Instant Turn-Offs

Girl_On_Fire · 05-20-2014, 11:34 PM

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Originally Posted by PsychoSlipknot

poor hygiene, rudeness, ignorance, rudeness and lacking compassion and rudeness

So rudeness, not a real problem for you then?

aishah · 05-20-2014, 11:49 PM

arrogance, mainly. also sometimes i am just instinctively/physically turned off to folks for no reason whatsoever...they could be the nicest potential date in the world or whatevs and something just makes my skin crawl and i can't get over it.

DanceFoolsDance · 05-21-2014, 12:04 AM

Bad breath, dirty hair and nails, b.o... any stink! Hairy pits and legs on a woman. Big bush. Hearing about the exes. Foul language used in regular conversation. Cheesy lines you KNOW they've used on others. Dishonesty most of all.

Martina · 05-21-2014, 12:43 AM

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Originally Posted by DanceFoolsDance

Big bush.

People who think that the way some women are naturally made is disgusting.

Duchess · 05-21-2014, 01:33 AM

~Bad teeth
~Big ego
~Inconsiderate attitude

Venus007 · 05-21-2014, 03:28 AM

Clinginess
An aversion to reading and learning
The inability to sit still and be silent
Boorishness
Soulless chameleons

Femmadian · 05-21-2014, 05:52 AM

DanceFoolsDance · 05-21-2014, 06:30 PM

"People who think that the way some women are naturally made is disgusting."

I didn't say disgusting.

Girl_On_Fire · 05-21-2014, 09:41 PM

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Originally Posted by aishah

arrogance, mainly. also sometimes i am just instinctively/physically turned off to folks for no reason whatsoever...they could be the nicest potential date in the world or whatevs and something just makes my skin crawl and i can't get over it.

Never ignore those instincts. Sometimes, you can't put your finger on it but when you feel like you should get away, do.

My instant turn-offs:

Bad Breath
Drinking Problem
Rage Issues
Doesn't Drive
Impatience

cinnamongrrl · 05-22-2014, 08:19 AM

I thought of a couple more....

lack of compassion for living things

having no inclination to better themselves (education wise mostly)

and an Amen to drinking problem.....I dont care if youve had one....Id just like to be done with that....

rudeness.....

skeeter_01 · 05-22-2014, 08:46 AM

A know it all, eating with their mouth open or smacking their lips while they eat.

Mean people, ignorant people, people who use texting "shorthand", (U no..cnt be bothered to rite out there hole thought) oh and the whole "there, their, they're" thing. People who can't be bothered to use spell check.

Maybe I'm too picky because, there are SO many more things!!

*Anya* · 05-22-2014, 08:57 AM

As kind of an OCD person, I have more than a few...

...dirty fingernails, toenails and dirty hands. Oh, please add toenails and fingernails that are too long.

...not showering before bed. Luckily my GF shares some of my traits so we both take one before bed and in the AM.

Sheets not changed weekly. Every Saturday is my day. Here is where the GF will say: "we've only been in them 3 days this week since we have been gone, we have not even been in them". Nope, I am compelled to change them anyway. She just shrugs and says ok.

I absolutely love that she is so tolerant of some of my cleaning "issues".

When we got together, I pushed for a housekeeper twice a month. She said: "but it is already clean". Uh, not enough honey.

I will stop now but I do have more...

Yes, I know.

imperfect_cupcake · 05-22-2014, 09:06 AM

I'm thinking bout the situation given... I liked them enough to go and hang out with them and something about them instantly turns me off. hmn. I'm going to say one that has actually happened a few times. They don't talk. It's a bit like pulling teeth to find out stuff about them. they don't want to talk about their exes, that's a big one. That puts me right off. I personally need to know what they thought about their old relationships. stories. thoughts. feelings. lessons. joys. bad dates. good dates. etc.

I even say in my dating advert that I don't want there to be subjects that are no go areas. and I have dated a few people, since coming home, who just don't really talk about themselves. And some will, but I have to ask direct questions about their past or they offer nothing to the conversation. It sucks. One person I really quite liked. but yeah. that did it for me. the lack of self in conversation.

I know there are oodles of people where they'd prefer to hike together, or play basketball together, or play video games together - than to share stories. that's cool. but it's not me. And I have dated people who are happy to go days without speaking to anyone. That would be me and them not working.

CA_BabyCakes · 05-22-2014, 11:09 AM

There isn't much physically except maybe poor hygiene or bad teeth....... Personality wise i have a list......low self esteem, over confidence, people with no passion, laziness, and most importantly, someone who cannot laugh at themselves.

05-21-2014, 01:33 AM	#5
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05-21-2014, 12:04 AM	#3
DanceFoolsDance Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Human Relationship Status: Happy Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: USA Posts: 26 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 59 Thanked 84 Times in 21 Posts Rep Power: 135759	Bad breath, dirty hair and nails, b.o... any stink! Hairy pits and legs on a woman. Big bush. Hearing about the exes. Foul language used in regular conversation. Cheesy lines you KNOW they've used on others. Dishonesty most of all.

05-21-2014, 06:30 PM	#8
DanceFoolsDance Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Human Relationship Status: Happy Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: USA Posts: 26 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 59 Thanked 84 Times in 21 Posts Rep Power: 135759	"People who think that the way some women are naturally made is disgusting." I didn't say disgusting.

05-22-2014, 08:57 AM	#12
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05-22-2014, 09:06 AM	#13
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05-22-2014, 11:09 AM	#14
CA_BabyCakes Member How Do You Identify?: All Femme Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: \ Posts: 364 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 231 Thanked 1,174 Times in 282 Posts Rep Power: 7129097	There isn't much physically except maybe poor hygiene or bad teeth....... Personality wise i have a list......low self esteem, over confidence, people with no passion, laziness, and most importantly, someone who cannot laugh at themselves.