Vulnerability, Shame and Courage

femmeInterrupted · 03-02-2013, 12:18 PM

Gemme · 10-14-2013, 06:37 PM

Excellent talks. I like the way Brené presents her work.

For me, being vulnerable is akin to tearing open an open or half-healed wound with my own (figurative) hands, handing the person(s) I'm being vulnerable with/in front of a salt shaker and asking them not to use it.

If the person(s) chose(s) to use the salt, that's ultimately on them but the force and repercussions (shame/fear/etc) come back to me, settle in the wound(s) and the scab forms on the wound(s) thicker next time.

I agree with her, that if one generation of children were taught they were worthy....all of them, from the very beginning and every day thereafter....all of the major issues in this world could be solved.

03-02-2013, 12:18 PM	#1
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10-14-2013, 06:37 PM	#2
Gemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Queer Stone Femme Girl of the Unicorn Variety Preferred Pronoun?: She, as in 'She's a GEM' Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The roads are narrow here Posts: 36,631 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 182,498 Thanked 107,927 Times in 25,666 Posts Rep Power: 21474887	Excellent talks. I like the way Brené presents her work. For me, being vulnerable is akin to tearing open an open or half-healed wound with my own (figurative) hands, handing the person(s) I'm being vulnerable with/in front of a salt shaker and asking them not to use it. If the person(s) chose(s) to use the salt, that's ultimately on them but the force and repercussions (shame/fear/etc) come back to me, settle in the wound(s) and the scab forms on the wound(s) thicker next time. I agree with her, that if one generation of children were taught they were worthy....all of them, from the very beginning and every day thereafter....all of the major issues in this world could be solved. __________________ Gemme's Journal I'm misunderestimated.