Femmes: How do you like to be treated on a date?

Queenie · 11-10-2013, 10:56 AM

Like a little queen! Cause really how else would you like to be treated on a date?

kittygrrl · 12-18-2013, 07:55 PM

thoughtfully..

Sweet Bliss · 12-18-2013, 09:05 PM

The same as every other day.

courtesy kindness respect humor.

Bèsame* · 12-18-2013, 11:07 PM

~~~treat me like you really put some thought and effort into it~~~~

silkepus · 12-19-2013, 02:18 PM

I have always though a first date should be short with less pressure. Like just having a coffee something like that.

I would love to have the old school opening doors treatment, never have before. I would probably think better of the person I'm dating if they did, but I wouldn’t think worse of them if they didn’t. It’s more like an added bonus than a necessity.

And for the whole cost thing, I think the best dates are definitely free. I would rather someone took me on a hike in the mountains than on a fancy restaurant.

willow · 12-19-2013, 02:48 PM

I do not need to be the centre of your universe but I do need to feel at least as important as anything else in your life at this moment in time. Be respectful, be kind, be polite (to everyone). Regardless of what you do for a living do not take calls from work, we are either on a date or we are not. Do not check your emails, texts, facebook, or twitter. In fact, I do not want to see your phone at all. It's not about spending a lot of money, or any money. I'm perfectly fine with sharing the bill.

Talk to me.

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Originally Posted by silkepus

<snip> I would probably think better of the person I'm dating if they did, but I wouldn’t think worse of them if they didn’t. It’s more like an added bonus than a necessity. <snip>

Definitely more an added bonus than a necessity. Just don't let the door shut in my face

imperfect_cupcake · 12-19-2013, 06:52 PM

the variety is staggering in what people like.

what some people need I would be baffled by or put off from.

what I want, other people would feel totally unnecessary or completely not enough.

but that is the whole point of hanging out with each other: to find out and to see if it's a match.

for example - I don't care if people answer their phone. people have jobs that do demand an answer, the have kids or parents in care. They have other friends that may have an emergency (I was out on a date once and my ex called me in hysterics because her new partner was stuck in a very dangerous flood and did not know how to get hold of her, she was missing and she needed just someone calm to talk to her for a few minutes and help her out. My date totally understood and was glad I was open hearted enough to take the call).

I like going to a pub. I don't want a meal. snacks and some drinks and a long conversation and a good laugh.

that's a first hang out with me. Don't fuss but be cool, be a bit smooth. make me laugh, be open, tell me stories about your life.

11-10-2013, 10:56 AM	#1
Queenie Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Preferred Pronoun?: Her Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: East Finchley Posts: 752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 478 Thanked 1,886 Times in 523 Posts Rep Power: 16307164	How do you like to be treated on a date? Like a little queen! Cause really how else would you like to be treated on a date?

12-18-2013, 07:55 PM	#2
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Preferred Pronoun?: Fae Relationship Status: just for fun Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: near the wild mushrooms Posts: 9,399 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,604 Thanked 21,977 Times in 7,093 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	how do i like to be treated on a date? thoughtfully.. __________________ "We're nine meals from anarchy"" Lewis

12-18-2013, 11:07 PM	#4
Bèsame* Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femm Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: loved by many Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Closer to the waves Posts: 15,383 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,120 Thanked 40,947 Times in 10,734 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	~~~treat me like you really put some thought and effort into it~~~~ __________________ kisses A kiss is a whisper in your mouth. Can I borrow a kiss? I promise to give it back.

12-18-2013, 09:05 PM	#3
Sweet Bliss Senior Member How Do You Identify?: I Am Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: solo Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: the Beach, Pacific side Posts: 4,160 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,354 Thanked 7,268 Times in 2,159 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	The same as every other day. courtesy kindness respect humor.

12-19-2013, 02:18 PM	#5
silkepus Member How Do You Identify?: covered in ink and glitter Preferred Pronoun?: feminine ones Relationship Status: watching pictures of cats on tumblr Join Date: Dec 2013 Location: Scandinavia Posts: 382 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 359 Thanked 701 Times in 196 Posts Rep Power: 10186797	I have always though a first date should be short with less pressure. Like just having a coffee something like that. I would love to have the old school opening doors treatment, never have before. I would probably think better of the person I'm dating if they did, but I wouldn’t think worse of them if they didn’t. It’s more like an added bonus than a necessity. And for the whole cost thing, I think the best dates are definitely free. I would rather someone took me on a hike in the mountains than on a fancy restaurant.

12-19-2013, 06:52 PM	#7
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,710 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	the variety is staggering in what people like. what some people need I would be baffled by or put off from. what I want, other people would feel totally unnecessary or completely not enough. but that is the whole point of hanging out with each other: to find out and to see if it's a match. for example - I don't care if people answer their phone. people have jobs that do demand an answer, the have kids or parents in care. They have other friends that may have an emergency (I was out on a date once and my ex called me in hysterics because her new partner was stuck in a very dangerous flood and did not know how to get hold of her, she was missing and she needed just someone calm to talk to her for a few minutes and help her out. My date totally understood and was glad I was open hearted enough to take the call). I like going to a pub. I don't want a meal. snacks and some drinks and a long conversation and a good laugh. that's a first hang out with me. Don't fuss but be cool, be a bit smooth. make me laugh, be open, tell me stories about your life.