even when there is no place that can fill the void that is left.Over the years I made a new career then picked up a new game called billiards wich I play on multiple teams to stay involved in and new people mostly straight.So life goes on and so do I as best as possable as we all do.Cheers yall.

02-25-2013, 12:23 AM	#15
~ocean Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme blows a kiss off my finger tips * Preferred Pronoun?: ~ hey girl ~ Relationship Status: ~ single & content ~ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Massachusetts ~coastal Posts: 7,905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,958 Thanked 16,015 Times in 4,724 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Belonging ~ owns ~ protects ~ guides ~ loves ~ shares ~ teaches ~ sexual control ~ Belonging ~ is what I am to (( Hym )) ~ My family , we love eachother enough to give then the choice of freedom ~ their ownselves do not belong to me ~ My friends walk this earth w/ their own self pride ~ that also dont belong to me ~ Myself I share my soul, wisdom, devotion , that dont even belong to me ~ __________________ ~ Always, ocean