Men with boobs.

Emmy · 05-11-2010, 06:04 PM

I have no doubt that some people, reading Nixon’s words, will conclude that butches, generally, are ‘men with boobs’. This inference, though, seems to rely upon an implicit denial of individual differences among queers; it betrays a deep ignorance, I think.

So, how should we deal with this? I don’t think the answer is to censor ourselves too heavily, when it comes to talking about ourselves and our loved ones, for fear that the quirks of our own dynamics will be illegitimately generalized to the whole queer population.

Rather, we should try to remind people, whenever possible, that we are, in fact, individuals- that, just like straight people, we’re beautifully, delightfully idiosyncratic.

05-11-2010, 06:04 PM	#16
Emmy Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: SoCal Posts: 93 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 122 Thanked 149 Times in 42 Posts Rep Power: 214806	I have no doubt that some people, reading Nixon’s words, will conclude that butches, generally, are ‘men with boobs’. This inference, though, seems to rely upon an implicit denial of individual differences among queers; it betrays a deep ignorance, I think. So, how should we deal with this? I don’t think the answer is to censor ourselves too heavily, when it comes to talking about ourselves and our loved ones, for fear that the quirks of our own dynamics will be illegitimately generalized to the whole queer population. Rather, we should try to remind people, whenever possible, that we are, in fact, individuals- that, just like straight people, we’re beautifully, delightfully idiosyncratic.