Butches: how do you like to be treated on a date?

Redsunflower · 03-30-2014, 05:46 AM

Brilliant thread tiaras-and-books.

*bump*

ForeverMe · 04-10-2014, 02:04 AM

I'm gonna take a turn giving a gentle bump on this one. I think it's a great topic.

tiaras-and-books · 05-24-2014, 03:43 AM

One more bump. I really like hearing what you all have to say.

Happy_Go_Lucky · 05-24-2014, 05:12 AM

Effortless sharing of laughter on the first will heighten the chances of a second.

Kobi · 05-24-2014, 05:37 AM

My philosophy is, if you need to ask how to treat me on a date, we probably shouldnt be dating

Just like a femme, I wish to be treated well and be made to feel special.

No magic formula involved. Common sense, manners, and interest go a long way.

Treating a date like it is a job interview or an inquisition is not acceptable.

Play · 05-25-2014, 11:20 AM

One of my favorite times with my girl was one when we weren't quite dating yet
but I asked her to run errands with me one day. I had a list but it was short stops
and we just drove around and talked and laughed.

One of the coolest parts was when she literally sat with her back against the door
and looked right at me. She didn't care where we were going, she was just focused
on me. We listened to great music, laughed at ourselves and others, and then it
got really quiet and that was cool too. She just looked content with a little smile
on her face. I asked what she was thinking about and she just said it was so easy
to hang out with me.

That's what keeps our relationship strong. We genuinely like each other.

Of course it didn't hurt that she touched me frequently in a flirty manner and her
eyes were sparkling.

I guess to sum it all up....Show interest, don't be too serious, light flirty touches
are a plus and be able to be silent without awkwardness. All of this will put me at
ease knowing you are present and happy.

I agree with others with keeping expectations low and just see how it goes.
Light and fun off the start makes me want to know more about who you are
and what makes you "tick".

EnderD_503 · 06-11-2014, 03:26 PM

For some reason I misread this thread as "Butches: do you like to be treated on a date?"

Was about to come in and say "why yes! yes I do!"

Anyways, as far as the thread. I guess I'd just say that I liked to be treated with respect just like anyone else, but other than that I was never really into being treated in any particular way or having my ego stroked or something. As long as its a good time, both doing something we enjoy, then either things "click" or they don't.

As far as now with "date nights" with my partner. Getting the chance to enjoy each others' company and do something we both like. We don't really have any kind "etiquette" or something, we just want to have fun together outside of the apartment.

05-24-2014, 05:12 AM	#4
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05-25-2014, 11:20 AM	#6
Play Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Nope Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: Boondocks Posts: 105 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 593 Thanked 381 Times in 95 Posts Rep Power: 2165824	For me.... One of my favorite times with my girl was one when we weren't quite dating yet but I asked her to run errands with me one day. I had a list but it was short stops and we just drove around and talked and laughed. One of the coolest parts was when she literally sat with her back against the door and looked right at me. She didn't care where we were going, she was just focused on me. We listened to great music, laughed at ourselves and others, and then it got really quiet and that was cool too. She just looked content with a little smile on her face. I asked what she was thinking about and she just said it was so easy to hang out with me. That's what keeps our relationship strong. We genuinely like each other. Of course it didn't hurt that she touched me frequently in a flirty manner and her eyes were sparkling. I guess to sum it all up....Show interest, don't be too serious, light flirty touches are a plus and be able to be silent without awkwardness. All of this will put me at ease knowing you are present and happy. I agree with others with keeping expectations low and just see how it goes. Light and fun off the start makes me want to know more about who you are and what makes you "tick".

03-30-2014, 05:46 AM	#1
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05-24-2014, 03:43 AM	#3
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05-24-2014, 05:37 AM	#5
Kobi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Biological female. Lesbian. Relationship Status: Happy Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Hanging out in the Atlantic. Posts: 9,234 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,840 Thanked 34,622 Times in 7,640 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	My philosophy is, if you need to ask how to treat me on a date, we probably shouldnt be dating Just like a femme, I wish to be treated well and be made to feel special. No magic formula involved. Common sense, manners, and interest go a long way. Treating a date like it is a job interview or an inquisition is not acceptable.

06-11-2014, 03:26 PM	#7
EnderD_503 Member How Do You Identify?: Queer, trans guy, butch Preferred Pronoun?: Male pronouns Relationship Status: Relationship Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Canada Posts: 1,329 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,090 Thanked 3,878 Times in 1,022 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	For some reason I misread this thread as "Butches: do you like to be treated on a date?" Was about to come in and say "why yes! yes I do!" Anyways, as far as the thread. I guess I'd just say that I liked to be treated with respect just like anyone else, but other than that I was never really into being treated in any particular way or having my ego stroked or something. As long as its a good time, both doing something we enjoy, then either things "click" or they don't. As far as now with "date nights" with my partner. Getting the chance to enjoy each others' company and do something we both like. We don't really have any kind "etiquette" or something, we just want to have fun together outside of the apartment.