New sex partner=new toys? Your opinion

Gemme · 03-02-2013, 08:04 PM

My guy has class. He's one of the classiest fuckers I know.

He bought a new cock that we both went and sought out together (at a darling family-owned business and from a really sweet butch) and he has one familiar to him that I had nothing to do with purchasing.

While it's fun and naughty to know that something that intimate was bought just for you, with only you in mind, I don't give a damn who bought what or when or where when it comes down to the nitty gritty of it. All I care is that it's his and that he knows how to use it. I guarantee that he's not thinking of anyone else when we're together, just like I'm not thinking of anyone else but him.

starryeyes · 03-02-2013, 08:06 PM

Do what makes you feel comfortable and don't let anyone make you feel bad about it

starryeyes · 03-02-2013, 08:09 PM

Paying for half? I buy my own AND the most kick ass one I have ever had only cost me $22.00.... The worst one was over $100. Go figure.

jac · 03-03-2013, 08:22 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gemme

He bought a new cock that we both went and sought out together (at a darling family-owned business and from a really sweet butch) and he has one familiar to him that I had nothing to do with purchasing.

Yes yes, this is what I enjoy about buying new for her... with her. Taking the time to discuss and share the size, etc. It gives her a place in the experience. And yeh bio males don't do this... but I/we have this privilege with me not being a bio male.

Chancie · 03-03-2013, 09:28 AM

I have several 'toys' that I have only used on Pete.

I probably wouldn't enjoy using those pretty objects on anyone else, but

That would be my decision.

03-03-2013, 11:36 AM

Crikey there's some big expectations here.

I can't get with this "my chap has class (and by inference loves (her) more) he treated me to a new cock" business. It's nothing to do with 'class' or 'respect'.

What about some respect coming the other way? Most of us, the majority I would wager, are not 'unclean' and many fastidious about our sexual practice/cleanliness. I have an advantage over a bio bloke in that I can bleach my cock thanks ever so much.

If you don't trust the dood/dyke/et al don't shag 'em. Simples!

The_Lady_Snow · 03-03-2013, 12:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Daktari

Crikey there's some big expectations here.

I can't get with this "my chap has class (and by inference loves (her) more) he treated me to a new cock" business. It's nothing to do with 'class' or 'respect'.

What about some respect coming the other way? Most of us, the majority I would wager, are not 'unclean' and many fastidious about our sexual practice/cleanliness. I have an advantage over a bio bloke in that I can bleach my cock thanks ever so much.

If you don't trust the dood/dyke/et al don't shag 'em. Simples!

The bolded line bears repeating!

little_ms_sunshyne · 03-03-2013, 01:24 PM

This is such an interesting topic...

I am having some trouble with wording and I hope this
comes out right...

I do not have any issues with using toys/pieces
that have been previously used in a prior relationship
so long as they have been sterilized. I can also see how the need for a new toy may arise for other purposes. I do believe it is fun shopping for
new pieces as a couple to experiment or just to fit personal
fantasies, pleasures, or preferences.

Quite frankly, For me, if there is ever a moment when
I question whether or not something should
come in contact with my vagina, then this is
probably not a person I want to be intimate with.

kittygrrl · 03-03-2013, 02:22 PM

Cock history..something new to comtemplate ..I've never thought to ask but thinking about it now all I can say is I trust my lover, his instincts, hygiene etc otherwise why would i be there? ..discussion is good, if it's needed (somethings should be) but cock history has a never occurred to me.

meridiantoo · 03-05-2013, 09:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Daktari

Crikey there's some big expectations here.

I can't get with this "my chap has class (and by inference loves (her) more) he treated me to a new cock" business. It's nothing to do with 'class' or 'respect'.

What about some respect coming the other way? Most of us, the majority I would wager, are not 'unclean' and many fastidious about our sexual practice/cleanliness. I have an advantage over a bio bloke in that I can bleach my cock thanks ever so much.

If you don't trust the dood/dyke/et al don't shag 'em. Simples!

I had to think about my response to this a bit before I posted. This is likely not going to be warmly received and, for that reason, I hesitated to say it. This is not just in response to Daktari, but a general tossing out of a perspective. Here goes:

It's not just about trusting your partner; safe sex is about everyone your sexual partner has exchanged fluids with, since birth. Who here has not slept with 1 or 2 (no raising of hands necessary) people that you at some point realized 'that may not have been a good idea' considering their habits/past/previous partners/etc? If this doesn't include you, you are rare and I commend you for that.

As far as equipment/toys, yes, it's a respect issue on one hand. But, I don't see how it's not respectful for both people. It's mutually excluding yourself, as best you can, to that partner. I personally have no issues with sharing the expenses. But, at the same time, respect was given when she had sex with you, right? And respect is not always shown the exact same way at the exact same time to the other person.

I understand being mentally and physically connected to cock. I get that. But, what I don't understand is, if your current partner said you are too big, wide, short, small, whatever, would you not get a new one? Or would you say, this is me - take it or leave it?

I know the new bed comment is a bit extreme. I meant it (mostly) in jest. If I marry, yeah, I want my very own bed. I have in the past, purchased a new bed after having sex with a questionable partner for my mental heath as much as anything else. I would do it again when and if I could.

03-02-2013, 08:04 PM	#1
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starryeyes Senior Member How Do You Identify?: a round peg in a square hole Preferred Pronoun?: Guess... Relationship Status: Seat taken Join Date: May 2011 Location: Rocky Mountain High Posts: 2,491 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,199 Thanked 10,052 Times in 2,076 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Do what makes you feel comfortable and don't let anyone make you feel bad about it __________________ "It's ok to make mistakes. It's ok to fall down. Get up! Look sickening....and make them eat it!" - Latrice Royale Starry

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starryeyes Senior Member How Do You Identify?: a round peg in a square hole Preferred Pronoun?: Guess... Relationship Status: Seat taken Join Date: May 2011 Location: Rocky Mountain High Posts: 2,491 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,199 Thanked 10,052 Times in 2,076 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Paying for half? I buy my own AND the most kick ass one I have ever had only cost me $22.00.... The worst one was over $100. Go figure. __________________ "It's ok to make mistakes. It's ok to fall down. Get up! Look sickening....and make them eat it!" - Latrice Royale Starry

03-03-2013, 02:22 PM	#9
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Relationship Status: just for fun Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: near the wild mushrooms Posts: 9,356 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,565 Thanked 21,948 Times in 7,074 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	Cock history..something new to comtemplate ..I've never thought to ask but thinking about it now all I can say is I trust my lover, his instincts, hygiene etc otherwise why would i be there? ..discussion is good, if it's needed (somethings should be) but cock history has a never occurred to me. __________________ "MAKE AMERICA THINK AGAIN"

03-03-2013, 09:28 AM	#5
Chancie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: queer femme-inist Relationship Status: I'm lucky. Join Date: May 2010 Location: Western Mass Posts: 3,774 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,518 Thanked 14,540 Times in 2,744 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I have several 'toys' that I have only used on Pete. I probably wouldn't enjoy using those pretty objects on anyone else, but That would be my decision.

03-03-2013, 11:36 AM	#6
Daktari Guest Tournaments Won: 1 Posts: n/a My Photo Gallery	Crikey there's some big expectations here. I can't get with this "my chap has class (and by inference loves (her) more) he treated me to a new cock" business. It's nothing to do with 'class' or 'respect'. What about some respect coming the other way? Most of us, the majority I would wager, are not 'unclean' and many fastidious about our sexual practice/cleanliness. I have an advantage over a bio bloke in that I can bleach my cock thanks ever so much. If you don't trust the dood/dyke/et al don't shag 'em. Simples!

03-03-2013, 01:24 PM	#8
little_ms_sunshyne Senior Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: . Posts: 3,312 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,339 Thanked 12,241 Times in 2,541 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	This is such an interesting topic... I am having some trouble with wording and I hope this comes out right... I do not have any issues with using toys/pieces that have been previously used in a prior relationship so long as they have been sterilized. I can also see how the need for a new toy may arise for other purposes. I do believe it is fun shopping for new pieces as a couple to experiment or just to fit personal fantasies, pleasures, or preferences. Quite frankly, For me, if there is ever a moment when I question whether or not something should come in contact with my vagina, then this is probably not a person I want to be intimate with.