Femmes: what makes you feel sexy?

C0LLETTE · 01-05-2014, 08:37 PM

Maybe I need to think this through more deeply or someone can explain it. I can appreciate feeling sensual for myself but sexy for myself or as an end in itself, not so much. When I feel sexy, I'm hoping it gets a response or I don't feel sexy for long.

The_Lady_Snow · 01-05-2014, 09:25 PM

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Originally Posted by C0LLETTE

Maybe I need to think this through more deeply or someone can explain it. I can appreciate feeling sensual for myself but sexy for myself or as an end in itself, not so much. When I feel sexy, I'm hoping it gets a response or I don't feel sexy for long.

I enjoy validation as well, I guess for some folks (like myself) the validation comes from within, self acknowledgement is a powerful thing, no one loves me or takes care of me like I do.. Therefore I set the foundation of how others see me that I want to see me.

Make sense?

C0LLETTE · 01-05-2014, 09:45 PM

Sure.
Some folks really can be who they think they are. My mother defined herself as an artist; wanted that on her tombstone; and no amount of bad paintings could convince her otherwise. Her tombstone reads "Artist".

The_Lady_Snow · 01-05-2014, 10:25 PM

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Originally Posted by C0LLETTE

Sure.
Some folks really can be who they think they are. My mother defined herself as an artist; wanted that on her tombstone; and no amount of bad paintings could convince her otherwise. Her tombstone reads "Artist".

Good for your Mom!!! Good thing she never let anyone dictate what she is or isn't!!

Gráinne · 01-13-2014, 11:01 PM

Self-care, not just of the physical but even more the intellectual. An afternoon reading, taking myself out for a good meal, recharges me. Taking care of my environment, not just the bedroom. Having balance with the physical, intellectual, and spiritual.

I don't know if feeling "sexy" is always about wanting sex per se, but I love feeling confident and more put-together and that makes me more apt to feel that little "woo"

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GeeGina · 01-14-2014, 01:23 PM

Lots of things make me feel sexy...from a new pair of shoes to feeling like I've taken very good care of myself.

Sometimes, it's the combination of the right pair of jeans and a favorite sweater while taking the subway into work...other times it's a snappy answer to a smart question.

Sometimes the most superficial things make me feel sexy...and other times it's the real stuff of substance.

Sometimes a look from a man makes me feel very sexy ("Look all you want, brother...'cause none of this is for you!" - haha) and other times a good, long stare from a woman across a bar or party. Validation - aka "independent confirmation" - does have its benefits. Plus. I'll be honest as there are some days and nights when I'm not just dressing for the weather...

I have to ask though, what's so wrong about someone getting aroused from what they're reading in here? It's a natural reaction to a discussion that is inherently sexual.

Isn't this like describing a glass of water in great detail...and then being shocked when someone says they are thirsty? Yes, we femmes empower and care for ourselves, plus reserve the right to define "sexy" on our terms for ourselves. That said, we can't expect to possess total control over how others see us, how they want to see us, or what they think is sexy about us.

princessbelle · 01-14-2014, 02:44 PM

There are many things that make me feel sexy. Here is just a few...

Getting a new outfit or new shoes.

A long hot bath with candles and bubble bath.

Getting a new mani and pedi.

New bedding, something cute to wear and cuddle up in the sheets.

One of the other things that come to mind is wearing "his" white dress shirt, nothing else, and puttzing around the house. If my partner likes it that is a bonus. If not, it's really not that much of a consequence. Heck, i do that when i'm totally alone. *I* feel sexy dressed that way and feeling sexy is definitely something that comes from within.

Nice thread.

01-13-2014, 11:01 PM	#5
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01-14-2014, 01:23 PM	#6
GeeGina Member How Do You Identify?: Femme, but flexible. Preferred Pronoun?: Miss Relationship Status: Single. Looking. Available. Open. Join Date: Sep 2013 Location: Philadelphia, PA Posts: 111 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10 Thanked 410 Times in 76 Posts Rep Power: 4115106	Sexy? Lots of things make me feel sexy...from a new pair of shoes to feeling like I've taken very good care of myself. Sometimes, it's the combination of the right pair of jeans and a favorite sweater while taking the subway into work...other times it's a snappy answer to a smart question. Sometimes the most superficial things make me feel sexy...and other times it's the real stuff of substance. Sometimes a look from a man makes me feel very sexy ("Look all you want, brother...'cause none of this is for you!" - haha) and other times a good, long stare from a woman across a bar or party. Validation - aka "independent confirmation" - does have its benefits. Plus. I'll be honest as there are some days and nights when I'm not just dressing for the weather... I have to ask though, what's so wrong about someone getting aroused from what they're reading in here? It's a natural reaction to a discussion that is inherently sexual. Isn't this like describing a glass of water in great detail...and then being shocked when someone says they are thirsty? Yes, we femmes empower and care for ourselves, plus reserve the right to define "sexy" on our terms for ourselves. That said, we can't expect to possess total control over how others see us, how they want to see us, or what they think is sexy about us.

01-05-2014, 08:37 PM	#1
C0LLETTE Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Depends on the day. Preferred Pronoun?: "I" and "we" Relationship Status: Very good. Thank you for asking. Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: Canada Posts: 11,501 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,676 Thanked 15,176 Times in 4,341 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	Maybe I need to think this through more deeply or someone can explain it. I can appreciate feeling sensual for myself but sexy for myself or as an end in itself, not so much. When I feel sexy, I'm hoping it gets a response or I don't feel sexy for long.

01-05-2014, 09:45 PM	#3
C0LLETTE Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Depends on the day. Preferred Pronoun?: "I" and "we" Relationship Status: Very good. Thank you for asking. Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: Canada Posts: 11,501 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,676 Thanked 15,176 Times in 4,341 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	Sure. Some folks really can be who they think they are. My mother defined herself as an artist; wanted that on her tombstone; and no amount of bad paintings could convince her otherwise. Her tombstone reads "Artist".

01-14-2014, 02:44 PM	#7
princessbelle Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme ones Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tennessee Posts: 6,100 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,380 Thanked 30,496 Times in 5,198 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	There are many things that make me feel sexy. Here is just a few... Getting a new outfit or new shoes. A long hot bath with candles and bubble bath. Getting a new mani and pedi. New bedding, something cute to wear and cuddle up in the sheets. One of the other things that come to mind is wearing "his" white dress shirt, nothing else, and puttzing around the house. If my partner likes it that is a bonus. If not, it's really not that much of a consequence. Heck, i do that when i'm totally alone. I feel sexy dressed that way and feeling sexy is definitely something that comes from within. Nice thread.