Men with boobs.

[Dylan]

Originally Posted by apretty

sorry, it seems a little like femmes who i believe, 90% of the time, DO get it right and DO mean well and are AMAZING. period. full stop. --are getting just a tad maligned by all this lazy-talk. i mean, did more than one person mention LAZY, here? please stop painting us with your LAZY-brush.

Perhaps this is your experience. It is NOT my experience that femmes get it right 90% of the time.

Never said femmes weren't amazing

You're more than welcome to come for a visit and hang out with the same folks I've hung out with and give some feedback on who does and doesn't default to male pronouns and then give a big shrug with a sighing 'whatever'.

And yeah, I still consider it 'lazy' to pick and choose someone else's pronoun out of One's OWN comfort.

Never said ALL femmes were lazy...only the ones who default, because it makes THEM more comfortable, or because they find it too much work

And don't worry, I also find butches, transmen, transwomen, cisgendered, cis-sexed, andros, and straight people who do it lazy too

And I think we all know some folks who have decided who is and isn't 'butch enough' based on their sexual preferences, haircuts, 'swaggers', and a slew of other 'butch enough markers'


Dylan