Gay Marriage until...a break up. Why Gays need to walk the walk.

[MsTinkerbelly]

So many here have said it better than I can...but I will put in my 2 cents.

I (like Superfemme and Plato) was married during California's Summer of love. I too rejoice in my marriage, and am saddened for our friends who cannot enjoy the same right.

I was married for 12 years to my daughter's Father, and I struggled with ending our marriage because I feel that marriage is for life. I did not marry my Kasey until 6 years after we began our relationship, because I was not ready to ever make that kind of promise again, and I especially thought my Kasey was not my forever person.

Through my struggles in finding myself, my Kasey was there. She is my rock, my heart, and my home. Only when I found me, was I able to see the person who felt the same way I did about forever. For better or worse, for richer or poorer....words worth fighting for everyone to have.

Divorce although not an option for us, should be handled with the same maturity and promise that you made to love and honor that person. Life happens, love happens, and yes sometimes divorce happens. Straight or Gay, there is no difference to the responcibilties we have taken on, and we should honor even the end with dignity.

[Soft*Silver]

I agree with At Last Home, there should be a prenuptual with every marraige. I kid with whoever I date seriously, that I am building a "contract" that will need to be initialized, notarized and signed before I move in or we commit further. I might be kidding, but I also tell them I am serious...that we need to work out factors before we take a larger step. Here is a huge factor: I have one daughter who is 26. If she EVER needs to move in with me/us, she can. Period. Even if it means with husband and kids. PERIOD. Some people might not like that. So if they dont like it, I dont want to wait until this becomes important, to find out we are at odds with one another.

And some folks might say there are too many factors to consider. Not so. Factor: My kid comes first and I am always there for her...period. Ex: if she ever needs to stay with me, she can. Period.

And some say this takes the romance out of marraige. Jeez...so does divorce! I would rather know before hand that there are "deal breakers" before I commit. And you can gloss up the "before" marriage with all the romance you want. Bottom line is, if you are going to commit forever, the candles are gonna burn down eventually and you better be sure you can hold onto that person when the lights go out...

[SuperFemme]

Originally Posted by MsTinkerbelly

So many here have said it better than I can...but I will put in my 2 cents.

I (like Superfemme and Plato) was married during California's Summer of love. I too rejoice in my marriage, and am saddened for our friends who cannot enjoy the same right.

I was married for 12 years to my daughter's Father, and I struggled with ending our marriage because I feel that marriage is for life. I did not marry my Kasey until 6 years after we began our relationship, because I was not ready to ever make that kind of promise again, and I especially thought my Kasey was not my forever person.

Through my struggles in finding myself, my Kasey was there. She is my rock, my heart, and my home. Only when I found me, was I able to see the person who felt the same way I did about forever. For better or worse, for richer or poorer....words worth fighting for everyone to have.

Divorce although not an option for us, should be handled with the same maturity and promise that you made to love and honor that person. Life happens, love happens, and yes sometimes divorce happens. Straight or Gay, there is no difference to the responcibilties we have taken on, and we should honor even the end with dignity.

Amen to that!