The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over. - Page 215

TruTexan · 05-30-2015, 09:43 AM

Hi Daisy Chain. I rarely ever come post here, and haven't seen much activity here either. Try the singles thread, they seem to post more actively there.

MsTinkerbelly · 05-30-2015, 12:11 PM

Hi Daisy Chain!

A threads only dead if no one posts...and here we are.

TruTexan, this is for all folks getting up there in age..lol...not a singles thread!

Soooo, anyone have a topic they want to throw out? Hot flashes, retirement here/near?

Daisy Chain · 05-30-2015, 03:00 PM

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Originally Posted by TruTexan

Hi Daisy Chain. I rarely ever come post here, and haven't seen much activity here either. Try the singles thread, they seem to post more actively there.

Thank you for the reply, hadnt thought of going there as I`m not on the market as it were !

Daisy Chain · 05-30-2015, 03:19 PM

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Originally Posted by MsTinkerbelly

Hi Daisy Chain!

A threads only dead if no one posts...and here we are.

TruTexan, this is for all folks getting up there in age..lol...not a singles thread!

Soooo, anyone have a topic they want to throw out? Hot flashes, retirement here/near?

Hello !! I notice a lot of the threads seem quiet other then the fun ones.

MMmmm hot flashes ! Here we call them flushes but either way they are hot and take some getting used to !

On the topic of getting older I have noticed of late I`m starting to question my choices in things, I`m a traditional classic kind of woman anyway but I keep hearing this little voice in my head asking, am I too old for this nail polish colour or is this necklace more for a younger woman. I know a lot of women older than me that dress far younger, mostly successful at pulling it off so I dont know why I should worry over it. I guess I have a new number in my head now and somehow feel the world views me differently !

DC

MsTinkerbelly · 05-30-2015, 08:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Daisy Chain

Hello !! I notice a lot of the threads seem quiet other then the fun ones.

MMmmm hot flashes ! Here we call them flushes but either way they are hot and take some getting used to !

On the topic of getting older I have noticed of late I`m starting to question my choices in things, I`m a traditional classic kind of woman anyway but I keep hearing this little voice in my head asking, am I too old for this nail polish colour or is this necklace more for a younger woman. I know a lot of women older than me that dress far younger, mostly successful at pulling it off so I dont know why I should worry over it. I guess I have a new number in my head now and somehow feel the world views me differently !

DC

It seems the threads eb and flow...we have some really thought provoking threads here, but it seems people get busy and just want to have fun most days.

I haven't been able to carry off a "hip" or "younger" look for most of my life...i was born an old soul, and that comes across in my fashion and other choices. I always wished i could carry off the trendy looks, but i only wound up feeling like a clown.

I have found one thing to be true through the years...if i don't feel fabulous in it, i don't buy it or wear it.

Mel C. · 05-30-2015, 09:12 PM

I'm here for chocolate

GeorgiaMa'am · 05-30-2015, 09:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Daisy Chain

On the topic of getting older I have noticed of late I`m starting to question my choices in things, I`m a traditional classic kind of woman anyway but I keep hearing this little voice in my head asking, am I too old for this nail polish colour or is this necklace more for a younger woman. I know a lot of women older than me that dress far younger, mostly successful at pulling it off so I dont know why I should worry over it. I guess I have a new number in my head now and somehow feel the world views me differently !

I recently turned 50 and am questioning my fashion choices once again. I seem to do that pretty regularly with each decade.
20th birthday - decided clothing was about more than jeans and t-shirts
30th birthday - dyed my hair red and started wearing makeup
40th birthday - changed my makeup and started a strict skincare routine, also got my first tattoo
50th birthday - I'm not sure yet

People have been telling me for years, "Oh, when you're such-and-such an age, you won't care what people think about you any more." I have found this to be true in some ways and not in others. I still care what people think about how I look; maybe it's superficial, but it's how I feel. On the other hand, I don't care if people think I'm superficial.

GeorgiaMa'am · 05-30-2015, 10:00 PM

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Originally Posted by MsTinkerbelly

I have found one thing to be true through the years...if i don't feel fabulous in it, i don't buy it or wear it.

Amen! Right on.

MsTinkerbelly · 05-30-2015, 10:05 PM

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Originally Posted by GeorgiaMa'am

I recently turned 50 and am questioning my fashion choices once again. I seem to do that pretty regularly with each decade.
20th birthday - decided clothing was about more than jeans and t-shirts
30th birthday - dyed my hair red and started wearing makeup
40th birthday - changed my makeup and started a strict skincare routine, also got my first tattoo
50th birthday - I'm not sure yet

People have been telling me for years, "Oh, when you're such-and-such an age, you won't care what people think about you any more." I have found this to be true in some ways and not in others. I still care what people think about how I look; maybe it's superficial, but it's how I feel. On the other hand, I don't care if people think I'm superficial.

When i hit around 45 i realized i didn't give a flyng fig what people thought of me anymore. I still won't leave the house without my hair fixed, and the small amount of make-up i wear every day. Oh and since i moved to the desert, moisterizer is my consant companion; But, those things make ME feel good and keep my confidence level up.

EnchantedNightDweller · 05-30-2015, 10:15 PM

I'm 46 and I feel old!!! Going shopping for a new dress tomorrow and I hope it makes me look younger and skinnier!

Daisy Chain · 05-31-2015, 08:08 AM

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Originally Posted by MsTinkerbelly

It seems the threads eb and flow...we have some really thought provoking threads here, but it seems people get busy and just want to have fun most days.

I haven't been able to carry off a "hip" or "younger" look for most of my life...i was born an old soul, and that comes across in my fashion and other choices. I always wished i could carry off the trendy looks, but i only wound up feeling like a clown.

I have found one thing to be true through the years...if i don't feel fabulous in it, i don't buy it or wear it.

Yes I`ve had a few clown moments myself ! Thats a great philosophy, I should ask myself `does it make me feel fabulous?` more often.

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Originally Posted by Mel C.

I'm here for chocolate

I seem to have chocolate on the brain these days ! I always had a savory tooth but as I`ve gotten older I crave the sweet things !

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Originally Posted by GeorgiaMa'am

I recently turned 50 and am questioning my fashion choices once again. I seem to do that pretty regularly with each decade.
20th birthday - decided clothing was about more than jeans and t-shirts
30th birthday - dyed my hair red and started wearing makeup
40th birthday - changed my makeup and started a strict skincare routine, also got my first tattoo
50th birthday - I'm not sure yet

People have been telling me for years, "Oh, when you're such-and-such an age, you won't care what people think about you any more." I have found this to be true in some ways and not in others. I still care what people think about how I look; maybe it's superficial, but it's how I feel. On the other hand, I don't care if people think I'm superficial.

I`m 50 too. I dont think its superficial, I think what I wear makes a statement about myself to the world and I too care about what people draw from that. I feel more comfortable in myself now in many ways than ever before but when I buy new stuff and my eye is drawn to more trendy things, colours, patterns....thats when I hesitate. Staying current and still looking classy for your age is a challenge I`m finding !

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Originally Posted by EnchantedNightDweller

I'm 46 and I feel old!!! Going shopping for a new dress tomorrow and I hope it makes me look younger and skinnier!

Oh no dont feel old ! Enjoy those `still in my 40`s years` !! Good luck with your shopping.... Ask yourself the MsTinkerbelly question...does it make you feel fabulous?!......Keep us posted !

Thank you all for sharing your thoughts.

DC

GeorgiaMa'am · 05-31-2015, 03:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Daisy Chain

Staying current and still looking classy for your age is a challenge I`m finding !

My hair is medium-long; when I turned 40 I dreaded the over-40 short helmet hair that was de rigeur for so many years. I told my hairdresser, and he said, "Oh, honey, nobody does that any more." Whew! I feel like I barely slid under the wire. I've had short hair before, and I just don't feel, well - sexy! - without it.

Gemme · 05-31-2015, 04:16 PM

40 was a rough year, so I hope that this year is much better. I have better luck with odd numbers than even anyway so I'm optimistic.

Like Georgia, I buck the middle-aged helmet head hairstyle expectation. My hair is red and long and I like it that way. I also have bangs, which apparently I'm not 'supposed' to do. Whatever.

I've got some dangerous curves and I wear spandex to the gym. Don't like it; don't look. It's literally as simple as that.

There are certain looks I've never been able to pull off successfully so now is no different than before. I love big, chunky jewelry...especially colorful necklaces....but I can't wear them. I'm so little on top, they swallow my neck up.

For those concerned with being youthful and classy at the same time, go with tried and true pieces and use jewelry or accessories for your youthful, fun, colorful pops. A nice A line LBD with bright shoes or fun bangles, for example.

I've been in the 'don't care what others think' club for a while now. I like to look good for me and if someone else likes it too, great. If not, it's no skin off of my teeth.

Mel C. · 05-31-2015, 04:29 PM

Happy Birthday Gemme!!! You make 40's FABULOUS!!!

Daisy Chain · 06-01-2015, 02:41 PM

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Originally Posted by GeorgiaMa'am

My hair is medium-long; when I turned 40 I dreaded the over-40 short helmet hair that was de rigeur for so many years. I told my hairdresser, and he said, "Oh, honey, nobody does that any more." Whew! I feel like I barely slid under the wire. I've had short hair before, and I just don't feel, well - sexy! - without it.

I know exactly what you mean I`m afraid, I had shoulder length hair but after having chemo its just starting to grow back, maybe 2"s long now. And I have to say I hate it !

Yes I`m happy to have survived this far of course and my hair shouldn't matter but healing is about trying to get back to normal {maybe a `new` normal}...and short hair for me...well, isnt me.

I know some Femmes rock short hair and are sexy and sassy just as some butches are as butch as butch can be with long hair. But I saw my hair as part of my femininity, Femmeness. I wont feel like me again until it has a little length.....I miss it !!

Daisy Chain · 06-01-2015, 02:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Gemme

40 was a rough year, so I hope that this year is much better. I have better luck with odd numbers than even anyway so I'm optimistic.

Like Georgia, I buck the middle-aged helmet head hairstyle expectation. My hair is red and long and I like it that way. I also have bangs, which apparently I'm not 'supposed' to do. Whatever.

I've got some dangerous curves and I wear spandex to the gym. Don't like it; don't look. It's literally as simple as that.

There are certain looks I've never been able to pull off successfully so now is no different than before. I love big, chunky jewelry...especially colorful necklaces....but I can't wear them. I'm so little on top, they swallow my neck up.

For those concerned with being youthful and classy at the same time, go with tried and true pieces and use jewelry or accessories for your youthful, fun, colorful pops. A nice A line LBD with bright shoes or fun bangles, for example.

I've been in the 'don't care what others think' club for a while now. I like to look good for me and if someone else likes it too, great. If not, it's no skin off of my teeth.

Yes I understand about chunky jewelry, I love it on others but fel too weighed down to wear it comfortably myself.

Cant go wrong with a LBD ! I love clothes with a 40`s feel too, pencil skirts and kitten heels.

Your hair sounds gorgeous by the way !

DC

anotherbutch · 06-01-2015, 04:43 PM

I hear 50 is the new 40... that puts me right around 45... cool.. I like it.

Oh, and what is LBD?

MsTinkerbelly · 06-01-2015, 05:11 PM

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Originally Posted by anotherbutch

I hear 50 is the new 40... that puts me right around 45... cool.. I like it.

Oh, and what is LBD?

Little black dress

anotherbutch · 06-01-2015, 05:15 PM

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Originally Posted by MsTinkerbelly

Little black dress

oh..oh..oh.. good to know! thank you!

Gemme · 06-01-2015, 07:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Daisy Chain

Yes I understand about chunky jewelry, I love it on others but fel too weighed down to wear it comfortably myself.

Cant go wrong with a LBD ! I love clothes with a 40`s feel too, pencil skirts and kitten heels.

Your hair sounds gorgeous by the way !

DC

I can't wear pencil skirts and feel comfortable, so you have me there. I love a good kitten heel.

05-30-2015, 09:43 AM	#4281
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