grieving our pets

NJFemmie · 05-18-2013, 07:46 AM

We rarely let the cats outside, and when we do, they usually stay confined to the front porch with no desire to wander off. The day Ember died, Mare engulfed Herself in gardening to keep Her mind occupied. As She as working, a small tuft of Ember's hair was found in the tulips - an area where he never wandered. I told Her that was his way of letting Her know that he is with Her.

That tuft of hair and his collar is now encased in a small metal heart. A small memento of a cat who spent many years comforting Mare, especially when She couldn't sleep. Last night was one of those nights for Her. She was always able to hug him close and he willingly allowed it accompanied with loud purrs.

Ember was extra special to Mare because She got him at a time when he needed to be bottle fed. He was literally Her baby.

I'll miss the nights "arguing" with him about getting off my pillow because it was my bedtime. Or, park himself on my side of the bed and look at me with those big, soulful eyes guilting me every time I had to move him along. He was certainly royalty in this house and he will be an incredibly hard act to follow.

Soft*Silver · 05-18-2013, 09:39 AM

an online friend of mine just lost her 14 year old newf..she passed a few days ago. I spent years reading her stories about her newf, and felt like I knew the dog so well. I wept when I read of her passing. I look at my old boy, who at 9-10 years of age, is older than he should be. He will not make 14. I will be lucky if I get another year from him.

how do they get so entrenched in our hearts and lives? even from afar...even in a short amount of time. Our lives remain forever touched. But thank heavens they do! I could not imagine my life without the love of these incredible beings...

Glenn · 05-18-2013, 10:06 AM

This is dedicated to my sweet, kind, and good, Norweigan Elkhound -Thor. 1998-2007 You were my last dog my beautiful young man. I am coming home soon my beautiful son, and we will be happy together forevermore.

Smiling · 10-27-2013, 03:08 PM

I'm missing my sweet baby so much. I keep her urn very close.

It's been almost a month since I lost her and I still cry every day; some days only light tears come and other days bring unbridled sobbing. Today it is the latter.

She hasn't come to say goodbye to me yet, but I feel her presence around me now.

And I don't want her to go.

Soft*Silver · 10-27-2013, 04:09 PM

Dear Smile...I feel for your grief. I remember putting my beloved Joey to sleep..a big old newfie...and it took me two years before I stopped crying. In time, I did stop. But only when I was ready.

Smiling · 10-27-2013, 05:54 PM

http://i1306.photobucket.com/albums/...psdc34205b.jpg

I placed a link to a photo if anyone is interested. lol, she was annoyed with me for disturbing her nap in this picture.

The file is too large to be uploaded to the gallery here; I just tried.

My bed was more hers than my own and now it just feels super empty without her. She was such a bossy cat; I actually miss her pushing me around!

She used to swat at this little ornament I had hanging around my doorknob [knowing that the sound irked me] whenever she wanted to be let out. It worked every time. She was too smart for my own good and had me trained like a pet seal to do her bidding. lol

Soft*Silver · 10-27-2013, 08:22 PM

she was such a beautiful cat and obviously queen in your lives. Thank you for giving her such a wonderful life!

WolfyOne · 10-27-2013, 09:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Huge-Smile

http://i1306.photobucket.com/albums/...psdc34205b.jpg

I placed a link to a photo if anyone is interested. lol, she was annoyed with me for disturbing her nap in this picture.

The file is too large to be uploaded to the gallery here; I just tried.

My bed was more hers than my own and now it just feels super empty without her. She was such a bossy cat; I actually miss her pushing me around!

She used to swat at this little ornament I had hanging around my doorknob [knowing that the sound irked me] whenever she wanted to be let out. It worked every time. She was too smart for my own good and had me trained like a pet seal to do her bidding. lol

She looks like one of my rescues...very pretty girl she was.
It gets easier with time, I had to have 2 put down this year.
They are God's creatures and I am their Keeper until He needs them.
I have enough to share with anyone who wants to give a rescue a good indoor life.

05-18-2013, 07:46 AM	#1
NJFemmie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: The original lime-twisted femme Preferred Pronoun?: I answer to most things, especially lesbian. Relationship Status: Still loving my Mare ;) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: New Jersey Posts: 4,683 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,343 Thanked 11,419 Times in 2,976 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	We rarely let the cats outside, and when we do, they usually stay confined to the front porch with no desire to wander off. The day Ember died, Mare engulfed Herself in gardening to keep Her mind occupied. As She as working, a small tuft of Ember's hair was found in the tulips - an area where he never wandered. I told Her that was his way of letting Her know that he is with Her. That tuft of hair and his collar is now encased in a small metal heart. A small memento of a cat who spent many years comforting Mare, especially when She couldn't sleep. Last night was one of those nights for Her. She was always able to hug him close and he willingly allowed it accompanied with loud purrs. Ember was extra special to Mare because She got him at a time when he needed to be bottle fed. He was literally Her baby. I'll miss the nights "arguing" with him about getting off my pillow because it was my bedtime. Or, park himself on my side of the bed and look at me with those big, soulful eyes guilting me every time I had to move him along. He was certainly royalty in this house and he will be an incredibly hard act to follow. __________________

05-18-2013, 09:39 AM	#2
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,904 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	an online friend of mine just lost her 14 year old newf..she passed a few days ago. I spent years reading her stories about her newf, and felt like I knew the dog so well. I wept when I read of her passing. I look at my old boy, who at 9-10 years of age, is older than he should be. He will not make 14. I will be lucky if I get another year from him. how do they get so entrenched in our hearts and lives? even from afar...even in a short amount of time. Our lives remain forever touched. But thank heavens they do! I could not imagine my life without the love of these incredible beings... __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

10-27-2013, 03:08 PM	#4
Smiling Senior Member How Do You Identify?: with a distinct flair Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: somewhere else Posts: 1,852 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,623 Thanked 4,388 Times in 1,009 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	30 September 2013 I'm missing my sweet baby so much. I keep her urn very close. It's been almost a month since I lost her and I still cry every day; some days only light tears come and other days bring unbridled sobbing. Today it is the latter. She hasn't come to say goodbye to me yet, but I feel her presence around me now. And I don't want her to go.

10-27-2013, 04:09 PM	#5
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,904 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	Dear Smile...I feel for your grief. I remember putting my beloved Joey to sleep..a big old newfie...and it took me two years before I stopped crying. In time, I did stop. But only when I was ready. __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

10-27-2013, 08:22 PM	#7
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,904 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	she was such a beautiful cat and obviously queen in your lives. Thank you for giving her such a wonderful life! __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

05-18-2013, 10:06 AM	#3
Glenn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Ol butch bones. Preferred Pronoun?: Old thing Relationship Status: Too old to play. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: :rolleyes: Posts: 1,547 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,602 Thanked 3,729 Times in 1,095 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	This is dedicated to my sweet, kind, and good, Norweigan Elkhound -Thor. 1998-2007 You were my last dog my beautiful young man. I am coming home soon my beautiful son, and we will be happy together forevermore.

10-27-2013, 05:54 PM	#6
Smiling Senior Member How Do You Identify?: with a distinct flair Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: somewhere else Posts: 1,852 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,623 Thanked 4,388 Times in 1,009 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	http://i1306.photobucket.com/albums/...psdc34205b.jpg I placed a link to a photo if anyone is interested. lol, she was annoyed with me for disturbing her nap in this picture. The file is too large to be uploaded to the gallery here; I just tried. My bed was more hers than my own and now it just feels super empty without her. She was such a bossy cat; I actually miss her pushing me around! She used to swat at this little ornament I had hanging around my doorknob [knowing that the sound irked me] whenever she wanted to be let out. It worked every time. She was too smart for my own good and had me trained like a pet seal to do her bidding. lol