Disabilities: Visable and Invisable

Andrew, Jr. · 11-04-2009, 09:40 PM

I have what is called invisable disabilities. They are neurologically based. I have seizures, ocd, adhd, learning disabilities like Dyslexia, and am Diabetic, and also have heart disease. I have a handicapped placard for my car. I am no longer really driving much anylonger because of the frequency of my seizures and their intensity.

I know that I am not alone here. I thought it would be a safe place to talk about our health issues, the medical community, medications, or treatment plans being offered now.

Namaste,
Andrew

I'mOneToo · 11-14-2009, 01:24 AM

Andrew, I hear you on both counts. Visible and invisible disabilities are a challenge. I have both. They require adjustments in lifestyle and are not easy or fun, but they are necessary. I feel for you though. Feel free to PM to discuss. I'm not very "out" about any of my disabilities, 'virtually speaking' but they are sometimes evident in person, and can't be hidden.

Leigh · 11-14-2009, 01:35 AM

Hey Andrew and I'mOneToo,

I have invisible disabilities, mental health ones. I was diagnosed two years ago with depression as well as panic/anxiety attacks and they can get pretty bad sometimes. I started a job not quite two months ago and with having to change My depression meds, I have been missing alot of time due to side effects and having to adjust to the effects of the medication. Things are slowly starting to balance themselves out, but I am very thankful that My job has been so understanding because I love the people I work with and the job itself is not bad either.

I look forward to connecting with others here, sharing our struggles and finding a place of acceptance no matter who we are or where we have been in life

Andrew, Jr. · 11-14-2009, 10:42 AM

Hi I'mOneToo and Braedon,

I am glad you both are here. It is comforting.

I find it isolating. The computer is my mainstay in contact. I am better communicating with ppl that way than in real time. I stutter & slur my words at times, and really struggle with oral communication. It is so frustrating at times. And then to have other health issues going on at the same time...I want to just cry over the frustration. Sometimes I have to ask ppl to explain what they mean and they get an attitude with me like I'm picking a fight. In reality it is just that I don't get what it is they are saying. I mean no harm. I just don't understand, and need help with it. I dealt with the same in school.

Anyway, thanks for joining in the chat here.

I'mOneToo · 11-14-2009, 12:47 PM

**snip**[QUOTE=Andrew, Jr.;5250]Hi I'mOneToo

Sometimes I have to ask ppl to explain what they mean and they get an attitude with me like I'm picking a fight. In reality it is just that I don't get what it is they are saying. I mean no harm. I just don't understand, and need help with it. QUOTE]**

I have the same issue. When asking someone to repeat, they assume something else is desired. I try to make it clear as possible, "Please just repeat what you said so that I can understand" and sometimes an argument ensues and it's a whole new can of worms.

Even written or typed, miscommunications happen. But, easier to clarify or at least take time to try to.

edited to mention, can't figure out how to quote portion of text

Andrew, Jr. · 11-14-2009, 01:14 PM

I'mOneToo,

Yes, I am the same way. I am not computer savvy at all. I have no clue how they put up the avatar pictures, download pictures, or even post the songs off youtube. Someone can show me how to, but ask me how to do it in 5 min...I will have no clue. I am always asking people to repeat themselves. I am not deaf. I just am not understanding what is being said.

Then comes the attitudes, then they say I am being stubborn or am being rude. Then they ask me when the last time I had my hearing checked. It is my learning disabilities. If they could only walk a day in my shoes - to see how it's like. Just once I would love for that to happen.

Andrew, Jr. · 12-17-2009, 09:42 AM

I hope and pray that everyone is doing well this holiday season.

Namaste,
Andrew

Andrew, Jr. · 12-21-2009, 02:16 PM

What is everyone doing for the holidays? Anything special?

:sant a1:

:smileyXm asTree:

Corkey · 12-21-2009, 02:52 PM

Hey buddy, me and the Mrs are going to her brothers for dinner, then we get to go home and have fun.

Hi all, my name is Corkey and I'm differently abled. Mine are physical issues.
back to your regularly scheduled program.

Andrew, Jr. · 12-22-2009, 07:11 AM

That sounds like a good time, Corkey. Please give my best to the Mrs.

Merry Christmas and a very Happy New Year!

Corkey · 12-22-2009, 02:51 PM

Hahaha if you only knew LOL yea we're gonna try not to discuss politics, religion, or "the gay agenda", wish us luck! As an aside, the family has accepted our being gay. That isn't an issue

Happy Holidays Andrew, we hope you and Roise have a wonderful time!

Andrew, Jr. · 12-22-2009, 05:17 PM

Laughing, I so know about "those" meal conversations. Did you get snow? Did schools close? Any flooding? This is so good.

Corkey · 12-22-2009, 05:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

Laughing, I so know about "those" meal conversations. Did you get snow? Did schools close? Any flooding? This is so good.

We didn't get the hammering you all did, but enough to dig out after the plow guy came thru. We're expecting a rainy x-mas, if any snow is left we'll have a white, if somewhat salty-dirty x-mas. Yea tis friggen colder than, well yea it's cold 19* and it's 6:30 pm

Andrew, Jr. · 12-22-2009, 05:31 PM

The gay agenda - I forgot that one. Rosie and I won't talk about it, or even bring it up. But yet, somehow, someway, it comes up. Like grass in the springtime.

Corkey · 12-22-2009, 05:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

The gay agenda - I forgot that one. Rosie and I won't talk about it, or even bring it up. But yet, somehow, someway, it comes up. Like grass in the springtime.

Yea I hear ya.

Andrew, Jr. · 12-22-2009, 08:12 PM

If I see my bio-parents I can expect :sermon, so than I go outside and I

and

at the driving range or go skeet shooting

and then smoke a

on the way home.

Corkey · 12-22-2009, 08:16 PM

lol too much grief

Andrew, Jr. · 12-23-2009, 04:53 AM

Corkey - you are a hoot!

Corkey · 12-23-2009, 01:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

Corkey - you are a hoot!

Andrew, Jr. · 12-23-2009, 04:07 PM

Corkey, I only have eyes for you.

11-04-2009, 09:40 PM	#1
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,250 Times in 2,217 Posts Rep Power: 0	Disabilities: Visable and Invisable I have what is called invisable disabilities. They are neurologically based. I have seizures, ocd, adhd, learning disabilities like Dyslexia, and am Diabetic, and also have heart disease. I have a handicapped placard for my car. I am no longer really driving much anylonger because of the frequency of my seizures and their intensity. I know that I am not alone here. I thought it would be a safe place to talk about our health issues, the medical community, medications, or treatment plans being offered now. Namaste, Andrew

12-21-2009, 02:16 PM	#8
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,250 Times in 2,217 Posts Rep Power: 0	What is everyone doing for the holidays? Anything special? :sant a1::smileyXm asTree:

12-21-2009, 02:52 PM	#9
Corkey Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Very Married Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Where I want to be Posts: 8,155 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 47,491 Thanked 29,274 Times in 6,637 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Hey buddy, me and the Mrs are going to her brothers for dinner, then we get to go home and have fun. Hi all, my name is Corkey and I'm differently abled. Mine are physical issues. back to your regularly scheduled program. __________________ "Many proposals have been made to us to adopt your laws, your religion, your manners and your customs. We would be better pleased with beholding the good effects of these doctrines in your own practices, than with hearing you talk about them". ~Old Tassel, Chief of the Tsalagi (Cherokee)

12-22-2009, 02:51 PM	#11
Corkey Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Very Married Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Where I want to be Posts: 8,155 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 47,491 Thanked 29,274 Times in 6,637 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Hahaha if you only knew LOL yea we're gonna try not to discuss politics, religion, or "the gay agenda", wish us luck! As an aside, the family has accepted our being gay. That isn't an issue Happy Holidays Andrew, we hope you and Roise have a wonderful time! __________________ "Many proposals have been made to us to adopt your laws, your religion, your manners and your customs. We would be better pleased with beholding the good effects of these doctrines in your own practices, than with hearing you talk about them". ~Old Tassel, Chief of the Tsalagi (Cherokee)

12-22-2009, 05:31 PM	#14
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,250 Times in 2,217 Posts Rep Power: 0	How can I forget this one... The gay agenda - I forgot that one. Rosie and I won't talk about it, or even bring it up. But yet, somehow, someway, it comes up. Like grass in the springtime.

11-14-2009, 01:24 AM	#2
I'mOneToo Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: left of right Relationship Status: right of left Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ]centered[ Posts: 321 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 587 Thanked 514 Times in 184 Posts Rep Power: 2132875	Andrew, I hear you on both counts. Visible and invisible disabilities are a challenge. I have both. They require adjustments in lifestyle and are not easy or fun, but they are necessary. I feel for you though. Feel free to PM to discuss. I'm not very "out" about any of my disabilities, 'virtually speaking' but they are sometimes evident in person, and can't be hidden.

11-14-2009, 01:35 AM	#3
Leigh Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, etc Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 7,767 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,029 Thanked 13,024 Times in 4,784 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Hey Andrew and I'mOneToo, I have invisible disabilities, mental health ones. I was diagnosed two years ago with depression as well as panic/anxiety attacks and they can get pretty bad sometimes. I started a job not quite two months ago and with having to change My depression meds, I have been missing alot of time due to side effects and having to adjust to the effects of the medication. Things are slowly starting to balance themselves out, but I am very thankful that My job has been so understanding because I love the people I work with and the job itself is not bad either. I look forward to connecting with others here, sharing our struggles and finding a place of acceptance no matter who we are or where we have been in life

11-14-2009, 10:42 AM	#4
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,250 Times in 2,217 Posts Rep Power: 0	Hi I'mOneToo and Braedon, I am glad you both are here. It is comforting. I find it isolating. The computer is my mainstay in contact. I am better communicating with ppl that way than in real time. I stutter & slur my words at times, and really struggle with oral communication. It is so frustrating at times. And then to have other health issues going on at the same time...I want to just cry over the frustration. Sometimes I have to ask ppl to explain what they mean and they get an attitude with me like I'm picking a fight. In reality it is just that I don't get what it is they are saying. I mean no harm. I just don't understand, and need help with it. I dealt with the same in school. Anyway, thanks for joining in the chat here.

11-14-2009, 12:47 PM	#5
I'mOneToo Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: left of right Relationship Status: right of left Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ]centered[ Posts: 321 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 587 Thanked 514 Times in 184 Posts Rep Power: 2132875	snip[QUOTE=Andrew, Jr.;5250]Hi I'mOneToo Sometimes I have to ask ppl to explain what they mean and they get an attitude with me like I'm picking a fight. In reality it is just that I don't get what it is they are saying. I mean no harm. I just don't understand, and need help with it. QUOTE]** I have the same issue. When asking someone to repeat, they assume something else is desired. I try to make it clear as possible, "Please just repeat what you said so that I can understand" and sometimes an argument ensues and it's a whole new can of worms. Even written or typed, miscommunications happen. But, easier to clarify or at least take time to try to. edited to mention, can't figure out how to quote portion of text

11-14-2009, 01:14 PM	#6
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,250 Times in 2,217 Posts Rep Power: 0	I'mOneToo, Yes, I am the same way. I am not computer savvy at all. I have no clue how they put up the avatar pictures, download pictures, or even post the songs off youtube. Someone can show me how to, but ask me how to do it in 5 min...I will have no clue. I am always asking people to repeat themselves. I am not deaf. I just am not understanding what is being said. Then comes the attitudes, then they say I am being stubborn or am being rude. Then they ask me when the last time I had my hearing checked. It is my learning disabilities. If they could only walk a day in my shoes - to see how it's like. Just once I would love for that to happen.

12-17-2009, 09:42 AM	#7
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,250 Times in 2,217 Posts Rep Power: 0	I hope and pray that everyone is doing well this holiday season. Namaste, Andrew

12-22-2009, 07:11 AM	#10
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,250 Times in 2,217 Posts Rep Power: 0	That sounds like a good time, Corkey. Please give my best to the Mrs. Merry Christmas and a very Happy New Year!

12-22-2009, 05:17 PM	#12
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,250 Times in 2,217 Posts Rep Power: 0	Laughing, I so know about "those" meal conversations. Did you get snow? Did schools close? Any flooding? This is so good.

12-22-2009, 08:12 PM	#16
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,250 Times in 2,217 Posts Rep Power: 0	If I see my bio-parents I can expect :sermon, so than I go outside and I and at the driving range or go skeet shooting and then smoke a on the way home.

12-22-2009, 08:16 PM	#17
Corkey Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Very Married Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Where I want to be Posts: 8,155 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 47,491 Thanked 29,274 Times in 6,637 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	lol too much grief __________________ "Many proposals have been made to us to adopt your laws, your religion, your manners and your customs. We would be better pleased with beholding the good effects of these doctrines in your own practices, than with hearing you talk about them". ~Old Tassel, Chief of the Tsalagi (Cherokee)

12-23-2009, 04:53 AM	#18
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,250 Times in 2,217 Posts Rep Power: 0	Corkey - you are a hoot!

12-23-2009, 04:07 PM	#20
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,250 Times in 2,217 Posts Rep Power: 0	Corkey, I only have eyes for you.