The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

Andrew, Jr. · 11-21-2009, 02:56 PM

Hi All! I'm 46 yo. This last year has really aged me. Life is very unfair, and unkind, but I am surviving.

I will definitely be back to see my friends who are in the same boat.

Namaste,
Andrew

MysticOceansFL · 07-04-2010, 06:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

Hi All! I'm 46 yo. This last year has really aged me. Life is very unfair, and unkind, but I am surviving.

I will definitely be back to see my friends who are in the same boat.

Namaste,
Andrew

Hello to all who are graciously getting older I am 47 and I think life gets better as you age! and I am a great great Aunte!

Wryly · 07-04-2010, 08:11 AM

Happy Independence Day to all you Americans!

Well - my weekend plans changed - I ended up not going to my SIL's place. Instead I went to the Dyke March in Toronto. Walked around the gay village and saw what was there to be seen. Didn't go into any of the beer tents - I find stuff like that is more fun if you are with a friend. Had a snack and walked around some more. Then I got my eyebrow pierced - which really tired me out so I left Toronto earlier than planned. Damn I'm old!!!
Today I'm going to tidy up the apartment and then go pick my sister up at the train station this afternoon.

My .02 on the younger/older: I've never dated anyone a lot younger than myself - like in their 20s but I would date someone in their late 30s. I am 47.

MysticOceans - I'm a great Auntie too. My brother, who is a year older, is a grandfather.

lipstixgal · 07-04-2010, 08:17 AM

Happy 4th of July to all those celebrating, don't go blowing yourself up with those fireworks. Well for me they are illegal here in this part of NJ but at night I hear people lighting them. Anyway, no plans for me. My family doesn't bother with me so its just me and the dogs!! have a great one..

07-04-2010, 09:06 AM

Happy Independence Day to y'all. I hope everyone is having a fantastic time doing what they want to do with whoever they want to do it with.

I'm feeling rather the worse for wear today after attending a barbecue party with friends yesterday. *holds head*

Mrs.Incubus got her gorgeous curls cut short. Well short with a long fringe (I think you 'mericans call it bangs). It looks fantastic and she looks as gorgeous as ever and she brought me a hank of what was cut off too.

lipstixgal · 07-04-2010, 09:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Incubus

Happy Independence Day to y'all. I hope everyone is having a fantastic time doing what they want to do with whoever they want to do it with.

I'm feeling rather the worse for wear today after attending a barbecue party with friends yesterday. *holds head*

Mrs.Incubus got her gorgeous curls cut short. Well short with a long fringe (I think you 'mericans call it bangs). It looks fantastic and she looks as gorgeous as ever and she brought me a hank of what was cut off too.

Oh Incubus you are too funny with your words. Yes we mericans call them bangs. You call them fringes that's interesting. So you have a hangover that's what thats called. Take some alka seltzer for you head and tummy!! Its now lunch time and I'm going to eat my chicken sandwich. Think I going to make scones today need heavy cream though which means I have to go to the store ugh!! Or maybe yet have some strong coffee or you don't drink that have some

that will help too. Have a happy day all.

Rockinonahigh · 07-04-2010, 09:52 AM

Me either.give a holla ad let me know when.

07-05-2010, 04:40 AM

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Originally Posted by lipstixgal

Oh Incubus you are too funny with your words. Yes we mericans call them bangs. You call them fringes that's interesting. So you have a hangover that's what thats called. Take some alka seltzer for you head and tummy!! Its now lunch time and I'm going to eat my chicken sandwich. Think I going to make scones today need heavy cream though which means I have to go to the store ugh!! Or maybe yet have some strong coffee or you don't drink that have some

that will help too. Have a happy day all.

I rather like that we are "two nations divided by a common language" ...tomayto, tomarto and all that jazz!

I have recovered from what was a most severe hangover - never ever drink neat Pimms folks, I know I never shall again!

Did you make scones lipstixgal?

Glenn · 07-05-2010, 05:13 AM

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Originally Posted by MysticOceansFL

Hello to all who are graciously getting older I am 47 and I think life gets better as you age! and I am a great great Aunte!

Us butches never age LOL!

Lady_Wu · 09-25-2010, 05:28 PM

nin hao, lofters! i haven't been around in awhile. during my time away, i've survived a relapse of rsd, a break-up (amicable), and contuning to be a care-taker. it IS difficult to be in your 40s and 50s and suddenly becoming a care-taker when one did not expect it.
though not greying yet (genetic?), i too would not go back to being younger. i have learned too much to want to do so. in fact, i am trying to unlearn things i learned when younger. i know more about what/whom i want now and can afford to jettison old attitudes and things that simply do not work anymore. i am quite happy w/me and my own company now. been a long journey to get here, though.
Lady_Wu

lipstixgal · 09-25-2010, 05:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Lady_Wu

nin hao, lofters! i haven't been around in awhile. during my time away, i've survived a relapse of rsd, a break-up (amicable), and contuning to be a care-taker. it IS difficult to be in your 40s and 50s and suddenly becoming a care-taker when one did not expect it.
though not greying yet (genetic?), i too would not go back to being younger. i have learned too much to want to do so. in fact, i am trying to unlearn things i learned when younger. i know more about what/whom i want now and can afford to jettison old attitudes and things that simply do not work anymore. i am quite happy w/me and my own company now. been a long journey to get here, though.
Lady_Wu

What's rsd? hope you are on the mend!!

morningstar55 · 09-25-2010, 05:46 PM

wow....... did ya'll feel that??? that breeezzz??? hmmmm ** looking around**.. must of been that Jet stream coming in from Georgia way.. heh

evening LadyWu .. glad to see you doing ok over there..

Jet · 09-25-2010, 06:43 PM

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Originally Posted by morningstar55

wow....... did ya'll feel that??? that breeezzz??? hmmmm ** looking around**.. must of been that Jet stream coming in from Georgia way.. heh

evening LadyWu .. glad to see you doing ok over there..

i'm glad i cooled u off barb heh

morningstar55 · 09-25-2010, 06:48 PM

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i'm glad i cooled u off barb heh

cooled off??? nahh actually . it was a nice warm breeze ..the kind that feels like a hug and leaves you with a smile. *wink*

morningstar55 · 09-25-2010, 06:50 PM

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Originally Posted by morningstar55

wow....... did ya'll feel that??? that breeezzz??? hmmmm ** looking around**.. must of been that Jet stream coming in from Georgia way.. heh

evening LadyWu .. glad to see you doing ok over there..

Lady Wu.. well glad ur ok for the most part...... sorry your going thru so much pains... wish there was something we could do to help.

ruthie14 · 09-25-2010, 07:37 PM

Well spent yesterday in lots of pain, last night could only pace and toss my cookies, so today I spent in the er trying to get rid of a migraine. Whatever new stuff they give for migraines these days didn't work as well as what they gave me 4 years ago.. took 3 times with new meds to finally get rid of it. Came home had grits and slept for 4 hours. Figured I best get up and get dinner at least and move around a bit so I'll sleep through the night. Strange having dinner at 9 pm. lol Oh well, at least the pain is gone!

morningstar55 · 09-25-2010, 08:14 PM

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Originally Posted by ruthie14

Well spent yesterday in lots of pain, last night could only pace and toss my cookies, so today I spent in the er trying to get rid of a migraine. Whatever new stuff they give for migraines these days didn't work as well as what they gave me 4 years ago.. took 3 times with new meds to finally get rid of it. Came home had grits and slept for 4 hours. Figured I best get up and get dinner at least and move around a bit so I'll sleep through the night. Strange having dinner at 9 pm. lol Oh well, at least the pain is gone!

wow glad ur feeling better.....

lipstixgal · 09-26-2010, 05:50 AM

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Originally Posted by ruthie14

Well spent yesterday in lots of pain, last night could only pace and toss my cookies, so today I spent in the er trying to get rid of a migraine. Whatever new stuff they give for migraines these days didn't work as well as what they gave me 4 years ago.. took 3 times with new meds to finally get rid of it. Came home had grits and slept for 4 hours. Figured I best get up and get dinner at least and move around a bit so I'll sleep through the night. Strange having dinner at 9 pm. lol Oh well, at least the pain is gone!

I don't understand why they don't put you on imitrex or something like it for maintenance so you don't have to go to the ER all the time. but glad you are feeling better. I used to get migraines all the time with Lyme's disease so I understand pain!! glad you are on the mend..

Lady_Wu · 09-25-2010, 05:51 PM

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Originally Posted by lipstixgal

What's rsd? hope you are on the mend!!

rsd is reflex sympathetic dystrophy, other defined as "PAIN disease."i am quite serious-that IS how it's defined. it is sometimes caused by an accident or sometimes you are just born w/it. in my case, though i did have a very bad auto accident, i think i was born w/it. i remember having these symptoms-extreme pain and cramping of my right extremeities-as a child. i am on the fentanyl patch and ultram for pain. sometimes even that does not help. i deal pretty well, though, and try not to complain. others have things far worse.
thank you for the well-wish!
Lady_Wu

naturlover_52 · 10-04-2010, 02:33 AM

I can toltally relate to relapsing and being a caretaker
I was and did both recently.,....until brother;s felt dad and I would be better off w/ him in a retirement home...and me out here in the world...DO I miss being w/ him...YES.....could I handle it....now....no....need to get well and be happy....hope that doesn't sound selfish.....

07-04-2010, 09:52 AM	#7
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Cowboi Me either.give a holla ad let me know when.

09-25-2010, 05:28 PM	#10
Lady_Wu Member How Do You Identify?: OFOS Queer Stone femme Preferred Pronoun?: M'Lady Relationship Status: given up looking sigh Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: somewhere buried under a pile of books Posts: 197 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 285 Thanked 300 Times in 105 Posts Rep Power: 155956	haven't been around in awhile... nin hao, lofters! i haven't been around in awhile. during my time away, i've survived a relapse of rsd, a break-up (amicable), and contuning to be a care-taker. it IS difficult to be in your 40s and 50s and suddenly becoming a care-taker when one did not expect it. though not greying yet (genetic?), i too would not go back to being younger. i have learned too much to want to do so. in fact, i am trying to unlearn things i learned when younger. i know more about what/whom i want now and can afford to jettison old attitudes and things that simply do not work anymore. i am quite happy w/me and my own company now. been a long journey to get here, though. Lady_Wu __________________ I'm the Yin in the Yang and the Yang in the Yin.

09-25-2010, 05:46 PM	#12
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	wow....... did ya'll feel that??? that breeezzz??? hmmmm looking around.. must of been that Jet stream coming in from Georgia way.. heh evening LadyWu .. glad to see you doing ok over there.. __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

10-04-2010, 02:33 AM	#20
naturlover_52 Member How Do You Identify?: soft butch/bi Preferred Pronoun?: she and her are just fine....Sweetcheeks hey you Relationship Status: seeing someone long distance but soon will be both in Ca love her very much Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: So Calif East San Gabrielle Valley aka the land of shake and bake Posts: 108 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 85 Thanked 89 Times in 44 Posts Rep Power: 3426	Wu I can toltally relate to relapsing and being a caretaker I was and did both recently.,....until brother;s felt dad and I would be better off w/ him in a retirement home...and me out here in the world...DO I miss being w/ him...YES.....could I handle it....now....no....need to get well and be happy....hope that doesn't sound selfish.....

11-21-2009, 02:56 PM	#1
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	Hi All! I'm 46 yo. This last year has really aged me. Life is very unfair, and unkind, but I am surviving. I will definitely be back to see my friends who are in the same boat. Namaste, Andrew

07-04-2010, 08:11 AM	#3
Wryly Member How Do You Identify?: bemused butch Preferred Pronoun?: polite ones, please Relationship Status: single butch Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: my little butch house Posts: 988 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,789 Thanked 1,568 Times in 620 Posts Rep Power: 14094254	Happy Independence Day to all you Americans! Well - my weekend plans changed - I ended up not going to my SIL's place. Instead I went to the Dyke March in Toronto. Walked around the gay village and saw what was there to be seen. Didn't go into any of the beer tents - I find stuff like that is more fun if you are with a friend. Had a snack and walked around some more. Then I got my eyebrow pierced - which really tired me out so I left Toronto earlier than planned. Damn I'm old!!! Today I'm going to tidy up the apartment and then go pick my sister up at the train station this afternoon. My .02 on the younger/older: I've never dated anyone a lot younger than myself - like in their 20s but I would date someone in their late 30s. I am 47. MysticOceans - I'm a great Auntie too. My brother, who is a year older, is a grandfather.

07-04-2010, 08:17 AM	#4
lipstixgal Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: coupled Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: New Jersey Posts: 3,028 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 201 Thanked 1,690 Times in 1,064 Posts Rep Power: 1494761	Happy 4th of July to all those celebrating, don't go blowing yourself up with those fireworks. Well for me they are illegal here in this part of NJ but at night I hear people lighting them. Anyway, no plans for me. My family doesn't bother with me so its just me and the dogs!! have a great one..

07-04-2010, 09:06 AM	#5
Daktari Guest Tournaments Won: 1 Posts: n/a My Photo Gallery	Happy Independence Day to y'all. I hope everyone is having a fantastic time doing what they want to do with whoever they want to do it with. I'm feeling rather the worse for wear today after attending a barbecue party with friends yesterday. holds head Mrs.Incubus got her gorgeous curls cut short. Well short with a long fringe (I think you 'mericans call it bangs). It looks fantastic and she looks as gorgeous as ever and she brought me a hank of what was cut off too.

09-25-2010, 07:37 PM	#16
ruthie14 Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 844 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,904 Thanked 1,245 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 5946335	Well spent yesterday in lots of pain, last night could only pace and toss my cookies, so today I spent in the er trying to get rid of a migraine. Whatever new stuff they give for migraines these days didn't work as well as what they gave me 4 years ago.. took 3 times with new meds to finally get rid of it. Came home had grits and slept for 4 hours. Figured I best get up and get dinner at least and move around a bit so I'll sleep through the night. Strange having dinner at 9 pm. lol Oh well, at least the pain is gone!