Questions about dating sites

imperfect_cupcake · 02-03-2015, 06:49 PM

I know it's area dependant, but I still have questions.

As I'm sure you do too!

So that's why I put this up.

I almost never contact anyone on OK Cupid anymore. Though I actually like that site best for the way it's set up with all the questions. It's easier to see who would be suitable. But in the two plus years I've used it, I've had... Maybe five? People respond. Yup. Five. I don't know how many butches I've written to in two years. Maybe 30? Just barely over one a month? 15 a year?

5/30.... 1/6. I suppose that's not bad. I've had maybe four contact me first in two years. One sever six months or so sounded about right.

It's mostly femmes asking me if I want to try something new. I get a couple femmes a week asking.

POF, much better response. Butches or masculine of centre actually speak to me there.

My question is, if you have a profile up, where is it and what is your response rate like and do people initially contact you? What's the ratio of you contacting others, to people contacting you?

Just curious, really. No other reason.

WildHorses · 02-03-2015, 10:02 PM

I was on it - still am because I have been too lazy to remove me.
The site only matched me with other butches LMFAO! And no, I have not
had anyone contact me.

Now that this has come up I really need to get off of that site.
I have exactly who I want!

JDeere · 02-03-2015, 10:23 PM

When I was on dating sites, it was about 50/50. I got matched with just about everyone from femmes to butch to other transmen. I haven't been on any site lately, I deleted all my ads because I came across folks that were fake, ignorant or snotty.

Mormegil · 04-01-2015, 10:23 PM

Im done with dating sites. ive been on and off them for about 5 years. Okcupid and Pof. Not many women in my area on okcupid that want what i want. 99% just want a hookup and the other 1% are invisible i assume.

had better luck with Pof in actually finding people to communicate with me but nothing came of it but bs . nobody contacted me on okcupid .but on pof was mostly femmes. i like both butch and femme so was fine. but yeah im so tired of those sites.

Blade · 04-09-2015, 06:53 PM

I was on a few dating sites for a while. I met a few crazies, and a few really good friends. I'm not on any now. The crazies caused me to have nightmares. I'll just stick to taking my chances in the real world

Virago · 04-09-2015, 09:50 PM

What's POF?

JDeere · 04-09-2015, 09:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Virago

What's POF?

POF is plenty of fish.com

02-03-2015, 06:49 PM	#1
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Questions about dating sites I know it's area dependant, but I still have questions. As I'm sure you do too! So that's why I put this up. I almost never contact anyone on OK Cupid anymore. Though I actually like that site best for the way it's set up with all the questions. It's easier to see who would be suitable. But in the two plus years I've used it, I've had... Maybe five? People respond. Yup. Five. I don't know how many butches I've written to in two years. Maybe 30? Just barely over one a month? 15 a year? 5/30.... 1/6. I suppose that's not bad. I've had maybe four contact me first in two years. One sever six months or so sounded about right. It's mostly femmes asking me if I want to try something new. I get a couple femmes a week asking. POF, much better response. Butches or masculine of centre actually speak to me there. My question is, if you have a profile up, where is it and what is your response rate like and do people initially contact you? What's the ratio of you contacting others, to people contacting you? Just curious, really. No other reason.

02-03-2015, 10:02 PM	#2
WildHorses Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Butch/Big Heart/Rough Edge Preferred Pronoun?: Hy, She, Hym, Whatever, it really does not matter but do NOT call me lady! Relationship Status: Crazy over Genesis! Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Northern CA Posts: 1,216 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,840 Thanked 2,426 Times in 917 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I was on it - still am because I have been too lazy to remove me. The site only matched me with other butches LMFAO! And no, I have not had anyone contact me. Now that this has come up I really need to get off of that site. I have exactly who I want! __________________ There's nothing more beautiful than the way the ocean refuses to stop kissing the shoreline, no matter how many times it's sent away. Sarah Kay

02-03-2015, 10:23 PM	#3
JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,845 Times in 9,708 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	When I was on dating sites, it was about 50/50. I got matched with just about everyone from femmes to butch to other transmen. I haven't been on any site lately, I deleted all my ads because I came across folks that were fake, ignorant or snotty. __________________ Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning. Albert Einstein

04-01-2015, 10:23 PM	#4
Mormegil Junior Member How Do You Identify?: just myself Preferred Pronoun?: meh Relationship Status: single Join Date: May 2014 Location: pensacola , FL Posts: 64 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31 Thanked 184 Times in 50 Posts Rep Power: 1853353	Im done with dating sites. ive been on and off them for about 5 years. Okcupid and Pof. Not many women in my area on okcupid that want what i want. 99% just want a hookup and the other 1% are invisible i assume. had better luck with Pof in actually finding people to communicate with me but nothing came of it but bs . nobody contacted me on okcupid .but on pof was mostly femmes. i like both butch and femme so was fine. but yeah im so tired of those sites. __________________ "All is full of love"

04-09-2015, 06:53 PM	#5
Blade Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: TG Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: once in a while someone amazing comes along...and here I am! Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Down on the farm Posts: 5,501 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,855 Thanked 14,418 Times in 4,058 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I was on a few dating sites for a while. I met a few crazies, and a few really good friends. I'm not on any now. The crazies caused me to have nightmares. I'll just stick to taking my chances in the real world __________________ Yeah so what if I'm triple dipped in awesome sauce? The best way to predict the future, is to create it.

04-09-2015, 09:50 PM	#6
Virago Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 387 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 404 Thanked 1,122 Times in 306 Posts Rep Power: 8364711	What's POF?