Single FTM's & Femme's

[ScandalAndy]

Well, I was at dinner with a friend the other night, and the server referred to us as "ladies" again. I'm sick to death of being the one who gets all agitated and flatly states "he's a boy". Inevitably the server gets flustered and apologizes, and this person whom I've known for years now just sits there silently. I know he's pissed because he passes 100% of the time, it's just his voice that is the problem. He's property of the US government for the next 8 years, and while DADT has been repealed, being trans is still a big no-no.

I wish I knew how to handle these situations. I just get so outraged. One of us has to say something, and I know he doesn't correct people because he's too busy being in shock. Any suggestions? I'm not afraid to stand up and say something, I just wish it was less awkward.

[KimbaYLRF]

I have been this thread daily and I have never met a trans person in my life, but I feel what you all are going through.

I wish this was a time everyone was open-minded but sadly things are not like that. I would love someone no matter who or what they were so long as they are a good person.

[Liam]

Well, I was at dinner with a friend the other night, and the server referred to us as "ladies" again. I'm sick to death of being the one who gets all agitated and flatly states "he's a boy". Inevitably the server gets flustered and apologizes, and this person whom I've known for years now just sits there silently. I know he's pissed because he passes 100% of the time, it's just his voice that is the problem. He's property of the US government for the next 8 years, and while DADT has been repealed, being trans is still a big no-no.

I wish I knew how to handle these situations. I just get so outraged. One of us has to say something, and I know he doesn't correct people because he's too busy being in shock. Any suggestions? I'm not afraid to stand up and say something, I just wish it was less awkward.

I think humor goes a long way in situations like this, and laughter seems to quickly diffuse the tension for everyone in a scenario like the one you described.

Comments directed to your friend, while the server is present after their faux pas, such as, "Gee, I bet you wish you hadn't taken your Mama's Midol when you were a little boy!" or "Wayne Newton did well in Vegas with his voice, maybe we should go there."

It doesn't matter that Midol could never alter someone's voice, nor that your friend would never dream of singing in front of people. You are not jumping the server, and you are being supportive of your male friend, and hopefully everyone is smiling.

[sarahwho]

Hey there, hi there, ho there.....been around, just not :jester: - had some bank issues, today that is straightened out, then I find out my son is spending my $$ at the academy, and NOT saying anything about it! :readfineprint: BUT now I know....I will NEVER be out from "under" - :worried:

[VintageFemme]

Just saying hello to everyone too! Hope the week is going swimmingly well ... quick, effortless and full of smiles.

[atomiczombie]

Hi everyone! :)

[atomiczombie]

Single FTM seeks single femme for fun and flirting.

Me: old fashion, charming, Stone Top, mad skills, silly, sweet, and happy to stay single.

You: live within a couple hours or so from the bay area/sacramento, very feminine, sexual bottom, sweet, kind, level headed, up for some fun, not looking to get serious.

I don't have a lot of money for expensive dates. I am just looking for some light dating and sex without commitment. Safe sex is a must. Thanks for reading! :D

[Leigh]

Just came in to say hi to all of My fellow guys & the beautiful girls who enjoy us :)

[ScandalAndy]

I don't know where else to put this, but I have to get it out, so I hope you all don't mind me putting it here.



One of my close friends is in the beginning stages of transition. We went to Friendly's because he had just finished a long recording session, and I'm never one to turn down ice cream. As is my custom, I survey the table we are going to be seated at, and position myself to best avoid conflict. I noticed that the table to the left had two high school aged girls facing our table, and the table to the right was unoccupied, so of course I sat on the right so I could keep an eye on the high schooler situation. Five minutes after we sat down they both got up to "go to the bathroom" and peeked over at our table repeatedly as they passed. Fifteen minutes later one of them went to the bathroom again. As they were about to leave, both of them went to the bathroom AGAIN, and on their way back, as they're standing next to our table one looks at the other and says "oh my god you're right, it IS a girl".

They went up to the front counter and stood next to their mother and I turned ten shades of red. My friend looked at me with big eyes and said quietly "did that really just happen?" I had a five second debate with myself, tossed my phone on the table, and got up. I walked up to those two girls and I said to them "It is completely inappropriate to repeatedly walk by someone's table and look at their chest to try and determine their gender. Furthermore, you should use "he or she" if you think someone is a boy or a girl. The use of the word "it" is completely dehumanizing and utterly unacceptable." Then I turned around and went back to my table to try and comfort my friend, who was shattered by the whole experience.

I put my happy face on and joked, cheered up my friend, and kept an eagle eye on those two girls who were with their mother in the front entryway, gesturing wildly. Luckily, they left.

Our waitress came over to our table and asked if we needed anything else. I apologized for causing a scene, and she said "Honestly, I heard them talking but I had no idea they were harassing you. If I had known something was going to happen, I would have had it taken care of. I'm so sorry, they need to grow up".

I was so angry I was shaking, but I never once raised my voice with those girls, and our waitress was on our side. Now if only we could get to the point where people don't have to act like this and hurt others.

Thanks for listening, all. Let me know if this should be moved to a diff thread.

[morningstar55]

morning to singles have a awsome monday!! :)

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[atomiczombie]

I don't know where else to put this, but I have to get it out, so I hope you all don't mind me putting it here.



One of my close friends is in the beginning stages of transition. We went to Friendly's because he had just finished a long recording session, and I'm never one to turn down ice cream. As is my custom, I survey the table we are going to be seated at, and position myself to best avoid conflict. I noticed that the table to the left had two high school aged girls facing our table, and the table to the right was unoccupied, so of course I sat on the right so I could keep an eye on the high schooler situation. Five minutes after we sat down they both got up to "go to the bathroom" and peeked over at our table repeatedly as they passed. Fifteen minutes later one of them went to the bathroom again. As they were about to leave, both of them went to the bathroom AGAIN, and on their way back, as they're standing next to our table one looks at the other and says "oh my god you're right, it IS a girl".

They went up to the front counter and stood next to their mother and I turned ten shades of red. My friend looked at me with big eyes and said quietly "did that really just happen?" I had a five second debate with myself, tossed my phone on the table, and got up. I walked up to those two girls and I said to them "It is completely inappropriate to repeatedly walk by someone's table and look at their chest to try and determine their gender. Furthermore, you should use "he or she" if you think someone is a boy or a girl. The use of the word "it" is completely dehumanizing and utterly unacceptable." Then I turned around and went back to my table to try and comfort my friend, who was shattered by the whole experience.

I put my happy face on and joked, cheered up my friend, and kept an eagle eye on those two girls who were with their mother in the front entryway, gesturing wildly. Luckily, they left.

Our waitress came over to our table and asked if we needed anything else. I apologized for causing a scene, and she said "Honestly, I heard them talking but I had no idea they were harassing you. If I had known something was going to happen, I would have had it taken care of. I'm so sorry, they need to grow up".

I was so angry I was shaking, but I never once raised my voice with those girls, and our waitress was on our side. Now if only we could get to the point where people don't have to act like this and hurt others.

Thanks for listening, all. Let me know if this should be moved to a diff thread.

Good for you for standing up for him! That's awesome. You are truly a good friend. :)

[Heavenleahangel]

Just popping in to say "Hi" to everyone! Been gone a while....

[atomiczombie]

*ahem*

<----single. :D

[GPS]

Its nice to see more ppl interacting with FtM's
have a great day

[Leigh]

Just saying hi to everyone :)

[ScandalAndy]

Good morning guys and girls!

I've been struggling a lot with being lonely. Since we're all single, and at least some of us are open to finding a relationship, I figure I'm probably not the only one.

How do you deal with it?

I love to give gifts, come up with little surprises just to see the smile on the recipient's face. There are so many things I want to do, but they're too romantic to do for friends.

How the heck do I help myself get over it and move on? You can't force a relationship, and you can't make someone like you if they don't think of you that way. Now I need to figure out what I CAN do to keep myself out of gloomy town.

Any suggestions?

[GPS]

Just wanted to wish you all a Happy Holiday Season!

[veryfemme]

I am a very femme single who loves sweet FTMs :) I hope everyone has a great holiday season!

[Liam]

Good morning guys and girls!

I've been struggling a lot with being lonely. Since we're all single, and at least some of us are open to finding a relationship, I figure I'm probably not the only one.

How do you deal with it?

I love to give gifts, come up with little surprises just to see the smile on the recipient's face. There are so many things I want to do, but they're too romantic to do for friends.

How the heck do I help myself get over it and move on? You can't force a relationship, and you can't make someone like you if they don't think of you that way. Now I need to figure out what I CAN do to keep myself out of gloomy town.

Any suggestions?

Volunteer. Become a Big Sister. Adopt an elderly person. Refocus that energy toward those with whom you will not have romantic feelings for.

[sarahwho]

Just popping in to say "Hi" to everyone! Been gone a while....

Me too! Thought I'd say hi again!

[Leigh]

Still single & hoping :)

[Library_girl]

(Ditto to my friend Matthew......still single and still hoping!)

I've been away from the Planet for a few weeks so I had to drop in and say hello. Too much work, not enough time for myself.

ScandalAndy, I appreciate your post about loneliness, and I love Liam's suggestion. I struggle with loneliness too, sometimes, as I'm sure many of us do. I'm guessing lots of us nodded our heads as we read that post. The holiday season doesn't make it any easier, right? Since I don't have a partner to spoil with gifts, baking, other special holiday stuff, I just give all of that "holiday spirit" to my niece and nephew, my dad, my friends, my employees. And when it comes to just plain old loneliness, I try to focus on other things, like family, friends, pets, work, anything to keep the brain occupied. Liam's idea is much better, though! But when my time is short, I just have to keep my brain busy. There are times I just HATE being single. Sure, there are a few good things about being single, and I even have married friends who envy my "freedom", and so on. (whatever!) I will happily trade in those little "advantages" any time, any day, no hesitation.

Ok, enough rambling!

[veryfemme]

I know we are all single and looking for love but I am curious as to how many would actually relocate for a possible relationship? I moved for my recently failed relationship and I am looking to move back to my home area within a year to two years. Just a question I thought I'd throw out there.

[Leigh]

(Ditto to my friend Matthew......still single and still hoping!)

I've been away from the Planet for a few weeks so I had to drop in and say hello. Too much work, not enough time for myself.

ScandalAndy, I appreciate your post about loneliness, and I love Liam's suggestion. I struggle with loneliness too, sometimes, as I'm sure many of us do. I'm guessing lots of us nodded our heads as we read that post. The holiday season doesn't make it any easier, right? Since I don't have a partner to spoil with gifts, baking, other special holiday stuff, I just give all of that "holiday spirit" to my niece and nephew, my dad, my friends, my employees. And when it comes to just plain old loneliness, I try to focus on other things, like family, friends, pets, work, anything to keep the brain occupied. Liam's idea is much better, though! But when my time is short, I just have to keep my brain busy. There are times I just HATE being single. Sure, there are a few good things about being single, and I even have married friends who envy my "freedom", and so on. (whatever!) I will happily trade in those little "advantages" any time, any day, no hesitation.

Ok, enough rambling!

(((((((((((Library)))))))))))) I miss talking to My friend, I hope you are doing well sweetie ......... lets chat again sometime :rrose:

I know we are all single and looking for love but I am curious as to how many would actually relocate for a possible relationship? I moved for my recently failed relationship and I am looking to move back to my home area within a year to two years. Just a question I thought I'd throw out there.

I would definately consider moving for the right one. Right now I am registered for college and should graduate by the end of October 2012 so after that I am free to go where I want ~ this time would be perfect to get to know someone thus if I ever was to move I will know its right :)

[spritzerJ]

I know we are all single and looking for love but I am curious as to how many would actually relocate for a possible relationship? I moved for my recently failed relationship and I am looking to move back to my home area within a year to two years. Just a question I thought I'd throw out there.

I moved for a relationship that didn't work out. It was a spectacular fail. I don't think I'd relocate again. At least not the same way. I'd do it very differently if I could be convinced. I don't know if I will move back to my home area or not yet. We'll see. :rubberducky:

[kannon]

I know we are all single and looking for love but I am curious as to how many would actually relocate for a possible relationship? I moved for my recently failed relationship and I am looking to move back to my home area within a year to two years. Just a question I thought I'd throw out there.

I moved to my current location for a relationship. Before I moved, I got a pretty good job here. Even though the relationship failed, I tried to make the most of it, and give the city a chance. Six years later, I still don't like this area, and I'm planning on moving, but I am accomplishing some stuff: I bought a house and I'm going to complete my masters. I think I've made lemonade out of lemons.

I would do it all over again for the right woman. However, the next time, I will be more selective.

[sarahwho]

Probably wouldn't move. My parent's are here, work, my son's academy......sigh....then again, some day down the road, I might change my mind....it's been known to happen.

[ScandalAndy]

I've done it with disastrous consequences, but I would probably do it again after taking my sweet time making sure the person I'm considering doing it for would absolutely do the same for me. It's a respect thing.


I know we are all single and looking for love but I am curious as to how many would actually relocate for a possible relationship? I moved for my recently failed relationship and I am looking to move back to my home area within a year to two years. Just a question I thought I'd throw out there.

[atomiczombie]

I can't move because I need to be close to my daughter. And my parents are elderly and need my help a lot too.

[VintageFemme]

I know we are all single and looking for love but I am curious as to how many would actually relocate for a possible relationship? I moved for my recently failed relationship and I am looking to move back to my home area within a year to two years. Just a question I thought I'd throw out there.

I did it once with disastrous results but then there were some very extreme circumstances that surrounded and led up to that relocation. Would I do it again? I don't know. I'm very rooted where I live but then I have done a lot less for love so, yeah I probably would .... if it were the right thing to do. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

[Julien]

Would I move for a love relationship? I think I would if the circumstances were just right for me and her. Especially the job front. I think it would put undue burdens on the relationship if one of the couple has no job prospects. Am I being too realistic not a romantic? The question is how do we know when the circumstances are right? A lot of honest communication and visits. A bit of a reality check along with the romance of the relationship, that is where honesty comes in. I can dream can't I?

[veryfemme]

I think the job aspect is extremely important. I was lucky when I moved for someone I got an awesome job and that is what has kept me where I am, if not for the job I know for sure I would have moved back to be closer to my family. I guess the move question is the hardest of them all.

[QueenofSmirks]

I think the much bigger question is "What would it take for you to move?" The moving itself seems inconsequential if you have a great job lined up, you've spent every other weekend together for a year, and a continuous week twice in the last six months, and you're compatible, in love and the planets are aligned.

However, that rarely seems to be the case, and I'm continuously astonished at how quickly people move out of state for someone they've only spent a few days with real time. Yes, there are phone calls every day and tons of time online, but it boils down to a few days in real time, and that just isn't long enough to get to know someone, in my opinion. I think there are definitely success stories, but I also believe there was a lot of luck involved there, because again, how can you really make a truly informed and intelligent decision on whether to live with someone if you've only spent 10 or 20 or even 30 days of face-to-face time with them? I'm definitely not old fashioned - I'm just cautious. I'm also not someone who needs to be with someone; I'm perfectly happy being single, or just dating, so there is no driving force for me to want to live with someone, and the older I get, the more I appreciate my own space and don't want to live with anyone. Less fuss that way :)

[Leigh]

Just wanted to come in & say hello to everyone :)

[veryfemme]

Hiiii :) back

Just wanted to come in & say hello to everyone :)

[sarahwho]

Happy New Year to all!

[Heavenleahangel]

Just popping in to say "Hello" to all and wish everyone the happiest and healthiest of New Years!

[atomiczombie]

Happy New Year everyone! :)

[VintageFemme]

Happy New Year Everyone ♥ !!!

[ScandalAndy]

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! Let's get with the excellent newness!

[Leigh]

Hey everyone, just came in to wish all of My friends and fellow singles a fantastic 2012 :-)

**waves hello to veryfemme** :rrose:

[TenderKnight]

Hello, all :)

I have been away from this site for well over a year now, but thought I would swing on by and see what was happening.. Some may remember me and some may not, lol

I will refrain from posting a full out personal ad, but I am looking to date some folks.. Not really looking to move in with someone or move across country, lol.. But if you and I happen to be in the same area at the same time, coffee and conversation never hurt anyone, has it? :)

I see this thread has been a lil slow lately, but i will keep my eyes open :)

-Tony

[Leigh]

Not exactly in your area Tender, but figured I'd say hi anyways as well as to everyone else in the group :)

[TenderKnight]

Not exactly in your area Tender, but figured I'd say hi anyways as well as to everyone else in the group :)

Well hello, Leigh :) Thanks for the "hi".. Where in Canada are you? I visited the East Coast of Canada a few years back, never been to the West Coast..

[Leigh]

Well hello, Leigh :) Thanks for the "hi".. Where in Canada are you? I visited the East Coast of Canada a few years back, never been to the West Coast..


I'm actually in the middle of the country, in Manitoba, where we are getting absolutely gorgeous weather! I had a nice walk this afternoon, the sun was shining and while it was warm I enjoyed just getting out of the house ~ hopefully your getting nice weather in your neck of the woods too :)

[TenderKnight]

:) Leigh, it was actually very nice weather today.. Even got to go for a swim in the ocean for a bit, first time this year.. Have to admit, the water was COLD, lol. Glad you got to get out and enjoy your day :)

[Leigh]

:) Leigh, it was actually very nice weather today.. Even got to go for a swim in the ocean for a bit, first time this year.. Have to admit, the water was COLD, lol. Glad you got to get out and enjoy your day :)


It'll be nice to be near the water this summer, though I burn easily so I'd better make sure I keep alot of sunscreen around or I'll be a lobster lol ~ I did very much enjoy my day thank you, I'm glad you enjoyed yours too :)

[Kent]

Just a little Bump...

[Licious]

*giving a curvy nudge to bump*

[Licious]

Hmmm.. should I specify what I am looking for? Friends first, dating if we are sympatico, down the road if it is right, much more. Butch over 45, smart, compassionate, cuddly. Partially disabled or health issue a plus, we would both be moving a bit slower... but together. Must like femmes.

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

Not a FTM but as a trans I think I should bump this thread now that I am single and looking. I am 45 for those that don't know me just call me Alix. I am going to refrain from putting out a whole what I am looking for post. Just a hi and where are all the single ladies?

[Dance-with-me]

Single lady here. :)

[Dance-with-me]

Just read some of the past few pages, and wanted to comment on the distance/moving issue.

I have seen it work for someone to move literally halfway around the world (CA to Finland, to be exact) to be with somebody that they had spent little time with in person. But I really think that that's the exception.

I'm 53, have a great job that would be hard to replace, have a pension with that job which is almost impossible to find these days (and at my age in this economy, that's priceless), and my grands (who I've raised/helped praise for most of their lives) live here and I'm not willing to move a long distance away from them.

Unfortunately for me there are basically no known single butchs/Transguys/FTMs in this area. I could date someone from the Philadelphia, Baltimore, or DC areas and only be a couple hours away, but that's still becomes a big issue if we would end up getting serious and want to start living together.

I know that this can become an issue even if you live in a big city, but when you're in a much smaller area, you really run out of choices fast.

[MickMan]

Been a while since I have been here...still single and patiently looking and waiting. Life is good!

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

Because there is no transguy or queer single thread.

I know some of you know me or have seen me around some of the threads this year but for those that do not I thought a little intro was in order. Especially since I change my avatar and about me on a regular basses..like when I am bored.

My name is Alix, I am 45, and very single but not looking to settle for just anyone. I am okay with being single just no longer wish to be. I am not a FTM, I fall more into what one thread on here called the "Bravehearts". A TG guy that can not or choose not to transition. I am also a Top/Dom/Daddy even though I do not use the BDSM avatar and my about me does not say it...at this present moment.
The most important thing and or quality a person can have is respect whether they are my friend or that special someone that caught my eye. All else develops from respect and time in my opinion.

I did read some of last years conversation on relocating. Since I live in the middle of the country and everyone seems to be to the left or right of me this is something I have put a great deal of thought into. I have done and have been successful in LDR. The successful ones I did relocate for that person but not until a lot had taken place. One of which was time and considerable communication. One is real time together. The length of real time before I relocated is not set in stone and with the advent and popularity of Skype will vary. (I need more Skype friends and I was referring to non sexual Skype btw). So the question is not will I relocate but will make me relocate? To answer that I would have to say many things would and one of them would be my ability to answer the "what if" question. What if it does not work? Since I am getting older and already know I do not want to live in my hometown anymore the answer to my what if question will determine if I can take the relocate step. Relocate does not equal move in...two different questions.

Well I tend to be long winded and ramble a lot when I am nervous, so if you would like to no more feel free to post here, on my wall, or send me a message.

Now where are all the singles that like a guy like me? I know your out there!!!

[gaea]

we are all over the place....here.....and in the world. I honestly have not seen this thread until now...

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

we are all over the place....here.....and in the world. I honestly have not seen this thread until now...

oh gaea I know your all over the place here and in the world...hence why I post everywhere..LOL...

I know I found this thread last night and instead of making a separate single mingle thread again I thought why not use this one??? I found if it is on the front page of the site people tend to visit...
I have no problem making a separate single thread btw if others would like me to.

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

Late night bump...for those of us up after midnight....

[gaea]

Late night bump...for those of us up after midnight....

where in my home stater are you from???? I hail from Peoria originally :) even though i have been here a very long time i stall say Back Home when talking about Illinois

[Hominid]

Cool to find this, thank you for the bump. I didn't see this thread when I joined last month, then again, there's hardly any activity - pathetic! There are more singles around, I'm sure of it.

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

where in my home stater are you from???? I hail from Peoria originally :) even though i have been here a very long time i stall say Back Home when talking about Illinois

I hail from Rockford, the big city with the small town attitude, that is stuck in a time warp while having an identity crises *laugh*

I know Peoria well and I would kill to be able to say Back Home and mean Illinois again. I keep escaping this town but coming back...I think to let go of another unwanted or unneeded piece so that I can finally say Back Home for good...

[gaea]

I hail from Rockford, the big city with the small town attitude, that is stuck in a time warp while having an identity crises *laugh*

I know Peoria well and I would kill to be able to say Back Home and mean Illinois again. I keep escaping this town but coming back...I think to let go of another unwanted or unneeded piece so that I can finally say Back Home for good...

rockford? where is that near? sounds familiar....I have a lot of family still in Illinois...peoria, Chicago and up near iowa....just over the bridge.

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

Cool to find this, thank you for the bump. I didn't see this thread when I joined last month, then again, there's hardly any activity - pathetic! There are more singles around, I'm sure of it.

I agree Hominid I know there are more singles around here. I think it might be the title of the thread *shrugs* who knows. Then again unless we keep it on the front page of the site or near the top no one will find it. Took me over 6 months to find it I just knew there had to be a non butch/femme single thread. Now if we can only find the singles and get them to start posting in here *laugh*

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

rockford? where is that near? sounds familiar....I have a lot of family still in Illinois...peoria, Chicago and up near iowa....just over the bridge.

Rockford is about 1 hr and 30 minutes west of Chicago 20 minutes south of Beloit Wisconsin. About dead center of the state and as north as you can get without going into Wisc. territory.

[gaea]

Rockford is about 1 hr and 30 minutes west of Chicago 20 minutes south of Beloit Wisconsin. About dead center of the state and as north as you can get without going into Wisc. territory.

that sounds like its cold there.....*shudders at the thought of snow* headed to the pool now :) (yes its a hundred degrees here)

[Heavenleahangel]

Just stopping in to say "Hello" and to wish everyone a great week ahead! Just think, it's already October and the holidays will be here before you know it! :|:|:|:blink:

[Leigh]

Coming to visit my fellow singles ~ we're everywhere don't you know ;)

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

that sounds like its cold there.....*shudders at the thought of snow* headed to the pool now :) (yes its a hundred degrees here)

Not cold yet....but it will be and I so do not want to be here when the 80 below windchill factor hits...it was bad enough with the humidity of this past summer...it is not going to be fun...but it is Fall and one of my favorite seasons so trying to enjoy it....I am now official jealous gaea pool and 100 degree sounds nice....

[gaea]

Not cold yet....but it will be and I so do not want to be here when the 80 below windchill factor hits...it was bad enough with the humidity of this past summer...it is not going to be fun...but it is Fall and one of my favorite seasons so trying to enjoy it....I am now official jealous gaea pool and 100 degree sounds nice....

it is very nice especially on my skin

personally I would be house bound with a fire going at the 80 below windchill lmao..funny my auntie never worked during the winter time as she refused to drive in the snow .....I imagine I would be much the same as her. lol

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

it is very nice especially on my skin

personally I would be house bound with a fire going at the 80 below windchill lmao..funny my auntie never worked during the winter time as she refused to drive in the snow .....I imagine I would be much the same as her. lol

Well it is a good way to get killed especially that first snow fall all the drivers in the city *blink* and loose their ability to drive in something they have driven years in....but snow is not the worse it is the ice covered by snow especially when the city runs out of salt and plow money...happens every year...I so have to get out of this state *laugh* for many reasons that being one

[Leigh]

I could not imagine living somewhere that does not have cold & snow around christmas ~ to me it just wouldn't be the same!

[Hominid]

I agree Hominid I know there are more singles around here. I think it might be the title of the thread *shrugs* who knows. Then again unless we keep it on the front page of the site or near the top no one will find it. Took me over 6 months to find it I just knew there had to be a non butch/femme single thread. Now if we can only find the singles and get them to start posting in here *laugh*

Screw all singles, I just want more women!

[Hominid]

I really had it in my head that I would have a snuggly and someone for whom to build a fire this fall/winter. I guess the snuggly remains the boxer and I'll build the fire for the parrot and save a tree at Christmas time. Ho hum and Bah Humbug.

[Nadeest]

Hang in there, Hominid. You never really know when that special person is going to come into your life.

[Heavenleahangel]

I really had it in my head that I would have a snuggly and someone for whom to build a fire this fall/winter. I guess the snuggly remains the boxer and I'll build the fire for the parrot and save a tree at Christmas time. Ho hum and Bah Humbug.

Hominid, I had the same thing rolling around in my head! Now it's fall, and I'm starting to adopt your way of thinking! Bah Humbug!!!

[morningstar55]

Morning
:tea:

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

Evening everyone...first day of the week and first day of the month...three months left in this year....anyone have Halloween plans...one of the times I wish I had children and the best memories I have of walking my nieces and nephews around...except is almost always rains here that night and is usually so cold by then that the kids have to wear coats over the costumes....I haven't decided if I am doing anything this year but I am sure I will do something...anyone else....I will at least hit the pumpkin and apples that are every where right now...

Hi to morningstar, Heavenleangel, leigh, and Hominid, Kent...and anyone else I forgot

[Hominid]

Retaining my sense of humor ...

An opossum was brought in by the dogs last night ... I thought it was an old, wet stuffed animal and I got really close and it was a young one, and it moved a leg - so I flipped out, got help from a friend who visits once a year (thank God bigger than me) and hid behind her ... when we returned it was gone. Damn, those things are nasty so I was even more ascared! Finally found it on the couch, my brave butch friend let me hide behind her while she gathered it and took it to the woods.

I can handle all modes/forms of dying people ... not animals. A bit of transference?

This morning, young, dead squirrel by my truck when I went to work.
And this evening, one of the dogs broke through a window on the garage trying to get to the birds in a nest which was built in the garage because I never close the door ...

Weird goings on ...

[Leigh]

I really had it in my head that I would have a snuggly and someone for whom to build a fire this fall/winter. I guess the snuggly remains the boxer and I'll build the fire for the parrot and save a tree at Christmas time. Ho hum and Bah Humbug.

Yeah I sometimes get that way around the holidays with not having anyone, but when its the right time someone will come into your life and it'll be amazing :)

Hang in there, Hominid. You never really know when that special person is going to come into your life.

Everyone has someone out there for them, and as hard as it can be to keep the faith (i know that too well), we just have to know someone is out there waiting for us too :)

Hominid, I had the same thing rolling around in my head! Now it's fall, and I'm starting to adopt your way of thinking! Bah Humbug!!!

Aww I know ~ its so easy to adopt that way of thinking but with the holidays around the corner, I know atleast for me I can't stay in that mood too long!

Morning
:tea:

Evening now morningstar, but I hope you had a good day :)

Evening everyone...first day of the week and first day of the month...three months left in this year....anyone have Halloween plans...one of the times I wish I had children and the best memories I have of walking my nieces and nephews around...except is almost always rains here that night and is usually so cold by then that the kids have to wear coats over the costumes....I haven't decided if I am doing anything this year but I am sure I will do something...anyone else....I will at least hit the pumpkin and apples that are every where right now...

i still can't decide what i am gonna do but its too bad You didn't live closer Alix, You could help me to give out the candy cuz i will likely be giving the candy out alone this year booooooooooo lol :p

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

More like keep you from eating it you mean leigh....hey I know we can keep each other from eating it and you can make sure I don't give out handfuls of candy at a time instead of a couple

[Hominid]

At least I can work for other people who have their kids and families at home - my Christmas gift to my amazing peers.

My biggest problem in meeting people is my work schedule. And being an introvert. And living in such a queer-strong area -sort of. Grown up queers/FtM's, etc. are few - it's very traditionally crunchy at my age. I lean towards slightly younger women, and that generation (early 30's) is more butch-femme ... or bisexual women. Lots and lots of bisexual women. But it seems they are more interested in EITHER a born male or a woman ... dick or no dick seeming to be the focus. BUT ... in you're in your early 20's and FtM, you have it made. Very much known and femmes are very interested. I'm not sure how that will look at those cute boys become balding, hairy men ...

Anyway, it's really odd to be in such a queer friendly place and just disappear into the liberal masses as an apparent cis-male. When I flirt with "my type" - slightly andro women, strong straight women, or funky tattooed geeks, I am looked at like I'm nuts. I wonder if this at all parallels the experience of the "invisible femme". Then again, I just want to move in the world at large as male, even though I'm not sure how I would announce what is in my pants or how I was born.

More prattling ... trying to keep the board going more than whining ... no dead animals in 12 hours!

[Leigh]

More like keep you from eating it you mean leigh....hey I know we can keep each other from eating it and you can make sure I don't give out handfuls of candy at a time instead of a couple

*giggles* yes Your so right Alix, i think if we were giving out candy together it would be quite interesting *grin*

[Nadeest]

It definitely gets 'interesting', Hominid, having to have that 'talk' with someone that you are interested in, when you tell them that you are ts, and what that implies. I've had to do it once, with a male, so far, and he completely lost interest at that point. A pity, but it is a lot better response then what could have happened.

[ScandalAndy]

well now i want a BFP halloween party with a bonfire!

[stepfordfemme]

At least I can work for other people who have their kids and families at home - my Christmas gift to my amazing peers.

My biggest problem in meeting people is my work schedule. And being an introvert. And living in such a queer-strong area -sort of. Grown up queers/FtM's, etc. are few - it's very traditionally crunchy at my age. I lean towards slightly younger women, and that generation (early 30's) is more butch-femme ... or bisexual women. Lots and lots of bisexual women. But it seems they are more interested in EITHER a born male or a woman ... dick or no dick seeming to be the focus. BUT ... in you're in your early 20's and FtM, you have it made. Very much known and femmes are very interested. I'm not sure how that will look at those cute boys become balding, hairy men ...

Anyway, it's really odd to be in such a queer friendly place and just disappear into the liberal masses as an apparent cis-male. When I flirt with "my type" - slightly andro women, strong straight women, or funky tattooed geeks, I am looked at like I'm nuts. I wonder if this at all parallels the experience of the "invisible femme". Then again, I just want to move in the world at large as male, even though I'm not sure how I would announce what is in my pants or how I was born.

More prattling ... trying to keep the board going more than whining ... no dead animals in 12 hours!

The bolded section may be your experience, but I just want to say there are femmes (including my young fine twentysomething femme self) that care a lot more about than c*ck/No c*ck.

I've been partnered with one of those young twentysomething (very hot) transguys, that you think may have it made. Please talk to these guys. Talk on this site. Just to see if their experiences validate your opinion.

We all have a tough road... femmes that feel invisible and trans men that don't pass. Men that deal with the exact issues you speak of. It might not change how you feel, but you might find some people to share your experiences with. Maybe they'll hook you up with a hottie tattoo'ed geek they know. As a trans-sensual femme, believe me the dating scene is no easier on us. I feel/have felt like I need a sign on my forehead.

Maybe you should try talking to some queer Id'ed or pansexual/sapiosexual/ whatever new beautiful word-- some of these ladies have. Gender identity for femmes/females is just as varied as with the trans community.

And, as a woman, I would hope that my love for my partner would surpass any barrier. I will someday not be my young fabulous self, and I would hope that my man would want me JUST the same. Love is all encompassing. Lust is just the physical.

Nice step off for some discussion!

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

At least I can work for other people who have their kids and families at home - my Christmas gift to my amazing peers.

My biggest problem in meeting people is my work schedule. And being an introvert. And living in such a queer-strong area -sort of. Grown up queers/FtM's, etc. are few - it's very traditionally crunchy at my age. I lean towards slightly younger women, and that generation (early 30's) is more butch-femme ... or bisexual women. Lots and lots of bisexual women. But it seems they are more interested in EITHER a born male or a woman ... dick or no dick seeming to be the focus. BUT ... in you're in your early 20's and FtM, you have it made. Very much known and femmes are very interested. I'm not sure how that will look at those cute boys become balding, hairy men ...

Anyway, it's really odd to be in such a queer friendly place and just disappear into the liberal masses as an apparent cis-male. When I flirt with "my type" - slightly andro women, strong straight women, or funky tattooed geeks, I am looked at like I'm nuts. I wonder if this at all parallels the experience of the "invisible femme". Then again, I just want to move in the world at large as male, even though I'm not sure how I would announce what is in my pants or how I was born.

More prattling ... trying to keep the board going more than whining ... no dead animals in 12 hours!

It definitely gets 'interesting', Hominid, having to have that 'talk' with someone that you are interested in, when you tell them that you are ts, and what that implies. I've had to do it once, with a male, so far, and he completely lost interest at that point. A pity, but it is a lot better response then what could have happened.

The bolded section may be your experience, but I just want to say there are femmes (including my young fine twentysomething femme self) that care a lot more about than c*ck/No c*ck.

I've been partnered with one of those young twentysomething (very hot) transguys, that you think may have it made. Please talk to these guys. Talk on this site. Just to see if their experiences validate your opinion.

We all have a tough road... femmes that feel invisible and trans men that don't pass. Men that deal with the exact issues you speak of. It might not change how you feel, but you might find some people to share your experiences with. Maybe they'll hook you up with a hottie tattoo'ed geek they know. As a trans-sensual femme, believe me the dating scene is no easier on us. I feel/have felt like I need a sign on my forehead.

Maybe you should try talking to some queer Id'ed or pansexual/sapiosexual/ whatever new beautiful word-- some of these ladies have. Gender identity for femmes/females is just as varied as with the trans community.

And, as a woman, I would hope that my love for my partner would surpass any barrier. I will someday not be my young fabulous self, and I would hope that my man would want me JUST the same. Love is all encompassing. Lust is just the physical.

Nice step off for some discussion!

adding my voice and wondering again if I should have started a whole new thread instead of using one that already existed. As a 40 something trans guy not a FTM I have to agree that gender identity is very varied for both femmes and male id'd individuals. As one such femme on here pointed out when I asked where were the ladies that like guys like me...they are every where. Everywhere except where I live that is *laugh*

As a guy that does not always pass and as one that has had his face slapped when I did for being honest about my birth gender I can tell you it is not fun for me. Yet I do not give up and choose to not flirt with straight women because I want more then lust. I can find lust any where. I am discovering after finding this site that there is a wide range of gender identities out there and a wide range of experiences in those gender ids. I can tell you the discussion is just as hard for someone like me that is trans but chooses not to transition and tries everything possible to pass.
That I love women of different gender identified for who they are as a person. Yet I post in the single FTM thread because it is more honest then posting in the general singles thread though Id o post there too. Personally I think because you live in Mass. you have more options then most I know because I used to live in that state.

I know I am rambling...a little tired and not enough coffee yet
Guess I am trying to say I agree with Stepfordfemme maybe try talking to some of the other guys on this site and not limit it to the FTMs though talk to them also and you may find that all of feel invisible and you may just find the kind of person your interested in flirting with or having a relationship with. Maybe talk to some of the femmes too I know I learn a lot from them.

Anyone want or need coffee I know I do......:|

[Leigh]

Just talk to a different variety of people, learn what you can about each individual person because we are all different, and know that us gals who love each and every one of you are out there waiting to be found :)

[Hominid]

Alix, Leigh - Thanks both. I'm not sure I suggested I don't talk to lots of femmes/butches/FtM's - but to keep my reply succinct (not very good at this) - I talk to all sorts of people, and glean my opinion/experience of this area from that in particular, which is why I have thoughts about the experiences of some of the different gender presentations and identities and what they experience compared to myself. I know far fewer FtM's - my friends are on different parts of the queer spectrum, from butch lesbian bottoms to femme tops.
As you pointed out in bold, this is my experience, a generalization of the gender politics and identities and how different generations move within the continuum and relate where I live.

[Hominid]

Just popping my head in ... there's an echo!

[Duchess]

Good morning everybody. I'm glad I found this thread. Looking forward to making new friends. Anybody from Atlanta?:)


Duchess

[Hominid]

Good morning Duchess - welcome.

I'm sure someone is from Atlanta, sadly, not me though.

[LoyalWolfsBlade]

Good morning Lady D....sadly not from Atlanta either,,,but new friends are always good...It is still Saturday night for me though since I have not been to bed yet...

[FemmeBibliophile]

I'm just popping in.

I'm a single femme. I prefer butches or FtMs. I'm from outsite of Atlanta.

[Leigh]

I'm from Canada ~ of course I'm outside the States lol :p

[GraffitiBoi]

FTM from Minnesota here...

[ScandalAndy]

Philly representing!

[Kent]

Just dropping by to say, "Howdy from Texas."

[DaddyNik12]

good morning waves from Illinois*

[easygoingfemme]

Checking in from NY!

[Leigh]

Morning everyone!

Welcome to the Planet Grafitti ~ I'm in Manitoba Canada, just above Minnesota :)

[GraffitiBoi]

Morning everyone!

Welcome to the Planet Grafitti ~ I'm in Manitoba Canada, just above Minnesota :)

I've been there before... Back in 1988!

[Leigh]

I've been there before... Back in 1988!

Wow that's so cool, any chance you might visit again? ;)

[GraffitiBoi]

Wow that's so cool, any chance you might visit again? ;)

No clue if I'll visit again. I like to travel so you never know. I do have tons of vacation time coming up but I have some of it set asaide for a trip south of MN... :-)

[Darbonaire]

As a guy who is an FTM / male.....living, being seen, & IS male.....it's really tough being in the mid- 50's to find anyone...much less a woman who is attracted to guys like us. I live stealth except for a few close friends & that's how I like it. I do have a question that has come up from my last relationship however & I would love to get some totally honest answers......you can send them in PM or not...but, honest is the key.

My ex-wife of 10 years said to me "again" very recently that my "lower region " was a mind f*ck for her because it is not anatomically "correct. I am male except for the nether regoins.....she said that "squigged" her & that she was uncomfortable making love to me because of this.....

My question is this then.......I know she was being totally honest & I respect that completely. There is nothing short of surgery that can "correct" that.....so.....truly & honestly....how many of you ladies / women / femmes find that to be the case for you?

Believe me, it can be a mind f*ck for me too at times....lol....but, maybe because I KNOW what's down there in my soul I am able to overlook the discrepency.

Anyway, being in your mid 50's & being FtM is really tough....you begin to realize how old you really are.....LOL

I look forward to reading all replies...<warm smile>

Enjoy the day !!!!

[Dance-with-me]

If this forum were visible to members only, I'd answer publicly but since it's publicly viewable I'll answer via PM.

[Hominid]

Hey there -

Wow, great question - I'd love to hear your answers (feel free all you generous souls to PM me as well!). I'm right with you - I really thought single life after the break up of my 10 year marriage would be ... at least not this bad. Or lonely. I'm fine alone, in fact I do need alone time. But I have taken on this feeling sort of like a tree falling in the forest. If nobody's with me with whom to share the experience, what's the point? I end up feeling more alone than if I just fart around on the internet, find obscure stuff on cable, and rotate between the three dinners I usually eat. I'm 45 - I wrote before about age and my area. It IS very queer friendly, but whatever Western Mass would like to think of itself, it is not open to guys way post physical transition. I spend most of my time when not working trying to avoid the sinking feeling of unresolved heartbreak - I lost both of my kids - I bought a great house after the breakup so the three of us could heal, and then was hammered with lawsuit after lawsuit over custody. Wah wah ... anyone, overshare. But I feel you. I wish I had some insight. I've had a little luck on one of the mainstream dating sites, so little it's pathetic but I have had a few exchanges. I have this ... feeling. It's very vague and I can't always access it, that someone is out there. I wish I had more to offer, but you're not alone in this.

[QUOTE=Darbonaire;677470]As a guy who is an FTM / male.....living, being seen, & IS male.....it's really tough being in the mid- 50's to find anyone...much less a woman who is attracted to guys like us. I live stealth except for a few close friends & that's how I like it. I do have a question that has come up from my last relationship however & I would love to get some totally honest answers......you can send them in PM or not...but, honest is the key.

[Duchess]

Good evening everybody:)

[Darbonaire]

Good to meet you ^5 ! Yes, the young guys are out there but truly, I believe as you do..there IS someone out there for me. I really thought I had found her in my last relationship & she was SO much of what I wanted...& I for her....but, things change, people change, & paths change.......so we move forward & wish each other the best.

So, western Mass eh? Pretty country up there. I was thrilled to move back here to VA for the beauty of the Blue Ridge Mtns.....Alabama was too flat for me..& too damn hot & muggy too!

So, maybe being on this site will help your energy get "noticed" & appreciated. I personally think a more mature woman is better for me at this stage in life. I believe there are women out there who want the same.....so maybe if we both jump up & down they'll see us.....LOL

Anyway, if you ever want to chat just email me at Darbonaire@aol.com.....would like to talk to other guys for sure.

Enjoy your night ^5

Jonathan

[Darbonaire]

Good evening everybody:)

Good evening Duchess !

[Hominid]

Hi Duchess - WV is really beautiful, and much better fishing ...

[Darbonaire]

I'm just popping in.

I'm a single femme. I prefer butches or FtMs. I'm from outsite of Atlanta.

Can be a LARGE area.....lol.....are you in GA ? Just curious is all....thanks !

[Darbonaire]

" I know far fewer FtM's -"


If you ever want to talk I'm around....it would be nice to have a guy to chat with too....lots of issues that only we can understand...<NOT puttig anyone down or anything>......it's just that whole "walk a mile" thing....lol

Anyway, i am SOOOOOO glad to be back on the Planet.....thanks all of you !

[Heavenleahangel]

Good Morning from the rainy, dreary Upstate, NY (Albany). I was so hoping the rain wouldn't come so early today. It sux being single cuz all I wanna do is crawl back in bed, snuggle up with someone special and watch a movie or something. I can make waffles...

[Darbonaire]

<passing my plate>......LOL

Enjoy the day as best you can anyway kiddo.....you never know....THIS might be the dreary day you win the lottery or something...<smile>...

[Heavenleahangel]

<passing my plate>......LOL

Enjoy the day as best you can anyway kiddo.....you never know....THIS might be the dreary day you win the lottery or something...<smile>...

Ive got all kinds of goodies over here! Come to my house...I've got groceries!!! LOL

Plus it helps that I can cook....

[Beloved]

Single again, but not ready. That last one was a real mind fuck.

[Darbonaire]

Single again, but not ready. That last one was a real mind fuck.

Sometimes the worst pain is the best thing for growth.....this too shall pass.....may take awhile but, time is not the enemy.....

May you feel better sooner rather than later.

Jonathan

[PurpleQuestions84]

single and will be looking sooner than later :blueheels:

[Beloved]

Have a good weekend, singles! I'll be busy cleaning and getting ready for some surgery I am having on Wednesday. My ex is going to come take care of me and my daughter for a couple of days. This will be a real test.

I hope you all have dates and romance planned. :)

[ruby_woo]

Just poking my head in to say hi. :) It's freezing outside tonight, making it difficult to dress up how I want to when I go out lol. Decided to stay in, bake, and watch old movies instead.

[CXanderRun]

Just peeking my head in.. :tease:

Single and still finding all the little pieces of me. :seeingstars:

Hope everyone is having a great weekend and I'll be bouncing in later to look at all the lovely individuals.

[XpressUrSelf]

Single looking to have something that can far for the long run .

let's discover our opinions .

[Crow]

Hi to everyone.

Interesting thread...and a much needed place for the boi's and femme's to connect on our own level.

As for me...I slowly peek around corners right now.

If I see something interesting I might just get the courage to step out into the open.

[Nadeest]

Quit peeking around the corner and come in! If nothing else, you are less of a target for snowballs, that way. :P

[EmpressM]

Hi! *peeks in* Been away for a little while. Newly single and ready to make friends and meet new people! How's everyone's Sunday?

[curlyredhead]

Ive got all kinds of goodies over here! Come to my house...I've got groceries!!! LOL

Plus it helps that I can cook....

Hey Stranger haven't talked to you in forever how are you :)

[VintageFemme]

It's been awhile since I've been in here. I just wanted to say hello as well! Hope everyone had a lovely holiday & are looking to a wonderful New Year. Love.

[ruby_woo]

Happy to see new posts in this thread this morning! I hope everyone had a lovely weekend. :)

[EmpressM]

Happy New Year, singles! I hope everyone rang in the New Year with style, joy, and y'all all made it home safely!

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[StoneOne]

Stoppng by to say hello and a great new year for all !

[EmpressM]

Happy Saturday, singles! I hope everyone is having an awesome weekend! I'm getting over an ear infection, and just now beginning to feel a bit better. Two things on my agenda today; heading out to get a pedi, and making paleo-friendly cashew cheese. Really missing dairy! What's everyone else up to?

[VintageFemme]

Hi everyone too! I'm home for the first exciting Saturday night of the new year *insert one eyed smirk face here* having a probably way too big & probably way too over filled glass of wine, listening to big hair 80s music & goofing on line.

EmpressM, glad your ear is feeling better. Second to a toothache, an ear infection is probably the worse thing to endure. It's cold & quiet over here on the west side of the metroplex tonight. Hope everyone is having a most wonderful evening and happity weekend! Love.

[EmpressM]

EmpressM, glad your ear is feeling better. Second to a toothache, an ear infection is probably the worse thing to endure. It's cold & quiet over here on the west side of the metroplex tonight. Hope everyone is having a most wonderful evening and happity weekend! Love.

Thank you Vintage! I was feeling pretty miserable there for a few days. Hope your weekend was terrific!

[Bèsame*]

Good Morning all...

Here is to a wonderful New Year, full of friends and good times!

[curlyredhead]

I am at home recovering from another surgery. Hopefully I won't have anymore complications. I have been ordered to stay in bed, and haven't been released back to work. Other then that I am single and ready to mingle. Hey if anyone has questions in regards to my surgeries feel free to ask.

~~Curly~~

[Trev]

Hope everyone has/is enjoying their weekend. Stay well and keep warm All

[EmpressM]

Hope everyone has/is enjoying their weekend. Stay well and keep warm All

Hey Trev! You too! Enjoy your relaxing Sunday! :)

[Trev]

Hey Trev! You too! Enjoy your relaxing Sunday! :)

Thank you, I do love me a Sunday :)

[Bèsame*]

I am at home recovering from another surgery. Hopefully I won't have anymore complications. I have been ordered to stay in bed, and haven't been released back to work. Other then that I am single and ready to mingle. Hey if anyone has questions in regards to my surgeries feel free to ask.

~~Curly~~

Here's to a speedy recovery!

[Jesse]

Hey everyone, what's up? Overcast and threatening rain here, so I am just trying to stay awake.

Hope everyone has a good day!

[Bèsame*]

Hey everyone, what's up? Overcast and threatening rain here, so I am just trying to stay awake.

Hope everyone has a good day!

Unfortunately. .. I'm at work. Its a sunshine filled day from what I see. I just are a little cutie (those little oranges). I wish I was at home watching football. It's coming to a close soon :(

But you all enjoy the day, cause I'm going to get a day off and YOU will be working. ..giggling

[Jesse]

Unfortunately. .. I'm at work. Its a sunshine filled day from what I see. I just are a little cutie (those little oranges). I wish I was at home watching football. It's coming to a close soon :(

But you all enjoy the day, cause I'm going to get a day off and YOU will be working. ..giggling

Yeah that's okay, football is ending for the season, and NASCAR begins! ;) Don't work too hard today.

[curlyredhead]

Unfortunately. .. I'm at work. Its a sunshine filled day from what I see. I just are a little cutie (those little oranges). I wish I was at home watching football. It's coming to a close soon :(

But you all enjoy the day, cause I'm going to get a day off and YOU will be working. ..giggling

I love it when a woman likes watching football its awesome!

[EmpressM]

Hey everyone, what's up? Overcast and threatening rain here, so I am just trying to stay awake.

Hope everyone has a good day!

It is sunny and gorgeous here in Dallas. Blah for me though. I'm trying to get well and forcing myself to chill today rather than heading out for a run or a bike ride. Looking forward to the Knicks/Celtics game tomorrow, especially since my Mavericks stink this year!

Hope you have a wonderful day yourself!

[curlyredhead]

Hey everyone bumping the thread! I hope everyone is staying well, or at least getting well since the flu is everywhere!

Bumping the thread!

~Curly

[Trev]

Seems like there are a few posts missing but if that's all that happened after the outage...we can call it GOOD!! Hope everyone is great and stays that way. Here's to the beginning of a new week :fastdraq:

[EmpressM]

Hooray! We are back up and running! I hope everyone had a terrific weekend and is having and even better week! I've finally managed to kick the flu and am "back up an running" myself! I'm officially a schoolgirl again starting today!

[Heavenleahangel]

Good Afternoon, Everyone! I've been away from the site myself with my son, Jacob, (5) being in the hospital and me running back and forth. I hope everyone's New Year has started off to a most excellent start and Cupid will be fast on the way to bring you something good!!

[curlyredhead]

Good Afternoon, Everyone! I've been away from the site myself with my son, Jacob, (5) being in the hospital and me running back and forth. I hope everyone's New Year has started off to a most excellent start and Cupid will be fast on the way to bring you something good!!

Sending wishes that your son get's well fast!

[Trev]

Hooray! We are back up and running! I hope everyone had a terrific weekend and is having and even better week! I've finally managed to kick the flu and am "back up an running" myself! I'm officially a schoolgirl again starting today!

Glad you're feeling better. Back to school? Time to hit the books :seeingstars: Good for you!

[Bèsame*]

Happy....
One day left before a 4 day weekend! It's going to be a sad day tomorrow...a funeral in the morning.
I hope every gets on the mend soon, the yuckies going around has been lingering way too long. Here's to a happy hump day:)

[MickMan]

Hi everyone,

Been a while since I have been on and thought I would drop in to see how everyone is.

Life is good. Busy with school. This term marks the beginning of my dissertation and it is CRAZY!! But, exciting nonetheless.

Still single. Although, I have been talking with a woman here locally, however, nothing can come of it as she is unaware of my trans-status. She is from Thailand and absolutely wonderful. But, I am trying to find a way to explain to her I cannot get involved without outing myself and without ruining the friendship we have built. It all started out very innocent with me taking my mother to the restaurant that her brother owns. She was our waitress and she began talking with me and next thing you know, she is teaching me Thai and I am teaching her English. It finally occurred to me the other day when she introduced me to her brother, that she may have intentions beyond what I am able to take part in. She is wonderful, kind, caring and just so funny. And if she knew of my being trans, I would not be having this issue. I am not so sure I want to risk the friendship by outing myself. Not to mention my mother loves her and loves going to the restaurant. I need to either out myself and be prepared to never go there again or find a way to stop the progression before this woman becomes too attached. This really sucks!

Would love to hear from other as to solutions. This all happened so quickly that I did not have time to think about what was happening and perhaps I am guilty of flirting and leading her on a bit. I really try not to do that with those unaware. But, a good friend of mine told me that because of my good nature and kindness, I have a tendency to send out unintentional messages. Her words, not mine. Perhaps that is what has happened here.

Thought?

[curlyredhead]

Happy....
One day left before a 4 day weekend! It's going to be a sad day tomorrow...a funeral in the morning.
I hope every gets on the mend soon, the yuckies going around has been lingering way too long. Here's to a happy hump day:)

I love HUMP Day!!!!!!

[curlyredhead]

Hi everyone,

Been a while since I have been on and thought I would drop in to see how everyone is.

Life is good. Busy with school. This term marks the beginning of my dissertation and it is CRAZY!! But, exciting nonetheless.

Still single. Although, I have been talking with a woman here locally, however, nothing can come of it as she is unaware of my trans-status. She is from Thailand and absolutely wonderful. But, I am trying to find a way to explain to her I cannot get involved without outing myself and without ruining the friendship we have built. It all started out very innocent with me taking my mother to the restaurant that her brother owns. She was our waitress and she began talking with me and next thing you know, she is teaching me Thai and I am teaching her English. It finally occurred to me the other day when she introduced me to her brother, that she may have intentions beyond what I am able to take part in. She is wonderful, kind, caring and just so funny. And if she knew of my being trans, I would not be having this issue. I am not so sure I want to risk the friendship by outing myself. Not to mention my mother loves her and loves going to the restaurant. I need to either out myself and be prepared to never go there again or find a way to stop the progression before this woman becomes too attached. This really sucks!

Would love to hear from other as to solutions. This all happened so quickly that I did not have time to think about what was happening and perhaps I am guilty of flirting and leading her on a bit. I really try not to do that with those unaware. But, a good friend of mine told me that because of my good nature and kindness, I have a tendency to send out unintentional messages. Her words, not mine. Perhaps that is what has happened here.

Thought?

Mick this is complicated. I think you need to first figure out with what you are comfortable with before you make a decision to come out. I think the biggest question is are you interested in this lady? Because if you are then you aren't leading her on. Once you have determined what your thoughts are on that you need to find out if she has the same feelings towards you as well. If she has the same feelings about you and you do towards her, that's when you need to talk to her personally, and dude trust me if she really really likes you the trans part isn't going to matter one bit. I think that you need to educate her a little too when you do come out, because you do want to be able to eat at this restaurant again and not feel ostracized. Just my 2 cents.

[MickMan]

Mick this is complicated. I think you need to first figure out with what you are comfortable with before you make a decision to come out. I think the biggest question is are you interested in this lady? Because if you are then you aren't leading her on. Once you have determined what your thoughts are on that you need to find out if she has the same feelings towards you as well. If she has the same feelings about you and you do towards her, that's when you need to talk to her personally, and dude trust me if she really really likes you the trans part isn't going to matter one bit. I think that you need to educate her a little too when you do come out, because you do want to be able to eat at this restaurant again and not feel ostracized. Just my 2 cents.


Hey Curly and thanks,

Yeah, I really do like this woman. She will text me, in broken English, and I find it so touching that she will make the effort to communicate with me in this manner. I find myself thinking about her and smiling.

It is very touchy and I am usually so careful about how I interact with people, women in particular, for this reason. But, this happened so quickly and out of the blue. It was something before I realized it. Now, I should also say that we have not gone out, or had any physical contact other than a hug here and there inside the restaurant where her brother was present.

I know she is very interested in me as her nephew told me that she has never introduced a man to her brother before. Again, she is from Thailand and has only been here for a short time. Even though she is older, like me, I am getting that the brother still is in charge of her well being.

I have done research about Kathoey in Thailand, and they are well received, for the most part. But there is nothing about the Kathoey counterpart, FTMs. I am really nervous about talking to her also because her English and my Thai are not that fluent. I am not sure I can convey everything I need to or want to. We often have the nephew translate for us or the sister in-law. But this is not something I would feel comfortable having a third person translate.

And yes, I agree. I do not want to be ostracized at this place. My mother, for whom I care and I both love this place. I would hate to not only lose this woman, the friendship and the restaurant all in one conversation.

:doh::deepthoughts:

[curlyredhead]

Hey Curly and thanks,

Yeah, I really do like this woman. She will text me, in broken English, and I find it so touching that she will make the effort to communicate with me in this manner. I find myself thinking about her and smiling.

It is very touchy and I am usually so careful about how I interact with people, women in particular, for this reason. But, this happened so quickly and out of the blue. It was something before I realized it. Now, I should also say that we have not gone out, or had any physical contact other than a hug here and there inside the restaurant where her brother was present.

I know she is very interested in me as her nephew told me that she has never introduced a man to her brother before. Again, she is from Thailand and has only been here for a short time. Even though she is older, like me, I am getting that the brother still is in charge of her well being.

I have done research about Kathoey in Thailand, and they are well received, for the most part. But there is nothing about the Kathoey counterpart, FTMs. I am really nervous about talking to her also because her English and my Thai are not that fluent. I am not sure I can convey everything I need to or want to. We often have the nephew translate for us or the sister in-law. But this is not something I would feel comfortable having a third person translate.

And yes, I agree. I do not want to be ostracized at this place. My mother, for whom I care and I both love this place. I would hate to not only lose this woman, the friendship and the restaurant all in one conversation.

:doh::deepthoughts:

Just a suggestion I wonder if you could find some translation online for the words you are looking for, or even something else is if you are on a group that deals with Trans, perhaps you could find someone that speaks Thai and could tell you how to translate it. Its obvious you both have a connection. Just breathe man take it 1 day at a time.

[MickMan]

Just a suggestion I wonder if you could find some translation online for the words you are looking for, or even something else is if you are on a group that deals with Trans, perhaps you could find someone that speaks Thai and could tell you how to translate it. Its obvious you both have a connection. Just breathe man take it 1 day at a time.


Yeah, that's the hard part, breathing LOL Sad thing, I am not really on any trans sites. I think I just need to maybe back off a bit and slow this down. Give me time to think.

[Trev]

Mick...Curly has given some great words of advice, I will ditto that.

Unique...Enjoy your mini vacation :)

It's getting closer to the weekend.....YESSS!! Now if it would just warm up.

[EmpressM]

Hello, Singles! How is everyone on this pre-Friday? Personally, I'm really looking forward to the weekend! I'm going to get my homework finished and then a couple o friends of mine and I are taking a belly dancing class on Saturday. What's everyone else up to?

Mick - sounds like you have some big decisions to make. I don't envy you in the least. Good luck to you. Matters of the heart are never uncomplicated.

[Bèsame*]

The belly dancing class sounds like fun! I've always wanted to do that, clamp those little bells in your hands and wear the sexy chains...you go girl...:) enjoy that class!Hello, Singles! How is everyone on this pre-Friday? Personally, I'm really looking forward to the weekend! I'm going to get my homework finished and then a couple o friends of mine and I are taking a belly dancing class on Saturday. What's everyone else up to?

Mick - sounds like you have some big decisions to make. I don't envy you in the least. Good luck to you. Matters of the heart are never uncomplicated.

[Bèsame*]

yea!

Clean bill of health from blood draw. Changing some meds and my doctor convinced me to do the 90 day plan, with that company that has a very busy welcome Season. I have this feeling they will treat me right, I have insider info;).

It's almost Friday . Day two of mini staycation. Football playoff weekend!!!

[EmpressM]

I am sooooo excited! I've wanted to try belly dancing since 2001 when I was in India. When the opportunity arose, I jumped on it! :)

The belly dancing class sounds like fun! I've always wanted to do that, clamp those little bells in your hands and wear the sexy chains...you go girl...:) enjoy that class!

[Jesse]

My ex took belly dancing classes and she loved it. I hope that you do as well!

I am sooooo excited! I've wanted to try belly dancing since 2001 when I was in India. When the opportunity arose, I jumped on it! :)

[Trev]

ssshhh it's still early... TGIFryday :fastdraq: << would've been me after another day lol

[Bèsame*]

Hmmm...watching the View this morning and the subject of transgender comes up. This weekend on 20/20 it will be discussed. Interesting, it will be a young boy, now becoming a girl. She is 11, but on hormones. She is interested in dating ( at 11 is too young) but it will probably give insight on how to approach it.
Set your DVR' s now :)

[curlyredhead]

Hmmm...watching the View this morning and the subject of transgender comes up. This weekend on 20/20 it will be discussed. Interesting, it will be a young boy, now becoming a girl. She is 11, but on hormones. She is interested in dating ( at 11 is too young) but it will probably give insight on how to approach it.
Set your DVR' s now :)

I am openly trans and almost Post OP. I sort of have an issue with kids that young transitioning. Your brain isn't fully developed yet. Its a very sensitive topic in the trans community. If my kid was trans, I would tell them we support you and we love you, but please wait till you are older before you make your decision to start transitioning. As for dating I was 14 before I had my first date, I kissed a boy and I had nightmares for 3 days and dumped him after that.

[GraffitiBoi]

Popping in to say hi and maybe get some advice. There is a femme I have had a crush on for 2 years now. I never pursued it because she is straight. I found out recently that she actually is interested in me but is unsure of the whole trans thing. She knows I am trans and had told a mutual friend of ours several months ago that she would be interested after I have the final surgery.

Somehow she got the mistaken idea talking to me that I was going to have lower surgery. I am not. The technology for it just isn't good enough (in my opinion) and there are things (sexual) that I like about being female from the waist down and won't trade that if the technology for phalloplasty isn't good enough for me.

When I told this to our friend he actually went back and told her. Somehow he worked it into the conversation naturally. Apparently my 'crush' talks about me a lot with a couple of different friends of ours. They have all come to me and told me about their conversations. Usually if she wants to know something personal she just talks to me. BUT... she has talked to more than one person about being with me. Now she has said (verified by more than one source) that she's interested regardless if I have the surgery or not.

So my dilemma... Do I try and ask her out? I don't think asking her will ruin the friendship. That's pretty strong between us. I don't know if I am brave enough or bold enough to ask her and I'm not sure how to ask her out. I've dated a straight woman before. It was the longest lasting and most loving relationship I have ever had. (That ex told me yesterday that she misses me and would date me again. Sorry, but I'm not interested in going back to her.)

I'm rambling. I'm tired. I have a touch of the flu. LOL But... I will be seeing this person tonight when I go in to work. She's supposed to be coming over to my place sometime soon to pick up some furniture I'm giving to her and she will probably come to my birthday party in a few weeks.

:seeingstars:

[GraffitiBoi]

I am openly trans and almost Post OP. I sort of have an issue with kids that young transitioning. Your brain isn't fully developed yet. Its a very sensitive topic in the trans community. If my kid was trans, I would tell them we support you and we love you, but please wait till you are older before you make your decision to start transitioning. As for dating I was 14 before I had my first date, I kissed a boy and I had nightmares for 3 days and dumped him after that.

I also have an issue with transitioning that young. I know they want to make the transition easier by starting it before the hormones of the original gender kick in, but I know too many people who have changed their minds after all surgeries were complete. Most of transitioning is not reversible.

I didn't date until I was 14 or 15. Had the same reaction!

[curlyredhead]

Popping in to say hi and maybe get some advice. There is a femme I have had a crush on for 2 years now. I never pursued it because she is straight. I found out recently that she actually is interested in me but is unsure of the whole trans thing. She knows I am trans and had told a mutual friend of ours several months ago that she would be interested after I have the final surgery.

Somehow she got the mistaken idea talking to me that I was going to have lower surgery. I am not. The technology for it just isn't good enough (in my opinion) and there are things (sexual) that I like about being female from the waist down and won't trade that if the technology for phalloplasty isn't good enough for me.

When I told this to our friend he actually went back and told her. Somehow he worked it into the conversation naturally. Apparently my 'crush' talks about me a lot with a couple of different friends of ours. They have all come to me and told me about their conversations. Usually if she wants to know something personal she just talks to me. BUT... she has talked to more than one person about being with me. Now she has said (verified by more than one source) that she's interested regardless if I have the surgery or not.

So my dilemma... Do I try and ask her out? I don't think asking her will ruin the friendship. That's pretty strong between us. I don't know if I am brave enough or bold enough to ask her and I'm not sure how to ask her out. I've dated a straight woman before. It was the longest lasting and most loving relationship I have ever had. (That ex told me yesterday that she misses me and would date me again. Sorry, but I'm not interested in going back to her.)

I'm rambling. I'm tired. I have a touch of the flu. LOL But... I will be seeing this person tonight when I go in to work. She's supposed to be coming over to my place sometime soon to pick up some furniture I'm giving to her and she will probably come to my birthday party in a few weeks.

:seeingstars:

I think you should definitely ask her out man. What have you got to lose? I think a good idea would be nice dinner somewhere its quiet you can talk or maybe going out for some coffee. It's really a win / win situation.

Get to feeling better buddy.

[EmpressM]

{{{{Graffiti}}}}

Here's to a quick recovery! Flu is no fun! :cough:

Tread carefully here sugar, but definitely ask her out for something casual where you two can talk. Communication is a key foundation in any relationship, and I would definitely suggest cutting out the middlemen to ensure you are on the same page and nothing is lost in translation.

It's obvious you really like this girl, however I feel it is prudent to identify where she is mentally and emotionally, especially knowing that she is unsure about your being trans. The last thing you want to be is a curiosity to her only to realize later she can't deal, after you are emotionally invested.

A red flag for me in your post was her stating that she would be interested after the final surgery, then stating a different attitude in a conversation with a mutual friend. While humans often change their minds, there's a difference in "waffling" and a definitive change in convictions. Only thorough a face to face interaction are you going to be able to assess where she truly stands. Should all go well, it could be the gateway to setting aside your fears and feeling comfortable asking her out! Having an open, honest conversation will help you determine the best thing for you, and ultimately the future of your relationship with this girl, whether it's staying just friends or something more!

Best of luck on this journey! :)



Popping in to say hi and maybe get some advice. There is a femme I have had a crush on for 2 years now. I never pursued it because she is straight. I found out recently that she actually is interested in me but is unsure of the whole trans thing. She knows I am trans and had told a mutual friend of ours several months ago that she would be interested after I have the final surgery.

Somehow she got the mistaken idea talking to me that I was going to have lower surgery. I am not. The technology for it just isn't good enough (in my opinion) and there are things (sexual) that I like about being female from the waist down and won't trade that if the technology for phalloplasty isn't good enough for me.

When I told this to our friend he actually went back and told her. Somehow he worked it into the conversation naturally. Apparently my 'crush' talks about me a lot with a couple of different friends of ours. They have all come to me and told me about their conversations. Usually if she wants to know something personal she just talks to me. BUT... she has talked to more than one person about being with me. Now she has said (verified by more than one source) that she's interested regardless if I have the surgery or not.

So my dilemma... Do I try and ask her out? I don't think asking her will ruin the friendship. That's pretty strong between us. I don't know if I am brave enough or bold enough to ask her and I'm not sure how to ask her out. I've dated a straight woman before. It was the longest lasting and most loving relationship I have ever had. (That ex told me yesterday that she misses me and would date me again. Sorry, but I'm not interested in going back to her.)

I'm rambling. I'm tired. I have a touch of the flu. LOL But... I will be seeing this person tonight when I go in to work. She's supposed to be coming over to my place sometime soon to pick up some furniture I'm giving to her and she will probably come to my birthday party in a few weeks.

:seeingstars:

[Jesse]

I would not be okay with the hormones were this my child. Generally they prescribe hormone-blocking meds at this age to stop the masculinization process from happening, then provide hormones and surgeries at later dates.

Hmmm...watching the View this morning and the subject of transgender comes up. This weekend on 20/20 it will be discussed. Interesting, it will be a young boy, now becoming a girl. She is 11, but on hormones. She is interested in dating ( at 11 is too young) but it will probably give insight on how to approach it.
Set your DVR' s now :)

[Trev]

Here's to a great weekend ahead of us...make it wonderful Everyone!

[Trev]

Good morning everyone! Oh how I do love me a Sunday. A much needed hair cut on the books today and probably some yard work. Enjoy this great day and definitely grab an opportunity if it comes along.

[Bèsame*]

Good Afternoon..

Sorta bragging....it's 68 outside.

Grabbing the opportunity to say hello to you and everyone who reads this. Also grabbing a peek at some bull riding..so exciting. However, I think a ride should last longer than 8 seconds ;)

Thinking, I'm also going to grab a bucket and a sponge to wash my car:\

Enjoy the Sunday.Good morning everyone! Oh how I do love me a Sunday. A much needed hair cut on the books today and probably some yard work. Enjoy this great day and definitely grab an opportunity if it comes along.

[curlyredhead]

Good Afternoon..

Sorta bragging....it's 68 outside.

Grabbing the opportunity to say hello to you and everyone who reads this. Also grabbing a peek at some bull riding..so exciting. However, I think a ride should last longer than 8 seconds ;)

Thinking, I'm also going to grab a bucket and a sponge to wash my car:\

Enjoy the Sunday.

I am just relaxing today I might go run a few errands not sure yet.. Some good football is on TV today. I am about to eat some lunch. I hope you have a great Sunday as well :)

[EmpressM]

Good morning, Singles! Another Monday ahead of us. I hope everyone makes it through unscathed! :) I just returned home from hitting the gym with my trainer, and now enjoying a nice, hot, cup of coffee. Anyone care for a cup?

How was everyone's weekend?

[Trev]

Good morning, Singles! Another Monday ahead of us. I hope everyone makes it through unscathed! :) I just returned home from hitting the gym with my trainer, and now enjoying a nice, hot, cup of coffee. Anyone care for a cup?

How was everyone's weekend?

Way too short, but no complaints :)

One day down...4 left. February is right around the corner and hopes of spring soon. Have a Great evening Everyone!

[MickMan]

Morning everyone!

Up early working on my Dis. Lots of work, but it is kind of fun!

Went to see my Thai friend yesterday. It was moms bday so me and a buddy took mom there for lunch. I wanted to be certain that my perception was not skewed of this woman's intentions towards me. My buddy said it was very overt and that she "wants me bad" LOL

Well I guess now that I am certain of her feelings, I now have to figure out what to do. I am still torn as to how to approach this. My buddy said that we looked very comfortable and natural together. It feels that way too. But, what risk am I wiling to take. I think this is the question I have to answer before I do anything.

Perhaps one day there will be a world where it is the content of ones character that is important rather than the color of ones skin or the structure of ones genitals.

[Bèsame*]

Good Morning my friends!

I hope today finds you warm even if the temp says something different. Your work load seems easy even though there is lots to do. And your thoughts are happy even though you have lots on your mind.

Mick, I hope that world of which we are not judged by our shells but what we hold inside is in our lifetime soon:) ......sometimes those shells have the best insides, it takes a special person to realize that.

Happy day all,
Unique

[MickMan]

Good morning everyone,

Hope this chilly start finds my fellow Floridians with working heat or fireplace! I am glad this does not happen too often here!

Enjoying my cup of Java next to the fire and trying to relax before delving into my work.

Have a wonderful and productive day everyone!
Mick

[MickMan]

Good Morning everyone!

Well, old man winter has finally made his way back here to Florida. Burrrrr! But my good friend Java Joe helps to stay warm.

Hope everyone is well!
Mick

[Heavenleahangel]

Mick, I would gladly trade places with you or join you even! It is currently -4* here with a high of 15*. The winds will make it seem colder. How it can seem any colder than that, I'm not sure! All I know is it's too cold to even go outside! I just wanna stay in bed and bury myself under the covers!!!

[MickMan]

Mick, I would gladly trade places with you or join you even! It is currently -4* here with a high of 15*. The winds will make it seem colder. How it can seem any colder than that, I'm not sure! All I know is it's too cold to even go outside! I just wanna stay in bed and bury myself under the covers!!!

Which is why I stay my behind in FL LMAO

[Bèsame*]

Ooops...

It's 59 here. No sun, but fog, which is interesting since I'm about 150 miles from the coast. I want to open my windows but I'm waiting for the alarm company to get here to set up my new door. Of course that 4 hour window of arrival time will be at the last min, lol.

The weekend is shortly upon us...what are you going to do? The rodeo is coming to town...hmmmm

Happy day all, keep smiling :)
Unique

[Trev]

Brrr here too -2 this morning when I left for work. I said WTH Old Man Winter you can't hold on forever.

Rodeo?? It's making a stop over in my neck of woods in a couple of weeks. Oh yeah I have connections for some tickets! Life is good!

Stay safe and warm everyone..be kind to yourselves.

[curlyredhead]

While everyone else is suffering in sub zero temps we are at a measly 50 degrees here in Dallas. Except its overcast and just not a pleasing day.

Hope everyone has a wonderful weekend!

[Bèsame*]

Ummmmm, it was 72 here, last I looked. The car was warm, turned on the a/c for the ride home. Now now now, don't hate:/

[EmpressM]

YAY!! We made it to the weekend! I hope everyone is having a terrific Saturday!

I'm up early and enjoying a nice, hot, cup of coffee. The weather can't quite decide what it wants to do here in Dallas. It was 79 on Thursday, now we are back in the mid 40's, and it is just generally grey and gloomy. Guess it is a good day to get my nails done, catch up on homework, and try out a new coconut flour bread recipe I found. I'll save the outdoor activities for a pretty day!

Stay warm and healthy everyone! Wishing you all a wonderful weekend!

[MickMan]

Beautiful morning! Crisp and cool but not cold. Another day of 70 degree temps!!! Sorry everyone, but I do enjoy this warm winters.

Warming up the smoker and about to slow smoke a bunch of pork. Shoulder, but, hock, sausages and even a hen. 8-10 hours from now will be mouth watering succulent pig! Yummmm

Enjoy your day everyone!
Mick

[GraffitiBoi]

Ummmmm, it was 72 here, last I looked. The car was warm, turned on the a/c for the ride home. Now now now, don't hate:/

Definitely not hating... But I am a little jealous! I suppose I could always move somewhere warmer. LOL

[Heavenleahangel]

I ain't hating, either. I could be somewhere warm...but at this current moment I am not..and I am freezing...and while envy or jealousy isn't always flattering to someone...I must admit I am looking quite forward to summer here in NY!!

[Trev]

Good Morning! HA! 68 degrees today with a 30% chance it will not rain. I think it's a good day to get projects finished around the house. I've only started about a dozen or so and my goal is to complete half.

Have a great Sunday everyone!

[Bèsame*]

Happy Sunday!,!!

Going to go to Bandera yeehaw Texas. It's about 30 miles away, it's the Cowboy Capital of The world. Why? It's a one light town, lol? Going to go see my fav 14 year old cowboy boy try his hand on a bull today. This will be his fourth time. I love that little guy, he is so cowboy, lol.

So off to pull on my jeans. Enjoy the day!

Trev come back and tell us how many projects got completed:)

[curlyredhead]

Hope everyone enjoyed their weekend!!! I had a nice weekend. I hung out with a friend on Friday. We saw a movie and got dinner. Saturday I did some cleaning around the apartment, was gonna go out but due to some complications that night I was ordered to stay home. Sunday rolled around, I got to see my best friend we have known each other almost 13 yrs! Her and her wife we all met up for Brunch yesterday. Great time good conversation. I came home and relaxed for most of the day, then went grocery shopping. First time in over a month since I had gone!

Well let's hope this week is off to a good start for everyone!

[EmpressM]

How is everyone doing on this fabulous Monday?

I had a mellow weekend, which I was a little bummed out about since I'm used running Mach 5 with my hair on fire! Lol! Turned out to be a good thing though! I managed to get ahead on my studies, planned my summer vacation, had my nails done, tried out a new paleo bread recipe, and got Muse tickets!

Monday isn't slowing down either! Just found out I have to go to New York on Friday for work. Let's hope the rest of the week is just as exciting!

Have a terrific week everybody! :)

~M

[Trev]

The weekend went too fast! Eventful and some much needed projects finished around the house. Hope everyone has great week.

[VintageFemme]

Hey everyone =)

My weekend is just ending so tomorrow is Monday for me. Oh joy. It's been a little while since I stopped in here to say hello.... so hello! I hope everyone is having a most wondermous week filled with smiles & happy.ness. We have big storms on the way tomorrow, that makes this girl happy.

Love.

[Duchess]

Hope everybody's week is awesome.:)

[jcisbutch]

Hope its a super week for everyone....

[curlyredhead]

Interesting start for the day. I woke up to a flooded bathroom ack! Luckily it wasn't a clogged pipe or anything like that. But it was coming from the ceiling. My A/C had condensation but the drip pan, wasn't draining properly, so it started leaking all over my floor how nice. I just got into work about 15 minutes ago. *Sighs* why is it whenever I try to get up early and get started off right something has to happen. Oh well maintenance came and I hope they fixed it we will find out. Sooner then later I hope. Anyways, the storms are starting to roll in I love thunderstorms! My truck was being tossed around like a toy on the highway. Anyways hope all have a great day be safe!

~Curly

[Trev]

Yaahoo Thunderstorms today 4 inches and a winter weather advisory for tomorrow. Craziness I tell you! Have a great mid week.

[EmpressM]

Good Morning, and HAPPY HUMP DAY, singles! Just a few more days until the weekend!

How is everyone's week so far?

I'll be puppy sitting for the most adorable chocolate Lab rescue until Friday. Her name is Mischa and she is so much fun! It will be nice to have some puppy time since I am too busy for one of my own!

[curlyredhead]

Ok is it Friday yet!? I already have a semi busy weekend. Friday night I have a good friend staying over the night. Saturday I haven't decided what I am going to do as of yet... Shall be determined.... Sunday!!! FUNDAY!!! I have my triathlon team Open House!!! Get to see some faces I haven't seen in a while, then after that I am going to a Super Bowl party!!! Wooohoo.

I hope everyone's week ends on a high note! Stay safe and warm or dry wherever you are :)

[VintageFemme]

Good Morning, and HAPPY HUMP DAY, singles! Just a few more days until the weekend!

How is everyone's week so far?

I'll be puppy sitting for the most adorable chocolate Lab rescue until Friday. Her name is Mischa and she is so much fun! It will be nice to have some puppy time since I am too busy for one of my own!


Aw that's what I need! Puppy time. =)

[Bèsame*]

Good early evening:)

We made it through the first month, good bye January. Looking forward to warmer days, not only for me but every one! My heart is warm, it's already starting:)

Happy weekend, the Super Bowl is upon us. Enjoy the game, and pay attention to the best part..commercials..lol.

Do we want the ground hog to see his shadow or not? I forget..lol

[Trev]

No thank you...I do not want to see his shadow. That would mean 6 more weeks of bad weather. I for one, am so glad the weekend is here. This has been the week from hell at work. Full moon has a new meaning for me :| Have a great weekend singles and Enjoy it most of all!!

[Trev]

FYI...No shadow! C'mon SPRING

[EmpressM]

Good Morning! :)

I hope you all are enjoying the weekend!

I am so glad to be home after a fast trip to the east coast! Nothing better than sleeping in your own comfy bed after a hotel stay!

Glad to hear Phil didn't see his shadow, I'm ready for an early spring!

Having a party for the Super Bowl, so I'm making scrumptious goodies for my guests. Taking Unique's advice and looking forward to the best part; THE COMMERCIALS!

[FemmeBibliophile]

Heh. I need a good laugh today.

Me: Single. Femme. Employed. Homestudy approved. Background checked. Fingerprinted.
Adoption approved. Not looking to be a single parent forever.

You: Single. Ftm. Butch. Stone. Daddy. Syr. Employed. Willing to be background checked and fingerprinted. Looking to have a family to call your own.

[CA_BabyCakes]

Good weather for sleeping in :) If i could just get out of work and get out of taking todays math test i would be oh so happy! A girl can dream....

[Jesse]

So what goodies did you make, and how long before the leftovers get here? :byebye:

Good Morning! :)

I hope you all are enjoying the weekend!

I am so glad to be home after a fast trip to the east coast! Nothing better than sleeping in your own comfy bed after a hotel stay!

Glad to hear Phil didn't see his shadow, I'm ready for an early spring!

Having a party for the Super Bowl, so I'm making scrumptious goodies for my guests. Taking Unique's advice and looking forward to the best part; THE COMMERCIALS!

[curlyredhead]

Heh. I need a good laugh today.

Me: Single. Femme. Employed. Homestudy approved. Background checked. Fingerprinted.
Adoption approved. Not looking to be a single parent forever.

You: Single. Ftm. Butch. Stone. Daddy. Syr. Employed. Willing to be background checked and fingerprinted. Looking to have a family to call your own.

Single (Check)
FTM (Check)
Emplyed (Check)
Willing to have background checked (Check)
Will be finger printed, did it for my name change 2 times , and gender marker (Check)
Would like to be a dad some day (Check)

[Kent]

Good Morning Everyone.. Hope it's a great day for all... :)

[EmpressM]

Whaaat? You mean you didn't get the special, cold-packed, FedEx care package yet? Lol! ;)

I made all kinds of yummy snacks! Warm, Aromatic mixed nuts, a recipe from the bar at Union Station in NY that go great with a cold beer and everyone raves about! Homemade marinara with meatballs for subs, guacamole and queso. We smoked ribs and grilled BBQ chicken. I also made potato salad and baked beans. Even baked Super Bowl cupcakes and decorated them in a football motif! So much fun! Not everyone's team won, but all the guests were well fed!

So what goodies did you make, and how long before the leftovers get here? :byebye:

[EmpressM]

Hi Kent! Hope you have a great day yourself! :) Its a gorgeous, sunny, 75 degrees here today! Looking forward to spending some time outside!

Good Morning Everyone.. Hope it's a great day for all... :)

[Jesse]

Hmmm...I did see some kids running down the street with a box the other day. Oh well, it's the thought that matters. It all sounds wonderful! I'm glad you had good food and friends to share it with. :)

Whaaat? You mean you didn't get the special, cold-packed, FedEx care package yet? Lol! ;)

I made all kinds of yummy snacks! Warm, Aromatic mixed nuts, a recipe from the bar at Union Station in NY that go great with a cold beer and everyone raves about! Homemade marinara with meatballs for subs, guacamole and queso. We smoked ribs and grilled BBQ chicken. I also made potato salad and baked beans. Even baked Super Bowl cupcakes and decorated them in a football motif! So much fun! Not everyone's team won, but all the guests were well fed!

[Trev]

Hello Singles!! Hope everyone is Great! The weekend is close again. Who has plans? I am going to a "gathering" on Friday night. I have to be PC because it involves my work place. We can't say PARTY! Should've be a good time, I've seen the RSVP list.

Have a safe and wonderful weekend!

[Jesse]

There is a chance of rain tomorrow and again on Friday, so I will play with my new food dehydrator on the rainiest of those days, then on Saturday I am setting up my tent in the backyard and will re-seal the seams and waterproof the tent, then let it sit up overnight to dry. Lol! I'm so much fun. :tease:
At some point I will be at the park with Sadie on the trails, or maybe at Green Key beach.

[Kent]

Hi Kent! Hope you have a great day yourself! :) Its a gorgeous, sunny, 75 degrees here today! Looking forward to spending some time outside!

Hi Empress,

We had the most gorgeous day yesterday and today is as well.... Texas weather can be awesome... It was in the high 70's and think it will be again today... All I need is my fishing poles and a little bait and I'm set..

Kent

[Kent]

There is a chance of rain tomorrow and again on Friday, so I will play with my new food dehydrator on the rainiest of those days, then on Saturday I am setting up my tent in the backyard and will re-seal the seams and waterproof the tent, then let it sit up overnight to dry. Lol! I'm so much fun. :tease:
At some point I will be at the park with Sadie on the trails, or maybe at Green Key beach.

Smart thinkin' bout' that tent.. Now, I know exactly how to do it... thanks :)

[curlyredhead]

It was another gloomy foggy drizzling morning going to work this morning. But the day has become brighter! Let's hope I don't have anymore hardware trouble today at work. We are down one printer, someone either broke it or it was just on it's last life. At least I was able to re-route all of the printing to another printer *sigh*.

:seeingstars: :thud: :computer:

[Jesse]

Thanks Kent. In case you don't already know, it's best to seal the seams first and give that time to soak in and dry, otherwise the sealer will just peel off... and always seal them from the inside. Also, if you do use the water repellent, know that if you are using the tent when it is not raining, you will need to make certain that it is well vented and even leave the fly off or you will develop condensation issues. I do it because I live in Florida and when it isn't pouring down rain, it's generally too hot to be sleeping in a closed up tent anyway, so the fly is usually off, or I at least have all of the windows open. Thinking I saw you are in Texas, so you likely have the same type of issues with the heat and rain.

Smart thinkin' bout' that tent.. Now, I know exactly how to do it... thanks :)

[ScandalAndy]

ooooooh, tent? There is camping happening? ( I appear to have missed quite a bit)

[Bèsame*]

ooooooh, add pitching the tent to my to do list before it gets to hot!

[Kent]

Thanks Kent. In case you don't already know, it's best to seal the seams first and give that time to soak in and dry, otherwise the sealer will just peel off... and always seal them from the inside. Also, if you do use the water repellent, know that if you are using the tent when it is not raining, you will need to make certain that it is well vented and even leave the fly off or you will develop condensation issues. I do it because I live in Florida and when it isn't pouring down rain, it's generally too hot to be sleeping in a closed up tent anyway, so the fly is usually off, or I at least have all of the windows open. Thinking I saw you are in Texas, so you likely have the same type of issues with the heat and rain.

Thanks Jesse... I'm not sure what kind of shape my old tent is in right now. I need to check it out. Camping weather is almost here. It's been getting down to the 40's at night here, so in a few more weeks it'll be a little warmer at night.

Camping does sound good right now with a nice, sweet femme beside me...

Feel like I'm dreaming, I can almost see the stars....

[Trev]

Thanks Jesse... I'm not sure what kind of shape my old tent is in right now. I need to check it out. Camping weather is almost here. It's been getting down to the 40's at night here, so in a few more weeks it'll be a little warmer at night.

Camping does sound good right now with a nice, sweet femme beside me...

Feel like I'm dreaming, I can almost see the stars....

No more trying to decide how to use my PTO time.... My tent sleeps 6, but I am sure I can cozy it up for two.

[Jesse]

Looking like a 'Camping Singles' thread now. Lol! Hope I didn't cause a derail.

[EmpressM]

LOL!! Seems like there's plenty of interest, as well as camping and fishing gear to accommodate everyone! I'll bring the S'mores! :)

Looking like a 'Camping Singles' thread now. Lol! Hope I didn't cause a derail.

No more trying to decide how to use my PTO time.... My tent sleeps 6, but I am sure I can cozy it up for two.

Thanks Jesse... I'm not sure what kind of shape my old tent is in right now. I need to check it out. Camping weather is almost here. It's been getting down to the 40's at night here, so in a few more weeks it'll be a little warmer at night.

Camping does sound good right now with a nice, sweet femme beside me...

Feel like I'm dreaming, I can almost see the stars....

ooooooh, add pitching the tent to my to do list before it gets to hot!

ooooooh, tent? There is camping happening? ( I appear to have missed quite a bit)

Hi Empress,

We had the most gorgeous day yesterday and today is as well.... Texas weather can be awesome... It was in the high 70's and think it will be again today... All I need is my fishing poles and a little bait and I'm set..

Kent

[ScandalAndy]

lol, i'm totally down with a camping trip! I don't have any gear, unfortunately, so i will just have to be in charge of food and entertainment. The last time I went camping, it was with a drag/burlesque troupe so there were rhinestone bras and feather boas EVERYWHERE.

[Kent]

Camping, fishing, swimming, lil' grillin' and beer drinkin' and some music and we got us a party...

[Trev]

Camping, fishing, swimming, lil' grillin' and beer drinkin' and some music and we got us a party...

Guess we just need to get out the calendar and throw a dart at it..

[Jesse]

:glasses: ...almost finished building the teleporter.

[Kent]

Guess we just need to get out the calendar and throw a dart at it..

If we're gonna do it in Texas, I'm in... Just let me know when....

[EmpressM]

Well, y'all keep me posted! I'm definitely in for a camping trip! You know, its always a good idea to bring a Girl Scout along when you go camping... lol!

[Trev]

Texas is one place I've not visited.....yet

[Jesse]

Well, y'all keep me posted! I'm definitely in for a camping trip! You know, its always a good idea to bring a Girl Scout along when you go camping... lol!

So are you bringing cookies? :cookielove:

[stepfordfemme]

Hope everyone is having a splendid weekend :)

[Trev]

:glasses: ...almost finished building the teleporter.

How's this coming along Jesse? The camping list is getting long and you know femmes don't like to be kept waiting. No pressure though :pirate-steer:

[Jesse]

How's this coming along Jesse? The camping list is getting long and you know femmes don't like to be kept waiting. No pressure though :pirate-steer:


:sunglass: Well, it's like this... seems that Nemo fella caused our weather to be a lil on the iffy side the past couple of days. It has been raining off and on... more on than off. So I stayed inside and played with the food dehydrator. :)

Besides, Texas is too far to travel for a camping trip even with a teleporter. Have you see the price of fuel for those things lately? Ya'll have fun though, and I'll be out in the woods somewhere around here.

[Bèsame*]

Ummm, what is a teleporter? Says the femme that can wait for the answer......lol:sunglass: Well, it's like this... seems that Nemo fella caused our weather to be a lil on the iffy side the past couple of days. It has been raining off and on... more on than off. So I stayed inside and played with the food dehydrator. :)

Besides, Texas is too far to travel for a camping trip even with a teleporter. Have you see the price of fuel for those things lately? Ya'll have fun though, and I'll be out in the woods somewhere around here.

[Jesse]

Ummm, what is a teleporter? Says the femme that can wait for the answer......lol

http://cache.io9.com/assets/images/8/2011/11/medium_9b24d1affcdf9e0a46d86b272c2a9931.jpg

Ever watch Star Trek? Short answer- A teleporter is a theoretical Sci-fi version of transportation of a person or persons from one place to the other. Other more modern thoughts on the subject have to do with wormhole theory.

[Bèsame*]

Ummm..

Sorry, I know nothing of this "Star Track " stuff. That's right, I'm one of those..lol

I'll be full of questions.

[Jesse]

Never seen Star Trek? Serious? Hmm...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Star_Trek

[Bèsame*]

Nope, Never

I do know characters and the secret hand signal, but never saw a show or movie. However, teleporter sounds like something Marty McFly should of had..lolNever seen Star Trek? Serious? Hmm...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Star_Trek

[Trev]

Nope, Never

I do know characters and the secret hand signal, but never saw a show or movie. However, teleporter sounds like something Marty McFly should of had..lol

:| you have some catching up to do

[EmpressM]

So are you bringing cookies? :cookielove:

Now what kind of Girl Scout would I be if I didn't bring cookies!?!?

[EmpressM]

lol! Well this thread digressed beautifully into the vortex of geekdom! While we are on the subject, if I had to choose, I'd rather travel in the TARDIS than be beamed by Scotty. Just sayin...

[Kent]

Texas is one place I've not visited.....yet

Trev,

You just might like Texas. It's a pretty friendly place and we have some very pretty femmes...

[Trev]

Trev,

You just might like Texas. It's a pretty friendly place and we have some very pretty femmes...

Kent I have heard that ;)

[Jesse]

lol! Well this thread digressed beautifully into the vortex of geekdom! While we are on the subject, if I had to choose, I'd rather travel in the TARDIS than be beamed by Scotty. Just sayin...

Heck I'd love to travel in either one! Ol Scotty saved the team's butt many a time by beaming them up before some something or other ate them! Lol!