Instant Turn-Offs

homoe · 11-22-2015, 07:58 PM

A loud drunk obnoxious woman!

imperfect_cupcake · 11-22-2015, 09:07 PM

Inflexible traditionalism. Doing things by the rules for the sake of the rules. Massive turn off.

Basically, people who lack critical thinking skills and depend on rules of thumb instead. There are exceptions to everything. What are they? Why?

Rigidity.

I do like decisiveness, but people who make up their mind very quickly, without clear reasoning scare me. People who make decisions quickly, often change them very quickly without clear reasoning too. Without notice.

Capriciousness. Believing absolutely in one thing one day, and emphatically going on about it, then when their emotions change, changing direction and dismissing their past opinion as just something they were going on about. I can't trust their enthusiasm or their will.

It takes a long time for me to make a decision about bigger issues. But I won't go back and forth on something. I'll be very clear I haven't made my mind up, and it will be some time before I do. I want a lot more information before I: buy a flat, purchase a car, go on a six week holiday, get a pet, or get involved in a relationship with someone.

So when I watch people rushing headlong into something, I watch just how long they stick with that decision before they say "meh, that wasn't for me." And walk away from it. Big fat clue that if they do that with other things, they will do that with me. I'd rather someone took their time and didn't make promises before they knew for certain what they wanted long term, not what they want now now now.

imperfect_cupcake · 11-22-2015, 09:08 PM

Are you running into shouty drunk people a lot, homoe?

homoe · 11-22-2015, 09:11 PM

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Originally Posted by imperfect_cupcake

Are you running into shouty drunk people a lot, homoe?

Yes, unfortunately the last few times I've gone out to a bar/pub for food!

giggleluver · 11-22-2015, 09:41 PM

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Originally Posted by homoe

Yes, unfortunately the last few times I've gone out to a bar/pub for food!

Speaking of pub, a turn off for me is the smell of beer on the breath, yuck

11-22-2015, 09:07 PM	#2
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,710 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Inflexible traditionalism. Doing things by the rules for the sake of the rules. Massive turn off. Basically, people who lack critical thinking skills and depend on rules of thumb instead. There are exceptions to everything. What are they? Why? Rigidity. I do like decisiveness, but people who make up their mind very quickly, without clear reasoning scare me. People who make decisions quickly, often change them very quickly without clear reasoning too. Without notice. Capriciousness. Believing absolutely in one thing one day, and emphatically going on about it, then when their emotions change, changing direction and dismissing their past opinion as just something they were going on about. I can't trust their enthusiasm or their will. It takes a long time for me to make a decision about bigger issues. But I won't go back and forth on something. I'll be very clear I haven't made my mind up, and it will be some time before I do. I want a lot more information before I: buy a flat, purchase a car, go on a six week holiday, get a pet, or get involved in a relationship with someone. So when I watch people rushing headlong into something, I watch just how long they stick with that decision before they say "meh, that wasn't for me." And walk away from it. Big fat clue that if they do that with other things, they will do that with me. I'd rather someone took their time and didn't make promises before they knew for certain what they wanted long term, not what they want now now now. Last edited by imperfect_cupcake; 11-22-2015 at 09:09 PM.

11-22-2015, 07:58 PM	#1
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11-22-2015, 09:08 PM	#3
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,710 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Are you running into shouty drunk people a lot, homoe?