Age... an issue?

TruTexan · 11-07-2013, 07:40 PM

When I first came out , I was seeing an older woman. I was 17 she was 23. It made for learning curves for sure, I matured much more with her faster I believe. But since that time, I"ve pretty much dated within my age group give or take a few years.
I've dated one person that was much older, disaster for me for reasons beyond age.
I think there is a difference in common ground within diff. age groups, but I don't see a problem with anyone wanting to date older or younger. It's not an issue for me. I just prefer someone close to my own age or within 2-3 years.
just my 2 cents worth.

puddin' · 11-10-2013, 02:56 PM

age makes no nevamind to me. it's all about connectedness, playfulness, intelligence and integrity in mah book...

i've been wit' women mah own age and some 20 years older or younger. it's not about age, it's about spirit.

kittygrrl · 12-27-2013, 09:21 PM

it's nice to see that it can be a lovely experience, but it isn't always. I think there is more synergy and safety is being with someone close to your age, with similar experiences, maybe it's not as exciting, but in my experience, kinder. This is based on my experience and observation.

imperfect_cupcake · 12-28-2013, 03:13 AM

I think it really depends on the person and who you are. I'm sorta typical for my age in my bracket of friends, but not in the mainstream. None of us own houses or want to, a few of us have kids but the majority don't and don't want them. Most of us have lived in a different country for at least 2-3 years. Many of us have lived and work away for over five.

I get along Best with those who aren't into mortgage, house, car, etc. and that means most people my age in the wider and mainstream see me as immature. I like staying up late, I'm not into aquiring things, I prefer not to have a long range plan in terms of living. I prefer seeing what happens. So I tend to not really fit in with my age group out side of alternative circles and/or lower incomes.

Oddly, I find I attract people five to ten years my senior. But it's never a good match as they want me to move in to theirs house and follow their rules. I've never fully understood it. They see who I am, yet for some reason they want me to be the opposite when it comes to their needs.

I have tried. And maybe, for the right person, it might work. But I don't want to live in the prairies or in the states or up north.

So I find I am taking easier with people in their mid to late twenties. I find them to be a relief to be around. They don't feel quite so constricted by things just yet. Life hasn't quite kicked the shit out if them just yet and they aren't as concerned about security yet. I don't think I could have a relationship with someone in their 20's... Sex and friendship, sure. But if I did commit, it would have to be within a 10-12 year age range.

11-07-2013, 07:40 PM	#1
TruTexan Senior Member How Do You Identify?: lesbian butch Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: in a one horse town in a large state, in the U.S. Posts: 3,952 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,112 Thanked 5,268 Times in 1,633 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	When I first came out , I was seeing an older woman. I was 17 she was 23. It made for learning curves for sure, I matured much more with her faster I believe. But since that time, I"ve pretty much dated within my age group give or take a few years. I've dated one person that was much older, disaster for me for reasons beyond age. I think there is a difference in common ground within diff. age groups, but I don't see a problem with anyone wanting to date older or younger. It's not an issue for me. I just prefer someone close to my own age or within 2-3 years. just my 2 cents worth. __________________

11-10-2013, 02:56 PM	#2
puddin' Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: a genderqueer nuisance Preferred Pronoun?: bitchboi Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: new zealand Posts: 7,120 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,467 Thanked 7,962 Times in 2,340 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	age makes no nevamind to me. it's all about connectedness, playfulness, intelligence and integrity in mah book... i've been wit' women mah own age and some 20 years older or younger. it's not about age, it's about spirit. __________________ be true, be you, be brave.

12-27-2013, 09:21 PM	#3
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Preferred Pronoun?: baker Relationship Status: Til you believe Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: wrapped in a shawl Posts: 9,772 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,737 Thanked 22,163 Times in 7,229 Posts Rep Power: 21474862	it's nice to see that it can be a lovely experience, but it isn't always. I think there is more synergy and safety is being with someone close to your age, with similar experiences, maybe it's not as exciting, but in my experience, kinder. This is based on my experience and observation. __________________ "We're nine meals from anarchy"" Lewis

12-28-2013, 03:13 AM	#4
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,710 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I think it really depends on the person and who you are. I'm sorta typical for my age in my bracket of friends, but not in the mainstream. None of us own houses or want to, a few of us have kids but the majority don't and don't want them. Most of us have lived in a different country for at least 2-3 years. Many of us have lived and work away for over five. I get along Best with those who aren't into mortgage, house, car, etc. and that means most people my age in the wider and mainstream see me as immature. I like staying up late, I'm not into aquiring things, I prefer not to have a long range plan in terms of living. I prefer seeing what happens. So I tend to not really fit in with my age group out side of alternative circles and/or lower incomes. Oddly, I find I attract people five to ten years my senior. But it's never a good match as they want me to move in to theirs house and follow their rules. I've never fully understood it. They see who I am, yet for some reason they want me to be the opposite when it comes to their needs. I have tried. And maybe, for the right person, it might work. But I don't want to live in the prairies or in the states or up north. So I find I am taking easier with people in their mid to late twenties. I find them to be a relief to be around. They don't feel quite so constricted by things just yet. Life hasn't quite kicked the shit out if them just yet and they aren't as concerned about security yet. I don't think I could have a relationship with someone in their 20's... Sex and friendship, sure. But if I did commit, it would have to be within a 10-12 year age range.