Flirting in a Non-GLBT Space

[Dude]

Originally Posted by honeybarbara

I think that some people may not actually understand the whole premise of flirting. If you
are open to the possibility that you are fabulous enough to be flirted with, then if you *think* someone *might* be flirting with you... you flirt back. to the same degree/level. this is now entering the flirt arena. the person who started, if they *are* flirting, will be encouraged and if they are flirting to pull you, rather than flirting for social fun, they will *UP the VOLUME* of it. You return in kind. they go further and at this point it's pretty damn obvious she's flirting. That's why flirting starts with a SMILE and not someone staring at "you" and sliding their tongue in and out from between their fingers and pinching their own nipple. right?

it's so they approach cautiously. Smile
smile back
wink
wink back

it's easy. just do back what they do. and eventually you'll figure out if they are flirting. But jeeze, yeah, I like people who know that they are worth flirting with and open to that happening. It's less crushing for me, as a vulnerable approaching person!

Heh!
I am not talking zero self esteem or not feeling fabulous enough.
There are straight women who fuck with us for the sport of it.
In fact , I'd say 90% of the women who have flirted with me, are
straight. They are not afraid of pumping up the volume , they bend
ovah in front of us with their thongs hanging out (because they can)
If you have this happen enough times you then begin to get a bit numb
and grow an extra layer of the fuck off vibe.
Its survival , not a chip (honest)

If I was at a bar or club , I would ( hopefully) "get it" and be
more receptive.
A genuine come hither , at the dog park would be perfect.
I'm relaxed there. Not hurried with a million things on my mind.
No audience. (Back to the Shy stuff , lots of it)