For those for whom Mother's Day is not a Good Day

Gemme · 05-04-2010, 11:21 AM

My mother died a few years ago and, as sad as it may seem to say, it was a blessing. Her mental and physical health had been declining for many years but, honestly, it also took a weight off of my shoulders. I liked her as a person and could see that she did the best she could for me, but there was no connection beyond that (due to many, many circumstances), and playing along with the loving mother/daughter facade had become draining on my spirit and soul.

I do think of her on Mother's Day, acknowledge her efforts, and wish her the happiness wherever she is that she couldn't find on this Earth.

Apocalipstic · 05-04-2010, 11:23 AM

My mother died in 1976 and I miss her still. It is difficult to see commercials and all the flurry around Mother's Day.

TickledPink · 05-04-2010, 11:33 AM

Thanks for starting this thread. Hugs for you!!

I miss my mother terribly. No one can replace that kind of unique spirit, and, I believe it lives on; through my sister, my nephews, me and anyone she touched while her physical being was here.

I don't have children either, but, I do have a wonderful SON dog!

cinderella · 05-04-2010, 11:57 AM

The one great love of my life - my mom, passed in 1996. Tho she did not approve of my lifestyle, she did love me completely - this I know.

There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of her...she is still very much a part of me and my daily life. Sadly, Mother's Day, Christmas, Easter, and all the holidays have lost their joy for me - life in general has dimmed for me, as she was the light of my life. It's just not the same world without her.

As Diva said above, to say I miss her terribly, doesn't begin to express my loss and pain. She was my idol, my mentor, and a very strong woman of values and morals. She taught me to be the strong woman I am today - thank you mom.

ruthie14 · 05-04-2010, 06:55 PM

Thanks for sharing everyone. I'm sure there are those on the planet who will appriciate your stories and realize that they are not alone.

WingsOnFire · 05-04-2010, 07:02 PM

{{{{{{{{{{Ruthie}}}}}}}}}} I remember last year's Mothers day and how hard it was for you.... I am here for you sweetie if you need me.....

I lost my mother 1 month after I graduated highschool. I was devastated... I cant wait to go back to florida and visit the ocean where her ashes were strewn.

katzietootle · 05-04-2010, 07:15 PM

first year without my mum during nana's day...(sigh)

05-04-2010, 11:21 AM	#1
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