"Butch" and "Femme" - Truly Antiquated Terms or More Marginalization?

[Arwen]

Originally Posted by Cyclopea

I repeated my point over and over because my actual point was very simple. It was not about how sex defines orientation, or certainly not what non-lesbians should call themselves, or any of the other issues raised by non-lesbians in response. And yes, I am getting a bit frazzled feeling forced to reiterate my simple point.

I do understand getting frazzled, Cyclopea. Maybe if you take a step back, you will find a fresh way to approach it. I don't know about you, but I find that hammering the same nail with the same hammer only ruins the board.

I am not trying to attack you. I am simply trying to find out if there is room in that definition of "female homosexual" for a woman who is not a heterosexual but not, in my heart anyway, a "true" lesbian.