Femmes: How do you like to be treated on a date?

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Originally Posted by Gemme

I still stand by the fact that I know who and what attract me very quickly. It has been nearly instantaneous in a lot of cases throughout my life.

What I'm saying is that what flips that particular switch for me has changed over the years and that there are cases in which that attraction switch flipped the other way the second someone opened their mouth and revealed various ignorance/prejudice/dumbfoundery.



I've always required some sort of tangible intelligence in my partners but as time has gone on, my tolerance for those who don't meet that level has diminished greatly as well as my ability to justify someone being 'almost there' because they were hot and nice to look at.

Looks fade. Pretty fades. Handsome fades. Hot fades.

If there's nothing underneath all of that hotness, there's nothing left.

I demand more than nothing. I deserve more than nothing because I am something and I require someone else's something to match and/or complement my own something.

Does that help clear things up?

This is exactly how I think/feel, too!

Being humans, we do have emotions on every level, and initially, we usually do feel great at first meeting. Then down the road, when life is in reality terms, we sometimes find that that person really has nothing under that shiny exterior to hold our interest. Thus it becomes boring...and is difficult at best to maintain a relationship.

I want someone who can converse, who has interests that only grow deeper, feelings that intensify over zest for life, make new discoveries, and find we would actually have some deep down quality attractions that aren't fleeting once those hormones quell.

I totally agree with Gemme on deserving more, having more, and not settling for less.

I won't settle for less than I deserve either!!! I will not give anything less than she deserves either!

I am in with the group of I know immediately within 3 or 4 minutes if I have some deeper connection other than the physical. I look deeper...for to me, it is her mind, her heart, & her soul I fall in love with.....how she carries herself within the world...is she kind to those less fortunate, is she loving of animals & elderly, does she emit that gentle, loving energy outward upon the world. Is she steadfast & grounded....yet having an inner child that she can & does freely let out...anyway......clay...shut up....