Poly-friendly mingling/flirting thread

[JustLovelyJenn]

I am trying hard to start the mingle and flirt game again... its a lot more complicated then I remember... maybe I'm just getting old.

[SleepyButch]

Originally Posted by JustLovelyJenn

I am trying hard to start the mingle and flirt game again... its a lot more complicated then I remember... maybe I'm just getting old.

It's like riding a bicycle. If you haven't taken the bike out for awhile, it might be a little rusty. But get it going again and it will come back to you naturally.

Good luck!

[WingsOnFire]

Originally Posted by JustLovelyJenn

I am trying hard to start the mingle and flirt game again... its a lot more complicated then I remember... maybe I'm just getting old.

I hear ya sissy!! Be good to yourself and give yourself confidence. I too am struggling with feeling confident but I am working on it daily . Love ya!

[Mel C.]

I find unwanted challenge in meeting like-minded (or open-minded) people. It is like looking for a needle in a haystack.

[RockOn]

Hi Everyone,

I have not done any reading here until now but something different came into my mind about a week or two ago ... I had not ever considered or given any thought to poly type relationships before now. At this point, I honestly don't know much about developing guidelines or what they are ... well f* ck, being direct always seems better for me so let me simply say I know nothing about this and how the general poly community goes about things.

I think the best thing I can do is come here and educate myself by reading your posts ...

Thanks.
From someone who is sitting on the fence.

[JustLovelyJenn]

Originally Posted by WingsOnFire

I hear ya sissy!! Be good to yourself and give yourself confidence. I too am struggling with feeling confident but I am working on it daily . Love ya!

We need to get together...

MARK your calander... I'm camping at the cabins again starting June 29th...

[WingsOnFire]

Originally Posted by JustLovelyJenn

We need to get together...

MARK your calander... I'm camping at the cabins again starting June 29th...

Okkkkkkkkkk will do

[DaddyNik12]

opens door and pokes head inside and waves to everyone *

[RockOn]

I was researching books on poly relationships and this one kept popping up: The Ethical Slut

Do any of you recommend this book in a favorable way or give it a thumbs down for a NOOB like me?

Any additional suggestions will be appreciated. I'm trying to find a good starting place with something I am unfamiliar with.

Thanks.

[candy_coated_bitch]

Originally Posted by RockOn

I was researching books on poly relationships and this one kept popping up: The Ethical Slut

Do any of you recommend this book in a favorable way or give it a thumbs down for a NOOB like me?

Any additional suggestions will be appreciated. I'm trying to find a good starting place with something I am unfamiliar with.

Thanks.

I'd definitely recommend The Ethical Slut. I think it's very accessible for someone new to polyamory, or for someone who is just curious. I haven't really read any other books about it, so I couldn't really say. I did a quick glance at what came up on Amazon and I didn't recognize even one other book I've heard other people talk about, let alone read myself.

There are as many ways to be poly as there are to be a Butch or a Femme. It's kinda just what works for you and your partner(s). That's probably a process if you've never tried it before. I know a lot of people in the kinky world who are poly and I can say I have seen many different ways of structuring (or not structuring) poly relationships. If you asked a hundred people what poly means you'd get a hundred different definitions, as they like to say.

For me personally--my partner identifies as poly and I don't and we had to do a LOT of negotiating until we could get to a place where we both felt we were getting what we needed. I think for us the most important part was to be able to figure out and name what each of our core needs was.