What are your faults?

Jean_TX · 03-06-2013, 06:51 AM

What are my faults? Well, I have some characteristic behaviors that I feel need improvement, and I have some characteristic behaviors that annoy others. The two sets of "faults" don't necessarily coincide. The "faults" that I've listed below apply only to personal relationships.

From my perspective, my "faults" (characteristics that I feel do not always contribute positively to my personal life) are
- I am too trusting, almost to the point of being naive. I take people at their word. I assume that people's intentions are good.
- I am too tolerant of other people's hurtful behavior and do not immediately call out them on their thoughtlessness.
- I am not assertive enough.

From the perspective of others, my "faults" are
- I avoid confrontation. (I agree that I do this, but I disagree that this is necessarily a fault.)
- I am too analytical and objective. (I slightly disagree.)
- I am not aggressive enough. (I slightly agree.)
- When I am angry, I react by withdrawing rather than expressing my anger and forcing immediate resolution. (I agree. I tend to stifle my anger and withdraw. When the cumulative anger reaches a certain level, I explode - which usually appears to be an over-reaction to the latest thing that angered me.)

PinkieLee · 03-06-2013, 08:48 AM

Faults, yep we've all got them. Well, let's see what I've got going on...

Being the people pleaser that I am, I have a very hard time telling people NO.

I am the world's best cheerleader for others, but I am my own worst critic.

If someone upsets me, I very rarely ever tell them. It leads to hurt & resentment... and if I would just learn to speak up for myself a lot of these feelings could be avoided.

TheMerryFairy · 03-06-2013, 09:58 AM

I talk too much.

MsTinkerbelly · 03-06-2013, 11:11 AM

I have a lead foot...vroooommmmmmmm

TheMerryFairy · 03-06-2013, 12:09 PM

When I love, I love completely and I will do anything to keep it safe and strong.

KCBUTCH · 03-06-2013, 01:06 PM

I think I get blinded by my own Love for someone, meaning I love so deeply I overlook my own needs at times by believing the story I tell myself about why they are not being met.

I am learning I have a real need to have my life undisturbed. with my Ex she was gone for years for work and I had what appeared to be the security of her Love but I was very content in my life living it with a great deal of independence since she was gone.
-I truly enjoyed when we were together too though, maybe I just got used to my own company being enough...

I think ALL THE TIME about EVERYTHING...

I think my way into and out of lots of things

I can be very impulse when I get excited about something or someone...

MsTinkerbelly · 03-06-2013, 01:59 PM

My faults are way too many to name.

My mantra is "I'm a Bitch, but I'm not YOUR Bitch" ...gives you some idea

Dude · 03-06-2013, 02:07 PM

my first thought was : I'm a virgo , I don't have any. snort! ;]

I hate making mistakes.
I will double check things (sometimes) to the point of then making a mistake.
This happened today and I was so disgruntled with myself (eyeroll) there was really nothing left to do but laugh

Dude · 03-07-2013, 09:11 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ms Tinkerbelly

I have a lead foot...vroooommmmmmmm

when pulled over
I growl at

just this week
<enter motorcycle cop with lights-a-blazing>

I said to myself " please , control your face "
and for the very first time evah
I got a warning without an enormous ticket

it's not an attitude problem
it's a face problem? ;]

TheMerryFairy · 03-07-2013, 09:29 AM

Not being able to get out of my own head sometimes. Or the opposite, getting hung up that I can't figure out my own thoughts.

03-06-2013, 06:51 AM	#1
Jean_TX Junior Member How Do You Identify?: via driver's license Preferred Pronoun?: Jean Relationship Status: Not available Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Texas Posts: 78 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 197 Thanked 216 Times in 61 Posts Rep Power: 1155756	What are my faults? Well, I have some characteristic behaviors that I feel need improvement, and I have some characteristic behaviors that annoy others. The two sets of "faults" don't necessarily coincide. The "faults" that I've listed below apply only to personal relationships. From my perspective, my "faults" (characteristics that I feel do not always contribute positively to my personal life) are - I am too trusting, almost to the point of being naive. I take people at their word. I assume that people's intentions are good. - I am too tolerant of other people's hurtful behavior and do not immediately call out them on their thoughtlessness. - I am not assertive enough. From the perspective of others, my "faults" are - I avoid confrontation. (I agree that I do this, but I disagree that this is necessarily a fault.) - I am too analytical and objective. (I slightly disagree.) - I am not aggressive enough. (I slightly agree.) - When I am angry, I react by withdrawing rather than expressing my anger and forcing immediate resolution. (I agree. I tend to stifle my anger and withdraw. When the cumulative anger reaches a certain level, I explode - which usually appears to be an over-reaction to the latest thing that angered me.) __________________ Why not just remove all the warning labels and let Nature take care of the problem?

03-06-2013, 01:06 PM	#6
KCBUTCH Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Undaunted QUEER Dom, Daddy Preferred Pronoun?: MYSELF, Syr, Hy, or friend prefered Relationship Status: Cautious, indifferent... Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Below the foothills above the beach Posts: 1,848 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,240 Thanked 3,305 Times in 884 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I think I get blinded by my own Love for someone, meaning I love so deeply I overlook my own needs at times by believing the story I tell myself about why they are not being met. I am learning I have a real need to have my life undisturbed. with my Ex she was gone for years for work and I had what appeared to be the security of her Love but I was very content in my life living it with a great deal of independence since she was gone. -I truly enjoyed when we were together too though, maybe I just got used to my own company being enough... I think ALL THE TIME about EVERYTHING... I think my way into and out of lots of things I can be very impulse when I get excited about something or someone... __________________ "If you want to know the secrets of the Universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration"-Nikola Tesla

03-06-2013, 08:48 AM	#2
PinkieLee Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: I need ya boo, gotta see ya boo Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Big Money Texas Posts: 4,708 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 24,309 Thanked 13,073 Times in 3,047 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Faults, yep we've all got them. Well, let's see what I've got going on... Being the people pleaser that I am, I have a very hard time telling people NO. I am the world's best cheerleader for others, but I am my own worst critic. If someone upsets me, I very rarely ever tell them. It leads to hurt & resentment... and if I would just learn to speak up for myself a lot of these feelings could be avoided.

03-06-2013, 09:58 AM	#3
TheMerryFairy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Pansexual/Sapiosexual femmey dyke who likes to crossdress now and then Preferred Pronoun?: She/her OR ze if I'm crossdressing Relationship Status: Floating and walking My path, happy in life. Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: On my Merry Fairy way! , Canada Posts: 3,630 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,727 Thanked 8,694 Times in 2,987 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I talk too much.

03-06-2013, 11:11 AM	#4
MsTinkerbelly Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: ... Preferred Pronoun?: ... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ... Posts: 6,573 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,737 Thanked 22,896 Times in 5,017 Posts Rep Power: 0	I have a lead foot...vroooommmmmmmm

03-06-2013, 12:09 PM	#5
TheMerryFairy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Pansexual/Sapiosexual femmey dyke who likes to crossdress now and then Preferred Pronoun?: She/her OR ze if I'm crossdressing Relationship Status: Floating and walking My path, happy in life. Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: On my Merry Fairy way! , Canada Posts: 3,630 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,727 Thanked 8,694 Times in 2,987 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	When I love, I love completely and I will do anything to keep it safe and strong.

03-06-2013, 01:59 PM	#7
MsTinkerbelly Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: ... Preferred Pronoun?: ... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ... Posts: 6,573 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,737 Thanked 22,896 Times in 5,017 Posts Rep Power: 0	My faults are way too many to name. My mantra is "I'm a Bitch, but I'm not YOUR Bitch" ...gives you some idea

03-06-2013, 02:07 PM	#8
Dude Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Perusing Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: exit 5 with an exit 21 goal Posts: 1,725 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,351 Thanked 10,605 Times in 1,477 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	my first thought was : I'm a virgo , I don't have any. snort! ;] I hate making mistakes. I will double check things (sometimes) to the point of then making a mistake. This happened today and I was so disgruntled with myself (eyeroll) there was really nothing left to do but laugh

03-07-2013, 09:29 AM	#10
TheMerryFairy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Pansexual/Sapiosexual femmey dyke who likes to crossdress now and then Preferred Pronoun?: She/her OR ze if I'm crossdressing Relationship Status: Floating and walking My path, happy in life. Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: On my Merry Fairy way! , Canada Posts: 3,630 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,727 Thanked 8,694 Times in 2,987 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Not being able to get out of my own head sometimes. Or the opposite, getting hung up that I can't figure out my own thoughts.