What TO DO in a relationship.....

Ginger · 11-02-2013, 10:23 AM

First be honest with yourself.
Then be honest with the other person.

It's like what they tell you when you fly; put your own oxygen mask on first.

ONLY · 11-02-2013, 10:37 AM

Pay attention when she speaks to you, look at her, into her eyes.

Sparkle · 11-02-2013, 10:46 AM

Do YOUR work!

Heal yourself.
Know how to give *yourself* everything that you need.
Be accountable for your patterns, your progress and your fuck-ups.
Love yourself, be proud of how far you've come.
Strive to be the strongest, healthiest, best version of yourself.

NEVER stop doing YOUR work.

Leigh · 11-02-2013, 10:46 AM

always be honest no matter what

ONLY · 11-02-2013, 10:47 AM

Talk things out, don't hold them in. I am getting better at this

I am not sure if there is a "What NOT to do in a relationship" but NEVER, EVER, call her a derogatory name, no matter how angry you get. If I were to come to disrespect my lady like that, then the relationship is not meant to be. In my mind, if it happens once, good chance it will happen again. Thankfully it has never happened

And I do not ever see it happening.

girl_dee · 11-02-2013, 12:11 PM

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Originally Posted by ONLY

Talk things out, don't hold them in. I am getting better at this

I am not sure if there is a "What NOT to do in a relationship" but NEVER, EVER, call her a derogatory name, no matter how angry you get. If I were to come to disrespect my lady like that, then the relationship is not meant to be. In my mind, if it happens once, good chance it will happen again. Thankfully it has never happened

And I do not ever see it happening.

Yes there is a what not to do thread- thats what spawned this one!

Nic · 11-02-2013, 12:23 PM

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Originally Posted by ONLY

Talk things out, don't hold them in. I am getting better at this

I am not sure if there is a "What NOT to do in a relationship" but NEVER, EVER, call her a derogatory name, no matter how angry you get. If I were to come to disrespect my lady like that, then the relationship is not meant to be. In my mind, if it happens once, good chance it will happen again. Thankfully it has never happened

And I do not ever see it happening.

Want to second this. Call a woman a derogatory name and she hears it in her heads for the rest of her lives. No matter how much time has passed or how stupid she knows it was that you did it or how many "reasonable explanations" you offer. (IMO, there isn't one.)

Not fair of me to limit it to women so how about just don't call anyone you "love" a derogatory name.

Ginger · 11-02-2013, 12:56 PM

Accept that sometimes no matter what you do, you have no control over the outcome.

Teddybear · 11-03-2013, 04:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Nic

Want to second this. Call a woman a derogatory name and she hears it in her heads for the rest of her lives. No matter how much time has passed or how stupid she knows it was that you did it or how many "reasonable explanations" you offer. (IMO, there isn't one.)

Not fair of me to limit it to women so how about just don't call anyone you "love" a derogatory name.

I have to agree with this. It isnt just the women who are hurt by hurtful things being said. Seems we all have to pay the price for either what we have said or someone else has said to them.

Remember if you dont want it said to you DONT say it to them.

11-02-2013, 10:23 AM	#1
Ginger Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme lesbian Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: East coast Posts: 2,416 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,829 Thanked 12,297 Times in 2,057 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	First be honest with yourself. Then be honest with the other person. It's like what they tell you when you fly; put your own oxygen mask on first. __________________ Reach out.

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11-02-2013, 10:47 AM	#5
ONLY Senior Member How Do You Identify?: well my girl calls me honeybear, sugarbear, sexy beast, hot tamale..... Preferred Pronoun?: female pronouns Relationship Status: Married to my Rare Beauty with a Beautiful Soul.....SS Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: eastern ontario, canada Posts: 2,783 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 975 Thanked 1,735 Times in 679 Posts Rep Power: 15139964	Talk things out, don't hold them in. I am getting better at this I am not sure if there is a "What NOT to do in a relationship" but NEVER, EVER, call her a derogatory name, no matter how angry you get. If I were to come to disrespect my lady like that, then the relationship is not meant to be. In my mind, if it happens once, good chance it will happen again. Thankfully it has never happened And I do not ever see it happening. __________________ *"If you talk about it, it's a dream, if you envision it, it's possible, but if you schedule it, it's real. "*

11-02-2013, 12:56 PM	#8
Ginger Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme lesbian Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: East coast Posts: 2,416 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,829 Thanked 12,297 Times in 2,057 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Accept that sometimes no matter what you do, you have no control over the outcome. __________________ Reach out.