How about butch and butch?

~ocean · 07-12-2014, 05:32 PM

butch w/ butch OMG LOL ohhh plz ~ who cares ~ we are all gay woman its funny, in real time no one cares BUT hey on the net its an issue ??? love and let love ~ besides I think its sexy ~ ** blows a kiss** to all my B&B friends **

Gemme · 07-12-2014, 07:53 PM

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Originally Posted by ~ocean

butch w/ butch OMG LOL ohhh plz ~ who cares ~ we are all gay woman its funny, in real time no one cares BUT hey on the net its an issue ??? love and let love ~ besides I think its sexy ~ ** blows a kiss** to all my B&B friends **

No, we're not.

But I do agree that no one should care what another's preference is (I'm paraphrasing).

As long as it's consensual, go for it.

ButchPride · 07-25-2014, 04:08 PM

I identify as a lesbian butch, but I never really thought about who I was attracted to in butch-femme terms, However, looking back over my life, I am definitely more attracted to women who are "butch of center." My wife has a complex and beautiful gender identity that ranges from mildly feminine to fairly butch, and I love every bit of it. I am her first really butch partner, and it seems to work well for her, too.

LoyalWolfsBlade · 07-26-2014, 10:26 AM

Although I do not id as butch I have had my share of masculine partners in the past. I bumped the thread to get the conversation started again and to let new members know that in the complexity of today's world that even in the B-F community there are many ways to express that. I have met a few butches/queer on here that were/are attracted to me and other masculine members on the site. Granted most of them but not all were fellow members of the BDSM/kink community however, as some of the above posts have demonstrated masculine-masculine couples are out there and can be found even on this site.

I have experienced discrimination from our community due to who I am attracted to but who are we to say what type of person any one of us can date. Isn't it the same as being attracted to a type or look, let alone not having a preference per say and prefer to rely on a connection?

I apologize for entering butch space but I saw no reason to double a topic in the trans area...

imperfect_cupcake · 07-26-2014, 11:52 AM

To some it may be the same as being attracted to a type or look. But for me, being attracted to gender expression (masculine female) is my sexuality. Being attracted to a type (sporty, geek, metrosexual, dapper) is a bit different as that type is a subset of masculine female. Some express their masculinity in a dapper/urban meterosexual way, or a sporty way or a masculine geek way (my dad is masculine geek - dresses and behaves in that fashion), or backwoods/country masculine, or....

My personal understanding of sexuality is not "type" but I have preference to type.. My sexuality is not a preference, unfortunately. I wish it was. Would make my life a lot easier....

Mel C. · 07-26-2014, 12:37 PM

More love (and/or sex) in the world seems like a good thing to me. There are already too many narrow minded people. If you are butch and are attracted to butches, enjoy. Someone having an issue with butch on butch (I have encountered the on this site) reminds me of the cis males who throw a tizzy fit when they see/hear/think about gay men getting it on. If it isn't your relationship, it isn't your business.

Glad the thread has been positive. I was expecting a train wreck and am pleasantly surprised.

candy_coated_bitch · 07-26-2014, 12:58 PM

For me, the way I read it is that this site is for butches AND femmes. Not necessarily always butches who are into femmes and vice versa. I'd say the majority of us here are into the butch/femme dynamic--but there's space for other butches and femmes who are into different dynamics as well. I think it's important to make space for everyone because butches and femmes are NOT cookie cutters. Openmindedness is free and really doesn't hurt anyone.

07-12-2014, 05:32 PM	#1
~ocean Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme blows a kiss off my finger tips * Preferred Pronoun?: ~ hey girl ~ Relationship Status: ~ single & content ~ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Massachusetts ~coastal Posts: 7,905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,958 Thanked 16,015 Times in 4,724 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	butch w/ butch OMG LOL ohhh plz ~ who cares ~ we are all gay woman its funny, in real time no one cares BUT hey on the net its an issue ??? love and let love ~ besides I think its sexy ~ blows a kiss to all my B&B friends ** __________________ ~ Always, ocean

07-25-2014, 04:08 PM	#3
ButchPride Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch lesbian woman Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Jun 2014 Location: Connecticut Posts: 3 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4 Thanked 20 Times in 3 Posts Rep Power: 0	I'm one-half of a butch-on-butch couple I identify as a lesbian butch, but I never really thought about who I was attracted to in butch-femme terms, However, looking back over my life, I am definitely more attracted to women who are "butch of center." My wife has a complex and beautiful gender identity that ranges from mildly feminine to fairly butch, and I love every bit of it. I am her first really butch partner, and it seems to work well for her, too.

07-26-2014, 10:26 AM	#4
LoyalWolfsBlade Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Pre-Op FtM, Preferred Pronoun?: Masculine ones plz Relationship Status: Single but haven't given up on finding the One Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: I gaze upon the same moon as you do Posts: 3,827 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,214 Thanked 9,646 Times in 3,123 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Although I do not id as butch I have had my share of masculine partners in the past. I bumped the thread to get the conversation started again and to let new members know that in the complexity of today's world that even in the B-F community there are many ways to express that. I have met a few butches/queer on here that were/are attracted to me and other masculine members on the site. Granted most of them but not all were fellow members of the BDSM/kink community however, as some of the above posts have demonstrated masculine-masculine couples are out there and can be found even on this site. I have experienced discrimination from our community due to who I am attracted to but who are we to say what type of person any one of us can date. Isn't it the same as being attracted to a type or look, let alone not having a preference per say and prefer to rely on a connection? I apologize for entering butch space but I saw no reason to double a topic in the trans area... __________________ Life should never be stagnant hence my quest for new knowledge will continue until my last breath. Wolf

07-26-2014, 12:37 PM	#6
Mel C. Long-time Member How Do You Identify?: WIB - woman identified butch Preferred Pronoun?: Your choice...not really a button for me Relationship Status: ♡ married 1/1/2019♡ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: San Diego Posts: 2,149 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,772 Thanked 6,828 Times in 1,621 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	More love (and/or sex) in the world seems like a good thing to me. There are already too many narrow minded people. If you are butch and are attracted to butches, enjoy. Someone having an issue with butch on butch (I have encountered the on this site) reminds me of the cis males who throw a tizzy fit when they see/hear/think about gay men getting it on. If it isn't your relationship, it isn't your business. Glad the thread has been positive. I was expecting a train wreck and am pleasantly surprised. Last edited by Mel C.; 07-26-2014 at 12:38 PM. Reason: Grammar police

07-26-2014, 12:58 PM	#7
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07-26-2014, 11:52 AM	#5
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	To some it may be the same as being attracted to a type or look. But for me, being attracted to gender expression (masculine female) is my sexuality. Being attracted to a type (sporty, geek, metrosexual, dapper) is a bit different as that type is a subset of masculine female. Some express their masculinity in a dapper/urban meterosexual way, or a sporty way or a masculine geek way (my dad is masculine geek - dresses and behaves in that fashion), or backwoods/country masculine, or.... My personal understanding of sexuality is not "type" but I have preference to type.. My sexuality is not a preference, unfortunately. I wish it was. Would make my life a lot easier....