Falling in Love.. Online

[Kobi]

Anything is possible. For me, it is not probable.

Relationships are complicated things, so is attraction. I might find someone on line to be intriguing or someone I might like to get to know better. But, falling in love, for me, is an up close and personal thing sans a computer screen or telephone.

[SuperFemme]

Falling in love is a process.

I know LOTS of people who MET online, and an attraction turned into a spark, the spark turned into a fire...and today they are happily together.

It CAN happen. Falling in love online doesn't necessarily mean that the entire process from glimmer to fire happens online. It means that yes, online you can see the glimmer of attraction that can lead to love.

[WheelieStrong]

i've always been in love with the idea of love..
my people issues and disomfort socially kinda make it impossible.

i find it difficult to even make friends because i fear rejection, sometimes live in my old little world and people don't get me.

Sadly if i wanted sex, i think i could get it easily just to a "social" site.
but i never just wanted sex, so i gave trying to be social.

So i'm here and i think i met someone nice without even looking, we started chatting over the smallest of small things.

But i am kind of woried that my social skills are going to screw me over..
i keep telling myself no matter what i should keep my distance cause i only know the person online.. However i have to consider that in person i would never have had the chance to meet anyone.

God i really do babble on!!

[SuperFemme]

Wheelie? We've chatted and you are going to be fine. You have fabulous social skills. Sometimes it's ok to take a risk, yanno?

[Jet]

They f**king suck.
Never again—not online, not r/t. I'm attracted to certain
types of women, but I won't let anyone from online get
close except for friendship. Jus' sayin'

[WolfyOne]

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

Sometimes it's ok to take a risk, yanno?

I did, I've loved and lost, but not for any reason anyone would ever imagine.

Honestly, I'd do it again if the right person happened into my life
Well, at least when I'm ready, anyhow

[SuperFemme]

Originally Posted by WolfyOne

I did, I've loved and lost, but not for any reason anyone would ever imagine.

Honestly, I'd do it again if the right person happened into my life
Well, at least when I'm ready, anyhow

Awww. Wolfy. Did she ball up your socks rather than just match n fold?

I hate that.

[WolfyOne]

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

Awww. Wolfy. Did she ball up your socks rather than just match n fold?

I hate that.

LOL, she never had to do the laundry because of that.

You'd probably be one of the few that believed me if I told you the whole story.
It's sad, so bring a hankie with you.

[Soft*Silver]

I think, for me, the internet gives me a cerebral start...because online is a brain thing. I read, I interact. I process. I also "feel" but I feel in regard to what I am seeking...and until I can meet the other person and have energies exchanged and movements entwined ( I am not talking about sex but actualy movement, because that creates a mass of moving energy) I cant develop those feelings. It can have a start online but it has to have the presence of the other one to be developed.

sadly, not all those feelings we start with over the internet, will be developed into love. The actual movement of that person might not match my energies...intellect, yes. Obviously something they wrote inspired me..its a brain thing. But it didnt carry out in person..and thats ok too...

[WingsOnFire]

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

Awww. Wolfy. Did she ball up your socks rather than just match n fold?

I hate that.

I resemble that remark! I learned the hard way how to match Daddy's socks. I had NO IDEA there were lines INSIDE the collar of the sock (is that the right term?).... So now "I" buy his socks and they are all white!! No problem matching up now! Now to discretely get rid of those "other" socks...

[Jet]

The thought of a relationship sucks.

[WingsOnFire]

Originally Posted by WheelieStrong

i've always been in love with the idea of love..
my people issues and disomfort socially kinda make it impossible.

i find it difficult to even make friends because i fear rejection, sometimes live in my old little world and people don't get me.

Sadly if i wanted sex, i think i could get it easily just to a "social" site.
but i never just wanted sex, so i gave trying to be social.

So i'm here and i think i met someone nice without even looking, we started chatting over the smallest of small things.

But i am kind of woried that my social skills are going to screw me over..
i keep telling myself no matter what i should keep my distance cause i only know the person online.. However i have to consider that in person i would never have had the chance to meet anyone.

God i really do babble on!!

Sometimes it takes going out on that limb to help build your confidence... take it slow, explore likes and dislikes.. TALK about your concerns when you feel the relationship is moving beyond your comfort zone .... If a person cant listen to your concerns without putting you down for it then maybe it isnt the right relationship for you... So dont feel you cant talk about how you are feeling..

I met my Daddy/Sir online.... I then met him in person by going to a state I had never been to and meeting 8 people I had never met just to get out of my comfort zone.. I had really enjoyed my interactions with them online...

Does it always work online? No... Can it? Yes... For me it requires real time interaction but that doesnt mean online is not possible. Everyone has their own personal experiences to judge from... but you can only judge it from your OWN experience... Listen to your heart, listen to those little nudges when something doesnt feel right.. Usually if it doesnt feel right it isnt.. My first online experience was just that way. I gave way too much of myself to someone I hadnt really spent alot of time getting to know. It was a very hard lesson to learn.

I havent read the other thread yet but I have a feeling it will hopefully give you alot of helpful tips...

Good luck!!

Becca

[bigbutchmistie]

For me I think SuperFemme said it best Falling in love is a process.

I know LOTS of people who MET online, and an attraction turned into a spark, the spark turned into a fire...and today they are happily together.

It CAN happen. Falling in love online doesn't necessarily mean that the entire process from glimmer to fire happens online. It means that yes, online you can see the glimmer of attraction that can lead to love.

And that's the way it is with me. I meet femmes online attracted to who they are meet them in person and can tell wether there is a spark there or not. If there is great we can move forward, if there isnt then well that's cool too Ive made a great friend.

I have had friends that met their significant others online as well who have met and fallen in love once they meet. It can happen. And it does happen when its supposed too... Until then it sure is fun meeting and trying

[Lynn]

I think the answer is yes. I know you *can* meet a love on line because I did. I've been with my partner for five years, and our relationship has progressed from online, to long-distance, to living together for the past three years.

It's hard to find a someone who is "right," so I'm all for being open to all options. I know too many people who are single, who have dated all of the eligible people they know, locally. If you want to meet someone, I think it's OK to take a risk. Just be smart and careful. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

[Massive]

Originally Posted by Lynn

I think the answer is yes. I know you *can* meet a love on line because I did. I've been with my partner for five years, and our relationship has progressed from online, to long-distance, to living together for the past three years.

It's hard to find a someone who is "right," so I'm all for being open to all options. I know too many people who are single, who have dated all of the eligible people they know, locally. If you want to meet someone, I think it's OK to take a risk. Just be smart and careful. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Thank you for this post Lynn. I admit to being too scared to post because I do believe it is possible to find love online, I found My babygirl on the other site, and we've happily moved over here since then.
IMHO relationships, be they online, r/t, long-distance, ALL take hard work, honest, open communication and talking as often as you possibly can, even if it's merely to say "sorry, I can't get online right now, but don't think it's because I don't want to talk to you, it's for *x* reason(s)"
If you meet someone you click with then it's up to you to see where and how far it can go, dismissing it out of hand because they are far away can mean you will regret that for the rest of your life, yes, it is hard being long-distance, I speak from experience here, My babygirl lives in SC, and I live in the North-East of England. It might be harder than dating someone just down the street but it is equally rewarding, today we have webcams and the likes of Skype where you don't have to spend a fortune calling someone on the phone, you hook up your cam and mic and chat, it's not exactly face to face, but it comes pretty damn close.
Try not to be too scared, that's the best advice I can give, and don't let other peoples doubts dissuade you either, it's your personal choice as to how you choose to live and love!