My daughter and Japanese anime-should I be concerned?

Asari · 07-29-2014, 12:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Gráinne

1) Is this a common thing in Japanese anime culture, or the culture of Japan itself? I had a feeling that Japanese culture is much more male-oriented than the U.S.

As far as I know it is. Hasn't influenced me that much though.
Anime has a lot more to offer. I was really obsessed with it (ALL of it) for a few years, still into ghibli and cosplay.

QueenofSmirks · 07-29-2014, 01:12 PM

I think it's like anything else - you should monitor the things she is interested and participating in. Don't assume because others were completely obsessed with it when they were teenagers and are now "fine" that your daughter will be. She may interpret the content completely differently, and yes, all stimuli has an impact on us, so yes, comic books, video games, television, our family, even strangers have an impact on us. It's how we interpret all those interactions that matter. So, if you can make your opinion heard with regard to what she is reading/watching/doing, then you should.

Allison W · 08-19-2014, 11:40 PM

Forgive my thread necromancy, but...

A bit, yes. Not because she's watching animu per se--I think every teenage nerd watches the animu--but because of the drivel she is watching (in particular, it would worry me that she seems like she might be interested in domineering jerkass dudes). You could perhaps try to steer her towards different shows, like the ones dykeumentary mentioned, and see if she takes to them. (I also liked Madoka, but strangely, I never did sit down and pick apart its themes from a feminist perspective; mostly I just watched and enjoyed. It's pretty brutal for a magical girl show, though.)

If you hear the words "Kill La Kill," though, then by all means, it is time to freak the fuck out.

Gráinne · 08-20-2014, 09:13 AM

This is a good time for an update

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By her own admission, she enjoys the romantic Otome stories (the ones with choices that affect the outcome of the story) the best. They're the electronic version of corny teenage books when I was coming up. None of these have explicit sex or violence, and while they are sappy and a bit unrealistic (a prince of a European country marries a Japanese commoner?), I have read them and don't see a big harm in them. I have pointed out how a jackass isn't the kind of guy she wants, and she understands that. Many of these guys act like jerks or exaggerations at first, before revealing a softer side and the main conflict of the story.

She has to watch out for stories set in feudal Japan which do tend to get violent and/or explicit. Much of anime she enjoys for the music playlist or the artwork (she's an artist).

So, as long as she's keeping up her grades, doing well, and not favoring anime guys to real people, I don't foresee a big problem. She enjoys it when I watch with her, so that's good

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Thanks, everyone!

07-29-2014, 01:12 PM	#2
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08-20-2014, 09:13 AM	#4
Gráinne Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Neither, nada, out of the box Preferred Pronoun?: My name always works Relationship Status: Happy whatever happens Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Little Rock Posts: 1,864 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,117 Thanked 7,388 Times in 1,457 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	This is a good time for an update . By her own admission, she enjoys the romantic Otome stories (the ones with choices that affect the outcome of the story) the best. They're the electronic version of corny teenage books when I was coming up. None of these have explicit sex or violence, and while they are sappy and a bit unrealistic (a prince of a European country marries a Japanese commoner?), I have read them and don't see a big harm in them. I have pointed out how a jackass isn't the kind of guy she wants, and she understands that. Many of these guys act like jerks or exaggerations at first, before revealing a softer side and the main conflict of the story. She has to watch out for stories set in feudal Japan which do tend to get violent and/or explicit. Much of anime she enjoys for the music playlist or the artwork (she's an artist). So, as long as she's keeping up her grades, doing well, and not favoring anime guys to real people, I don't foresee a big problem. She enjoys it when I watch with her, so that's good . Thanks, everyone! __________________ The odds of going to the store for a loaf of bread and coming out with only a loaf of bread are three billion to one. ~Erma Bombeck

08-19-2014, 11:40 PM	#3
Allison W Member How Do You Identify?: TG Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Loner Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 366 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,414 Thanked 1,195 Times in 319 Posts Rep Power: 12203815	Forgive my thread necromancy, but... A bit, yes. Not because she's watching animu per se--I think every teenage nerd watches the animu--but because of the drivel she is watching (in particular, it would worry me that she seems like she might be interested in domineering jerkass dudes). You could perhaps try to steer her towards different shows, like the ones dykeumentary mentioned, and see if she takes to them. (I also liked Madoka, but strangely, I never did sit down and pick apart its themes from a feminist perspective; mostly I just watched and enjoyed. It's pretty brutal for a magical girl show, though.) If you hear the words "Kill La Kill," though, then by all means, it is time to freak the fuck out.