Being Friends with an Ex - How Long

[Bijoux]

It depends on how the break up occurred. Did you break up with her? She might still be too hurt to be friends. I think for me, it depends on how long it takes for me to get over the pain of the loss. Everyone is different.
I am friends with most of my ex's but it took at least half the time we were together to get there...so if you were together 5 years...it might take 2.5 years before you can hang out as friends....
Bijoux

Originally Posted by Daryn

I broke up last July and it was to me the only option left. It's so not what I had hoped for in the beginning. And we were together nearly 5 years - living together nearly 3 years. Had 2 dogs. We each kept one.

Thing is I know what I miss about her and I know what I don't miss and I'd like to be friends but apparently it's still too soon for her. I'd like to be able to let the dogs see each other and play. I know my dog misses her "sister" a lot as well as missing my ex. And I miss the other dog too. Never thought I could really like a little dog but this one had a big attitude and was a big love. I am glad I found her and decided she should have a home with us.

Anyway.... I'd like to hear what you think in terms of how much time it takes to be friends with exes.... (I do have one ex who is a close friend and another who is a distant friend and a couple that I don't speak to ... so it's all over the map in my world).