Cancer Support and Caregivers Who Are Trail Blazers!

deb0670 · 01-19-2014, 09:54 AM

Thank You, Actually she is flying out here in May to see her new great-granddaughter when she is born. My son lives three houses down from us and he and his wife are having their first child and it is our first granddaughter and my Mom's first great-granddaughter. While my mom is here, we are driving up to Illinois so she can see her two great grandsons for the first time.
So, that will be good for her.

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Hey, deb. It is a couple of months after a person's death that supporters tend to wander away and go back to their lives. They think about the survivor less and contact them less. It is when the fanfare of support/activities around the death, dies down that the survivor really needs someone. The best thing you can do for your mother is to save your money and fly out there when you can. She STILL needs you. You can still be there for her. It is not any less important than it was right after her husband's death.

DapperButch · 01-19-2014, 10:13 AM

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Originally Posted by deb0670

Thank You, Actually she is flying out here in May to see her new great-granddaughter when she is born. My son lives three houses down from us and he and his wife are having their first child and it is our first granddaughter and my Mom's first great-granddaughter. While my mom is here, we are driving up to Illinois so she can see her two great grandsons for the first time.
So, that will be good for her.

Yes, that is fantastic. Plus, it gives her something to look forward to....a very good thing!

deb0670 · 01-19-2014, 10:21 AM

Exactly. She has a lot of friends near her and work with her, plus my Aunt is only a couple of hours away from her, so at least she has support around her.. i just wish we lived closer to each other.

Tommi · 01-19-2014, 03:19 PM

Knowing we don't need to carry a heavy load alone helps the scary days and lonely nights.

As a caregiver over the past several years, and losing one friend to cancer, and an estranged ex to Alzheimer's, then my second cancer adventure and surviving therapy.there is so much to be said about all of us sharing here on the Planet.

No matter what goes on in our lives and those of the ones we know and love, we have this cyber connection of understanding, concern, advice, and bonding.

And I have NFL today

TruTexan · 01-20-2014, 07:08 PM

Today has been a hard tough day for me. I am getting more scared as the days pass closer to my biopsy on wednesday. I am taking my anxiety meds and trying to remain in the day I am living in, but it's not working well for me today.
My back is killing me so I know it's stress related. Everytime I have major stress, it all goes down into my injured back and its excruciating today. UGH.
I am not happy to go through this with no support at home other than my mom stressing out over it. She isn't much support for me. I have only this thread to talk to others about my fears and I am grateful that you listen to me and help me make it through the day when I speak my fears. Thank you.

Tommi · 01-21-2014, 02:08 PM

Hi there Justy, every day can be so darn different. Up one, down the next, and then any old pain just wants to wipe ya out.

Wondering ? There is a pretty good group of members on the Planet that live in Texas.
I knowTexas is big, and the Planet is worldwide, but wanted you to know you may have someone close by that you could shat with, or maybe just meet for some Texas BBQ.

I forget about cancer. I am reminded when I get that call for an appointment. Otherwise, I kind of just move on with my life.
One Day At A Time, is what I can handle. Of course Aug.through Oct. daily radiation to my pelvis was a kick in the

every day, but it went fast, and I had minor side effects. Soon as it was over, life begins anew again.

Just For Today, I walk tall (I am height challenged

, fixed my sprinklers, and watered my lawn, and hope there is someone else in the world that a smile can help.

TruTexan · 01-21-2014, 02:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Tommi

Hi there Justy, every day can be so darn different. Up one, down the next, and then any old pain just wants to wipe ya out.

Wondering ? There is a pretty good group of members on the Planet that live in Texas.
I knowTexas is big, and the Planet is worldwide, but wanted you to know you may have someone close by that you could shat with, or maybe just meet for some Texas BBQ.

I forget about cancer. I am reminded when I get that call for an appointment. Otherwise, I kind of just move on with my life.
One Day At A Time, is what I can handle. Of course Aug.through Oct. daily radiation to my pelvis was a kick in the

every day, but it went fast, and I had minor side effects. Soon as it was over, life begins anew again.

Just For Today, I walk tall (I am height challenged

, fixed my sprinklers, and watered my lawn, and hope there is someone else in the world that a smile can help.

Thanks for this Tommi. You hit the nail on the head about living in the day, the moment. It's all I can handle most days too. I"m kinda nervous today about tomorrow's procedure, but I"m working on staying into just today for one day at a time.
As for members here in Tx, yeah there are a bunch of them, but none close to me. I can't travel cause I have no funds for that during the month, living on my disability check doesn't allow for much more than rent, bills, some groceries. Never allows for me to have anything different. Even when I go to visit my dad and grandma and my cousins, my dad helps me with gas money to and from. I'm doing all I can to keep my costs at home on the minimum and doing without things that aren't basic necessity.
I wish I was still working, but my back, ptsd and anxiety, depression won't allow for it. I can't handle being around people larger than just a couple or maybe 4 tops. I"m okay with family because I know them all my life so they don't make me nervous or anything. Sometimes even they are too much for me to be around.
Anyway, I've gotten a couple of numbers from friends online that I"ve called and talk to them about all I am about to embark upon. So I do have a reach out and touch someone plan when I need it. And they are good folks too.

Thanks again Tommi, for posting and helping me to remain into today.

Justy

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Tommi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Usually "Hello" Relationship Status: Married and Bound to Tommi's kaijira (Ts_kaijira ) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Suthun.... California that is. Across the ridge from Laguna Beach. Posts: 8,151 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,621 Thanked 21,338 Times in 5,970 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	Hi there Justy, every day can be so darn different. Up one, down the next, and then any old pain just wants to wipe ya out. Wondering ? There is a pretty good group of members on the Planet that live in Texas. I knowTexas is big, and the Planet is worldwide, but wanted you to know you may have someone close by that you could shat with, or maybe just meet for some Texas BBQ. I forget about cancer. I am reminded when I get that call for an appointment. Otherwise, I kind of just move on with my life. One Day At A Time, is what I can handle. Of course Aug.through Oct. daily radiation to my pelvis was a kick in the every day, but it went fast, and I had minor side effects. Soon as it was over, life begins anew again. Just For Today, I walk tall (I am height challenged , fixed my sprinklers, and watered my lawn, and hope there is someone else in the world that a smile can help.