"Traditional" Masculinity in Today's Society

[The_Lady_Snow]

Originally Posted by EzeeTiger

When I think of traditional masculinity I think of my dad. For the most part he fit the bill. Was the sole breadwinner of the household, your typical white collar dad. My mom did not work until my sis and I were teens. He rarely showed any emotion except anger. He rarely did hugs, watched sports a lot and didn't cook or do any of the housework.
That was the role model for men I was given. By my standards today I don't think it's all that. I think there are lots of ways it can be done better.

How does this fit you, or does it even fit your way of how you are masculine? Do you feel you have evolved from this example?

Am I being to intrusive?

[always2late]

Can't we all just get along?

I am the OP...and in the interest of clarification...the intention of the thread is this:

I had a discussion with my father and, as stated earlier in the thread, I agree with some of his ideas of "masculinity" and disagree with others. This thread was started for the purpose of curiosity. I wanted to know others' opinions on what their idea of "traditional" masculinity is...and how that does, or does not fit into their lives. I wanted opinion, discussion, dialogue, etc...from the entire community. I originally threw the question out to the butch/ftm members of our community...but then went back and amended the original post. Obviously, we femmes also have a place in this discussion as to how our idea, or society's idea of "masculinity" does, or does not fit into our lives as well.

[Queerasfck]

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

How does this fit you, or does it even fit your way of how you are masculine? Do you feel you have evolved from this example?

Am I being to intrusive?

I don't feel like these are intrusive questions. As I said before, my dad was my main role model for traditional masculinity along with my uncles. Growing up my dad I clashed a lot, add to the fact he had mental and physical issues which went mostly undiagnosed it made for a rocky unbringing. In a nutshell it wasn't so great. But for all that I loved him.
I never saw him cry once. He was emotionally stagnated in someways but I believe it was typical for the men of his generation. He was a bigot and a yeller.I believe I took away from my unbringing things that work for me. My father was a strong presence in my life and as the head of our family, the provider. I feel I have quality as the head of my family as well. I like to be the rock for my family. I know I get that from my dad. He had a strong personality and was a natural born leader. Those things fit me.
I believe I took some good qualities from my dad and thankfully left the rest.......I only wish I had a few of his cool old cardigans and ties. Oh and his perfectly organized shoe shine kit with the wing tips he wore!