Is Living Alone Making You Weird?

Kätzchen · 07-26-2014, 07:43 AM

It's been about 7 weeks now that I've been on my own, but I think if anything about me has changed, I'm thinking that it has to be this deep need to have someone to talk with and share about everyday life.

Other than that and a few other items of interest, life seems to be full of new discoveries.

And I find that enchanting and beautiful.

cricket26 · 07-26-2014, 07:53 AM

yes...that is all...

Diablo · 07-26-2014, 10:35 AM

living alone is fabulous ...until its not. I miss my wife....i miss waking up next to her...i miss coffee together...i miss parts of sharing my life..and living with her. Then.....i LOVE living alone..i love having a clean apt. Money...i love having MY money...and having it. I love knowing where stuff is...i love coming and going as i please....i find myself...enjoying my alone time more than enjoying my time with friends.....i LOVE the quiet......the ease...of just being....alone.......i think this isnt always healthy or good for me.

Gemme · 07-26-2014, 06:54 PM

I'm with the general consensus that I was weird before I started living alone.

I prefer living alone and it tends to be safer for the general population.

If I don't like the paint on the walls, I'm the only one that's going to bitch about it. Or not. If I forgot to take something out for dinner, I'm the only one who has to make the decision to patchwork something from the fridge or go get something. And, if going out, where to go. I only have to fight the sofa cushions for the remote and I usually win. I'm a total bed hog and that's best when there's no one for me to have to bully. It's not pretty.

On the flip side, I have no one to blame when I lose shit or forget to do something important.

Maybe I should get a pet.

Kelt · 07-26-2014, 09:27 PM

I don't think I'm weird, and I love living alone. I tried the live-together bit, three times, two years each, all in my twenties. Each time I started feeling trapped at about six months but tried to stick it out. Bad idea for everyone involved.

I've lived alone for the last twenty five years and wouldn't change a thing. I have been partnered and single, and I have been pressured hard to "be normal". I am normal, perhaps more normal than most, I'm happy when many are miserable for the sake of.. what? I have no need to share the joys of housework. I will live down the hall, across the street, or upstairs. But not with. I know my limits and respect those of others.

I'm glad so many want to and do live together, but it isn't for me.

Gemme, get a cat! They're the bee's knee's, well not so much but you know.

Calicos are best. And yes, I talk to my cat all the time. She is mute, literally not figuratively, so we're a matched set.

Gemme · 07-27-2014, 06:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Kelt

I don't think I'm weird, and I love living alone. I tried the live-together bit, three times, two years each, all in my twenties. Each time I started feeling trapped at about six months but tried to stick it out. Bad idea for everyone involved.

I've lived alone for the last twenty five years and wouldn't change a thing. I have been partnered and single, and I have been pressured hard to "be normal". I am normal, perhaps more normal than most, I'm happy when many are miserable for the sake of.. what? I have no need to share the joys of housework. I will live down the hall, across the street, or upstairs. But not with. I know my limits and respect those of others.

I'm glad so many want to and do live together, but it isn't for me.

Gemme, get a cat! They're the bee's knee's, well not so much but you know.

Calicos are best. And yes, I talk to my cat all the time. She is mute, literally not figuratively, so we're a matched set.

Kelt, thanks for the suggestion. I've had many cats through the years and up to 8 at one time. I'm an OCL -- Original Cat Lady! lol

My dad has the best solution I've found for those that wish to be partnered but wish to live alone as well. He lives in one modular home and a few doors down, his wife lives in her own mod home. He's close enough to do the stuff around her place that she can't or won't do and she's close enough to bring over his favorite home cooked meals. They go to church and doctor visits and the store together like any other married couple but then he goes home to his bed and she goes home to hers. Brilliant!

07-27-2014, 07:06 AM

Another here who was weird waaaay before I lived alone. I love living as a single household with just me and Woodipotimus to please. We're a partnership that can never be broken. Our conversations have to be heard to be believed.

Like Kelt, tried the living together thang but shied away from it ever since. Should I meet another person I hope to spend a life with and they wanted to live together then I would require the west wing of any dwelling to myself.

07-26-2014, 07:43 AM	#1
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Diablo Timed Out - Identity Issues How Do You Identify?: HUMAN Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Earth Posts: 843 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,128 Thanked 1,618 Times in 623 Posts Rep Power: 0	living alone is fabulous ...until its not. I miss my wife....i miss waking up next to her...i miss coffee together...i miss parts of sharing my life..and living with her. Then.....i LOVE living alone..i love having a clean apt. Money...i love having MY money...and having it. I love knowing where stuff is...i love coming and going as i please....i find myself...enjoying my alone time more than enjoying my time with friends.....i LOVE the quiet......the ease...of just being....alone.......i think this isnt always healthy or good for me.

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Kelt Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Beach Butch Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: SoCal Posts: 2,751 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 19,765 Thanked 15,289 Times in 2,539 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I don't think I'm weird, and I love living alone. I tried the live-together bit, three times, two years each, all in my twenties. Each time I started feeling trapped at about six months but tried to stick it out. Bad idea for everyone involved. I've lived alone for the last twenty five years and wouldn't change a thing. I have been partnered and single, and I have been pressured hard to "be normal". I am normal, perhaps more normal than most, I'm happy when many are miserable for the sake of.. what? I have no need to share the joys of housework. I will live down the hall, across the street, or upstairs. But not with. I know my limits and respect those of others. I'm glad so many want to and do live together, but it isn't for me. Gemme, get a cat! They're the bee's knee's, well not so much but you know. Calicos are best. And yes, I talk to my cat all the time. She is mute, literally not figuratively, so we're a matched set.

07-27-2014, 07:06 AM	#7
Daktari Guest Tournaments Won: 1 Posts: n/a My Photo Gallery	Another here who was weird waaaay before I lived alone. I love living as a single household with just me and Woodipotimus to please. We're a partnership that can never be broken. Our conversations have to be heard to be believed. Like Kelt, tried the living together thang but shied away from it ever since. Should I meet another person I hope to spend a life with and they wanted to live together then I would require the west wing of any dwelling to myself.