Gender Evolution - Your Coming of Age Stories

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Originally Posted by Write14u

Thank you. *smile*

Well, on the "out to my family thing" ... we have a military relationship, my family and I. They don't ask and I don't tell. They know I'm queer. They don't like it. But I keep my life separate from them. (Mainly because I'm single, so there's nobody right there in my life for them to see.)
I think with them, they don't WANT to ask. When I was first coming out, I denied being queer. I think they know now that I wouldn't do that. And I wouldn't.

They're still not accepting of queerness in general, but the love me, you know? The reason they don't like the hair and how I dress is because it clearly identifies me as queer for all their friends to see. That's what they hate about that. I guess it was better when I was more closeted. (I just moved closer to them two years ago after living away for a long time).

Thanks for your response. So, you haven't actually confirmed the fact that you are gay/queer to your family?

I ask b/c with my mother--I had to SPELL IT OUT FOR HER (she's hardcore RC). She didn't get it when I said Mich sleeps with me; she thought I meant sleepovers. I said, no, we are lovers. So, I had to COME OUT that way. (ten years ago, approx)

So, you haven't actually said the words? It was so hard for me; I thought she knew based on my closeness with Mich, but she SWEARS she thought it was all gf/gf (platonic friendship) stuff!

How do they know if you don't tell? B/c, lord knows, I had to TELL in order for her to GET IT!

I actually had to say, no, I am with her--she is my girlfriend--we sleep together--we are TOGETHER.

Well, then, that is another story!

P.S. On another note, is being queer and out only contingent on if you are with someone (for me it was--b/c I had only been in straight relationships with cisguys) ?