Demographics of how we date/partner/be single

Nadeest · 10-12-2014, 08:47 PM

I'm definitely single, and not dating. That is because I haven't found anyone, though. I'd happily go out with someone nice, that asked me out, right now, no matter what their age, as long as they were of legal age.

imperfect_cupcake · 10-12-2014, 08:58 PM

Ok when you *do* date do you usually date casually and more than one until you find yourself drawn more to one more than the rest? Or do you only date one person at a time, for many weeks than if it doesn't work, break things off and try again with someone else?

Mel C. · 10-12-2014, 09:05 PM

Too bad I can't change my answer on polls. I answered for Sunday but might want to change my answer tomorrow.

Orema · 10-13-2014, 06:31 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by honeybarbara

Ok when you *do* date do you usually date casually and more than one until you find yourself drawn more to one more than the rest? Or do you only date one person at a time, for many weeks than if it doesn't work, break things off and try again with someone else?

Single, not dating, not having casual sex.

When I date it's one butch at a time and if it doesn't work out I move on.

I have a crush on someone

it's pretty strong and I'm not going to date anyone until we work this out.

Gemme · 10-13-2014, 06:42 AM

Single, not dating, not having casual sex.

Nadeest · 11-13-2014, 10:28 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by honeybarbara

Ok when you *do* date do you usually date casually and more than one until you find yourself drawn more to one more than the rest? Or do you only date one person at a time, for many weeks than if it doesn't work, break things off and try again with someone else?

I don't really have enough information yet, to be able to answer your question. In the past, when I lived as a male, I tended to date one person at a time; however, everything changed for me, after transition. I don't know how I will do things, now. I AM open to dating multiple people at one time, just as I would also consider a poly relationship. The first person that I dated, after I transitioned was poly, and that opened my thoughts to the possibility.

Gaige · 10-12-2014, 09:11 PM

Single, not dating, no casual sex. I need an attraction in order to be able to have sex with a femme. And if there is an attraction, I’ll most likely try to date her.

diamondrose · 10-12-2014, 09:36 PM

Committed and monogamous..almost married.

Uli · 10-12-2014, 10:07 PM

I got an error when I tried to answer the poll.

Partnered and monogamish.

imperfect_cupcake · 10-12-2014, 10:31 PM

Uli does monogamish mean you have sex outside the relationship but not emotionally have other relationships? (Non-monogamy rather than poly)

Uli · 10-13-2014, 10:06 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by honeybarbara

Uli does monogamish mean you have sex outside the relationship but not emotionally have other relationships? (Non-monogamy rather than poly)

Yeah, that's pretty much it. It's more a theory than an actual practice at this point, meaning we have created rules around sex outside of our relationship but neither one of us has actually encountered anyone else we wanna get it on with in the past 2 years.

It's a super fun, life-affirming sort of charge of energy when you encounter someone new to whom you feel attracted - I don't see any reason to make that experience 'forbidden' in order to maintain a long-term relationship.

10-13-2014, 10:31 AM

Single, not currently dating, infrequent, opportunistic, casual sex opportunities.

starryeyes · 10-14-2014, 08:03 AM

Seeing someone and monogamous

Kätzchen · 10-14-2014, 12:47 PM

Single (for quite some time, now).

Not dating.

Not romantically involved.

Not sexual with anyone.

I am of a monogamous orientation.

I am fussy about who I spend my time with.

It takes time for me to become romantically involved.

'Crush' is not a part of my vocabulary.

Red-Dragon · 10-15-2014, 11:04 AM

single no casual sex tried the casual sex one didnt suite me but for now i'm staying single unless i magicaly find someone when i drive to and from work lol

imperfect_cupcake · 10-15-2014, 12:20 PM

I wish I could re-write that option... That slash means casual dating/ casual sex like monogamy/polyfidelity in the other options means you are monogamous OR polyfidelitous...

That option means you are: casually dating more than one person (talking to, getting to know, hanging out with) OR are you having causal sex OR both.

I apologize for the flaw in not making that clear for people.

View Poll Results: How do we date/partner/be single?
Single, not dating, not having casual sex	28	29.17%
Single, casual dating/casual sex	8	8.33%
Single, dating one person, no commitments	12	12.50%
Seeing someone/partnered/married - closed relationship - monogamy or polyfidelity	36	37.50%
Seeing people/someone, partnered or married - open relationships- nonmonogamy/polyamory ect	12	12.50%
Voters: 96. You may not vote on this poll

10-13-2014, 06:42 AM	#5
Gemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Queer Stone Femme Girl of the Unicorn Variety Preferred Pronoun?: She, as in 'She's a GEM' Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The roads are narrow here Posts: 36,631 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 182,498 Thanked 107,972 Times in 25,664 Posts Rep Power: 21474888	Single, not dating, not having casual sex. __________________ Gemme's Journal I'm misunderestimated.

10-14-2014, 08:03 AM	#13
starryeyes Senior Member How Do You Identify?: a round peg in a square hole Preferred Pronoun?: Guess... Relationship Status: Seat taken Join Date: May 2011 Location: Rocky Mountain High Posts: 2,491 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,199 Thanked 10,052 Times in 2,076 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Seeing someone and monogamous __________________ "It's ok to make mistakes. It's ok to fall down. Get up! Look sickening....and make them eat it!" - Latrice Royale Starry

10-14-2014, 12:47 PM	#14
Kätzchen Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, please. Join Date: May 2010 Location: Somewhere over the rainbow ツ Posts: 16,055 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,111 Thanked 33,514 Times in 10,640 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	I am.... Single (for quite some time, now). Not dating. Not romantically involved. Not sexual with anyone. I am of a monogamous orientation. I am fussy about who I spend my time with. It takes time for me to become romantically involved. 'Crush' is not a part of my vocabulary. __________________ “In the end, it’s not about how much stuff you have, it’s about how many hearts you touched,” — Iva Ursano.

10-12-2014, 08:47 PM	#1
Nadeest Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Leesburg, FL Posts: 595 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,876 Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts Rep Power: 17077997	I'm definitely single, and not dating. That is because I haven't found anyone, though. I'd happily go out with someone nice, that asked me out, right now, no matter what their age, as long as they were of legal age.

10-12-2014, 08:58 PM	#2
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,711 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Ok when you do date do you usually date casually and more than one until you find yourself drawn more to one more than the rest? Or do you only date one person at a time, for many weeks than if it doesn't work, break things off and try again with someone else?

10-12-2014, 09:05 PM	#3
Mel C. Long-time Member How Do You Identify?: WIB - woman identified butch Preferred Pronoun?: Your choice...not really a button for me Relationship Status: ♡ married 1/1/2019♡ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: San Diego Posts: 2,149 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,772 Thanked 6,828 Times in 1,621 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Too bad I can't change my answer on polls. I answered for Sunday but might want to change my answer tomorrow.

10-12-2014, 09:11 PM	#7
Gaige Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Butch Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: above my boots Posts: 2,097 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,649 Thanked 3,755 Times in 1,171 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Single, not dating, no casual sex. I need an attraction in order to be able to have sex with a femme. And if there is an attraction, I’ll most likely try to date her.

10-12-2014, 09:36 PM	#8
diamondrose Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: . Posts: 1,384 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2 Thanked 2,895 Times in 923 Posts Rep Power: 13536274	Committed and monogamous..almost married.

10-12-2014, 10:07 PM	#9
Uli Member How Do You Identify?: fat girl Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married! Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: - Posts: 112 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 173 Thanked 529 Times in 104 Posts Rep Power: 3865493	I got an error when I tried to answer the poll. Partnered and monogamish.

10-12-2014, 10:31 PM	#10
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,711 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Uli does monogamish mean you have sex outside the relationship but not emotionally have other relationships? (Non-monogamy rather than poly)

10-13-2014, 10:31 AM	#12
Daktari Guest Tournaments Won: 1 Posts: n/a My Photo Gallery	Single, not currently dating, infrequent, opportunistic, casual sex opportunities.

10-15-2014, 11:04 AM	#15
Red-Dragon Member How Do You Identify?: just me Preferred Pronoun?: hym/dude/him/bro Relationship Status: single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Alberta Posts: 139 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1 Thanked 87 Times in 35 Posts Rep Power: 447654	single no casual sex tried the casual sex one didnt suite me but for now i'm staying single unless i magicaly find someone when i drive to and from work lol

10-15-2014, 12:20 PM	#16
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,711 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I wish I could re-write that option... That slash means casual dating/ casual sex like monogamy/polyfidelity in the other options means you are monogamous OR polyfidelitous... That option means you are: casually dating more than one person (talking to, getting to know, hanging out with) OR are you having causal sex OR both. I apologize for the flaw in not making that clear for people.