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I love those ideas and you are so right about taking the pressure off the ideal of a date...its just 2 simple folk coming together to solve a problem...and what a way to get to know someone. As for the issue with the "why are you dating a guy?" I find that simply saying..." well, sometimes love isnt about the gender, but about the person." Tends to leave them in deep thought pondering different aspects of love and the GLTB life, not to mention their own deep seeded secrets of their "sexuality" just a thought.
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If he has a cd of a band I've never heard before, I could ask what genre they are and what he likes about them....so on and so forth. For me, it's about the moment. I could plan a thousand things to say to someone or I could totally wing it. At that precise moment, I tend to go with the flow and his vibe and energy. Usually, unless I know you, I'm not going to pester you. If I feel a loner vibe, then I may briefly speak with him, but I won't push it no matter what he is carrying. I engage just enough to let them that I exist. I'm not a chaser by nature, so much more than that makes me feel as if I am invading his territory and/or private space. |
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I am definetely not a chaser either. But I am friendly...and can approach just about anyone with a smile in my voice, when opportunity allows. Like you, the factors of the "moment" play a big part of it. I can talk to the person in the check out lane next to me about the Enquirer article at the magazine bin. Or the brand of coffee they are buying. They see I have 6 cases of wet dog food...and that usually gets people to look twice..so I smile and tell them I have a newf...which then opens LOTS of communications up...
You bring up tats. I LOVE to compare tats. I have two. But I love tats on others. And piercings. While I love alot of piercing and ear gauges, I havent dated anyone with alot of them. (I love what they mean to me...that the person has an adventuresome soul, a bit of non comforty, and a bold streak of exhibitionism.) new question: you meet someone who you really find attractive...REALLY attractive..but they are dating someone else. But are open to dating you too. How do you feel about that?
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I want to hear from the person they are currently dating, even though people NEVER lie about their relationship status *eyeroll*. If THAT person tells me their relationship is open and/or poly and it's someone I am really interested in getting to know better, I would consider it. I'm not poly, but I think if all the stars were aligned just so, I would be open to that experience.
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this is one of the reasons I'm turned off about dating. the minute you go out with someone, they get dissed if you date other people. If I did date, i'd make it clear that it was casual with no serious intentions and that we are free to date other people. I don't like the feel of ball and chains.
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the question I posed was about someone who was dating someone else....interesting enough, Gemme assumed they were in a relationship. And Jet addressed it as if they werent. I love it! This was exactly what I expected! Dating someone doesnt automatically mean they are in a relationship. And it doesnt give anyone sole "rights" to the other person.When I date, I simply date. Like Jet says, I dont want to feel the "ball and chains". I am up front when I date more than one person at a time. Dating is DATING..not committment. But once I reach the level of intimacy, all other dating stops and I date only that one person I am intimate with. I am ok with someone dating other people while they date me...as long as, like Gemme says, the other person is aware he is dating both of us. I would NOT date someone, no matter how attractive or appealing they are, if they were intimate with someone else. Just not ok in my book.
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Ask him, if he is interested in her.
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Softness asks: Next question: you are interested in someone online but see through the threads that another femme is hot on his trail. But you cant tell if he is interested in her. What do you do?
Or, tell him that you are interested in him...or flirt with him so that he knows that you are interested in him.
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Hi all. I am new to the site and single and wanted to stop by and say hi
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But honestly, I doubt whether I would want to be intimate anyway. heh. |
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![]() ok im have a confession........... ehemm .......... i am a x dancer. errr well ( stripper heh) .. many yrs ago when i was young and skinny........ and this is one of my most favorite songs to dance too........ for someone special.... hope you guys enjoy it.......... [nomedia="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WJ5aNftth5I&feature=related"]YouTube- Joe Cocker - You Can Leave Your Hat On[/nomedia]
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I dont know, Liam, if I would. Because why is it my business if he is interested in her or not? Is he accountable to me? And what if he is interested in her? Does that make me a competitor if I am interested in him? Or cant he date both of us if he is interested in me too? And if he could, then what difference does it make if he is interested in her?
but then there is femme code of ethics too. Sometimes a femme doesnt like it when another femme walks into her range of interest. Some might want him all to herself. Then what? Risk the chance of being seen as a love harpy? Musing them over to her and away from other femmes? and it is harder to work this out online than it is in real life? I vote its harder on line. In real life you can engage in so much more interface...and watch body language...and get the sideways looks that tell so much of whats going on or what going to go on...
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well, Dapper, that would be ok as far as the guy goes, but we femmes have to consider other femmes too. Is it appropriate to flirt with someone that someone else is publicly wooing him to woo her? Even if you go to him privately, when it comes out later that you inquired, doesnt it make the femme look like she is a pirate of love? How does a femme not end up looking like a snooker hooker?
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Hi Delish! Welcome!
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I just have to jump in here. I agree with softness that this is all so much more difficult on the internet - trying to establish where many of the butches 'are' in regard to availability, level of interest, and so on. For me, I live in a virtual drought of the butch-femme dynamic so this medium is vital to me. Mostly, I like being in the mix of intelligent people who are bright, insightful, and often strongly opinionated. I thrive on these kinds of things. I just never know where or how how to go about saying, "Hey, I am interested in you" and not feel like an intruder. I respect privacy and certainly am wary of sharing too much too soon. But I ask...how do you tactfully, respectfully inquire about getting to know someone on a more personal level than all the frivolous stuff I seem to think I might have down to an art? And, no, 'U-Haul' is not in my vocabulary. |
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I guess all I am saying is if you like someone, and by all accounts they appear to be available, tell them. Tell them that you do not know if they are available (if you don't know if they like someone else), but that if they are available, you would like to get to know them better. If they have something going on with someone else, then they need to be upfront about it. If you do all things with integrity, then I don't see where you can go wrong.
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If you do all things with integrity, then I don't see where you can go wrong.
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So then all of Ms Ps friends get their panties in a bunch and start to pick apart any post Ms Q puts out there. think not? Oh yeah...think again...
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be direct, private and the classy woman that I know you to be. nice post, btw |
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