"Butch" and "Femme" - Truly Antiquated Terms or More Marginalization?

[Medusa]

Originally Posted by PapaC

Oy my dear, do NOT get me started on this discussion. no.really.do.not.
lol.

GenderQueer appears to be a 'catch-all' term that some co-op for themselves (like I did for a short while) but it *feels* like it's becoming a default... haven't quite put my finger on my issue around this term but here's where it gets a little complicated for me.

to nutshell it: I suspect gender queer doesn't properly/fully/or at all defines a female identified butch lesbian any more than it properly/fully/or at all defines a transguy.

What has me a little bitter around that is, it's been a challenge in finding real time community that 'fits'.

it will be interesting to see how the discussion does unfold.

This is pretty much what I have been trying to tease out in my own thoughts.

The term "genderqueer" doesnt fit me as a "Femme" because I view "Femme" as my gender. And while I am certainly "Queer" in the way that I identify it and define it, "Genderqueer" feels kinda "othering" as a blanket term as applied to me.

I can see how this might feel much the same to a Transperson