And how are you feeling?

[FireSignFemme]

Fortunate and in a really good place emmotionally.

[homoe]

Excellent!

[Bèsame*]

actually, I'm feeling impressed.

The guys at work told me about a really great car wax. I ordered it from Amazon and it came yesterday. I washed, vacuumed and waxed my car after work yesterday.
It came out looking beautiful. Glass like shine. So...you want to know what I used??

Insta wax by Chemical Guys
Super easy, hardly any hard buffing. Just spray on, wipe , let dry and used clean cloth to wipe off.

Feeling impressed I did that! Even my "snowbird" neighbor said it looked really good.

[GeorgiaMa'am]

Relaxed, laid back and satisfied. I have no treatments this week. I get to spend time alone in the house all day today and part of tomorrow, as everyone is elsewhere. A recent long-term problem found a long-term solution yesterday. And, I have a house full of goodies because I went to the high-end grocery store yesterday.

[Reach *BANNED*]

I am still feeling the same as My last post - excited and sad. I love My new place and I cannot wait to some more of My touches on it. I just wish My Mom was here to see it.

[FireSignFemme]

In pretty good spirits considering how much housework I had to catch up on today.

[Gemme]

I'm tired. Like, to the bone tired. I feel like I could crash and sleep for days but when I get under the covers any time before midnight or so, I lay there with my eyes open and a list of things to do tomorrow running through my head.

Also, I'm grateful. Starting on Easter, I'll be able to close my office so I'll have one day a week off and I can sleep in if I want to. Just two Sundays to go!

[GeorgiaMa'am]

I'm a little frustrated. My toilet broke, but at least I can still flush it manually. The boi won't be home until tomorrow morning, and I'm sure he can fix it. The boy, on the other hand, is totally useless when it comes to anything mechanical - but he did make us a delicious dinner tonight. So really, I'm feeling a little full and pretty happy. It will all work out soon.

[Gemme]

I feel satiated, hopeful and happy to have a secure home.

[espressolover83]

Tired - but the good kind of tired. :)

[Orema]

Good but tired.

[Reach *BANNED*]

I feel productive and I am finding some peace.

[GeorgiaMa'am]

I'm feeling some trepidation. My sister is going to buzz my hair when she gets here Thursday. I know, I was going to do it this weekend, but I ended up just cutting off the length of it (about 12 inches) and that was traumatic enough. She will help me.

Also, I'm seeing my oncologist on Thursday. I get to find out what happened with all my labs after my first chemo treatment. The doc will determine what chemo treatments to try on my next visit. The side effects ended up being so awful . . . well, I just don't know. I don't know what to do, except keep on keeping on.

[randrum]

A little reflective, a little lonely, but mostly trying to be grateful.

[Orema]

Good. I finally reached my weight goal of losing 34 lbs. Had planned on meeting that goal by Jan 1, 2021. I’m a little late. Still, I made it.

New goal is to lose another 15 lbs by August 1. That’s about 4 lbs a month. Should be able to make that happen, but I won’t be hard on myself if I don’t.

:bow:

[easygoingfemme]

Good. I finally reached my weight goal of losing 34 lbs. Had planned on meeting that goal by Jan 1, 2021. I’m a little late. Still, I made it.

New goal is to lose another 15 lbs by August 1. That’s about 4 lbs a month. Should be able to make that happen, but I won’t be hard on myself if I don’t.

:bow:

That's awesome- go you!


I feel good on day 5 of cycling. Today was inside due to rain but everything else has been outside.

[GeorgiaMa'am]

I feel good overall, but I'm a little sneezy. I'm at my Mom's house, where everything is blooming. It's gorgeous outside, though! There a great big old dogwood tree covered with white blossoms right outside my bedroom window.

[easygoingfemme]

Also, I'm seeing my oncologist on Thursday. I get to find out what happened with all my labs after my first chemo treatment. The doc will determine what chemo treatments to try on my next visit. The side effects ended up being so awful . . . well, I just don't know. I don't know what to do, except keep on keeping on.

How was this meeting? I hope there's a tweaked plan in place?


I'm feeling so glad that it's Friday and I'm leaving work two hours early to go for a bike ride :)

[FireSignFemme]

Tired, feverish, arm's a little sore. Funny thing about it - COVID vaccine, didn't hurt at all, didn't really even feel it. It was the most painless shot I've ever had, but today ouch! J and I both have sore arms but her's not as much as mine. I can push my finger hard over the injection site, which is bruised and no pain at all, but all around it, my entire upper arm is sore? I think It might be because I slept on my side and woke up with my whole fat body weight pressing against that shoulder.

[Kätzchen]

I feel so sad for people of color who live in the state of Georgia, after GOP passed Jim Crow era voter restrictive laws. If my home state did that I would be so upset. It is so un-American to take the right to vote away in such harsh terms. People will be arrested for handing out bottled water or food to help with the horrible wait times imposed on voters who live in Georgia.

Sad, upset and angry, is how I feel for people who are facing disenfranchisement of the worst, horrible kind.

[Stone-Butch]

I think I may be coming out of my slump but I am not pushing it. I have lost some good weight after eating a muffin or toast for breakfast and one other meal of fish and a veggie. I think that's healthy till I feel like I want more.

[GeorgiaMa'am]

Also, I'm seeing my oncologist on Thursday. I get to find out what happened with all my labs after my first chemo treatment. The doc will determine what chemo treatments to try on my next visit. The side effects ended up being so awful . . . well, I just don't know. I don't know what to do, except keep on keeping on.



How was this meeting? I hope there's a tweaked plan in place?


The exam was short. The oncologist said there was no new growth. He told me to take Zyrtec for my back pain :| Isn't Zyrtec an antihistamine? I don't get it, but I'll try it. He seemed quite convinced it would help, and so did his fellow/doctor-in-training, who was present. He didn't fill me in on how he might have tweaked my plan, so I guess I'll find out more when I go in for the treatment.

In related news, my sister and I drove a couple of hundred miles together last night, and we chatted the entire time. She told me that during the first treatment, I went to sleep several times (which I don't remember). She also said that whenever I had a bad reaction, they would stop the treatment for awhile and pump me full of Benadryl (probably why I don't remember sleeping). I was bemused to learn that I woke up once feeling good and said something like, "This is great! If this is what it's going to be like, I can handle this no problem!" Wish I knew what was in that bag, and if I'm going to get it every time.

For thread compliance, right now I am feeling: kind of lumpy. I'm sleeping on a bed at my mom's house, and it can't compare to the bed I have at home. It's comfortable enough, though, and I've slept on it many times before. If I can just get to sleep, I'll wake up feeling great.

[GeorgiaMa'am]

I feel so sad for people of color who live in the state of Georgia, after GOP passed Jim Crow era voter restrictive laws. If my home state did that I would be so upset. It is so un-American to take the right to vote away in such harsh terms. People will be arrested for handing out bottled water or food to help with the horrible wait times imposed on voters who live in Georgia.

Sad, upset and angry, is how I feel for people who are facing disenfranchisement of the worst, horrible kind.

This is infuriating. The worst part of the new laws, I think, is that it allows the GOP to dissolve the County Boards of Elections, and put their own appointees in to run the elections. The Democrats are going to have to monitor the elections very closely to point out incidents of voter intimidation.

[Reach *BANNED*]

I am feeling the progress. I love the feeling of accomplishment, no matter what it is in. :mohawk:

[Kätzchen]

I feel super lucky today. While out shopping for gifts for my honey, the lady who helped me at the store told me about a place I could call to see if I could get a Covid Vaccine shot. OMG, I called when I got back from shopping and the clinic scheduled me for my vaccine in a week and a half. The universe absolutely knows how happy I am and how lucky I feel. :blueheels:

[easygoingfemme]

The exam was short. The oncologist said there was no new growth. He told me to take Zyrtec for my back pain :| Isn't Zyrtec an antihistamine? I don't get it, but I'll try it. He seemed quite convinced it would help, and so did his fellow/doctor-in-training, who was present. He didn't fill me in on how he might have tweaked my plan, so I guess I'll find out more when I go in for the treatment.




Def try the Zyrtec. They told me to use Claritin. It was one of those... someone discovered this while in chemo and taking Claritin for allergies that their bone pain went away. When I had my first round of chemo and then they gave me that shot that increases white blood cells (the shot is supposed to be what causes the bone pain) I woke up that night literally feeling like I could feel and hear every bone in my body snapping. It was terrifying. I'd taken a claritin that morning but took another that night and the bone pain went away in an hour. From then on I always took claritin for my first few days after treatments and the pain was never that bad again.

[kittygrrl]

Skipped dinner last night...wine on an empty stomach, not good...so going to execute earlier...decided to try my hand at making Naan..it's been a project since i had to begin with making Ghee, (this isn'tthe first time i've made it)..an Aloohttps://www.indianhealthyrecipes.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/03/curry-013.jpgCurry..Mint Chutney..w Spiced Basmati Rice..fire on the hearth w chai

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[GeorgiaMa'am]

I'm feeling so grateful for my mom and my sister. We had a great weekend together.

[Reach *BANNED*]

Today was an emotionally tiring day. However, it is almost over and I keep pushing. I feel hopeful and grateful today.

[FireSignFemme]

Depressed. I keep saying I can handle my own meds but nobody believes me. Well even I wouldn't let myself run out of Xanax. I'm not that forgetful. Sheesh.

[JustLovelyJenn]

Anxious... about a lot of things.

[Stone-Butch]

Feeling like everyone deserves a second chance.

[GeorgiaMa'am]

Feeling pretty good, 28 hours post-chemo. I've got some new meds for joint pain.

[Kätzchen]

My heart hurts tonight.

My boys are Black. Rico is Black. The George Floyd trial. My heart hurts for the survivors of George Floyd. My heart hurts for the pain people witnessed and endured while George Floyd lost his life. My heart hurts for my boys and Rico. I know my boys experience first hand. Rico's, only because of what he shares about that part of his life.

Police brutality and White Supremacy must be eradicated from American society. The GOP must go. I gotta stop there, for right now.

[randrum]

Burned out.

Everything feels like a bit of a project. And I don't have the mental focus for another virtual meeting.

I miss seeing people, in person. And as an introvert, that is not something I ever thought I would say.

[JustLovelyJenn]

Overwhelmed... but excited. And ready to plan the next adventure.

[Reach *BANNED*]

I am feeling determined. No matter what is thrown at me - I WILL overcome it.

[JDeere]

Overwhelmed, tired and hungry

[Gemme]

I agree with randrum (except the virtual meeting thing as I've been in person with customers and coworkers the entire time) but I also feel damn good. Two people noticed my weight loss today and commented on it, unsolicited.

[GeorgiaMa'am]

Pretty well, pretty well. Only mild chemo symptoms, easily ignored. Ready to do some work, and maybe some crafts.

[Orema]

Tired and grumpy. Didn’t sleep well. Arm is hurting way more than when I was initially inoculated. Tylenol and melatonin did not help. And still haven’t adjusted to the eastern time zone. There was a dusting of snow on the ground when I got up and the weather man was excited because it may get to the mid 30s today.

[MrSunshine]

Sore, like basic training sore. I couldn’t figure out why the whole corner of one end of my yard always look like crap. So I whipped out my tiller and I went apeshit on that corner and there is no grass no more. I then realized why it always look like crap, because the neighbor who lives behind me backs over my yard every.single.day. She ran up over the damn dirt heap!Ugh. Driving school people, driving school.

[JustLovelyJenn]

Determined to feel different...

[Reach *BANNED*]

I feel loved today and happy that I am able to reciprocate that love by helping my sister get back to being herself.

[Bèsame*]

Oh so much better today.
Yet, sleepy, due to the fact I got up at dark o'clock this morning. I'm going to repeat that tomorrow.

[Reach *BANNED*]

I feel pretty happy - and this great weather is helping a whole hell of a lot.

[GeorgiaMa'am]

I'm feeling very comfortable - the door is open letting in a breeze, free from pollen because it has rained all day.

[Bèsame*]

relaxed, almost sleepy

I was up at dark o'clock again this morning. A storm blew in late this afternoon. I was in JoAnn's when the sky busted loose.
Been thunderstorms with the loss of wi-fi. Oh darn! lol
My phone still works.

[GeorgiaMa'am]

I am feeling pretty broke at the moment because I just did my taxes. They did not work out the way they were supposed to and I ended up owing a lot; I even had to pay a penalty. I need to investigate that and change my W-2s.

[JDeere]

Like utter crap

we still do not know whats going on with my health

[C0LLETTE]

HORRIFIED

‘Kept in sexual slavery’: Hundreds of women report horrific violence by troops in Ethiopia’s Tigray region
REUTERS
PUBLISHED APRIL 15, 2021

The young mother was trying to get home with food for her two children when she says soldiers pulled her off a minibus in Ethiopia’s Tigray region, claiming it was overloaded.

It was the beginning of an 11-day ordeal in February, during which she says she was repeatedly raped by 23 soldiers who forced nails, a rock and other items into her vagina, and threatened her with a knife.

Doctors showed Reuters the bloodstained stone and two 3-inch nails they said they had removed from her body.

The woman, 27, is among hundreds who have reported that they were subjected to horrific sexual violence by Ethiopian and allied Eritrean soldiers after fighting broke out in November in the mountainous northern region of Ethiopia, doctors said.

Some women were held captive for extended periods, days or weeks at a time, said Dr. Fasika Amdeselassie, the top public health official for the government-appointed interim administration in Tigray.

“Women are being kept in sexual slavery,” Fasika told Reuters. “The perpetrators have to be investigated.”

Reports of rape have been circulating for months. But Fasika’s assertion, based on women’s accounts, marks the first time an Ethiopian official – in this case, a top regional health officer – has made a sexual slavery accusation in connection with the conflict in Tigray.

In addition, eight other doctors at five public hospitals told Reuters that most of the rape victims described their attackers as either Ethiopian government soldiers or Eritrean troops. It was more common for women to report sexual violence by Eritrean soldiers, the doctors said.

The Eritreans have been helping Ethiopia’s central government fight the region’s former ruling party, the Tigray People’s Liberation Front (TPLF), in the conflict plaguing the Horn of Africa nation.

Taken together, the descriptions paint the most detailed picture to date of the sexual violence against women in Tigray and the military’s alleged involvement in it.

Most people interviewed for this article declined to be identified. They said they feared reprisals, including possible violence, by soldiers who guard the hospitals and towns.

Neither the Ethiopian nor the Eritrean governments responded to Reuters’ questions about specific cases raised by women and their doctors, or about the accusation of sexual slavery. No charges have been announced by civilian or military prosecutors against any soldiers. However, officials in both countries emphasized that their governments have zero tolerance for sexual violence –

The alleged sexual violence has drawn international attention.

An Ethiopian military spokesman and the head of a government task force on the Tigray crisis did not respond to phone calls and text messages seeking comment. Reuters could not reach military leaders in either country.

Asked about the reports that Eritrean troops have committed rapes in Tigray and are keeping women in sexual slavery, the country’s information minister, Yemane Gebremeskel, accused TPLF activists of “coaching ‘sympathizers’ to create false testimonies.”

“All the fabricated stories – which are alien to our culture and laws – are peddled to cover up the crimes of the TPLF which started the war,” he told Reuters in a written response.

RECORDS OF ABUSE
Fasika, the health official, said at least 829 cases of sexual assault have been reported at the five hospitals since the conflict in Tigray began.

Those cases were likely “the tip of the iceberg,” Fasika said. Rape is under-reported in Ethiopia because it carries a huge stigma. Also, most of the region’s health facilities are no longer functioning, and travel between towns remains dangerous, he said.

Most of the women who have come forward are either pregnant or sustained severe physical injury from the rapes, Fasika said.

Reuters interviewed 11 women who said they had been raped by soldiers from Eritrea, Ethiopia or both. Four said they were kidnapped, taken to military camps and gang raped, in some cases alongside other women. The women did not know the camp names but said they were located near Mekelle and the towns of Idaga Hamus, Wukro and Sheraro.

Five other women said they were held in fields or deserted houses for up to six days. And two said they were raped in their own homes.

Reuters could not independently verify their accounts. However, all told similar stories of being beaten and brutalized. Healthcare providers confirmed that the 11 women’s injuries were consistent with the events they described, and they showed Reuters medical records for three of the women detailing their conditions.

The health care providers also shared details of nine other cases of sexual assault, including the ordeals of two 14-year-old girls.

Although Ethiopia’s government declared victory over the TPLF in November, fighting continues in some areas, and medical workers say new rapes are reported at the region’s health facilities every day.

“This is being done to dishonour the women, to break their pride,” said a doctor at Ayder Referral Hospital, in Mekelle, citing the brutality of the attacks and humiliation of victims. “This is not for sexual gratification. The rapes are to punish Tigray.”

‘TELL MY STORY’
The 27-year-old mother said uniformed soldiers from Eritrea pulled her off a minibus on the road from Mekelle to the city of Adigrat on Feb. 6. They tied her up and marched her through fields to a bush camp, she said. After 11 days of rapes and beatings, she said, the soldiers forced nails, cotton, plastic bags and a rock into her vagina and left her alone in the bush.

Villagers found her unconscious and brought her to a nearby hospital.

She said she was still bleeding from severe internal injuries and could not control her urine, walk without a crutch or sit up for long periods. One leg was broken, she said.

She also described a different kind of pain: While in the hospital, she has no way to speak to her 4-year-old son and 6-year-old daughter because the Eritrean soldiers took her cellphone. She had left the children with her mother to search for food and never returned. At the time, the family had less than a week’s worth of bread.

“I don’t know anything, if they are dead or alive,” she said. “The enemy destroyed my life.”

A 32-year-old mother in Mekelle told Reuters that soldiers removed her from a minibus on the same road at the end of February. They were dressed in Ethiopian uniforms, she said, but spoke with an Eritrean accent and had traditional facial scarification typical of the neighbouring country. She said they shot her 12-year-old son dead in front of her, then brought her to a camp where she was held with other female captives and repeatedly raped for 10 days.

“Tell my story,” she said. “This is happening to women out there right now. I want this to end with me.”

A 28-year-old house cleaner said soldiers grabbed her from a street in Mekelle on the afternoon of Feb. 10 and took her to a field outside a military base where she was raped by more than 10 men wearing Ethiopian or Eritrean uniforms.

Wiping away tears, she said that during her two-week ordeal, soldiers doused her with alcohol and mocked her as they assaulted her. She escaped when her captors were distracted by gunfire, she said.

SHOT FOR RESISTING

Knowing their rapists are still at large also has discouraged women from seeking help, doctors said.

Many of the women who sought treatment at hospitals had vaginal and anal tears, sexually transmitted diseases and injuries that rendered them incontinent, said the Ayder hospital doctor, an obstetrician gynecologist. The doctor shared notes from 11 cases the hospital had treated involving women raped by soldiers.

One woman had been gang raped on three separate occasions, according to the hospital notes.

Another was five months pregnant when she was raped, the notes indicate. Two 14-year-old girls were sexually assaulted in front of their families. One girl had a hand and foot amputated.

She had been shot for resisting her assailant.

[GeorgiaMa'am]

I'm better now, thank Goodness. But I have spent the last 8 days recovering from chemo. I think the effects of chemo are lasting longer, the more treatments I have. Today is the first day I'm not aching all over. At least I have almost two whole weeks of okay-ness - or better than okay-ness - before I have to go again!

And, I'm halfway through with chemo (Yay!) - I've finished 3 treatments, and I have only 3 left.

[Orema]

Feeling pretty good on this morning near the lake. Received a wine & country basket from my buddies on the west coast and a lovely rainbow rose-in-a-snowball thingy from the nieces and nephews. Some of the neices and nephews love showing their support for their lesbian Aunty with rainbow themes. Lucky me!

Life could be worse.

[Gemme]

Personally, I feel good. I've been very productive today so far and feel quite accomplished. What I don't like is what is happening with Gracie. She's excessively licking her legs, creating bald patches, so a trip to the vet is on the menu. The problem is finding a way to get her there since I work 6 days a week and during the vet's office hours. I might have to switch vets to one that will accommodate my schedule and/or is open on Sundays.

[GeorgiaMa'am]

Feeling okay for the day after chemo. I am now 2/3 done with chemo! I have slept most of today. Not much appetite, but I did get a little hungry by dinner time. Just a little achy, right in the middle of my back - taking ibuprofen, even though I'm not supposed to. Sometimes you just gotta.

[randrum]

Relaxed. First summer Friday of year (every other Friday off for the rest of the summer) and I didn't realize how much I needed the extra break.

[Tuff Stuff]

I feel a bit nervous, because of the heavy winds tonight. Restless and tired.

[Stone-Butch]

Super hot and very uncomfortable in this 75 and 80 degrees that is suppose to keep up for a week. Wishing for spring now summer is here, careful what you wish for.

[Gemme]

I'm the same way, Stone. My happy place is 55-60 degrees with sunshine. These 80 plus degree days are feeling very stodgy. I've definitely acclimated to the NE cold. When I moved here, my most comfortable temp was around 75.

[Happyfemme]

I'm the same way, Stone. My happy place is 55-60 degrees with sunshine. These 80 plus degree days are feeling very stodgy. I've definitely acclimated to the NE cold. When I moved here, my most comfortable temp was around 75.

I live in MA and it was 88 degrees today. Soooooooo hot. It takes me a few weeks to adjust. I like it when it is around 70 and sunny.

[Stone-Butch]

I am with you Gemme, 60 is perfect for me all year long.

[GeorgiaMa'am]

It's 75*F with a light breeze here and that's just about perfect for me. I'm having the first genuinely good day since my last chemo treatment. The effects took about 10 days to wear off this time. Now I've got a respite of about another 10 days until my next treatment. I'm going to enjoy feeling better than "meh" and get some stuff done in the meantime.

[Gemme]

I live in MA and it was 88 degrees today. Soooooooo hot. It takes me a few weeks to adjust. I like it when it is around 70 and sunny.

And now, 70 is when I start to go, "Is it getting warm?"

I am with you Gemme, 60 is perfect for me all year long.

Yes, exactly!

For thread compliance, I feel better now that the vet visit is over as I always dread those for Gracie. She's so spastic about going into the carrier. I also feel better after speaking with one of my former employees about my current work situation. She gave me good, solid advice. I just hope that I can steer the course and not let my emotions get in my way. I need to play this out logically--like a chess game--which is not my forte. I'm definitely a 'feeler' that works on instinct and right now, I'm feeling angry.

[Reach *BANNED*]

I am working diligently on keeping My head in a positive space. To that end - on some days - it requires A LOT of diligence. :blink:

[Stone-Butch]

Reach buddy, you need to keep yourself in a positive state no matter how hard it is at times. If you truly need support you can leave a message for me in my message box and I will keep in touch.

[kittygrrl]

pretty mellow:byebye:

[GeorgiaMa'am]

I'm feeling pretty accomplished and thrifty right now!

I have been steadily paying down my credit cards for several years now, and after today's transactions, I am down to less than a year (11 months) of payments left before they are all completely paid off!

I also requested my credit reports and disputed one error.

[Stone-Butch]

I am feeling pretty good considering what some other people are going through on a daily basis. I know if I win the $ it will be doled out to help a lot of folks.

[FireSignFemme]

I'm feeling pretty accomplished and thrifty right now!

I have been steadily paying down my credit cards for several years now, and after today's transactions, I am down to less than a year (11 months) of payments left before they are all completely paid off!

I also requested my credit reports and disputed one error.

After all that working at it you've done, 11 months is nothing, the time will fly by. Good for you!

[Gemme]

Relieved! My boss put the kibosh on the merge between my store and another. After only a week, it was starting to get vicious. Managers at different stores taking sides and one in particular outright lying and playing the victim to get sympathy. I also found out someone was holding a grudge for something that happened 6 YEARS ago! Jeebuz help us all.

I know my supervisor was disappointed that it wasn't going to work out but if anyone had broached the idea to those of us in the field, they would have learned of the many, many concerns and problems that they faced in this exercise in futility. There are too many logistics that complicate matters for it to have even had a chance.

This is what happens when people in the cubicles (or home offices) make decisions for people in the field without having a clue as to how it would effect everything and everyone.

I am so very relieved. Did I mention that?

[JDeere]

Not good!

my mental health is suffering. my finances are a mess after my break up,
not coping well on the breakup, i started a new job doing night security to see if it helps with stuff, im very stressed out..im not coping well at all!

[Bèsame*]

all over the bored, depends on the hour..lol



Happy. Excited. Anxious. Stressed. Worried. Calm. In control. Uncontrollable.

Lots of things in the work, that's for sure!

....mystery achievements.....

[Blade]

Tired but accomplished. Had a busy morning got a lot done.

[Reach *BANNED*]

I am feeling accomplished today Myself. Though the heat has made it a bit slower in the getting things done -but I basically do a bit - and then take a break.

All in all I take my moments of how I am feeling - on an hourly basis now - versus a whole day or even a week. It just seems better that way for right now. So, so since I woke this morning - at which I slept in until 11am :blink:..I am feeling peaceful and hopeful.

I wish everyone else the same - peace and hope.

[Gemme]

Tired and not 100%. Hopefully, some sleep will help.

[clementinefemme]

Confused. Considering getting back together with an ex who was never able or willing (not sure which) to show up for me/demonstrate care. But doesn't everyone deserve a second chance? I also think mental health struggles were part of the issue, which means it can't be all my ex's fault.

[JDeere]

Confused. Considering getting back together with an ex who was never able or willing (not sure which) to show up for me/demonstrate care. But doesn't everyone deserve a second chance? I also think mental health struggles were part of the issue, which means it can't be all my ex's fault.

Mental health discussion is very important..

My most recent ex has told people Im narcissitic as well as abusive..

I have been checked my numerous mental health professionals and i do NOT have narcisstic personality disorder!! On paper as well!

Now since my ex has done what she has done, she is now facing harassing, stalking charges, terroristic threat charges for putting out our relationship problems on social media to the public...

Dont get me wrong I wasnt the best partner due to my trust issues and communication skills are crap but no maam, im not gonna allow an ex to ruin my life any further because she is mad that I will no longer help her financially nor do i believe anything she says anymore!

[Reach *BANNED*]

I feel really grounded. I feel grounded as in the needle to My internal compass is pointed in the direction it should be.

[Gemme]

Better than last night but still quite a bit tired. Long day.

[FireSignFemme]

In good spirits. A tooth started giving me trouble again but I think I've found a dentist who really knows what he is doing and is very good at what he does. I don't need perfect teeth but I'd like to avoid dentures if possible and he thinks that's a realistic goal. Of course until they get in there and have a closer look, well that could change. So far though, for now things are looking up.

[Orema]

Really good. I’m officially a Michigander again. Got my driver’s license, license plate and tag for car, entry pass to state parks, and voter’s registration card.

It’s good being home.

:bow:

[Reach *BANNED*]

Really good. I’m officially a Michigander again. Got my driver’s license, license plate and tag for car, entry pass to state parks, and voter’s registration card.

It’s good being home.

:bow:


I am feeling the love from this post. There is something to be said for feeling at home whether it is where you are originally from or you are a transplant ... there is also something to be said for that feeling of belonging.

[Orema]

I am feeling the love from this post. There is something to be said for feeling at home whether it is where you are originally from or you are a transplant ... there is also something to be said for that feeling of belonging.

You get it. It’s all those things and more.

Lucky me.

:bow:

[Stone-Butch]

In this blasted heat I am feeling and that is better than any alternative.

[Blade]

Was sluggish this morning. Took a miscle relaxed before bed. Feeling pretty good now

[Reach *BANNED*]

I might feel to the bone tired - but I feel the a happiness inside of Me that has not been there in awhile. This is a happiness where a smattering of others have added to My own -- some know that they have and others it has just been random. Here is an example - I logged on just now and a friend of Mine (here on the site) left Me a note that simply said "I bet you are dangerous in B&N" - and why did this add to My happiness? Because it shows Me that the person pays attention - that the person has truly taken the time to get to know Me - to see My authenticity - not other's opinions or views of Me - because we call that gossip - and those that spread it about anyone never really know the person they are talking about - they just want to feel better about themselves for a moment - so it is easiest to do that by saying something negative about that person...rather than trying to get to know them.

Oh and I will add an addendum to this - these are My thoughts and Mine alone and are not related to anyone on this site in any negative context. Those words I just typed are how I feel - about people I have met and those I have not had a chance to meet.

Thank you to everyone who has added to My happiness in these last few months - whether you know it or not - somewhere along that path - you likely saved My life.

[Stone-Butch]

I am feeling pretty good as I am rested. Waiting to see what the day brings. Thinking of going to visit my brother but I will have to call him later. IF not, I will probably go to the park.

[Reach *BANNED*]

I am feeling exhausted, confused, annoyed, and emotional.

[Gemme]

I am feeling that maybe I have my security protocols set too high for my credit card company. 3 times now they've reached out to check and see if I really, really meant to order the ____. Yes, yes I did. :eyebat:

[Kätzchen]

Today is my self care day (pedi, mani, trim my hair, long bath, long walk, etc).


I feel good. :hk28:

[Reach *BANNED*]

I am feeling exhausted, confused, annoyed, and emotional.


Much, much, much better than when I wrote this. :sunglass:

[FireSignFemme]

Happy. My poor son. J had a melt down Friday, I had a melt down Saturday. In between she told him – I quit! I told him – She's fired! We didn't talk with each other and we put him in the middle. Don't worry he assured her, he'd talk to me. Don't worry he assured me, I'll talk to her. We'll bring someone else in to relieve the stress on both of you okay? Her– fine by me. Me– fine by me. Then this morning we both woke up in cheery, sunny moods, apologized, quickly forgave each other and worked out a new game plan. Figured out what we could do differently in the future to prevent that sort of thing happening again. I'm surprised we can't see smoke coming out his ears. All that drama and then this? He's just shaking his head. Lesson learned, next time we just cut out the middleman. LOL – He's so touchy.

[Orema]

Good but a little tired. Hoping energy will pick up after riding the bike a bit.

[Gemme]

Pretty good. I had a chill day at work because it rained cats and dogs, off and on, for nearly the whole day and I got the chance to talk to a good friend as well.

[FireSignFemme]

Loved, cared about, noticed. Best part, though the first two were from family and sort of expected, the third was from an anonymous stranger with a great big smile on her face. She was cute, and since I'd just had my teeth cleaned, I felt comfortable flashing one back.

[Reach *BANNED*]

I feel like with the right mindset - I can feel exactly how I want too, at any given moment - on any given day.

[Gemme]

Great, actually! I just found this:

Kamala Harris becomes 1st sitting vice president to march in Pride parade.

Vice President Kamala Harris walked in the Capital Pride Walk and Rally in Washington, D.C. on Saturday, making history as the first sitting vice president to march in a Pride event.

Harris and second gentleman Doug Emhoff walked and waved, wearing graphic T-shirts that read “Love is love” and “Love first.” Harris greeted those around her with declarations of “Happy Pride!”

During the march, Harris delivered brief remarks to the crowd, advocating for the Senate to pass the Equality Act. The bill, passed by the House of Representatives in February, would prohibit discrimination on the basis of sex, sexual orientation or gender identity.

“We celebrate all of the accomplishments, but we need to pass the Equality Act,” Harris said. “We need to make sure that our transgender community and our youth are all protected. We need, still, protections around employment and housing. There is so much more work to do, and I know we are committed.”

The Biden-Harris administration has brought LGBTQ issues to the forefront of its agenda. One of the president’s first executive orders called for an end to discrimination on the basis of gender identity or sexual orientation. Biden also reversed his predecessor’s ban on transgender people serving in the military and restored transgender health protections. Earlier this month he issued a proclamation recognizing June as Pride Month, vowing to fight for equality for the LGBTQ community.

Harris’s emphasis on the work that needs to be done reflects the reality that LGBTQ rights are still uncertain in many states. This year has seen a historic number of state legislative attempts to push back on LGBTQ protections, including those covering transgender people. So far, more than 250 such bills have been introduced in state legislatures, and 17 have been enacted into law.

A day after the march, Harris released a video on Instagram emphasizing her dedication to fighting for the LGBTQ community. “LGBTQ Americans, I want you to know: We see you. We hear you,” she wrote in the caption. “President Joe Biden and I will not rest until everyone has equal protection under the law. Happy #Pride.”

I love her soo much!

[Stone-Butch]

Actually I feel pretty good. I had a good night sleep and am sitting here looking out the window and it appears to have rained all night. Lovely and cool out with only a slight breeze. Finished my muffin and coffee and am going for my morning shower.

[Gemme]

I am feeling AMAZING. I had great day with lots of little and not so little moments of happiness and pure joy. The weather was sticky and gross but other than that, it was a fantabulous day.

First, I was doing a perimeter check near the highway and saw two bikers coming my way. Instinctively, I reached my arm out in the 'hi, there!' way that bikers do and the second guy beeped at me and smiled real big. Accidental happy emotional boop!

It's Pride and I decided to go ahead and officially come out to my favorite coworker of all time. I knew it wouldn't be a big deal and it wasn't BUT then she came out to ME! My little baby bird is Bi! So then we spent an inordinate about of time talking about girls and butches the rest of the day, which--by itself--would be glorious for me but was extra fun because I've been missing family here and she was in front of me the past 2.5 years.

I have zero gaydar, y'all. :blink:

Also, we have pre-scheduled going to Pride together next year. We're going to take the whole weekend off and do it up right! With Father's Day tomorrow, this year just isn't going to work out for her and I don't want to go alone. I hate Providence and I don't feel like paying a ton for a ride share so that's that.

What else? OH!!! I have one customer that was going to be auctioned off next week and she screeched in a minute before close to make a hefty payment. She caused me to have to redo all my deposit and closing information but now I don't have an auction this month!!!

*happy dance*

Also, I love...love....LOVE the torrential downpours that happened today. My lawn needs it and Popcorn needs it. Popcorn is a plant that no one seems to know exactly what she is but I've determined that she's a she and she's butch and she has a butch cock and her name is Popcorn because her cock looks like an ear of corn popping with small yellow buds. She is my only female plant. All of the others are male. Why? Because I said so.

Currently, I feel like I have infinite time and can do anything and everything I could ever want to do. That, of course, is not true but I love this feeling of possibility that comes over me right after work on Saturdays.

I also feel like I might use my purple hair masque tomorrow and see how that turns out.

[Reach *BANNED*]

Today I am feeling just really good. My sister and I went to FYE and found some really good finds. My sister especially. Also, I had to talk her into treating herself - because she is always the one that worries about the bills and her fiance does not. So, today was a day she put a smile on her face - and that in turn made Me feel good. We also went to Auntie Anne's pretzels - we figured out the timeline and it has been years since we have gone- so that was a treat as well Then she stopped and got her eyebrows done - I wandered as this was taking place - so as to not look like a tree standing all by itself in a "girlie" shop. Then we hit up Burlington - and more finds there too. '

The part of the day though that made Me feel really good - was when I was driving home- and I drove the road that Myself and My siblings grew up on - where My maternal grandparents house still stands - where My Mom lived until 2020 when she sold her house. I had tears falling down My face and I turned up my stereo to one of My Mom's favorite songs - Midnight Train to Georgia - and I was singing at the top of My lungs - and then paused to tell My Mom - that her kids are doing alright... and that her oldest and second to the oldest shared happy memories of her as we walked the mall - and I kid you not- as I did this .. the inside of My truck lit up with the brightest sunlight I have seen in a long time.

It felt good to cry and smile at the same time. My heart is overflowing today and I feel blessed.

[Orema]

Feeling pensive.

Remembering where I was on 9/11/2001 (at work worried that nearby Camp Pendleton would be attacked).

Remembering where I was on 9/11/2011 (in the D grieving with some of my family over my sister's passing).

And where I was last year at this time (in Escondido wondering what changes were in store for me).

Changes are what makes the world go 'round, but I'm not always ready for them.

[FireSignFemme]

Relaxed, content, happy.

[Kätzchen]

A special blend of happiness, contentment and joy. :)

[Bèsame*]

Satisfied. Had a wonderful conversation and visit with a past relationship. It was really nice to catch up and make plans for what lies ahead.

Been on a mini vacation this week. Lots of things to do. Bought more furniture and lamps. Yesterday I had an EKG. I mentioned something and my Doctor investigated. Planted a small palm tree. Put up a backsplash in my bathroom. Two ceiling fans went up. Oh no. Not by me! Lol
I'm now a (really clueless) owner of a cordless drill.

[FireSignFemme]

Sore, sore all over. I've been forcing myself to stay up and on my feet for 6-8 hours a day and it's just as bad as I remember.

[JDeere]

Tired, not just physically but emotionally and mentally as well!

Learning to heal, accept what happened and move past it or work towards moving past it, has run me down.

I went on my trip and saw my birth father's grave, shit really hit me then! I apologized to him for cursing him for years, apologized for how much of a bitter old bitch my birth mother was to him and me.

Alot more truths came out in the past 6 months, I found out the true reasons why I was put up for adoption, as well as more past family history. It has been alot to take in and process, but I'm working on it.

After not knowing for 30 plus years, where and whom you come from, all the previous thoughts and feelings fade, change, etc....

Alot more time is needed, to heal.

[FireSignFemme]

Excited, my new chair is here, it looks like all the parts and pieces are there, I can't wait to get it assembled!

[Orema]

Good. Saw a osteopathic doctor for my neck and knees this week and I like her a lot.

We went over the x-rays and I have arthritis in my neck. She requested an MRI for me because I had a delayed reflex response when she was checking me out. I'll get the MRI in november and then we'll come up with a plan to manage the numbness and occasional pain.

We went over the x-rays for my knees. I'm a good candidate for knee-replacement surgery with the weight loss and bike rides. I see a surgeon in November. The sooner the better because I have bone-on-bone knee damage and they're starting to collapse (knees are knocking).

I'm feeling good because there's a light at the end of the tunnel.

I've come to dislike reflex tools.

https://www.medelita.com/media/blog/Massachusetts-Life-Insurance-Reflex-Hammer-300x300.jpg

[JDeere]

Drained...

Emotionally and physically

[Gemme]

I've had a bit of a dip lately....the scale has started to creep up again, I'm frustrated because my new hire has a great attitude and work ethic but is still not catching on after nearly two months on the job, the fatigue from working 6-7 days a week every week for the past two years is REAL, my ride or die has moved up her timeline to move away, the time to decide which of the cats I will be keeping and which I will be rehoming is NOW and that is stressing me out, I have a new health concern and I've been indulging a wee bit too much in retail therapy lately....so I need to get back on track. I'm feeling okay but it could be better.

[Gemme]

I am happy and excited right now. I had a good day at work and a great time after work with a friend and tomorrow I'm going HERE (https://www.scituateartfestival.org/) with my ride or die. I'm so excited! This is the largest art festival in RI and it's an all day event between the vendors and the food and the people in the surrounding blocks having yard sales to take advantage of the foot traffic. Super fun and most definitely needed to recharge my soul. I also have finagled getting Monday off so I have a two day weekend! It's been well over a year since I've been able to do this. I'm looking forward to it very much.

[FireSignFemme]

Well rested which is crazy because I didn't even get six hours sleep in let alone a full eight. I think it's because I slept on the couch without a pillow. My son bought me two huge ass pillows made with some better for the environment horrible stuff that puts my head at an incline when I sleep. Stuff so bad perhaps the Devil is real and he's the one who manufactures them. I hate these pillows so much, but they cost a fair amount of money for fake stuff and I don't want my son knowing just how much I don't appreciate his gift. Well maybe someday they'll be a house fire and if there is I can quick, throw them in the flames before I escape. Run Monte, run! Now we can buy real down pillows for you to gnaw on.

[kittygrrl]

focused....i love fridays:praying:

[Gemme]

I am feeling absolutely disgusted and so very enraged that a train full of passengers witnessed a rape and many of them recorded it but NO ONE helped or intervened the victim. The ONLY 9-1-1 call came from an off duty transportation employee. Not ONE PERSON inside that car called or texted or emailed the police or transit authorities. NOT ONE!!! Through 27 FUCKING STOPS!!!

The sexual harassment started at approximately 9:15 when both the assailant and the victim boarded the train separately. He continually harassed and molested the woman for FORTY FUCKING MINUTES, with footage showing her continually pushing him off of her before he ripped her pants down at approximately 9:52. When the train pulled into the station at 10pm, officers boarded and pulled him off of her.

No. One. Helped.

I am literally shaking I am so angry. Angry at every single one of those fucking cowards that thought about it but didn't help and angrier at any of them that got perverse pleasure witnessing it. I'm the most angry that this is apparently our new world. If so, it's not a world I want to be in anymore.

I just can't. I just fucking can't right now. I hate people. I absolutely detest people right now.

[Orema]

Feeling lucky. I came close to having a fire in the kitchen. Was frying a batch of wings and I put the wings in hot oil inside a pan that was too shallow. The oil boiled over to the stove and thank goodness the burner and pan didn't catch fire. I don't know why or how a fire didn't start.

:firetruck:

I immediately purchased a fire extinguisher.

If you don't have an extinguisher, please get one.

Lucky me.

[Gemme]

Girrrl, that is the wrong way to get lit!

I'm so glad you and the femme cave are okay.

Besides that, I am glad that I am feeling better. My sinus infection is nearly gone, thank goodness, because I'm getting my hair did tomorrow and maybe even my toes so that makes me happy.

Lots of feels tonight.

[Orema]

Girrrl, that is the wrong way to get lit!

I'm so glad you and the femme cave are okay.

Besides that, I am glad that I am feeling better. My sinus infection is nearly gone, thank goodness, because I'm getting my hair did tomorrow and maybe even my toes so that makes me happy.

Lots of feels tonight.

It was scary for a minute and I’m so lucky! Thank you.

I used to get sinus headache and infections years ago. One of the things that helped with the headache was a mixture of essence oils for snoring. I think the mixture was peppermint, thyme, eucalyptus, and fractionated coconut oil. It would help open the passages and the painful headache would decrease. You may want try it or something similar. Hoping you continue to get better.

I’m feeling good after retiring early.

[FireSignFemme]

Wow glad you're safe Orema, thanks for the share. I've been meaning to purchase a fire extinguisher but it keeps putting on the back burner. That's it I'm getting one today!

[homoe]

Feeling lucky. I came close to having a fire in the kitchen. Was frying a batch of wings and I put the wings in hot oil inside a pan that was too shallow. The oil boiled over to the stove and thank goodness the burner and pan didn't catch fire. I don't know why or how a fire didn't start.

:firetruck:

I immediately purchased a fire extinguisher.

If you don't have an extinguisher, please get one.

Lucky me.

Perhaps a guardian angel was looking over you......

Sidebar: And in the meantime, if you don't have a fire extinguisher, grab a heavy throw rug to smother the flames.

[Canela]

Feeling introspective…

I survived COVID by the grace of God, but now 4 months later, my health isn’t what it was. In the last two weeks, I’ve had 3 bouts of what seems to be stomach flu. Weird, cuz’ I hate puking but somehow I have no control over it. Thought maybe ‘long haulers’ but most days I’m not having these or any other symptoms.

I’m still functioning so that’s good. I moved into my new office today, I’m sore from moving furniture around, came home, got sick and passed out. Now I’m awake and worried I won’t sleep the way I NEED to for work tomorrow…

Maybe introspective isn’t the right word. Concerned maybe?

[akiza]

Hum i'm ready to write a poem but not sure of putting it on my fb timeline so doubtful about that and the vaccine serieux it kinda feels like an obligation to get it even if we hardly get any cases in the country here and i can see you raising your eyebrows at me but it's true statistics are made up just to get money so i hate to be obliged to get it just for travelling sake still not sure of the incidence on my health in the coming years so maybe i need to be told that my doubts aren't founded?

[Reach *BANNED*]

I am feeling really content and happy. Sure, I have "those days" where the mourning rears its' ugly head - but I am getting better at dealing with them. I am starting a new job next week that I totally wanted - and a couple of other things have fallen into place - and I can only think that my Mom is up there pulling some strings here and there.

[Blade]

Tired and somewhat relieved and somewhat confused. And thankful.

Thankful Daddy is going to rehab tomorrow
Relieved that with PT and OT he should be able to come back home eventually
Confused because they have run a battery of test on him for the past 5 days and haven't found a thing wring with him medically. He did have a touch of pneumonia and it is gone. We have no idea what caused this episode but he did the same thing October a yr ago. Only this time he doesn't remember anything from Sunday before Thanksgiving until he woke up in the hospital. He asks every day how he got there.

Tired..well you can imagine why. Keeping him and Mom happy working 10 or 12 hrs a day trying to shop for Christmas. Jesus take the wheel. Ima scoot over so You can drive.

[Reach *BANNED*]

I feel really good- Life is great right now!

[Bèsame*]

Accomplished. I started yesterday with two batches of shortbread cookies. Moved onto making English toffee, only to find out after it was topped with choc., and doing the clean up...my glass candy thermometer had broke. So that batch was a bust! A whole pound of butter🤬🤬🤬

Oh well, after dinner I stopped and got another one. Two batches of that was made. I even make shifted a spoon so my hand would stop cramping. Candy making is constant stirring. I wrapped a potholder around it. (Smart thinking, lol)

I just finished 36 wedding cake cupcakes. All that's left is to frost them.

And divide the goodies for friends, neighbors and co-workers.

Whew.....

[homoe]

Accomplished. I started yesterday with two batches of shortbread cookies. Moved onto making English toffee, only to find out after it was topped with choc., and doing the clean up...my glass candy thermometer had broke. So that batch was a bust! A whole pound of butter������

Oh well, after dinner I stopped and got another one. Two batches of that was made. I even make shifted a spoon so my hand would stop cramping. Candy making is constant stirring. I wrapped a potholder around it. (Smart thinking, lol)

I just finished 36 wedding cake cupcakes. All that's left is to frost them.

And divide the goodies for friends, neighbors and co-workers.

Whew.....

Yum, now don't forget I'm a friend,,,,,,,:giggle:

[Stone-Butch]

Feeling pretty up. Visited the family yesterday on Skype and they are waiting for the weather to break and are coming whenever they can over Xmas. I had taught the little one a song "you are my sunshine" maybe twice and yesterday she sang it for me. Damn it I was impressed with her memory and learning ability. Can't wait to share Xmas with the three of them.

[homoe]

~~
shitty!

[FireSignFemme]

A bit down. Trying to shake it off so I don't bail. Keep reminding myself it's not the end of the world and I only have to be there for three or four hours. Surely for the sake of the kids I can do that much right? Besides very rarely do I ever want to go out, but once out, I usually wind up having a good time.

[Stone-Butch]

Feeling sorry for Moe, what is up my friend so you feel shitty?????

[Gemme]

I haz the COVID.

[Jar]

I haz the COVID.

Oh no! Hope you're better soon. Take care of yourself

[easygoingfemme]

I haz the COVID.

Ugh, it's everywhere. How are you feeling?

[nhplowboi]

Oh geeze Gemme! You haven't been on since you posted this. I hope you have someone helping you with the "Could you pick me up this or that." Get well soon!

[Orema]

Oh geeze Gemme! You haven't been on since you posted this. I hope you have someone helping you with the "Could you pick me up this or that." Get well soon!

I heard from Gemme. She’s “off the grid and is at a friend’s house” for now. She’ll reach out if she needs anything. She’s okay for now.

[FireSignFemme]

:) Happy, I'm in a great mood. Last visit the dentist said he might have to pull two teeth. Before getting drastic though, first we'd try a few things to see if we might be able to save them. It worked! With the infection out of the way and the healing that's taken place I'm no longer in pain, don't need to have anything pulled. I don't even have any cavities, need any fillings. He wants me to start coming in once every six months rather than once a year which wasn't the best news but if that's what it takes to keep my gums healthy and my teeth in my head so be it. I'll never have pretty teeth, not without a serious amount of cosmetic dentistry, back to work I might look at some different options, but for now healthy is good enough for me. Well I am going to get them bleached so there is that bit of vanity there.

[Gemme]

Oh no! Hope you're better soon. Take care of yourself


Thanks!

Ugh, it's everywhere. How are you feeling?

Luckily, the vaccines are doing their job. Too bad I got it before I got my booster, though, which would have doubled my protection percentage. Omicron seems to settle in the head more than the lungs, so that's good. Or better. I'm okay. My isolation period is over and I'm through my contagious window so it's back to work tomorrow. I can't wait to see how many voicemails I have asking why the store is closed.

I posted several signs.

:blink:

Oh geeze Gemme! You haven't been on since you posted this. I hope you have someone helping you with the "Could you pick me up this or that." Get well soon!

I didn't have it as bad as a lot of people. I chose to isolate with friends that had it too so we commiserated. All of us are better now. Not 100% by any margin but far better than before.

[akiza]

🙂🙂 I'm Ok I'm on keeping myself safe from hurting I'm all for letting go citation. A little bit hard but I'm a good girl and don't need to run God makes me want to puke after people so I'm staying there going on my own as usual and that's thé best this year ☺wishing you all a good and positive day there

[homoe]

I haz the COVID.


Glad to hear you're on the mend..:hangloose:

[firecat242]

Grateful that the zombie apocalypse has been postponed. I wasn't ready.

[Gemme]

Glad to hear you're on the mend..:hangloose:

Much better, thanks! I appreciate the good thoughts from everyone. I'm back at work and able to mingle with society again, albeit with a better fitting mask than before.

[Soft*Silver]

I am so content right now! It is bitterly cold outside in Northeast Ohio. But I’m inside my warm house, with my two wee little granddaughters. One is turning five, and the other is turning eight. My how time flies! My husband and I are doing well. Can’t believe it’s been 10 Years since he and I have been together! I’ve been feeding the outside birds, squirrels and deer in this harsh weather.

[homoe]

~~
Feeling G R E A T ,as tony the tiger would say, because I just realized there is only one more week left of this long horrible month of January...:glasses:

[FireSignFemme]

Scrumpdillyicious!

[Bèsame*]

So relaxed.

It's my Friday night. I have the next two days off

I'm sitting in the patio rocker, watching the sun dip lower in the sky. The temp is perfect 70° with a slight breeze.
I have classic rock playing..

No other place to be right now!


https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-flz8MMLNVfE/XC2fJCzDMRI/AAAAAAAADL8/BGcRDs0Qm-cULt53tLmpfOYRdWoaRV26ACLcBGAs/s1600/12-min.jpg

[Stone-Butch]

Pretty good all day until I fell over the foot rest and flew a few feet onto my knees and elbows first then full face into the floor. I am stiff all over not much bruising tg. Lucky I didn't break anything, it's good to be lucky sometimes.

[homoe]

Pretty good all day until I fell over the foot rest and flew a few feet onto my knees and elbows first then full face into the floor. I am stiff all over not much bruising tg. Lucky I didn't break anything, it's good to be lucky sometimes.

Please be careful of tripping on throw rugs as well, assuming you have some!

I SO enjoy reading all your posts & I'd hate to see something bad happen to you Bud!

[Stone-Butch]

Moe ty my friend. I am feeling better already just watching the bruising and still hard to bend those knees up and down LOL. I feel like such a clutz.

[Orema]

Lousy. Runny nose, sore throat, a bit of congestion in chest. Have taken two covid tests in the last 30 hours and both gave me negative results. I have more tests arriving in the mail today and will keep testing over the next few days. I also got the 2nd booster and had trouble sleeping a couple nights ago but took some edibles last night and slept better.

Am stocking up on cold remedies this morning. Doing a pickup at Walmart.

The weather doesn't help. One day it's 60° and the next day (today) snow is on the ground.

To receive free covid tests in the mail: https://special.usps.com/testkits

[Soft*Silver]

Stiff and sore. Had soil and compost delivered and getting the raised beds ready to be filled. Lots of bending and squats. After two years down from broken bones and a hip replacement, I am just getting use to real physical work again.

[Orema]

Feeling better. Will take another Covid test later today hoping that I get another negative result. Have been isolated since last week to stay on the safe side, but it's not crampin' my style since I've turned into a snow hermit, anyway.

:bow:

[Stone-Butch]

Feeling somewhat better now that my knees are getting back to normal. Going shopping for food so glad there.

[Soft*Silver]

Sick w sore throat, burning ears and a fever

[theoddz]

I'm depressed and my knees hurt, after just watching this:

XcHsHrFobgg

Sometimes, one just feels old and broken down. :giggle:

~Theo~ :bouquet:

[JDeere]

Like I got run over by 2 Mack trucks, my body is inflamed as usual, still trying to find the right combo of meds and diet.

and stressed out

[Stone-Butch]

Took a nose dive with my return to normal. Woke up with all over pain especially knees and back. I have to learn so stay on my feet.

[FireSignFemme]

Tired – Didn't sleep much or very soundly last night
Relieved – Now that I see Monte doing so well I can relax, breathe a little easier.
Hungry – Spent so much time today dealing with groceries, food inventory, Monte's meals I've yet to feed me.
Happy – No particular reason why, just despite still being tired, woke up in a cheerful mood and it's lasted all day. Maybe the kids are lacing the food. If they are then whatever it is they should feel free to add more.

[homoe]

Took a nose dive with my return to normal. Woke up with all over pain especially knees and back. I have to learn so stay on my feet.

So sorry to hear this. Ice lots of ice Bud!

[JDeere]

Pissed off

Got a call from a head honcho telling me they are supposedly closing the Houston office, of my job. Ive tried to log into work email for HR stuff and I'm locked out, my old manager won't respond to texts or phone calls.

We were told that we weren't going to be fired or laid off, etc and they supposedly closed the office.

I'm getting a letter to sign and I will get my last paycheck and a check in May but that don't cover the bills and they said unemployment, umm that takes forever and that aint gonna cover my bills either.

[Blade]

Crappy! My vacation is over!
Thankful! That I have a job to go to in the morning
Anxious! Will I hear the alarm at 3 a.m.?

[Soft*Silver]

My daughter and her husband and children were in North Carolina for Easter visiting my ex-husband and his girlfriend. So this Easter I invited my niece and her two grown sons to have Easter with me and my husband. It was lovely! I had no expectations of the day, but the meal turned out beautiful. The company was incredible! I made special blueberry cookies for dessert and they were hit with everybody! I love hostessing and I’m in my glory when I can cook and bake. So today I’m a happy girl!

[Stone-Butch]

Bored to the point of taking two Tylenol and throwing myself off the couch.

[homoe]

Bored to the point of taking two Tylenol and throwing myself off the couch.


I can relate Bud, been there done that.....

When I was a kid, my mom used to say she could taste boredom! A few more years out here on Green Acres and I'll no doubt be saying that as well!

[JDeere]

Exhaustedpated!

Too exhausted to give a shit LOL

[BullDog]

I feel like a complete idiot.

I'm moving about an hour away from where I am now. I rented a storage unit so I don't have to do all the moving at once and clean the old house all at the same time. I lost the keys to my storage unit. Couldn't find them anywhere and had to pay to have the storage place saw off the old lock and buy a new lock and key set. I had part of a leftover burrito in a plastic bag in the refrigerator. The keys were in there. Ugh. I do not remember at all putting them in there. I'm a train wreck. Moving is stressful.

[Stone-Butch]

Feeling pretty good except I am tired all the time. Gotta shake this.

[clay]

FINALLY, seeing progress with my left shoulder post op...had 4 procedures done on it 6 weeks ago.

[Kätzchen]

Simpatico (my Love and I share so much in common).

:blueheels:

[Soft*Silver]

Overwhelmed

[Bèsame*]

Exhausted from stress. Worried. Hopeful.

Life goes full circle. Who is really prepared to what comes next?

[Reach *BANNED*]

I feel GREAT!! One month to go until the move!!!! Work is great!!! I have reconnected with someone special and that makes Me happy!!! So yeah - feel pretty damn great!!

Did I mention I feel great? (laughing)

[Stone-Butch]

Feeling better now that our power is back on and we have our tv, phone, computer and lights back after the Tornado but with 6 dead no reason to feel elated.

[Orema]

Prety good. Bruno got a great report card. The blood tests were surprisingly good. His doctor called me excited that his white blood cells and thyroid seem to be doing well. That could be problematic with cats who have FiV (https://www.petmd.com/cat/conditions/infectious-parasitic/c_ct_feline_immunodeficiency_virus_infection).

I'm good and he's good. Errbody is good in the femme cave.

[JDeere]

Good just a bit achy in my joints due to the weather

[Soft*Silver]

Feeling silly….playing app games w the 5 year old grand daughter

[Gemme]

Pretty good. I have the whole weekend off and don't have to worry about anyone messing up my store. I'm going to relax and take things slow today. There's no need to be in a rush or get upset about anything. Breathe in, breathe out...Namaslay, y'all.

[JDeere]

Sneezy and snotty LOL, too may allergies!

[Blade]

Chuckles...well I'm alive and feeling pretty fair. Had COVID all week. Thought if my head would just go ahead and explode I'd feel better. I'm on the mend now and hopefully back to work Monday

[Gemme]

I feel good! Well, a little drowsy now but that's because it's darkening outside and I didn't get a full night's sleep but still good nonetheless.

I went to Pride last night! :rainbowAfro: I went later in the day so I didn't have to fight too many people to visit vendors and I wasn't going to eat there so I didn't need to hit up the food trucks. I was mainly going for the illuminated parade, which didn't start until 8pm. Once it got going, I was packed in with about 15,000 of my closest friends on my section of the parade route. They were expecting about 100,000 people altogether so I'm not sure how many in total showed up.

There was an adorable butch/femme couple slightly ahead and to my left. She was in a nice dress and dolled up with heels and a wrap and he/hy (pretty sure of the masc pronoun) had slicked back short hair and was in a nice suit vest and dress pants and a bowtie. OMG, a bow tie! I loved it and managed to get them in one of my video snippets.

The parade itself was a wee bit disappointing to me. Not sure if it's because they are still building back up after the shutdown or if it was always this way but when you tout something as "illuminated" it best damn be illuminated. All the way through. Nope. Some cars and floats were better than others but there were plenty of cars, floats and walkers that didn't have one bit of light on them. Shame! I wanted my eyes to burn from the light but alas, it was not meant to be. So, next year, I'll come earlier for the vendors but not worry about the parade, I think. And I'll attend PVD, which I did not this year because it's usually the same weekend as the parade but they had it last weekend and I didn't find out about it until Sunday late afternoon.

My squad consisted of my trainer, her girlfriend and 4 of their closest friends. All of them are in their 20's, which amused me because I also remembered not caring if I was losing my hearing or if my dogs were barking or not when I was their age. I did hold my own, though, and got a few compliments on my rainbow eyeshadow technique and was able to chat with all sorts of lovely people throughout the day and night.

I got home at 2am, went to bed at 5am, woke at 11:45am and kind of want a nap now but I'm one of those people who cannot nap without ruining the nightly sleep so I must plow through it. Next step, get off the computer, turn up the music and shake my booty!

[Reach *BANNED*]

I feel good and excited. I also feel upset with My sister. However, this will pass. It has been a busy weekend and the week looks much the same. But, by this time next week - I will feel pretty darn happy, for a lot of reasons.

[JDeere]

OLD lmao

Lupus issues rearing it's ugly head, pain management is helping in a way but I know the pain is forever and the meds only do so much.

[homoe]

For the past month I have had a horrible salty taste in my mouth!

Dentist has ruled out any dental issue, it's not COVID, not a sinus issue either so next I'll consult a Homeopath.

Has anyone ever experienced anything like this?

[Orema]

Not good. Having a bad week.

Bruno escaped on Monday. Took him to the vet for his booster and an exam. He didn't like anything about that. As soon as we returned home I tried brushing his jowls to get him in a better mood (he loves that more than almost anything else). The only time he won't let me brush/comb him is when he's in attack mode with his toys. Then all bets are off and he has no time for anyone nor anything else. Well, he was still huffy from the vet visit and didn't even want to get brushed, so I let him be and went on the deck. He rushed out just as I open the door. I have a raised deck with a slatted fence (https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQqGJ2qE3xPguK3pnprY6tOQpXkcZtro Bm-Xg&usqp=CAU). He quickly ran to the slats and squeezed himself through and off he went running. I have been heart broken ever since.

Posters have been passed out, vets have been called, shelters and neighbors notified, his poster is on social media. I've been out searching for him while shaking his treats and calling out to him. Will get Rick to put up some chicken wire (or something) on the fence to help prevent this from happening again.

I drove into the garage door tryna get out quickly to search for Bruno when he initially ran off. The garage door is dented and won't fully close. I'll need to fix or replace it soon before the HOA notify me.

Now the air conditioner stopped working and will need a tune-up soon.

And it's only Wednesday.

Mostly I've been sad since he's been away, but I smile each time I remember that cutie pie squeezing and wriggling his big booty through that slatted fence. There is that.

[JDeere]

Tired just plain tired, no relief from physical pain, just temporary.

Nervous, excited, etc!

[Reach *BANNED*]

Two words - happy and excited!

[JDeere]

Sleepy....took my meds early and slept for a bit but still sleepy..may go back to bed soon.

[Gemme]

For the past month I have had a horrible salty taste in my mouth!

Dentist has ruled out any dental issue, it's not COVID, not a sinus issue either so next I'll consult a Homeopath.

Has anyone ever experienced anything like this?

Dry mouth seems to be the prevalent cause that pops up when I do a Google search on it. Other options, since your dentist ruled out the oral stuff, is dehydration, medication side effect, hormonal changes, neurological issues, Sjögren Syndrome, a nutritional deficiency or acid reflux.

Do you think it could be one of those issues?

Not good. Having a bad week.

Bruno escaped on Monday. Took him to the vet for his booster and an exam. He didn't like anything about that. As soon as we returned home I tried brushing his jowls to get him in a better mood (he loves that more than almost anything else). The only time he won't let me brush/comb him is when he's in attack mode with his toys. Then all bets are off and he has no time for anyone nor anything else. Well, he was still huffy from the vet visit and didn't even want to get brushed, so I let him be and went on the deck. He rushed out just as I open the door. I have a raised deck with a slatted fence (https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQqGJ2qE3xPguK3pnprY6tOQpXkcZtro Bm-Xg&usqp=CAU). He quickly ran to the slats and squeezed himself through and off he went running. I have been heart broken ever since.

Posters have been passed out, vets have been called, shelters and neighbors notified, his poster is on social media. I've been out searching for him while shaking his treats and calling out to him. Will get Rick to put up some chicken wire (or something) on the fence to help prevent this from happening again.

I drove into the garage door tryna get out quickly to search for Bruno when he initially ran off. The garage door is dented and won't fully close. I'll need to fix or replace it soon before the HOA notify me.

Now the air conditioner stopped working and will need a tune-up soon.

And it's only Wednesday.

Mostly I've been sad since he's been away, but I smile each time I remember that cutie pie squeezing and wriggling his big booty through that slatted fence. There is that.

Oh no! Is he chipped?

[JDeere]

Starting to hurt but i'm okay....just dealing with the moving/packing pains.. emotional and physical.

[Reach *BANNED*]

Tired, but still very, very happy!

[Orema]

[B][SIZE="3"]Oh no! Is he chipped?

Yes, he's chipped and registered to me on multiple databases.

Still feeling in a funk.

[nhplowboi]

Disoriented and untethered. For the first time in 45 years I do not have a job to go to. Retirement is not going well. :(

[FireSignFemme]

Yes, he's chipped and registered to me on multiple databases.

Still feeling in a funk.


I was just thinking about you both and wondering how things were going. Didn't want to bring it up though if you were trying to not think about it as much as is possible when going through something like this. Anyhow I just wanted to let you know my thoughts are with you and my prayers are for his safe and happy return.

[Blade]

Stuffed to the brim

[Orema]

I was just thinking about you both and wondering how things were going. Didn't want to bring it up though if you were trying to not think about it as much as is possible when going through something like this. Anyhow I just wanted to let you know my thoughts are with you and my prayers are for his safe and happy return.

Thank you, FSF.

I’ll be sure to let you all know when he returns.

[Stone-Butch]

Disillusioned. I thought joining an all female chat room would be a place to meet ladies and perhaps have a date or two. OMG. No less than 5 countries and at least half of the womens' pics are of women who appear to be ready to do as much as cough hard and they will be prepared to breast feed the world. How can a woman feel good about herself exposing what the law allows and expects to find a person interested enough to make a date. Perhaps another woman like her I really don't know. I am feeling very let down by so many women that I thought might be a couple that were not offensive. Truly disappointed and yes disillusioned.

[FireSignFemme]

Oh wow wait, hold on a minute. If you want a woman who dresses a bit more conservatively then why not we all have our wants, our wishes. Own individual tastes. However just because a woman dresses in a way that you don't approve of doesn't mean she owes you any explanation as to why she does. Or that she wouldn't be a good match for somebody unless it was with another woman who enjoys dressing the same way herself.

[Gemme]

Disoriented and untethered. For the first time in 45 years I do not have a job to go to. Retirement is not going well. :(

My former landscaper retired 3 times because he's not the type to do nothing. He worked for 30 years in a quarry and then started his landscaping business when he retired. Then he retired from the landscaping business decades later, sold his equipment and customer list, and tried to do the Florida retiree thing.

He failed. Between his inability to be still, his former customers were begging him to come back; that the yahoo that he sold the list to was not doing them justice. I didn't beg him to come back but it's true; the new guy was a moron. What landscaper starts work at 11am? Ridiculous. So, he came back, bought new equipment and got his list up and running again and did that for a few more years before Lyme forced him to stop. He's in his late 80s, btw.

Some people aren't meant to collect moss. I'm sure you'll find something to occupy your time that is fulfilling.

[Stone-Butch]

I only meant that to openly display yourself like in a mens magazine to the point of being somewhat lewid then go to a magazine that produces that kind of display. I would like to see a woman advertise her intelligence, her way of thinking, her wants and likes, all about her that does not have to be in her exposure of body parts unnecessarily. Besides I am voicing MY opinion of what I see as proper in a room full of women who mostly are looking for love not dating because they have breasts (almost all women do). I like to see my partners in pvt not an advertisement to the world.

[BullDog]

I only meant that to openly display yourself like in a mens magazine to the point of being somewhat lewid then go to a magazine that produces that kind of display. I would like to see a woman advertise her intelligence, her way of thinking, her wants and likes, all about her that does not have to be in her exposure of body parts unnecessarily. Besides I am voicing MY opinion of what I see as proper in a room full of women who mostly are looking for love not dating because they have breasts (almost all women do). I like to see my partners in pvt not an advertisement to the world.

Did you really have to post the same judgmental post twice? It definitely wasn’t any better the second time around.

There is so much shaming of women that goes on especially about their bodies and how they dress. Do you really want to contribute to that?

Not my cup of tea either but I would just move on and not make judgmental comments.

BTW I find this a bit suspect and wonder if these are really legit pics posted by real women or if the photos have been put there to lure people in - probably men more than women. I’d be careful about any info I had on there. Then again it could be legit photos from real women. If so, more power to them. Hopefully they find what they are looking for.

[JDeere]

Oh wow wait, hold on a minute. If you want a woman who dresses a bit more conservatively then why not we all have our wants, our wishes. Own individual tastes. However just because a woman dresses in a way that you don't approve of doesn't mean she owes you any explanation as to why she does. Or that she wouldn't be a good match for somebody unless it was with another woman who enjoys dressing the same way herself.

^this....so much this, thank you!

I'm way tired of these old school butches.etc saying shit like they do about how a woman dresses, etc... IDK if they don't stop and think that femmes or women,think the same shit about butches,bois, non binary, transmen and transwomen! It needs to stop, stop shaming someone!

[JDeere]

Did you really have to post the same judgmental post twice? It definitely wasn’t any better the second time around.

There is so much shaming of women that goes on especially about their bodies and how they dress. Do you really want to contribute to that?

Not my cup of tea either but I would just move on and not make judgmental comments.

BTW I find this a bit suspect and wonder if these are really legit pics posted by real women or if the photos have been put there to lure people in - probably men more than women. I’d be careful about any info I had on there. Then again it could be legit photos from real women. If so, more power to them. Hopefully they find what they are looking for.

Ty for this, as well!!! I'm glad I'm not the only one seeing what I see!

[Stone-Butch]

Feeling at a loss for words. I have never seen a chatter bombarded like you have done toward me. I did not get my opinion from being an old school butch (by the way that is an attack on old school butches). I learned how respectable women showed up in public and a place of meeting is public. If someone was offended then yes by all means voice your opinion as I know that some folks like your opinion if it matches theirs. It is easy to bully people in a computer. You know who I mean. I will not bore you with anymore of my opinions. It must be nice to have a clear conscience and never offend anyone. I pointed at noone in here. Noone knows who and where I am speaking of but it does not matter. I learned to respect women in my own home where I was taught manners and respect. I hope you all who are involved take a look at yourself and then cast the first stone. Amen

[BullDog]

Well that’s a very disappointing response. You say you respect “respectable” women - so in other words they have to meet your standards. There is a long history of women being shamed based on how they dress or present themselves. That is specifically what I brought up. No one is bullying you. You are the one refusing to look at the issue. You can choose to chat and date who you want to without being so judgmental and contributing to the shaming of women - based on your own words here and not on whatever your background happens to be which to me is irrelevant. We are all responsible for what we say and write and your life story doesn’t have anything to do with that.

As a Butch I would think you would understand. We come under so much criticism for how we dress, having short hair, etc. sometimes it’s brutal. And yet we present ourselves in how it feels natural to us and not to meet society’s expectations despite often being treated with utter disdain.

[homoe]

For the past month I have had a horrible salty taste in my mouth!

Dentist has ruled out any dental issue, it's not COVID, not a sinus issue either so next I'll consult a Homeopath.

Has anyone ever experienced anything like this?

I've started a regiment of Mercurius and Bio-Vegetarian.

IF anyone gets this issue, forget traditional medicine and head to a homeopath!

[JDeere]

Feeling at a loss for words. I have never seen a chatter bombarded like you have done toward me. I did not get my opinion from being an old school butch (by the way that is an attack on old school butches). I learned how respectable women showed up in public and a place of meeting is public. If someone was offended then yes by all means voice your opinion as I know that some folks like your opinion if it matches theirs. It is easy to bully people in a computer. You know who I mean. I will not bore you with anymore of my opinions. It must be nice to have a clear conscience and never offend anyone. I pointed at noone in here. Noone knows who and where I am speaking of but it does not matter. I learned to respect women in my own home where I was taught manners and respect. I hope you all who are involved take a look at yourself and then cast the first stone. Amen

You're not being attacked, we are pointing out how you are shaming women, even femmes. You want us to look at our behavior, you have to do the same in this community.

I don't see eye to eye much with Bulldog but this situation, I do! We get shamed by short hair, etc as Bulldog said, women including the femmes in this community, get shamed for showing too much, by folks like yourself.

I don't care who you date but check your behaviors before you tell us to check ours!

[C0LLETTE]

Surely the "tits-in-public" convo hasn't ended already!
Just as my interest was 'roused.

[Cin]

Surely the "tits-in-public" convo hasn't ended already!
Just as my interest was 'roused.

You never fail to crack me up.

[kittygrrl]

Interesting comments on behavior and shaming however, we are all encouraged here to share our feelings ...i understand why Stonebutch feels the way she/hy does..i think it's perfectly ok to have preferences about what kind of woman attracts you and what does not...i don't think he meant to offend anyone....i'm an adult and i own my truth and i can live easily with hers/hys..we can still hang and talk.

[homoe]

Interesting comments on behavior and shaming however, we are all encouraged here to share our feelings ...i understand why Stonebutch feels the way she/hy does..i think it's perfectly ok to have preferences about what kind of woman attracts you and what does not...i don't think he meant to offend anyone....i'm an adult and i own my truth and i can live easily with hers/hys..we can still hang and talk.

:goodpost:

Well put kittygrrl......

[Orema]

Interesting comments on behavior and shaming however, we are all encouraged here to share our feelings ...i understand why Stonebutch feels the way she/hy does..i think it's perfectly ok to have preferences about what kind of woman attracts you and what does not...i don't think he meant to offend anyone....i'm an adult and i own my truth and i can live easily with hers/hys..we can still hang and talk.

Oh please.

It’s one thing to say “I would like to see a woman advertise her intelligence, her way of thinking, her wants and likes…”

It’s quite another to comment on women being lewd and belonging in men’s magazine and discussing what is and isn’t necessary.

Yes, people can voice their opinion but they need to do it without being judgemental and shaming women.

It’s an easy concept.

[kittygrrl]

Oh please.

It’s one thing to say “I would like to see a woman advertise her intelligence, her way of thinking, her wants and likes…”

It’s quite another to comment on women being lewd and belonging in men’s magazine and discussing what is and isn’t necessary.

Yes, people can voice their opinion but they need to do it without being judgemental and shaming women.

It’s an easy concept.

if you feel shamed, then it's a good idea to seek out professional care and find out why you are so concerned with what others think...i dislike the dog piling we do here.. find common ground ..shaming?....over it <shrug>

[Orema]

if you feel shamed, then it's a good idea to seek out professional care and find out why you are so concerned with what others think...i dislike the dog piling we do here..i've done my share and i'm pretty much done trying to bend everyone into my criteria of "what's cool"...over it <shrug>

Ice the "take your meds" and "see a shrink" insults, kittygrrl. That is beneath you, especially when addressing a femme. And I don't deserve it.

If you have a problem with the dog piling then comment on that, but anyone who comes in here shaming women, as well as defending them, should expect to be called on it.

Hoping you really are over this and not just making flippant comments.

[kittygrrl]

Ice the "take your meds" and "see a shrink" insults, kittygrrl. That is beneath you, especially when addressing a femme. And I don't deserve it.

If you have a problem with the dog piling then comment on that, but anyone who comes in here shaming women, as well as defending them, should expect to be called on it.

Hoping you really are over this and not just making flippant comments.

I've had professional care and am better for it...i've resolved my issues and encourage anyone who has issues to do the same...btw, professional care doesn't usually involve "meds" unless you cannot self regulate

[BullDog]

The shaming of women for how they dress and present themselves is a huge problem that has gone on for centuries all over the world. It has led to much emotional and physical abuse including rape and death.

Instead of blaming the victim and telling them to get over it and go to therapy (which not everyone has the luxury of doing) how about people just stop shaming women.

[kittygrrl]

I envy everyone who's comfortable & agreeable with the dog piling done in this thread...you must all live pristine lives with people who agree with all of the "rules" you're demanding we live by in this thread...:seeingstars:

[Cin]

I am confused. Why is it okay to join the constant barrage of voices women are subjected to hearing, voices who judge women for not adhering to society's definition of what makes a good woman, especially on a website pretty much devoted to humans who do not adhere to society's rules? Is there no place safe from this kind of shaming? Slut shaming women just sucks. Date who you want but I should think that can easily be done without judging others and finding them unworthy because they don't meet your criteria for being the right kind of woman. I don't get what there is to defend here? The right to slut shame?

I am reminded of the story about how slut night from the old .com site got its name. Some bartender slut shamed the femmes from that site who got together for a night out. There they were all decked out in their best femme finery and he told them they looked like a bunch of sluts. And they took that and owned it (no therapy needed) and Slut Night was born. It does seem though that not much has changed. I guess if we always focus on getting therapy for the victims, perpetrators of slut shaming comments will keep on keeping on. As far as dog piling, who is subjected to more dog piling than women? Maybe the lgbtq community? My best advice is that if you don't like being judged, don't judge others. Choose to surround yourself with the people who meet your standards but keep your judgments to yourself.

[kittygrrl]

perhaps we should all practice mindfulness?...inotherwords, responding instead of reacting...tell me when has any judging ever ended with the other side considering for even a moment you have a valid point?? Never.
That is why this country is near a civil war because people cannot tolerate a different point of view and want to over correct the people they feel are wrong. You miss my point. Have I expressed my agreement with the original point of view? No, I haven't because I have kept that judgement to myself what i did express, a concern about all the judging done against one person's opinion. It's not fair and we should do better. Support each other and quit deciding who is a friend based on some opinion...as if we bloody have all the right answers. We don't

[Gemme]

Jesus, fuck.


slut sham·ing
noun
"the action or fact of stigmatizing a woman for engaging in behavior judged to be promiscuous or sexually provocative."

Was this done in the original post in question? Absolutely. Was it then again promoted in a follow up post? Again, yes.

See first post: Disillusioned. I thought joining an all female chat room would be a place to meet ladies and perhaps have a date or two. OMG. No less than 5 countries and at least half of the womens' pics are of women who appear to be ready to do as much as cough hard and they will be prepared to breast feed the world. How can a woman feel good about herself exposing what the law allows and expects to find a person interested enough to make a date. Perhaps another woman like her I really don't know. I am feeling very let down by so many women that I thought might be a couple that were not offensive. Truly disappointed and yes disillusioned.

The underlined portions are especially distasteful to me and I don't even have enough cleavage to breast feed a single person, much less the world. I do, however, have a couple of low cut tops that I do feel good in. Stone asked how that could be if someone expected to get a date (paraphrasing). What I wear has zero to do with anyone else and everything to do with me, as it should be. Plus there's that saying...."if you've got it, flaunt it".

This was included in the follow up post: I learned how respectable women showed up in public and a place of meeting is public.

Was anyone saying that Stone couldn't be attracted to whom she is attracted to? Nope. Was the issue that she was pointing out "respectable" women and talking about those on dating sites who have the cleavage out and proud? Yeah, she did and yes, that was the issue. Does that make her a bad person? Nope again. Does it make her a shamer? Yep.

There are a thousand ways to say that she was disappointed in her online experience and that she didn't find any women that caught her eye or that she wanted to pursue. None of them involve shaming. It was most definitely a poor choice of wording.

kitty, you mentioned that "we're all encouraged here to show our feelings" and then, in the next post, you are telling O to get therapy...sorry..."professional care". She was just expressing her feelings about the shame conversation, which is what you were encouraging in your previous post. And then you touch on judging, but that's exactly what you just did.

If Stone's comments had come from a cis-hetero male, there would be Hell to pay. He would be ROASTED with extra crispy skin, as he should be. But, somehow, it's "okay" if it comes from a cis-female and is just an "opinion"? No. Just no.

Passing judgement on others based on their appearance and clothes, which is what happened in the initial post, is NOT OKAY. No matter who does it. There's enough shame in this world and there's far too many people trying to control women's bodies, especially now, for this to fly in this day and age.

[kittygrrl]

Jesus, fuck.


slut sham·ing
noun
"the action or fact of stigmatizing a woman for engaging in behavior judged to be promiscuous or sexually provocative."

Was this done in the original post in question? Absolutely. Was it then again promoted in a follow up post? Again, yes.

See first post: Disillusioned. I thought joining an all female chat room would be a place to meet ladies and perhaps have a date or two. OMG. No less than 5 countries and at least half of the womens' pics are of women who appear to be ready to do as much as cough hard and they will be prepared to breast feed the world. How can a woman feel good about herself exposing what the law allows and expects to find a person interested enough to make a date. Perhaps another woman like her I really don't know. I am feeling very let down by so many women that I thought might be a couple that were not offensive. Truly disappointed and yes disillusioned.

The underlined portions are especially distasteful to me and I don't even have enough cleavage to breast feed a single person, much less the world. I do, however, have a couple of low cut tops that I do feel good in. Stone asked how that could be if someone expected to get a date (paraphrasing). What I wear has zero to do with anyone else and everything to do with me, as it should be. Plus there's that saying...."if you've got it, flaunt it".

This was included in the follow up post: I learned how respectable women showed up in public and a place of meeting is public.

Was anyone saying that Stone couldn't be attracted to whom she is attracted to? Nope. Was the issue that she was pointing out "respectable" women and talking about those on dating sites who have the cleavage out and proud? Yeah, she did and yes, that was the issue. Does that make her a bad person? Nope again. Does it make her a shamer? Yep.

There are a thousand ways to say that she was disappointed in her online experience and that she didn't find any women that caught her eye or that she wanted to pursue. None of them involve shaming. It was most definitely a poor choice of wording.

kitty, you mentioned that "we're all encouraged here to show our feelings" and then, in the next post, you are telling O to get therapy...sorry..."professional care". She was just expressing her feelings about the shame conversation, which is what you were encouraging in your previous post. And then you touch on judging, but that's exactly what you just did.

If Stone's comments had come from a cis-hetero male, there would be Hell to pay. He would be ROASTED with extra crispy skin, as he should be. But, somehow, it's "okay" if it comes from a cis-female and is just an "opinion"? No. Just no.

Passing judgement on others based on their appearance and clothes, which is what happened in the initial post, is NOT OKAY. No matter who does it. There's enough shame in this world and there's far too many people trying to control women's bodies, especially now, for this to fly in this day and age.

2NJfxgPPUnE Do you remember trying to slut shame me because i posted this video Gemme?

I remember.

Honestly i was fine with your judgement then and i feel fine expressing how i feel about this free for all all you are all enjoying now..it never ceases to amaze me the lengths rational people will go through for a pound of flesh. We refuse be kind to each other even though we witness each day what hate can do We slaughter each other with guns & with words. Have fun while you can.

[Cin]

perhaps we should all practice mindfulness?...inotherwords, responding instead of reacting...tell me when has any judging ever ended with the other side considering for even a moment you have a valid point?? Never.
That is why this country is near a civil war because people cannot tolerate a different point of view and want to over correct the people they feel are wrong. You miss my point. Have I expressed my agreement with the original point of view? No, I haven't because I have kept that judgement to myself what i did express, a concern about all the judging done against one person's opinion. It's not fair and we should do better. Support each other and quit deciding who is a friend based on some opinion...as if we bloody have all the right answers. We don't

That's the thing. You have not expressed agreement or disagreement with slut shaming. What you have expressed an opinion about is other people's opinions regarding the slut shaming they have seen here. I am not really sure what it is that you are actually saying. Are you saying that people should not stand up for what they think is right? Are you saying that opinions are without consequence so should be allowed to stand without challenge? Are you saying we should refrain from calling out harmful opinions? What are you saying exactly?

I do get the concept that an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind, but I also get that
"when bad people combine, the good must associate; else they will fall, one by one... or all that is necessary for evil to triumph is for good people to do nothing." I certainly am not saying that anyone here is evil. I am saying that not calling out blatantly offensive comments will have consequences and over time it allows these ideas and beliefs to flourish unchecked and become if not acceptable then at least unremarkable. I don't imagine I will change anyone's mind. But I feel it is my moral responsibility to stand up for what I believe is right. I don't want to just shake my head silently and move on.

People make judgements all the time. Judging the best course for oneself is both necessary and prudent. However making moral judgments based on societal norms is problematic. Morality is often at the mercy of the period of time and/or the type of society in control. Some things are just right or wrong but others are more ambiguous and can change depending on the circumstances. Laws are not morals. What the law allows is not the definition of what is ethical behavior.

It feels as though you have judged the only person who has a right to express their opinion is the person doing the slut shaming. And no one is supposed to mention how disturbing it is to read that kind of thing on this site. Because in your opinion that is judgemental. And as far as I can see nobody has decided they can't be friends with someone who has a different opinion. Nobody would ever know anyone if people can't tell each other how they feel and what they think.

This may not be the hill I wish to die on, but it is part of the dirt that makes up that hill. And I think the US is on the brink of civil war not because people can't tolerate differences of opinions but because white supremacists can't tolerate equality, because religious fanatics can't allow freedom. That IS the hill I will die on.

[BullDog]

kittygrrl, where's all this kindness you keep talking about? You haven't been kind in this conversation one single time. Maybe you should practice what you preach.

I will speak up when people shame women. If I don't then I feel I am complicit.

[kittygrrl]

Cin I don't wish to argue with you. I respect you feel differently then i do. People here pick & choose who they battle. Some people on this site have tried for ages to slut shame me for one thing or another and i usually don't say too much...Why? Because i don't care about their opinions. They don't influence or hurt me in any degree...they've stop because it's no fun to poke someone who doesn't give a flying fig about what they think. I have a rich social life in the real and come here to support the website because it's been good to me...Medusa tries to be patient and extremely fair when it comes to issues. To put it simply i don't like dog piling because it's hurtful and silences and when certain people smell blood in the water they go all in because there is safety in numbers. Can we afford to lose one voice here? In my opinion, no..and we may not be able to change opinions either. But I think we're capable of responding in kindness it's a choice, but it's not as much fun as harassing a good member who's supported this site for a long time. I want to imagine our community is better then this but it's not...Insofar as civil war....it's not just racists who are agreeable ...Republicans are trying to arrange a less bloody coup by rearranging and ostracizing parts of society from voting...it seems to be working because liberals can't stand each other and the infighting is ridiculous.

This is my last post on this subject. Unlike some here, i don't relish argument. I despise it actually. but i wanted to try...

[theoddz]

Oooooo......I'm feeling shitty, shitty, shitty!!! Did I say I am feeling shitty?? :cough:

I have the COVID. Yep, me. :furious:

But......the fix is in and the Paxlovid (paxlovid.com) is on the way!!!!! :cheer:

I should be back in the pink in a few days. :winky:

~Theo~ :bouquet:

[clay]

Oh no, my friend, theo!!

So sorry to hear you have covid. Sends you healing energies & vibes, and a gentle hug!!

I KNOW Ms. Lori will take excellent care of you!!

This sucks...I will be thinking of you, my dear friend, A!! much love...clay

[theoddz]

Oh no, my friend, theo!!

So sorry to hear you have covid. Sends you healing energies & vibes, and a gentle hug!!

I KNOW Ms. Lori will take excellent care of you!!

This sucks...I will be thinking of you, my dear friend, A!! much love...clay

Hey, thanks, brother!!! I sure do appreciate your kindness, as usual, and the healing energy coming my way. You know, this thing has made me feel pretty damned dragged out and sick, but truth be told, I had H1N1 in Vegas, when I was still working, and it was far worse. I almost ended up on a ventilator that time. I have asthma, you know, and when I was in the military, I smoked cigs, so I'm sure I have a little touch of COPD. I haven't smoked in 25 years, though, and I don't vape or imbibe on the "left handed cig", so that's made things a bit easier on me, all in all.

I do consider myself to be *extremely* fortunate to be able to get Paxlovid for this COVID. I'm in a high risk group, with my asthma, my history of throwing blood clots to my lungs (PE's) and being over 60 years old now. I took my first dose of the Paxlovid this evening, and it's a medication where one has to take 3 pills, twice a day. Interestingly, one of the two medications in the Paxlovid is the same one given to HIV/AIDS patients!! It makes absolute sense, though, because both COVID and HIV/AIDS is caused by a virus. I have to say that I've heard word that we can probably expect a better, more broad covering COVID vaccine this Fall and it should protect us better against not only original COVID, but also all variants of the Coronavirus. I have been vaccinated the original 2 times, but I've also had 3 more boosters, too. Still, I got it. So I'd like to remind everyone here to get vaccinated if they aren't already, and get the booster shots, too......ALL of them!!!

Anyway, I'm on the mend. I'm just very, very thankful that I was able to contact my doctor at the VA and she was very willing to prescribe the Paxlovid for me. We Vets may gripe and complain about the VA, but when the rubber meets the road, the VA really does try to take good care of us and it's a pretty nice little benefit to have. :winky:

I'm on the mend!!! :cheer::dance2:

~Theo~ :bouquet:

[clay]

Always, A.!!!

Trust that you are feeling better this evening or soon will be.

I am also fully vaxxed & boosted!

Like you, I am also eager to see what this newer vax will be like, as it will NOT be using the mRNA.

Evushield came out for those (older/seniors) who had NOT had covid but then got all quiet about that!

Yes, I do remember you have bad lungs & asthma......that is why I have been thinking about you, my friend!!

Thanks for the post & update....always sending you gentle hugs & healing vibes, always!!


Hey, thanks, brother!!! I sure do appreciate your kindness, as usual, and the healing energy coming my way. You know, this thing has made me feel pretty damned dragged out and sick, but truth be told, I had H1N1 in Vegas, when I was still working, and it was far worse. I almost ended up on a ventilator that time. I have asthma, you know, and when I was in the military, I smoked cigs, so I'm sure I have a little touch of COPD. I haven't smoked in 25 years, though, and I don't vape or imbibe on the "left handed cig", so that's made things a bit easier on me, all in all.

I do consider myself to be *extremely* fortunate to be able to get Paxlovid for this COVID. I'm in a high risk group, with my asthma, my history of throwing blood clots to my lungs (PE's) and being over 60 years old now. I took my first dose of the Paxlovid this evening, and it's a medication where one has to take 3 pills, twice a day. Interestingly, one of the two medications in the Paxlovid is the same one given to HIV/AIDS patients!! It makes absolute sense, though, because both COVID and HIV/AIDS is caused by a virus. I have to say that I've heard word that we can probably expect a better, more broad covering COVID vaccine this Fall and it should protect us better against not only original COVID, but also all variants of the Coronavirus. I have been vaccinated the original 2 times, but I've also had 3 more boosters, too. Still, I got it. So I'd like to remind everyone here to get vaccinated if they aren't already, and get the booster shots, too......ALL of them!!!

Anyway, I'm on the mend. I'm just very, very thankful that I was able to contact my doctor at the VA and she was very willing to prescribe the Paxlovid for me. We Vets may gripe and complain about the VA, but when the rubber meets the road, the VA really does try to take good care of us and it's a pretty nice little benefit to have. :winky:

I'm on the mend!!! :cheer::dance2:

~Theo~ :bouquet:

[Orema]

Okay, I guess. Got a call that someone may have seen Bruno. I got a trap and took it to them with food, toys, blanket, etc. in hopes of catching him. The people were nice and kind, but I have a feeling it's not Bru.

A friend suggested it may not be him because he was sighted so far away (8 miles). Here's hoping it's Bruno. If not, I'll just keep searching.

:playingcat:

[Gemme]

2NJfxgPPUnE Do you remember trying to slut shame me because i posted this video Gemme?

I remember.

Honestly i was fine with your judgement then and i feel fine expressing how i feel about this free for all all you are all enjoying now..it never ceases to amaze me the lengths rational people will go through for a pound of flesh. We refuse be kind to each other even though we witness each day what hate can do We slaughter each other with guns & with words. Have fun while you can.

You said you were done with this conversation in general and I respect that but if you want an answer to your question and a specific discussion about that, feel free to message me.

Okay, I guess. Got a call that someone may have seen Bruno. I got a trap and took it to them with food, toys, blanket, etc. in hopes of catching him. The people were nice and kind, but I have a feeling it's not Bru.

A friend suggested it may not be him because he was sighted so far away (8 miles). Here's hoping it's Bruno. If not, I'll just keep searching.

:playingcat:

I walk 6-10 miles every day at work. It's not as far as you might imagine, especially when one has 4 legs. It could be The Bru! I'll keep my fingers and toes crossed that it is and that he's okay.

I feel good hearing O's news. I had a personal training session followed by a trip to Wally World and I had a big brunch. I couldn't decide which pizza I wanted so I got them both, cooked them and mixed and matched my meal. It was soo good and I have plenty of leftovers too. I'm fresh out of the shower and feel very content right now. That could change in mere minutes, but, for the time being, I'm good.

[Reach *BANNED*]

I feel accomplished. Between My job (working from home this week and possibly the next) and also sorting through a lot of My stuff out in the garage post-move - I was able to get a ton of stuff done.

However, it is just so outrageously hot - that it required multiple breaks inside as I had the A/C going all day. Rest assured though- I am super thankful that I have A/C.

[JDeere]

Tired, stressed, anxious cuz im having a hard time finding a place to move into.

[Reach *BANNED*]

I am feeling filled with anticipation and thinking this coming week is going to be a good one. I am not sure why. However, it is a good feeling so I am going with it.

[JDeere]

Starting to feel run down, I think my auto immune disorder is acting up because I've been taking more OTC than usual.

[Orema]

Annoyed. Got a call from the people who called me about Bruno last week. I took them a trap, food, toys, etc. She called last night asking me to bring some mothballs to deter skunks. Well, they guy who owns the property hasn’t placed any food in the trap because they don’t want to trap a skunk. WTF? The dude knew this when I visited last week. And the mothballs will deter Bruno. He has a very sensitive nose and doesn’t like stinky stuff.

Now this guy is saying he thinks the cat has stripes. Bruno has no stripes!

I think I’ll go and pick up the trap this morning because something’s not right with this.

No need for me to get angry. Just pick up my stuff and move on.

[Reach *BANNED*]

I am feeling filled with anticipation and thinking this coming week is going to be a good one. I am not sure why. However, it is a good feeling so I am going with it.


Today was the best personal news day ever and it is only Monday!!! Of the news I received I had anticipated one of the things that happened and hoped it would. However, the rest? Never saw it coming!

Feeling? Just wonderful and most of all - stress free!

[Reach *BANNED*]

The feeling that I wrote about on Monday is still with Me and I am feeling just beyond great! Happy and stress free!

[easygoingfemme]

HOT. This heat wave has been going on for more than three weeks now. We don't really have air conditioning at work. Just a little space one I can turn on every couple of hours for a few minutes or it blows fuses. TGIF.

[Bootsandheels]

Feeling sad. I was getting a well deserved pampering pedicure today with a lovely woman a few hours ago and it was heaven. Another beautiful woman of color with tatts whom I thought might be family was paying at the desk. She started verbally abusing the young Asian man who had done her pedicure and threw a very dramatic shit fit in front of everyone in the shop. I was so embarrassed for her and felt so bad for the young man as he obviously struggled to make her happy. It wasn't going to happen. It was ugly and it made me actually tear up. She was obviously a very unhappy woman in general. There was so much more going on there than her "bad" pedicure you know? Can we just be kind to one another? Even if we have a problem or have suffered what we feel is a "wrong" done to us, we can speak our truth in kindness and tact without crushing someone's spirit! Hasn't the pandemic taught us anything? *Steps down off of soapbox...struts off....

Boots :stillheart:

[Stone-Butch]

I am happy I got my booster shot today. Just happened by a place who were doing it in the parking lot. Glad thats over for a bit.

[clay]

Very happy! I picked the wife up, for the weekend.

She is at our other house, tying up loose ends, to get ready to sell!! I am at new place....

I LOVE our alone times!!

[Soft*Silver]

I am fighting sickness. Already took a COVID test. Negative. I might just be slap wore out. I have been doing major garden work in hot humid weather and it’s taking its toll on me physically. My hip replacement-hip went on strike and I had to go on steroids. Now that I can walk w/o pain, I get cold symptoms. We shall see what this weekend brings….

[Reach *BANNED*]

I am feeling .. in a word.. blessed. The week I just had does not come along often and quite truthfully I am glad that is does not. Why? Because it keeps Me humble. It makes Me appreciate it more when it does happen.

I have plenty to smile about and for that I am grateful.

[nhplowboi]

Frustrated! I broke my leg Wednesday night going to the barn to feed our two horses. Crutches are NOT conducive to country living. I guess it could be worse......it could be winter.

[Soft*Silver]

Frustrated! I broke my leg Wednesday night going to the barn to feed our two horses. Crutches are NOT conducive to country living. I guess it could be worse......it could be winter.

Oh no!!! How painful!!! Don’t overdue it and take your time needed to heal!

[Soft*Silver]

Dammit! I kept coughing so I took another Covid test and this one came back positive! So this is the second time I’ve had Covid even though I’ve had all my shots and boosters! Thankfully it’s really mild. Very low-grade fever, achy, but a persistent cough

[Reach *BANNED*]

Frustrated! I broke my leg Wednesday night going to the barn to feed our two horses. Crutches are NOT conducive to country living. I guess it could be worse......it could be winter.


Dang nh - sorry to see this happened to you. However, you are right it would be much worse if it were winter. Wishing you a speedy recovery!

[Stone-Butch]

nh take care you do not fall again using crutches. I am so sorry to hear of your fall. You retire and then this happens. I wish you a speedy recovery my friend.

[easygoingfemme]

Frustrated! I broke my leg Wednesday night going to the barn to feed our two horses. Crutches are NOT conducive to country living. I guess it could be worse......it could be winter.

Oh no. Is there at least a good story behind it? Be careful and I hope you're not in too much pain...

[easygoingfemme]

Dammit! I kept coughing so I took another Covid test and this one came back positive! So this is the second time I’ve had Covid even though I’ve had all my shots and boosters! Thankfully it’s really mild. Very low-grade fever, achy, but a persistent cough

Ugh, I wish they would revise these tests to be more accurate the first time. Glad you're experiencing a mild case...

[easygoingfemme]

I'm feeling happy. We are having a really good weekend here. The heat finally broke. It's going back up again tomorrow but for this weekend it has been nice. I'm so hot at work all day I haven't been able to enjoy walking the dogs or anything unless I do so at 5am before it heats up. This weekend I've been able to take them for good walks, work in my garden, grill dinner, and just sit outside with my Daddy and relax.

We also got some woodworking done. Not being heat exhausted, I had the energy to do some turning. I made a few pipes, necklaces, and seam rippers. I have more projects lined up to work on today. Daddy is finishing a really nice bookshelf that will go in our living room. It is painted a very cheery yellow and it's really going to perk up the room.

[clay]

Frustrated! I broke my leg Wednesday night going to the barn to feed our two horses. Crutches are NOT conducive to country living. I guess it could be worse......it could be winter.

Damn...that sucks. So sorry to hear that nh!!!!

May you heal quickly & be safe.....