What TO DO in a relationship.....

Enchantress · 03-18-2013, 08:57 PM

Always check yourself before speaking in anger or frustration. Why? Because words can be forgiven but never forgotten.

Kobi · 03-19-2013, 06:09 AM

The most important thing I ever learned about relationships is to not waste time and energy reinventing the wheel. The other person in the relationship wants basically the same things you do.

Namely, to feel loved, cherished, appreciated, respected, cared for and about, desired and desirable, important, special, safe and secure etc.

How you demonstrate these might be different, but they should guide everything you do and say. As people show these in different ways, it helps when your styles mesh. If you arent meshing well in the actions department, it helps for both to be able and willing to listen, learn and make adjustments as necessary.

For me, it all boils down to action and behavior, not words and intentions.

Jean_TX · 03-19-2013, 08:45 AM

In a relationship,
- Remember that there are three entities involved: me, her, and “us”.
- Balance the attention and care given to each entity.
- Treat entity with kindness and respect.

girl_dee · 03-19-2013, 08:54 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Enchantress

Always check yourself before speaking in anger or frustration. Why? Because words can be forgiven but never forgotten.

Nope they cannot be taken back and for me, stay with me forever.

03-18-2013, 08:57 PM	#1
Enchantress Senior Member How Do You Identify?: A complex confection. Preferred Pronoun?: Miss Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The land of milk and honey. Posts: 2,169 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 741 Thanked 3,420 Times in 1,200 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	They'll always be there ... Always check yourself before speaking in anger or frustration. Why? Because words can be forgiven but never forgotten.

03-19-2013, 06:09 AM	#2
Kobi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Biological female. Lesbian. Relationship Status: Happy Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Hanging out in the Atlantic. Posts: 9,234 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,840 Thanked 34,630 Times in 7,640 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	The most important thing I ever learned about relationships is to not waste time and energy reinventing the wheel. The other person in the relationship wants basically the same things you do. Namely, to feel loved, cherished, appreciated, respected, cared for and about, desired and desirable, important, special, safe and secure etc. How you demonstrate these might be different, but they should guide everything you do and say. As people show these in different ways, it helps when your styles mesh. If you arent meshing well in the actions department, it helps for both to be able and willing to listen, learn and make adjustments as necessary. For me, it all boils down to action and behavior, not words and intentions. __________________

03-19-2013, 08:45 AM	#3
Jean_TX Junior Member How Do You Identify?: via driver's license Preferred Pronoun?: Jean Relationship Status: Not available Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Texas Posts: 78 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 197 Thanked 216 Times in 61 Posts Rep Power: 1155756	In a relationship, - Remember that there are three entities involved: me, her, and “us”. - Balance the attention and care given to each entity. - Treat entity with kindness and respect. __________________ Why not just remove all the warning labels and let Nature take care of the problem?