Is Living Alone Making You Weird?

Another here who was weird waaaay before I lived alone. I love living as a single household with just me and Woodipotimus to please. We're a partnership that can never be broken. Our conversations have to be heard to be believed.

Like Kelt, tried the living together thang but shied away from it ever since. Should I meet another person I hope to spend a life with and they wanted to live together then I would require the west wing of any dwelling to myself.

[Orema]

I love living alone. The perfect partnership for me would be for both of us to live on different sides of the park (or lake, or mountain). Spend a night or two at your place, a night or two at my place, then retreat to our own places to rejuvenate.

[SirenManda]

Before I moved to Seattle I attempted living alone but ended up having family stay with my constantly because actually being alone felt empty. Growing up with a big family (tons of cousins) I got used to people being around all the time, just background talking or someone always wanting to watch movies or just hang out. As I've gotten older and moved away, I noticed I appreciate alone time and privacy more even though I actually live with my husband. More of a "he's at work, look at all the things I can do!" sense of it. I'd have people come stay as long as they'd like if honey would be okay with it. I like being around people I guess.

[Kelt]

Originally Posted by Orema

I love living alone. The perfect partnership for me would be for both of us to live on different sides of the park (or lake, or mountain). Spend a night or two at your place, a night or two at my place, then retreat to our own places to rejuvenate.

This can work really well. I had this for five years where we were a few miles across town. 3 nights a week together, 4 nights doing our own thing. It was perfect (for me). Ultimately she decided she wanted the white picket fence. I think you have to find the right style of introvert to match, extroverts tend to want the "on" all the time kind of set up. At least in my experience.

[*Anya*]

Back when I first wrote in this thread, I was still living alone.

I never hated it. Lonely sometimes: yes, of course.

Did I develop what could be called by some as weird behaviors living alone: yes.

On the other hand, I don't think the desire or need to live alone is weird or strange at all.

I am an introvert so learning to live with someone again has been a challenge in some ways.

When I met my GF, I slowly began to spend more nights at her house, until I really was not spending any at my own.

It was moving in-introvert style. My brand of introvert anyway.

I do miss living alone sometimes.

Those times that I really want and need to be in my own head; don't feel like making the bed or picking stuff up that I have strewn about; don't feel like doing the dishes or cooking (I used to live on Special K for dinner when I lived alone) etc.; then I miss living alone.

For example, my GF always is half-apologetic when she plays 18-holes on the weekend and then has a beer afterward with the 4-some she plays with. Her ex used to get mad when she did that.

I smile and say: "have a great time!" And I really mean it. She does not quite "get" that.

That is my time to put my PJ's on (even 2 in the afternoon), read a book, watch a B movie or just do nothing but listen to silence. That is heavenly to me.

Living with someone, even when you love them, can be a challenge. As can living alone.

Neither makes one weird. We are who we are.

[QueenofSmirks]

I LOVE living alone! I've been living alone for 13 years, and I love it! Some of my "quirky" living alone behaviors:
- I do laundry at all hours because I don't have to worry about waking anyone else.
-Sometimes I leave (non-perishable) groceries sitting in the bags on the kitchen counter because I feel too lazy to put them away at that moment.
-If I feel particularly frustrated about something, I may scold myself out loud to give myself a verbal ass kicking.
-I fold back the comforter to the other side of the bed so making the bed is easier in the morning.
-I sometimes use the other side of the bed as a temporary holding place for all the clothes I've just folded and haven't put away yet.

I'm sure there are many others!