Does a Soulmate really Exist?

[Ginger]

IMO, a soul mate is someone who really "gets" you, sees your strengths without idealizing you and accepts your flaws without contempt.

Someone you can be yourself with, who makes it easy to be your best self.

On top of that, you share surface things with this person, like activities and aesthetics and ways of being in the world, not to mention, sexual energy.

I don't think everyone will experience that dynamic or have what we're calling a "soul mate."

I believe we do everything in our power to be open and true to ourselves etc. but there are things we aren't in control of, being in the right place at the right time to meet that person.

I don't mean to be negative, I just think that's the way it is. It's part of being alive, to accept this. IMO.

[puddin']

i believe a soul mate is not a sexual partner, per se. it can be but it's not mutually exclusive.

it is way beyond sexual, in my opinion.

[TIMBERWOLF]

I have looked for many years for my soul mate. And have dated a few but it wasn't until I quit looking for a couple of years ,that I realized that a very good friend that I loved as a friend for 12 yrs, was actually my Soul mate. We married 11/2-14 with no regrets . I love her with every being in me. We have actually been together since Aug,but it seems like just yesterday. Being married though seems like we have been together forever and don't know of another life before. I think that means she is my soul mate to me.

[Daniela]

Originally Posted by puddin'

i believe a soul mate is not a sexual partner, per se. it can be but it's not mutually exclusive.

it is way beyond sexual, in my opinion.

This is interesting...I've never heard anyone express that before.

But does this mean, then, that your soulmate could theoretically be your Mom or Dad?

[KayCee]

The 'thing' with your soulmate is that you just can't go out and try to find them somewhere.

No, you find EACHOTHER..out of nowhere and at the weirdest places and in times you would have never expected. And you just know in a split second even only after sharing a few thoughts.

You know they are your soulmate because they resemble everything and everybody to you.

They are your father, mother, sister, brother, your best friend and even your puppy dog you never really had.

They are the best lover because they just KNOW what you need, feel and think right in that moment.

They look in to your eyes and see YOU for what and who you are and accept you just the way you are. Your looks, the way you laugh, talk, your voice, mind..they adore everything about you although you're not at any means 'perfect'. It doesn't matter.

A soulmate guides you through life, criticizes where it's needed and reels you back in when go too far and out of line, but always in a loving, protective way and always for your own good.

They support you in anything you put your mind to, because they believe in you.

With a soulmate on your side you have a HOME for life, in your soul and in your heart, forever.

They give you wings to fly out to the world so you can thrive and become a better person for yourself, them, your life and their's....

....only to come back home to the warmth and security of their arms.

It's absolute unconditional love for as long as you both live..and beyond.

That's my soulmate.

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by KayCee

The 'thing' with your soulmate is that you just can't go out and try to find them somewhere.

No, you find EACHOTHER..out of nowhere and at the weirdest places and in times you would have never expected. And you just know in a split second even only after sharing a few thoughts.

You know they are your soulmate because they resemble everything and everybody to you.

They are your father, mother, sister, brother, your best friend and even your puppy dog you never really had.

They are the best lover because they just KNOW what you need, feel and think right in that moment.

They look in to your eyes and see YOU for what and who you are and accept you just the way you are. Your looks, the way you laugh, talk, your voice, mind..they adore everything about you although you're not at any means 'perfect'. It doesn't matter.

A soulmate guides you through life, criticizes where it's needed and reels you back in when go too far and out of line, but always in a loving, protective way and always for your own good.

They support you in anything you put your mind to, because they believe in you.

With a soulmate on your side you have a HOME for life, in your soul and in your heart, forever.

They give you wings to fly out to the world so you can thrive and become a better person for yourself, them, your life and their's....

....only to come back home to the warmth and security of their arms.

It's absolute unconditional love for as long as you both live..and beyond.

That's my soulmate.

I think this is a fantastic description of your version of a soul mate. I don't think that this exists outside of, as Mel said, TV and movies and the entertainment spin but I hope you find this person and that it feels this way to you.

My best friend growing up was a soul mate. We're not in touch anymore but she left an indelible mark on me and, during some really rough times, she supported and loved me without effort and thought. It just was. Without it and without her, I would have been lost.

I haven't been able to duplicate that feeling with a romantic partner but that's okay. I'm lucky to have experienced it once.

[puddin']

Originally Posted by Daniela

This is interesting...I've never heard anyone express that before.

But does this mean, then, that your soulmate could theoretically be your Mom or Dad?

it means it could be anyone. anyone who challenges and believes in you i say...