What are your faults?

Gráinne · 03-05-2013, 03:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Ciaran

I'm not good at communicating my mood - a lot of people, unless they know me well, think I'm constantly in a bad mood.

Me also, probably partly from upbringing, and always had problems getting my facial expression to match what I actually felt. I tend to smile too much regardless of my real mood, though.

~ocean · 03-05-2013, 03:39 PM

I look threw rose tinted glass' too much
very sensitive
emotional and emotionaly needy at times when i am feeling down
quiet
defensive when i feel threatened
passive to the point where i let ppl walk all over me
fiery
I like to kiss alot
my own worst enemy

nycfem · 03-05-2013, 03:46 PM

When someone suggests a different way of doing things, my initial reaction is to become very defensive of why that would not work and why things should stay the same. I'm initially jarred by having to consider a change and express it by becoming verbally aggressive.

Ciaran · 03-05-2013, 04:31 PM

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Originally Posted by nycfembbw

When someone suggests a different way of doing things, my initial reaction is to become very defensive of why that would not work and why things should stay the same. I'm initially jarred by having to consider a change and express it by becoming verbally aggressive.

That's a good point. I'm not sure if it's necessarily under the banner of verbal aggression and it can as often be in written form as verbal, but I will often use innocuous language in a calculated way to express disdain at at viewpoint I disagree with.

My instinct is often to look for the worst in people.

I tend to react uncomfortably rather than with compassion when people are upset.

I can lose patience with people very quickly and appear dismissive.

I often put work interests in front of friends.

deb0670 · 03-05-2013, 03:48 PM

i trust first, 100% then ask questions later.
i am too emotional
i do not think that highly about myself.. much

macele · 03-05-2013, 04:33 PM

sometimes, not all the time, i don't stand up for myself. and sometimes there's a build up. if i don't speak up and then finally do (may not be about the same issue), ... i could possibly show a little bit of anger. i don't want to hurt others feelings. so i suffer. it's not a good thing. NO! i need to say that more often.

i am probably in the worlds worst category to procrastinate.

insecurity. i have been dishonest because i don't want to seem weak. because i don't want to look like i don't know what i'm doing. age has helped with this.

laughing at the wrong times LOL. like right now. someone told me one time that i hurt their feelings. i didn't mean too. it's a habit. i'm working on that. maybe.

there's more!

BBinNYC · 03-05-2013, 06:06 PM

1. I can be conflict averse, trying to walk away instead of engaging. I have to force myself to stay in the room and engage.

2. I don't reach out to people, including friends, the way I once did.

3. This relates a bit to #1. I have trouble giving people (mostly my staff) criticism. I tend to emphasize the positive more than I should in some cases.

4. When I get really angry, it can be almost paralyzing. I have trouble seeing any other perspective.

BB

thedivahrrrself · 03-05-2013, 06:08 PM

hahaha.... listing all my faults could crash your server!

TheMerryFairy · 03-05-2013, 06:15 PM

I crave touch, intimacy and while it's not necessarily sexual - sometimes people can't handle how sexual I am.

I am flirty, friendly and I crush on people all of the time which can cause people to become jealous or to get the wrong impression of me.

I am really bold. I have a Scots temper and while it usually comes out constructively it can be intimidating for some, especially upon meeting or after I have been with somebody for awhile and I become comfortable sharing a big part of my emotional interpretings.

I take a lot of pride in myself and in my work and sometimes it gets mistaken for being self centered

I can focus intensely on an issue or I can become distracted when I get too overloaded with thoughts or emotions. It's been said that people don't know how to open the lines of communication with me.

I can become emotionally distant when I am feeling moody

I don't always remember dates but I am great with names and faces

I have a gypsy soul. My concept of space is always changing and if I am in one place longer than I feel is right for me, I feel confined. This scares people because a lot of people feel secure being in one place.

Smiling · 03-05-2013, 06:21 PM

1. I put up emotional walls when people get too close. [I'm going to tell you that I am gritting my teeth while I write this, BTW! lol]. That was difficult for me to even admit in public!

2. I'm flaky sometimes and ultra-responsible other times and I cannot always accurately predict when the flake-out is coming, lol.

3. Sometimes I expect people to just "get" what I am thinking without my having to say it and when they don't it silently annoys me. To expound upon that, I don't always speak in complete thoughts. That really isn't fair!

4. My face is way red now, lol.

I'm not all bad; just a work in progress.

TheMerryFairy · 03-05-2013, 07:14 PM

I am goal oriented but money hardly ever comes into mind when I think about accomplishment or the things I want.

I am stubborn

Sometimes I really enjoy the company of others and other times I would prefer to do separate things

I sing very badly to the cheesiest radio songs

I am very open so sometimes I will just expect somebody to know what I am feeling or thinking since I don't always have the temperment to talk about things.

When I get flustered, it's usually obvious

I am not the femme who only has dresses and skirts in her closet. Once or twice a year I like to wear a tie or a button up shirt, even if it isn't a "mens" shirt.

I don't need to go out to have a good time but I don't always like to stay in either. I need a really good balance between getting out to socialize/let loose and staying in to feel relaxed with friends.

Any partner of mine needs to be a fan of John Hughes movies, even moreso than Tim Burton films. It might sound silly but I have been with way too many people who have criticized my love for 80's classics. I do not see this as a fault. Is that a fault?

BowtiePrincess · 03-05-2013, 06:07 PM

I am stubborn to an extreme.
I trust very little.
I want most everything my way.
Im very close minded depending on the subject.
Im a spoiled brat.

StrongButch · 03-05-2013, 03:42 PM

1) Im very strong and want others to be the same way 2) I was spoiled as a child and still am 3) Im stubborn. Theres more gotta think awhile. (lol)

03-05-2013, 03:39 PM	#2
~ocean Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme blows a kiss off my finger tips * Preferred Pronoun?: ~ hey girl ~ Relationship Status: ~ single & content ~ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Massachusetts ~coastal Posts: 7,905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,958 Thanked 16,017 Times in 4,724 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	I look threw rose tinted glass' too much very sensitive emotional and emotionaly needy at times when i am feeling down quiet defensive when i feel threatened passive to the point where i let ppl walk all over me fiery I like to kiss alot my own worst enemy __________________ ~ Always, ocean

03-05-2013, 03:46 PM	#3
nycfem Moderator How Do You Identify?: femme sub Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Grrl Relationship Status: Attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NYC Posts: 6,794 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 52,987 Thanked 21,426 Times in 5,101 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	When someone suggests a different way of doing things, my initial reaction is to become very defensive of why that would not work and why things should stay the same. I'm initially jarred by having to consider a change and express it by becoming verbally aggressive. __________________ *** How do I... ?** Check out the Members Helping Members thread: http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/foru...embers+Helping

03-05-2013, 03:48 PM	#5
deb0670 Member How Do You Identify?: femme/ baby girl Preferred Pronoun?: she,her Relationship Status: Single Join Date: May 2010 Location: Illinois Posts: 1,348 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 24,520 Thanked 6,026 Times in 1,189 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	i trust first, 100% then ask questions later. i am too emotional i do not think that highly about myself.. much __________________ Remember the lessons, forget the details. Use the stumbling blocks of the past as stepping stones to help build the future.

03-05-2013, 04:33 PM	#6
macele Member How Do You Identify?: a bold-assed maximus Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: mississippi Posts: 1,066 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,178 Thanked 3,230 Times in 847 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	sometimes, not all the time, i don't stand up for myself. and sometimes there's a build up. if i don't speak up and then finally do (may not be about the same issue), ... i could possibly show a little bit of anger. i don't want to hurt others feelings. so i suffer. it's not a good thing. NO! i need to say that more often. i am probably in the worlds worst category to procrastinate. insecurity. i have been dishonest because i don't want to seem weak. because i don't want to look like i don't know what i'm doing. age has helped with this. laughing at the wrong times LOL. like right now. someone told me one time that i hurt their feelings. i didn't mean too. it's a habit. i'm working on that. maybe. there's more! Last edited by macele; 03-05-2013 at 04:35 PM. Reason: because i can!

03-05-2013, 06:06 PM	#7
BBinNYC Member How Do You Identify?: butch Preferred Pronoun?: Fine with he or she. Just don't call me late for dinner. Relationship Status: married to the best femme in the world Tournaments Won: 2 Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: New York City Posts: 115 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 297 Thanked 589 Times in 75 Posts Rep Power: 6430377	1. I can be conflict averse, trying to walk away instead of engaging. I have to force myself to stay in the room and engage. 2. I don't reach out to people, including friends, the way I once did. 3. This relates a bit to #1. I have trouble giving people (mostly my staff) criticism. I tend to emphasize the positive more than I should in some cases. 4. When I get really angry, it can be almost paralyzing. I have trouble seeing any other perspective. BB __________________ Please check out my new lesbian romance novel, Exception to the Rule, available in e-book format with paperback coming soon!

03-05-2013, 06:08 PM	#8
thedivahrrrself Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Sapiosexual Femme Relationship Status: Mrs. Grumpy Cat Tournaments Won: 4 Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: 8,660 feet high in the Andes Posts: 2,640 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,519 Thanked 11,656 Times in 2,292 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	hahaha.... listing all my faults could crash your server! __________________ Small business owners around the world use microfinance to help expand their businesses and provide for their families. You can help! Click here to learn about Kiva.

03-05-2013, 06:15 PM	#9
TheMerryFairy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Pansexual/Sapiosexual femmey dyke who likes to crossdress now and then Preferred Pronoun?: She/her OR ze if I'm crossdressing Relationship Status: Floating and walking My path, happy in life. Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: On my Merry Fairy way! , Canada Posts: 3,630 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,727 Thanked 8,694 Times in 2,987 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I crave touch, intimacy and while it's not necessarily sexual - sometimes people can't handle how sexual I am. I am flirty, friendly and I crush on people all of the time which can cause people to become jealous or to get the wrong impression of me. I am really bold. I have a Scots temper and while it usually comes out constructively it can be intimidating for some, especially upon meeting or after I have been with somebody for awhile and I become comfortable sharing a big part of my emotional interpretings. I take a lot of pride in myself and in my work and sometimes it gets mistaken for being self centered I can focus intensely on an issue or I can become distracted when I get too overloaded with thoughts or emotions. It's been said that people don't know how to open the lines of communication with me. I can become emotionally distant when I am feeling moody I don't always remember dates but I am great with names and faces I have a gypsy soul. My concept of space is always changing and if I am in one place longer than I feel is right for me, I feel confined. This scares people because a lot of people feel secure being in one place.

03-05-2013, 06:21 PM	#10
Smiling Senior Member How Do You Identify?: with a distinct flair Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: somewhere else Posts: 1,852 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,623 Thanked 4,388 Times in 1,009 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	OK, I have issues. Don't judge me, lol! 1. I put up emotional walls when people get too close. [I'm going to tell you that I am gritting my teeth while I write this, BTW! lol]. That was difficult for me to even admit in public! 2. I'm flaky sometimes and ultra-responsible other times and I cannot always accurately predict when the flake-out is coming, lol. 3. Sometimes I expect people to just "get" what I am thinking without my having to say it and when they don't it silently annoys me. To expound upon that, I don't always speak in complete thoughts. That really isn't fair! 4. My face is way red now, lol. I'm not all bad; just a work in progress.

03-05-2013, 07:14 PM	#11
TheMerryFairy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Pansexual/Sapiosexual femmey dyke who likes to crossdress now and then Preferred Pronoun?: She/her OR ze if I'm crossdressing Relationship Status: Floating and walking My path, happy in life. Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: On my Merry Fairy way! , Canada Posts: 3,630 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,727 Thanked 8,694 Times in 2,987 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I am goal oriented but money hardly ever comes into mind when I think about accomplishment or the things I want. I am stubborn Sometimes I really enjoy the company of others and other times I would prefer to do separate things I sing very badly to the cheesiest radio songs I am very open so sometimes I will just expect somebody to know what I am feeling or thinking since I don't always have the temperment to talk about things. When I get flustered, it's usually obvious I am not the femme who only has dresses and skirts in her closet. Once or twice a year I like to wear a tie or a button up shirt, even if it isn't a "mens" shirt. I don't need to go out to have a good time but I don't always like to stay in either. I need a really good balance between getting out to socialize/let loose and staying in to feel relaxed with friends. Any partner of mine needs to be a fan of John Hughes movies, even moreso than Tim Burton films. It might sound silly but I have been with way too many people who have criticized my love for 80's classics. I do not see this as a fault. Is that a fault?

03-05-2013, 06:07 PM	#12
BowtiePrincess Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Happily taken Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: One red light, TN Posts: 219 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 565 Thanked 522 Times in 140 Posts Rep Power: 9425364	I am stubborn to an extreme. I trust very little. I want most everything my way. Im very close minded depending on the subject. Im a spoiled brat.

03-05-2013, 03:42 PM	#13
StrongButch Member How Do You Identify?: I see the world thru a lens Preferred Pronoun?: Yes Boss Relationship Status: Chillin out with awesome women Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: San Francisco Posts: 1,376 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,018 Thanked 4,183 Times in 1,180 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Faults 1) Im very strong and want others to be the same way 2) I was spoiled as a child and still am 3) Im stubborn. Theres more gotta think awhile. (lol) __________________ Life is like music,so it can be played in many different styles.